Fantastic Elastic
I become easily bored. I think it is as a consequence of how clever and brilliant I am that my mind is always racing. It is rushing over and over, thoughts and ideas percolating through it. I therefore need to be simulated and kept occupied. This translates into my relationships. I don’t know why, but after a period of time I just become bored with whoever I am with. I usually tell them that you’re the one I like best, you retain my interest and you’re the only one. Somehow this changes. I have often considered why this happens and I have reached the conclusion that is a combination of me becoming easily bored and that you become irritatingly clingy. Rather than realise I have become bored, you hang around and this begins to irritate me. In order to get you to understand that I do not want you anymore, I have to resort to more and more nastiness to drive you away. I must confess though, in most cases this seems to have the opposite effect. It is odd. The harder I try to push you away, the tighter you cling on and this then angers me. Every so often however there is a spark of interest and I remember how it felt before and somehow I must reflect that to you as you seem pleased. It does not last long and the all-encompassing ennui comes crashing back down again and thus I have to push you away as I try to find someone new, something different to engage me. Yet still you remain, repeatedly dangling and left in limbo. The occasional glimpses I provide you of how things you used to be really do draw you back and give you some kind of misplaced hope that I can rekindle what we once had. It never can be done as my sterile state returns and in order to fill that I can now longer turn to you. You remain is a state of suspension, bouncing back and forth as if joined to me by a piece of elastic. I won’t cut it and neither it seems will you.
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Now you are getting difficult. If someone is clingy she bores you and if they give you space and make their own life, then fuel is not enough and not of good quality.
😱😱😱 sorry to say but I have read this so much on Narcissits, that they just get bored and there is nothing the other person could have done not to become boring….
Or can you think about how someone could be that they are not boring and at the same time provide the good quality of fuel???
I would say in my opinion that unless you create an intimate connection, this is not possible not to get bored. Right?
It would be my case at least.
I have yet to find someone who does not become stale who can provide me with the high quality fuel they started supplying, but who knows who is around the corner?!
Well I think here maybe you have to do like all the dating seeking site population on this world. Instead of mirroring look for someone that has your same interests, your same intellectual level, and way of seeing life before you spread the golden powder.
I think if you are a narcissist, a codependant a normal etc. We have in common that a relationship is more likely to suceed and not turn boring based on the percentage of similarities the people have and that the differences are not so opposed. And for you then with the addition of ” capacity of providing fuel” 😀⛽️
I remember I read like 10 years ago a book called Are you the right for me ? From Barbara de Angelis. i think she has a good approach.
I am sure there must be many girls around the corner for a man as interesting as you are. 💋
I do like your final sentence.
Thoughts race through my mind too, my imagination is ever present and active. What if there was someone who didn’t bore you, or have you set yourself to up to become bored, In order to initiate discards and pleasure seeking.
I did cut it….but it wasn’t elastic as thought, it was merely twine. Key words here, or clues…ennui….easily bored, clingy, translation: overly attached.
Someone who did not bore me, who did not become stale will be most welcome.
Maybe I bored my N and that is why no contact or Hoover….boring is deadly….I see your point.
Or maybe he is waiting until your orbit sails closer to his.
If you mean by proximity, that would be a long time to hold off…..
Be it a month or ten years when opportunity presents we take it.
That is to long for me or wait to get closure, so then I will have to instigate contact to get it earlier. Sorry, hence breaking no contact rule.
No I mean we will Hoover you and if you present an early opportunity to do so we will take it. You wont gain closure by instigating contact. The very act defeats doing so.
I am stubborn, I will get it my way. Wait and see.
I will see.
And wait too