Who are you?
That’s an easy one. You are my soul mate. You complete me. You are the only one who gets me. I would die without you. I know we’ve not met yet but I feel a connection already and it’s all down to how marvellous you are. I know it and I am so blessed that we are together. Nobody will love you the way I do.
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A sack of crap this is. Yet I have fallen for it repeatedly. Ugh.
Run, run like the wind. Keep running and don’t stop. It’s not love. It’s smoke and mirrors. Go, and keep going. Your stronger than you know and don’t ever forget that. Don’t forget to smile.
Lol. You’re killing me. I get it. Where were you 41 months ago when I needed to know this kind of crap? Then, it would have benefitted me. Now, the knowledge is just fluff I put in my brain to intellectualize away the feelings of having lost a relationship with a phantom.
I’m afraid that after reading all about it I’m not sure I want to live without him anymore. Manufactured or not nobody has ever made love to me like that before and I can’t go back. I know he’s mentally killing me by telling me once a week that I make his skin crawl and he can’t stand the sight of me. But he always comes back. I just die until he does
OMG get a grip and leave. Why would you stay with a guy who hates you, constanly lies and cheats on you?? Geez have some self respect. F. the sex. Yes they really are good lovers but that is all they have and nothing more. I already forgot all about how big his d.ck was and how good of a lover he was after all he has done to me, hell no I am glad he is out of my life for good. F. the sex. F. him too.
Good advice Lala K, just a small point; narcs aren’t lovers as they have no ability to love or care. All they do is fuck and dump.
We must’ve dated the same man.
I am me. Take it or leave it. My veins are filled with blood just like Yours. My heart beats just like Yours. I breathe just like You. You know me. You know what’s in my head. I’m screwed up. Not because of my life experiences but because of who I am. I’m willingly giving myself away. I am volunteer. I am co-dependant. I am an appliance who can’t work without it’s owner pressing the buttons.
Well put Maddie.
I am one to know one. Your books (read so far Decipher, Red Flags and half of Revenge) surprisingly made me understand there is a lot of the narcissist in me too. But I am not a complete one. Only have enough to identify my own behavior and understand why I have the need to “beat” this type each time, and eventually, not getting to a real and healthy relationship.
Due to your logic, do you think it is possible that I am mainly the emphatic type, but posses also few of the narcissist characteristics?
Hello Not, thank you for reading the books. Everyone has narcissistic traits but it takes many of them and to a certain degree to amount to what is clinically regarded someone being a narcissist. You may well be empathic but with some narcissistic traits which you use for “good” purposes. Not all narcissistic traits are bad if handled in a certain manner, as viewed from your perspective. From our perspective none of them are bad as they are necessary for us to survive and thrive.
HG how do I send you a PM?
Narcissist1909@gmail.com
@HG Tudor, would you be interested in teaching normal people how to get what they want, basically to use the same stuff for their own goals? Also, I want to beat my ex narcissist boyfriend in his game and punish him, so he thinks he is lower then me. Any advice how to do it?
1. Re normal – if you mean through being manipulative, the answer is no, I will not teach that. Normal people are poor at manipulation – it is not in their instinct and they lack the ability to do it in a calculate fashion. If normal people want alternative assistance to achieve goals, yes, I will assist because I have done so already for normal people and empaths through consultation.
2. Re your ex who you understand to be a narcissist, you are best served by applying GOSO than seeking to punish him. The desire to punish is a breach of the First Golden Rule of Freedom and is evidence of emotional thinking conning you into trying to continue to engage with the narcissist to feed your innate addiction. This is contrary to your best interests. If you want assistance with these issues, I can do so, I recommend that you organise a consultation.
Is it possible for you narcissistic and empathic traits to change over time?
Say if someone has low anger. Is it possible for someone to change that? I feel like anger is a good thing sometimes. Because it helps to recognize when a boundary is being crossed. But if you have low anger then you are more open to being susceptible to manipulations, right?
See the book Fury regarding anger.
I believe they do change Milkweed.
In the past I would feel angry from time to time about certain things. I felt very angry re my first N and how he could get away with doing what he did to me and others. But once you can understand and explain away their behaviour, for me at least, it’s just not there.
I very rarely feel anger any more, maybe for a split second if someone has taken my parking space or something hahaha but for the bigger more important things where perhaps I should, I just don’t.
thanks to HG I can just explain away there behaviour. It’s almost like a mathematical equation really, oh they did this because if that, whether N,E or normal. I don’t intentionally try and brush it away, it just doesn’t come?
Exactly what I needed at this point in my healing process. Although your Blogs are at times “triggering” they are also healing and helpful. I have been on the websites that cater to the victims of your type, however I found them annoying after awhile because everyone was asking the same things..”why, did he ever really love me, why is he hoovering, I can’t believe he moved on so fast, I was the love of his life”….
I am beyond this phase, and felt as though I wasn’t getting anywhere, as I knew it was all manufactured, but I couldn’t wrap my head around it.
Please keep on keeping it real….. Knowledge is power
Hello Stoverit and thanks for your post. Yes it is not comfortable reading but it will allow you to use this rare information in whatever way you see fit. I know from private messages I have received on the FB page that numerous people have commented along similar lines to you. There are a number of people who seem content to ask the same questions repeatedly and to wallow in the misery and hatred. That is their choice but to my mind that does not afford them any progress. I am pleased you have found the blog of interest and do spread the word.Knowledge is indeed power.
And yet no replies left. Your title is “Who are you”… of course you being the narc does not really need to identify us as an individual with likes, dislikes, hobbies and so forth but you have already started your game…. let me in introduce myself. I am an almighty lover of your kind… I will fight, worship and give you the gratification you desire until I am tired of losing myself in your dusty cloud of chaos!