Questioning Me
Do feel free to ask me anything you like. I am here for you to dip into my mind and for you to benefit from learning how I view the world. No question is off limits and if you want to establish a dialogue with me, then so much the better. You will be helping me so I can show the treatment team that I am interacting with people in this setting. You can ask me why I do certain things, what am I thinking, what my favourite food is, whatever you like. This is your chance to extract as much knowledge and information from me as you possibly can. If you want to just make a statement, go ahead. Fill your boots. I don’t know you so I won’t fly into a rage (this does happen when people I know question me but that is because they have an agenda – you don’t because we don’t know one another). I look forward to hearing from you.
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Hi HG,
The stabbing attack here in Australia has apparently been perpetrated by someone with schizophrenia. I’m skeptical of this. This vast majority of the victims were women which may indicate misogyny, he was in control of his actions, he was not yelling; it just doesn’t feel correct.
And while I may be proven incorrect in this instance and he really does have schizophrenia, do you think some schizophrenia diagnoses may actually be that of lesser level narcissists?
There is always the potential for a misdiagnosis I do not see this as something that would occur with any regularity.
HG and Elke,
The stabbing attack in a shopping centre in Sydney was shocking. After following the news the following day, I got the impression that the perpetrator had a mental illness and was probably under the influence of drugs.
CCTV footage of the man several hours before the attack showed him going to a restaurant and ordering a meal. He seemed normal but confused, as described by the woman who served him. Other footage showed him walking and staggering along a footpath and falling over as though he was drunk or under the influence of drugs. There were onlookers when he fell and one man went over to him to offer help.
These occurrences seem to show that he didn’t look threatening or behave in a threatening or angry manner. People were not afraid or wary of him.
In the news, it was also reported that he was diagnosed with schizophrenia at the age of 17. In the few years before the shopping centre stabbings, he was essentially homeless, or as the police described, ‘itinerant’, and he had sporadic contact with his parents. As the police have also said, there are questions that will probably never be answered now that the perpetrator is deceased.
Also, I have heard of people diagnosed with schizophrenia who can become violent due to paranoid delusions or drug-induced anger, paranoia or psychosis. It may be rare, but it does happen and I personally know of an incident where this has happened.
Schizophrenics hear voices that tell them what to do sometimes. Maybe the voice was a narc? They are rarer in serial killings, ie Son of Sam if you read the FBI website on it or reports ( best in the world on serial killers)
HG, you have told us about Munchausen syndrome by proxy.
I have noticed that many girls with anorexia have a domineering, engulfing narcissist mother. All the gaslighting and manipulation might wear the child down. These mothers often mention their daughter’s mental state on social media.
I have also come across the opposite, namely that the adolescent was a narcissist herself, “having” anorexia/selfharm to get attention.
Do you think that in families where a child is anorectic, then either one of the parents, or one of the children, is a narcissist?
One cannot say that the existence of an anorexic child means there will always be a narcissist parent, however, there is force in the suggestion that there is a greater likelihood than usual of there being a narcissist resent. Anorexia is a form of maintaining control and could be a response to a child being exposed to an absence of control, something which is invariably experienced when dealing with a narcissist.
Hello sir, hope u are welll.
How can we differentiate between a narcissist and machismo. They share extremely similar behaviors.
The narcissist will exhibit indicators that go beyond simple demonstrations of machismo as set out in Red Flag and Black Flag.
Hey HG, I’ve been watching your videos and they’ve been very helpful, thank you for your work. I have a question. As far as the references you use in your videos, would I be considered the shelved intimate partner secondary source, shelved non intimate partner secondary source, or something else? I’ve been divorced from my ex wife for 17 years and haven’t been intimate with her since the divorce. However, I have been propositioned for sex in the past and as recent as last month she admitted that she wanted to have sex with me. With all sorts of hoovers in between
You are welcome.
You are a Former Intimate Partner Primary Source.
People talk over me alot. It is incredibly annoying.
They literally do not let me finish a sentence.
I have often told people how rude it is to do this. I have sometimes even carried on talking. I have stayed silent and just ignored it. I have been passive and also stood up for myself. Alas, it does not stop it. They keep doing it. I even have got up and walked away.
I find solitude more pleasant because of this.
HG
How do you deal with people who talk over you?
Interrupt what you are saying and are just plain rude?
1. I point out they are being rude and invite them to remain quiet whilst I finish.
2. I subject them to “the stare” which often brings about silence.
3. I keep talking until they shut up.
4. If they persist I either have them removed (where circumstances permit) or I walk away and leave them to their inane ramblings.
Can music make us whole? Bring together the fractures inside?
Or is it love, sweet love? Or both??
Who are you really?
I wanna see the real YOU.
Teaser “Joker: Folie à Deux”:
Dear HG,
please allow me to express my gratitude for your service in your professional life. Your passport is different than mine, but I am sure the benefits of your work extend beyond the borders of your own country and her people. Thank you very much for putting yourself in danger so that others do not have to. We do not need to know the details of your work to understand that very few people possess the necessary skill and character for it and fewer still can continue to do it without being impacted to some degree in a negative way. It is almost unfathomable that anyone can carry out such duties without suffering serious psychological damage, but if you can do it and find it interesting as well, it is a fortunate combination. I know you do not do it to be altruistic, but the end result is beneficial for all of us and I am very grateful to you. Please take care and be safe, or as safe as possible to still keep it interesting enough for your tastes.
You are welcome.
HG I have loved your cluehunters forum and knowing HG. I became obsessed! I spent two days reading about 4000 messages then went to work. It was illuminating to see narcissism develop and family relations. And an insight to your mind. I made discoveries, some have been published…and the investigation itself educated me. All bloggers! It’s a must to read and join! Oddly it reminded me of the test I took to join a cold case group. I did well. No time to join but if I am right with your mysteries, maybe I should reconsider. I know a couple I got it down. But not all am I so certain. I loved participating. Thanks! And wow Jordyguin, Mery, Who Cares, FIT, Narc Angel and others… some of their analogies were Sherlock Holmes worthy. I am very very late to the game but I don’t think you HG pulled back the curtain to the answers! But it was exhilarating! What is weird to s I see things different from many while admiring their take. It’s the same with the 100k interviews ( I live Sammy!) as almost all were so nervous to consult with you. For me it was like anticipating going to a planetarium! I knew I would discover something awesome and I did. I was not nervous but waited with baited breath. BUT oddly when you first connected it felt like standing in the arctic circle with a freezing wind blowing at me. That was my contagion feel. Just like the cold of my dream about my best friends death… then your voice reached out and warmed the room like it was a fire in a hearth. Wise and comforting. I always seem the be different. See things different. No idea why any more than my dreams. If you’re got big clues right maybe that’s not a bad thing. 4 days built on the magic ant work of others. But I think the thing that hit me hardest was the loss of your sister and what that meant in various aspects and long affirmed aspects of you. There are no words. It’s too deep and profound. The word tragic doesn’t cover it. I just cannot fathom the experience but my sorrow resonates for you… and her.
I have read with interest your responses and it is clear that you immersed yourself in the process.
Will you be doing more videos on your psychopathy section?
Will there be some more blogs about the difference between sociopathy, psychopathy and narcissism? Also how they are intertwined?
Yes.
That will be material that will appear in the Knowledge Vault.
Excellent! Looking forward to it!
I would add sadism, sexual sadists, pedophiles, Machiavellism and “ dark triad” if you use that term. For example Ted Bundy is said to be a sexual sadist, psychopath and narcissist. But what type of narcissist? So much overlap it seems…
How well do I need to know a person to answer questions in your Narc Detector?
Well enough to be able to answer questions about them.
Hi Hg , what’s the youngest sex worker you have employed? Do you have any issues with using young people like this, given your obvious advancing age? Silly question?
Everybody is of advancing age, so your attempt at a sleight falls flat.
I do not employ sex workers.
Yolande
I was taken aback by your question and curious to know why you would believe that HG would need to employ the use of a sex worker?
I found the question to be extremely offensive and insulting for these reasons:
1. In my present job and a previous one I have come into contact with children who have been abused and specifically sexually abused. The impact that this type of abuse has on a child is devastating.
2. Human trafficking is a serious issue, it is the use of humans for the purpose of sexual slavery or commercial sexual exploitation, many ending up in places like you suggest is used by HG.
3. HG has been open and honest regarding his sexual abuse as a child, in order to assist us with our learning about narcissism.
4. We are all aware of the claims made against Prince Andrew, and the abhorrent feelings towards him by the public.
I am sure that I have seen you during premieres on HG’s YouTube channel, therefore you will be quite aware that he has many females who swoon over him.
He is charismatic, has a great sense of humour, intelligent, well groomed and smells delicious, has an incredible body and I am sure regardless of his age he is extremely good looking, why would HG need to pay?
HG, I think your response to this comment was extremely professional and polite.
Sending you love HG ❤️❤️❤️
Hello Mr Tudor.
Would you please consider to share of your knowledge on the following case? I’m wondering how he is most likely to behave going forward, so I can stay one step ahead.
I found evidence that my (now ex) fiancé have been filming my children in secret. And after that shock, understanding of what he is started to unravel, including what our relationship was truly like. Long story, as I cannot make it short;
I pressed charges, he was arrested, admitted to just enough to seem like he wanted to cooperate, but of course also to get reduced sentence. And not even close to everything, there is plenty of hard evidence for things he is denying. Turns out, he’s been doing this for at least 3 years. Probably longer.
So not only a narcissist, but also a child molestor. He thought he outsmarted me and had full control over me, but he did not, as I had already provided police with evidence he thought he had deleted in time (when he started to suspect me of knowing). He is the type of narcissist that has a huge network, and has a foot in “everywhere”. Typical of how they describe covert and communal narcissists, just combined. Everyone used to think he’s super nice, always helpful, super empathic and would never do harm….
Of course, he is none of those things, though he might think he is. What he is, is the very subtle kind. I’m not sure if you would classify him as greater or mid-range. Maybe in between, based on what I’ve read so far. But he loves playing the victim, when he is not the great hero and protector of all, and is of course doing this now too. He is, or at least was before this massive injury to him, a master manipulator. But now most people want nothing to do with him, so only his disciples (some empaths he has been using for years, his parents and some lesser narcissists) will listen to his rather ridiculous lies, twisted words and events, and half truths. So his smear campaign isn’t exactly super effective.
He’s of course pretending to not be using social media (highly unlikely, as he is addicted to it), and is giving me the silent treatment. He made contact yesterday, but only because he had to, to prevent further legal injury to himself. Now I am the one ignoring him.
I want to strip him of everything that gives him fuel and destroy him in court. He used to tell me I was the strongest woman he ever met, and how impressed he was that I never gave up, no matter what. Built his own funeral pyre by choosing me, but he couldn’t resist using my victories and strength as fuel, by displaying me to everyone like a trophy. I may be an empath, but I’ve been to hell and back more than once, and he crossed the final line. No one abuses my children and gets away with it.
Any and all advice, insight or thoughts would be highly appreciated, as you are probably the only one who might have an understanding of what to expect from him. Though I do understand it’s an intricate question, and a detailed story, and that you may not have the time for a very thorough answer.
Thank you for sharing your insights into the narcissistic mind. It has been a great resource so far.
Best regards,
Lioness
This is a matter which should be addressed through consultation given the need for the provision of more information and also by virtue of the responses I would need to provide to you.
Is there a type of narcissist who is only pleasant in person but acts cold when apart, taking ages to answer messages?
Many different narcissists can behave this way, I recommend you use the narc detector https://narcsite.com/narc-detector-2/ to gain clarity and understanding.
1. What is the most valuable advice you have ever received?
Never take other people’s advice.
Well HG, I am taking yours. I purchased the addiction to a narcissist from the Knowledge Vault and it was eye opening. I come from a long line of empaths. My father and his side are chock full of them. I have written about my beautiful kind Aunts. Kindness is their very DNA. On my mother’s side it’s a mix but there were many and some founders of the Salvation Army. Very involved. My romantic history had a list of empaths and normals ( not long as I have had long relations) but I married a narc. He did not feel like home. He was utterly shocking. I never heard or understood what a silent treatment was. In fact when he first did it, I thought something physically had happened to him. Violence was not known in my family. There had been shouts, criticisms etc… but normal not complete drama. I have secure attachment style. My results were very high, I know this isn’t a field you follow in your works. It was like entering a new realm meeting my husband. Then you came in and made sense of it. This freed me from him except for my overall need to hope he is ok and wish things could end on a positive or a friendship ( but I make no effort to make it happen.) I have recognized one other in a friend where I realized I have always undertaken the role of healer without reciprocity. I don’t mind giving for the sake of giving but being valued or loved is another thing. You answered two things that bothered me. One: if my childhood did not involve narcs why pick one. Two : can I change myself fundamentally, where does this come from. In understanding the whys, I can move forward with understanding. By better understanding my nature, I can apply myself better. Narcs are not worth the effort BUT I am pleased that my traits don’t need to go anywhere except to better sources and there are plenty: personally, professionally and all around. Thanks HG!
You are welcome.
Dear HG,
When William becomes King, do you think he’ll take away TOW’s title? Xx
I believe he will put in place the machinery for that to happen.
Thank you HG for your reply and time xx
Also HG I would love to see you expand your store. I would buy some of your cool imagery. Great pics! And why not a scent line? Who wouldn’t want to buy Narc Repellent? It could be black currant based scented. No Contact?Fresh ? Contagian? Earthy scents ? Super Empath? Sort of a Gucci pepper scent. Savior? Magnolia Martyr? Rose… Even banana with a coconut scent for the beach. Not sure about the Chicken. I know you’re busy but you are unique with merchandising.
Narc Repellant spray for the evenings out to attract only real relationships. Unisex? Please consider!!!!!
😉
Mr. Tudor,
Did you have a reaction to the news of the cancer diagnosis of Catherine, The Princess of Wales? If so, can you share your reaction with us? Since she’s an empath, did that have any bearing on your reaction? Would your reaction be different if she was a narcissist?
Thank you for your time.
Yes, my reaction was there are videos which need to be made about this topic.
These videos re: Catherine TPOW are anticipated. I will look forward to those.
Hi Leigh,
Your question to HG is an interesting one. Since I have recently been in a situation where a close family member was diagnosed with cancer, I would like to add my own perspective.
My family member – whom I love – is a narcissist, a Middle-Mid Range A (overwhelming angel) as confirmed by HG’s Narc Detector. With regard to explaining the situation, I trust HG will allow me to provide the results of the Narc Detector.
When I first learned the news of my family member’s diagnosis, I was shocked, concerned and very saddened. This initial reaction was instant and genuine. It was not dependent on whether or not my family member is a narcissist. Simply put, I did not want them to have this diagnosis and was concerned for their wellbeing.
On a side-note, when I heard the news about Catherine, Princess of Wales, and her cancer diagnosis, I felt a similar sadness and concern. For Catherine, it wasn’t as deep or ‘real’ in the sense of it being so close to me. I don’t know Catherine, so I can only imagine what she and her family are going through. As I do not know her, it’s a more distant, less visceral feeling of sadness. However, I still feel moved to do something about my sadness for Catherine and that is to stop reading all the news about her in order to give her the space and privacy she has requested.
With my family member, I also had (and have) secondary emotional reactions, which were like a second layer of emotions – not as deep or constant as the sadness and concern. These secondary emotions were annoyance and anger due to knowing that I needed to navigate the situation in a careful and strategic way because they are a narcissist. I need to be aware of my instinctive reactions all the time, *while also* providing support and showing that I care. In short, it’s a case of walking on eggshells. It’s emotionally taxing and frustrating, so I knew (and know) that this situation is going to be very difficult to navigate.
As a comparison because I don’t know her, with the sadness for Catherine, she is an empath so there is no need for me to be aware of and to moderate my instinctive sadness and emotional reactions. I can feel my initial primary reactions without the secondary frustration of feeling that I need to be careful or strategic.
As it turned out with my family member, I was supportive because I wanted to be and to me it felt very much like the ‘right’ thing to do. I made sure I wouldn’t be busy during the period of time when they underwent treatment; I cooked some nutritious meals for them; I bought or gave them certain items they may need; and I attended medical appointments with them to hear the information explained by doctors and to ask questions of the doctors that would assist my family member in knowing more about all the details of the treatment, etc.
Doing these things was not a burden to me and I was happy to do them. At the same time, I felt the manipulations, triangulation and subtle contempt from this family member at certain points in the process. I also felt their need for fuel too. I knew that it was easier for them in some respects for me to be there with them. It’s a catch-22. I still care about my family member even though I know I am going to be manipulated.
Now, in hindsight, I can see that I am an appliance. My own needs do not matter. I am needed and used at particular times for particular purposes and during those times, I may be painted white to keep me on side. When not needed in the way they want, I may be painted black, probably because my family member needs to downplay my actions and devalue me.
I still love my family member and I definitely don’t want them to be going through cancer.
One thing it has taught me is that narcissism doesn’t change even with a life threatening illness.
WN,
I’m very sorry to hear about your family member’s cancer diagnosis. I understand your need to be supportive and helpful. I hope they’ll be ok.
Thank you, Leigh, your kindness is appreciated.
When a close family member is a narcissist – and this is something you also know well – I find that I am constantly debating in my own mind what my actions should be and what would be most appropriate.
Relatively speaking, it’s easy to say appropriate things after something has already happened to someone. For instance, when a tragic situation occurs, people send messages of ‘thoughts and prayers’ and say things like, “You’re in my thoughts,” etc.
When it’s a close family member who needs help and the person is a narcissist; or a situation that will get worse if some kind of action is not taken; it’s a case of taking the bull by the horns and making a decision about what to do. I find that whatever my decision, it will not be my most preferred way. It’s a case of damned if you do and damned if you don’t. Or, a case of walking on eggshells.
After years of having these kinds of debates in my head, I think the most beneficial thing is to nip something in the bud before it can get worse. In other words, tackle problems while they are still manageable and while something can still be done to resolve them. Do what is possible to eliminate bigger problems.
When it comes to cancer, I think it’s important to be vigilant and aware. Go and get tested as soon as possible if you think something is not right. If there are health tests available, don’t hesitate and get tested.
It’s probably hard for us to believe just how little this news would affect him. It could seem like he might be interested because 1) he’s British and many Brits feel some pride in their Royal family 2) he talks about members of the RF in his YT videos and 3) speaks favourably about Kate in those videos.
But his response highlights that he has seen her public statement and diagnosis as little more than an opportunity to be utilised. He does not (he likely cannot) care beyond that.
Hi AA,
I agree that Mr. Tudor doesn’t care about her diagnosis the way you or I would care. Mr. Tudor does feel emotions though. I think it was KIt Kat who posted a list of emotions on one of the “I Second that Emotion” articles. Mr. Tudor responded yes or no to each emotion.
I realized I wasn’t clear in my original question so I reframed it and asked it again. One thing I was wondering was if it irritated him in a similar way that Doug’s death irritated him.
Sir, re “The Prison Boss Narcissist” and “It Couldn’t Happen Here – The Power of the Narcissist’s Facade”, I watched the documentary after your analysis, would Richard Spencer be an example of a majority Martyr empath and the decision of recording the abuse be seen as having faced the ’cliff-situation’ where he was pushed over the ’cliff’? His empathy towards his wife basically never eroded and he even thought to delete the recordings, but as a result of his actions she faced the consequences of big nature, which I think would fall into the Supernova character, in terms of the consequences but not how it was executed on his part, because it was a silent taking of the abuse, yet he remained cataloging it. And it still wasn’t him, who exposed her. If not for others, he probably would have remained recording without going to police. In terms of his majority school I’m indecisive between Standard and Codependent.
1. Cliff fightback.
2. Yes he would exhibit very strong or majority Martyr.
3. Likely majority standard with strong codependent.
Thank you, sir! The influence of a very strong/majority Martyr, in some of the examples of the abuse he was willing to take, and yet still continued to excuse her/remain with her, is shocking. The follow up video “10 Reasons Why the Victim Maintains the Narcissist’s Facade” explained why. Thank you!!
Hi Jordyguin:
I worked on domestic violence cases. Betty Broderick was in jail in my county while I worked at the DA. She murdered her husband and lover when he left her then raised the defense that he emotionally abused her.( ie criticized her weight gain and left her for the young secretary) She said she had “ Battered wife syndrome. “ he was a well known and respected rich doctor and lawyer in San Diego. Betty lost but it raised the issue of domestic violence and all its forms. Meredith Baxter played her in a TV film. Its not just about being a certain type. I guess if Richard felt a sense of duty to his wife or children ( although leaving would be best for them), he might have been a martyr but people stay because:
1. They die if they leave and they fear it. individuals may fear further harm or retaliation if they attempt to leave the abusive relationship. Fear of physical violence, emotional manipulation, or threats may keep them trapped in the cycle of abuse.
2. Abusers often isolate their victims from friends, family, and support networks, making it difficult for the abused individual to seek help or escape the abusive situation. This sense of isolation can contribute to feelings of helplessness , not a duty bound ideal.
3. In some cases, financial dependence on the abuser can pose a significant barrier to leaving the relationship. The lack of financial resources or economic stability may limit the abused individual’s ability to break free from the abusive environment. Not sure what Richard did for money or if he had any.???
4. Low self esteem caused by prolonged abuse. The person loses his or her sense of self worth. And it can be rebuilt when leaving it.
4. Cultural norms, social stigma, or religious beliefs may discourage individuals from leaving an abusive relationship. Societal attitudes and expectations can influence how individuals perceive their options and their ability to seek help. This is where “ Richard is lucky” as in other cultures particularly for women they are property of the man to do what he wants with… so sad.
5. : The intense emotional experiences in an abusive relationship can create a bond between the abuser and the victim, known as “trauma bonding.” Again they are mentally damaged by the abuse. Their mind is injured. They don’t think clearly on both a cognitive and emotional level.
5. Lack of support. I met a woman at the dog park who said she heard I was a lawyer. She started shaking and crying because she had no family, parents were dead, no siblings and no children. She said her husband had cut her off. No money. She didn’t have money to eat or get a lawyer. I gave her money for food and explained she could get free shelter and food and a free lawyer. She had no idea about a free lawyer. I said financial abuse is domestic violence in California although ususally there are other forms of abuse. She said he never physically abused her but told stories of emotional and financial abuse. She had been married for 22 years and wanted out but felt she couldn’t afford a lawyer to do so. I gave her all the numbers to assist. She was so excited! She told me she finally had hope. “ a free lawyer” for the divorce. Wow she didn’t know they existed.
I wrote a legal thriller at 28 ( went nowhere) and one part involved a woman who was a victim of domestic violence. In it, the lawyer told her she would NEVER ask why she didn’t leave. I know you never asked this question Jordyguin….but it angers me to the core when people do or make assumptions something is wrong with the victim for staying. It’s a complex issue and I have seen it in every race, religion, socioeconomic class and sex and even gender identity. It’s so awful. I hate and deplore it. I think the focus should be why did that animal think he could treat another human this way. The victim of DV needs safety, support and laws to protect them. Did you know sexual assault was not considered a war crime to be addressed until 2008. . As of 2019, the UN is still working on regulations to hold perpetrators accountable during war conflict. So much to be done…. I once was in a trial of the death of a little boy who was locked in a refrigerator by his stepfather. The biological father had tried and tried to get custody and warned he was at risk due to the DV both parents engaged in. When the potential jurors were questioned, I was horrified at the hands raised when asked if they experienced childhood abuse, domestic violence and/or … rape. I was sickened to see how prevalent the issue is in Southern California . Outside the DA office which obviously has a skewed sample. And the jurers were randomly picked from every background. I personally think the sentences are too light … angers me.
And don’t get me started on pedophlia. The laws are a joke.
Here’s what ChatGPT says
Yes, mentally healthy individuals can become victims of domestic violence. Domestic violence can affect anyone, regardless of their mental health status. Here are some important points to consider:
1. **Impact of Domestic Violence**: Domestic violence can have a profound and lasting impact on the mental health and well-being of victims. The trauma, fear, and stress caused by domestic violence can lead to various mental health challenges, such as anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and low self-esteem.
2. **Complex Dynamics**: Domestic violence is characterized by complex power dynamics and manipulative behaviors that can affect individuals regardless of their mental health status. Perpetrators of domestic violence may use tactics such as gaslighting, isolation, and emotional abuse to exert control over their partners or family members.
3. **Vulnerability Factors**: While pre-existing mental health conditions can potentially exacerbate the effects of domestic violence, they do not determine whether someone will become a victim of abuse. Factors such as lack of social support, financial dependence on the abuser, cultural norms, and societal attitudes towards violence can also contribute to a person’s vulnerability to domestic violence.
4. **Barriers to Seeking Help**: Survivors of domestic violence, including those who are mentally healthy, may face barriers to seeking help and leaving abusive situations. These barriers can include fear of retaliation, social stigma, financial constraints, and limited access to support services.
5. **Intersectionality**: It is important to recognize that individuals experience domestic violence within the context of their intersecting identities, which can include factors such as race, gender, sexual orientation, disability, and socioeconomic status. Intersectionality influences how domestic violence is experienced and the barriers individuals face in accessing support and resources.
6. **Support and Resources**: It is vital for individuals who are experiencing domestic violence, including those who are mentally healthy, to seek support from trusted individuals, domestic violence hotlines, counseling services, shelters, and legal resources. Supportive interventions can help survivors regain a sense of safety and empowerment.
7. **Prevention and Education**: Addressing domestic violence requires a comprehensive approach that includes prevention efforts, education on healthy relationships, bystander intervention, and legal protections for survivors. By challenging attitudes that condone or minimize domestic violence, society can create a safer environment for all individuals.
In conclusion, domestic violence can impact individuals from all backgrounds and mental health statuses. Recognizing the signs of domestic violence, supporting survivors, and advocating for prevention strategies are essential steps in addressing this pervasive issue and promoting safety, dignity, and well-being for all individuals.
Like murder, rape, theft, DV is a crime that can happen to anyone. It’s an ugly vicious crime and in my opinion, the perpetrators need to be removed from society for a very long time.
4 years is a SICK joke. It demonstrates how ignorant people are about the issue. UGH!
I’ve engineered a couple of prompts for relationships. It writes decent break-up letters. Gives my emotionalism a break.
Another crime that inflicts people and is DV is stalking, I met a famous star from criminal mind who told me about her ex stalking her and its effects. She couldn’t eat, sleep, and was seeing a therapist. There was no recognizable DV when together but she left him and he would not let go. He was clever with injunctions but my friends father was assisting her as a celebrity attorney. Stalking is considered DM in California in and of itself. It is terrifying and does much mental damage. I was pleased H.G. did a series on it. The damage the perpetrators of DV is immense. Life long. We need to lock them up for a long time. 4 years is a joke especially with early release laws in California. I am not shocked but saddened. Perhaps HG work can help prevent engagement with these types but once it starts…support is needed as it’s very complex. If laws were stricter I think there would be a deterrent. Ever notice how quickly an unaware narc gains composure when a cop is called. We see it in H.G. videos. It’s insidious and more police officer training is needed too.
Hi jordyguin:
I consulted with HG and I finally understand the martyr cadre. The label threw me. You can be a martyr in every sense of the word. And throw yourself at good people and causes and ideals, but HG explained it’s when you do this for a narcissist, that’s his definition. Total waste of time. You self sacrifice for nothing. You only harm yourself. I was slow at understanding unlike you and others…
Jordyguin go to cluehinters and get the others NA, Mercy and FTC;) I made a big discovery;)
Jordy,
I love your analysis thought process and how you addressed his type of empath. I found it difficult to understand his lack of emotional erosion after all he suffered, and you nailed it!
I hope I will get to a point of figuring out schools and cadres like you have.
Thank you for your post and questions to HG, I am going to go back and listen to them again.
Sonya, hi! I’m certain if you continue to immerse yourself in HG’s work that you’ll begin to see the indicators for the different schools and cadres. I also do it as HG teaches in all of the analyses he undertakes – determining what classification, school, cadre a person is rather/definitely not and what is left fits more likely.
Hi Jordyguin:
Richard had to give legal consent to the film and it was his recordings. He made them. He had to consent to the release legally. It was brave of him to self sacrifice his experience and highlight to the world that men can be abused too. As a matyr cadre , I could never put up with that abuse. I had a husband slap me once drunk and I demanded he quit drinking and go to DV anger management classes if he ever wanted to see me again and kicked him out. He did. He remains sober. He took 6 months of classes. It never happened again and I recorded it with the threat of civil and criminal prosecution. Perhaps there are different matyrs or I don’t understand my cadre. I get carrier completely. I think of matyrs when I look at my Aunts with large families. H.G. says it’s a family thing and I can see my awe of them as role models left an impression. They self sacrificed, were charitable, they never complained, never gossiped, never criticized, were kind traditional women devoted to their families who didn’t wear make up, went to church and were devout to the core but never preached, were kind loving and compassionate with a sparkle in their eye. They didn’t travel, they didn’t care about material things but when they got old there was so much love around them. They inspired me. And I have written about classical matyrs who would die for their country, religion, ideals and beliefs ( where the name came from was based on religious prosecution and those who would die then denounce). So H.G.: are you saying he is a matyr because he stayed in an abusive relationship or because he exposed her and helped promote awareness of male abuse? Your only video on the topic is about kind, self sacrificing, duty bound people who are silent about their actions. They are ruled by duty which is an ideal. They also can hurt themselves when pursuing this duty. All this fits with the classical type. ( Death is harm;) BUT. I don’t see how being in an abusive marriage correlates. I do see how exposing your personal life is a sacrifice to further a cause. ???? Other than Jim Carviezel who HG stated was a matyr during his filming and willing to go on despite severe physical injuries due to his Faith in Christ, I don’t see many matyrs discussed in HG’s work. H.G. Is it a small percent? You say contagions are a rarer group in class but you don’t discuss rarity in cadres or I missed it. Could you point me in that direction?
Also HG any chance you could do a video on classical matyrs and how that fits in the matyr group. I feel I am on the lower echelon of them. Hanging by a hem. They are my heroes. Jesus, Martin Luther King, Harriett Tubman, Mathsa Gandi and others who gave their lives to change the world. The unsung heroes and soldiers too…Mother Theresa was on your list of maybes but there’s controversy. I think she is one but maybe I don’t get it. If my Aunts and the famous are even in the same category it must be a broad one? Rare?
Then you add in those annoying people called mature who do something just to whine about it and seek pity.
Jordyguin: thank you!
Contagious, hi! I read about your martyr-list you also commented elsewhere; those you named classical martyrs, but I don’t understand on what basis have you decided that they are Martyr empaths? You know what I mean? To determine what each person’s classification is, you’d need to analyse a lot of material on them. Especially the historical ones…Jeanne D’Arc for instance you’d need to read all the trial documents, what did she say, how would she contradict herself and so on. Yes, the church proclaimed her a saint but she may also have been a narcissist… Same with the famous historical figures and heroes. We cannot know until we examine them in the way HG teaches us, to put the sources under critical analyses and go to the evidence.
Regarding Richard Spencer.
I find the video on the Martyr empath is very clear and precise about what a Martyr empath is, so I’m wondering why you don’t find the explanation in it for how R. Spencer exhibits a very strong or majority Martyr. Perhaps you would need to listen to it a couple more times for it to sink in.
Hi Jordyguin:
I stand on thin ice perhaps but I am not exactly challenging the martyr cadre but more about any inference that could be made that he somehow permitted the abuse in any sense or contributed to it….very dangerous and a myth. I worked in domestic violence at the DA and I used to volunteer for DV organizations. Responding to HG YouTube, several women and I think a man responded the same as me. It is dangerously close to saying “ why didn’t he leave? “ “ why didn’t she leave?” These readers basically vomited at the thought. The myth of the long suffering spouse is a dangerous one. It makes the victim somehow complicit in the abuse. A character trait. It is a complex subject and I was trained on it at the DA office. Victims can be perfectly mentally healthy ( and many don’t know this) but fall prey to these types of animals. As Richard so generously showed by publically sharing his horror, it affects all types: race, sex, gender, class. But as I wrote, people don’t realize that the victim can suffer PTSD just like a war victim, they can fear being killed if they leave. Richard was afraid to leave as she put a knife to his throat and threatened to kill him if he did. He probably suffers PTSD. I would bet on it. They find themselves with no financial ability to leave. Richard said he had no money to leave. They are isolated often by the abuser and have no support. Richard said he was isolated. They fear the well being of their children. Will she kill or harm them? Richard feared for the safety of the children . Why wouldn’t he? She was a monster. Plus she told him that she would lie to the courts and he would lose them to this sick twisted no empathy cruel mother. How frightening?! Richard probably was unaware like so many out there of all the organizations out there that could help. There is a number 55 in the UK. There are places where you can go, their are free lawyers and mental health organizations. There are places that donate food, and clothing to DV victims and their children. I know the groups here and have helped women. I used to donate time to the OC DV organization. I went to groups to tell them about the free resources. It’s complex. If you are so mentally altered like PTSD, you aren’t thinking straight. It’s not just PTSD, your mind is altered. There are scientific studies on it. It’s like being a war victim. It alters you. I will dare to say that any normal, narc, empath that finds themselves in this life fearing mind altering horrific situation is not the same person who entered the relationship… at all. The focus needs to be on that animal. And only her/him. The best question asked is WHY did she only go away for 4 years? Why did the legal system fail her? Do you know it takes 2.5 years in the UK to get a rape conviction? I read it today in the New Yorker! I am not picking on the UK, domestic violence is insidious and invasive in every society and most fail them. I guess I don’t care what cadre Richard was…I don’t see any contribution for what she put him through which was torture. I do care what she was and to me… unredeemable as a malignant narcissist. She needs to be locked up for 20 years. Sorry, given my experiences helping the victims of DV, I had to raise a voice. We must be aware of how complex it is and provide support. Richard may suffer PTSD and mental effects a long time. But he has support now and hope. Thank you Richard for sacrificing your privacy so that awareness is reached.
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Hi Contagious,
I was diagnosed with PTSD when I was a child, again when I was a teen and twice more as an adult, different therapist I went to since I was 12…Fear is very much real to me and I also lack the finances to live on my own, so I can relate to Richard. Xx
I’m still looking for a place I can afford, someone I can feel safe with to share expenses…I’m looking into options.
Shelters aren’t an option for me, had a very bad experience one, won’t risk going back. I’m not giving up by any means.
I understand what you’re saying here, I’ve dealt with it as a child of a narc mother and married to my second narc husband. Xx
Hey Jordy:
You might be right about classical Narcs. Not Jesus in my opinion but HG might do a series on some and it might be surprising ( I can’t say more). I was confused by the term. It has roots in religion and those who were persecuted but would not denounce God. It’s a Greek word that means “ witness “so I could not relate the term to H.G. works. I got confused. It was not until I spoke to H.G. that he clarified it. I watched the blogs but it never addressed the historical usage of the term. Plus martyrs are my heroes. But HG was clear. His definition applies only to narcissists. Now martyrs are behavioral. As HG said they may behave that way for a cause, an ideal, a normal and an empath and a narc. AND they often do. They overlap often. But his definition is about a narc only. So I shall say no more, I get it. But as I wrote about Richard… I don’t see any particular class or cadre applying to his subjugated abuse. This has to do with my DV training. So I adore H.G. and respect you and others but I see DV like rape and murder. Research it. Anyone including martyrs can be subjected to it. It changes your mind, ptsd, it makes you fear for your life if you leave or fear for the lives of those you love, etc… it is a complex issue and I think readers need to know that NO ONE is safe from DV and NO ONE contributes to it… it is solely on the perpetrator !!! victims of DV really need to know of the help that’s out there for these often isolated penniless frightened for their life and loved ones …mentally altered beings. The UK has a number 55, so they don’t need to speak. Wonderful UK! It’s better than 999. It gets you emergency help with silence. Two little numbers. Did you know this? . When I met women in domestic violence groups, so many don’t know how to access resources and they felt at the time of the DV so scared and broken they couldn’t think straight. Many had PTSD. It’s a complex issue.
I know HG is all about helping victims of domestic violence and you. I just felt the need to share my training and further provide information to anyone reading this blog. There are free attorneys in UK and US, there is shelter, food, mental health support. All free. And if in UK, all it takes is to press 55 to change your life and those you love.
I firmly believe no person should go to bed at night fearing their life or lives of those they love. In war, you “ expect it” but when in a family, it’s just as bad and the same consequences. It’s disgusting. And the system that put this subhuman away for 4 years is disgusting. She committed war crimes in a family setting. She put a knife to his throat and threatened to kill him if he left. That’s very close to attempted murder. Which in my opinion is what she did to him. God bless Richard. May he get the help and have a great life!!!!
X
I think that codependent school + Martyr cadre = tendency for Martyr empaths to stay, more than if one has Martyr but little or no CoD. It’s why Contagious and certain martyrs/heroes are strong and courageous.
Hi Candied:
I like your take on it. HG did say classical martyrs or regular martyrs overlap often with his definition of martyr: giving it up to the narc! Don’t do it! Put your energies elsewhere! I think martyrs in general will when motivated go the extra mile, take risks and sacrifice themselves. The reason is the cause or person matters more than the martyr. I did a KHG exam. HG says MLK jr , Harriett Tubman and Joan of Arc are not narcs. Among others. I put my list of idols and heroes and the vast majority were not narcs. Gandhi is…
But in general my guess is it is a small cadre compared … which is why I brought it up in part…is that true HG? Do you have a percent breakdown in cadres?
Aww Candied. You are so kind. No, not me, Not in comparison. Think of little tiny Harriett Tubman. A black SLAVE. The risks she took as a WOMAN. Knowing if caught the undeniable slow torture she would face from the white man and yet against all odds burning with passion she did it! And she didn’t stand around saying give me accolades, look at me, look at what I did despite the odds. Nope she just wanted to do MORE. Martyrs like MLK Jr, Joan of Arc, Sister Catrini, (of course Jesus per HG not a narc… and thank you for this ) are superheroes, larger than life. You can hardly breathe thinking of what they accomplished. And it’s a reminder to all empaths that we are not weak. It’s thugs like Putin who are weak. Did Putin help end slavery? No! He enslaves. And when oppression comes, the pendulum swings… not to mention what comes after this tiny blip called life.
Also is it harder to fight oppression than to oppress?
Jordy,
I listened to it again and it confirmed what I suspected about my Mother being a Martyr empath. I know my mother also had a lot of contagion. I am continuing to learn, there is a lot of information to dissect, It’s almost like being in college again! It is fascinating to see how the school and cadres bolt together.
If your mother has carrier too, she and I are a lot alike. I am not a disciplinarian. My weakness. I was Terrible at it with children and as well with my dogs What I do well is nurture. I had a great team at work who loved me and I then, my children thrive, my dogs… well;) They live long healthy happy lives. My garden grows well. My koi pond is filled with 4 active fish… the Fab Four, yes.. I am creative too. My dreams are another story. I will never get this component of me. It’s like being Alice falling nightly into the rabbit hole. I collect Alice in Wonderland items. Loved the V&A exhibit! I enjoy bringing out the best in people. I am not jealous. I was a good mom as demonstrated by my children. They exceeded my wildest expectations but they only got part of that from me. Their innate selves, their fathers ( yes even the ASPD one) did well, teachers, friends, extended family. My guess is you are like your mom and me. Have you taken the narc test?
as to martyr it’s like my hidden beast. Even my daughter will say “ I will let you know if I need to unleash you. Injustice drives me crazy at times. I feel the need to take my degree and educate others how “ it should be.” I do this for me and others. Sometimes I think if someone does not sue them and make them pay, how would we ever get change. I once sued Sears after 81 calls to a call center and 3 technicians came to look at a 2 year old washer. The judge said well it’s fixed. We all deal with call centers and ineffective repairmen. I said “ yes and how will it ever change if you don’t make them accountable? I got the full price of the washer plus the one I had got fixed. I do this sometimes. I hate the way the capitalist system treats consumers. Without us, they are nothing…:)
Hi Contagion,
I wrote my thoughts on this topic in one of the other conversations. I will link it here.
https://narcsite.com/2022/03/25/vladimir-putin-part-one/#comment-454213
H.G.
Will Caroline’s cancer have an effect on Meagan? How sad? I am saddened to hear of her illness.
See the video about this topic.
Hi H.G.:
Just watched your tea with you and Sam. I adore her! She is simply marvelous! And your dynamics with her is special. A former IPSS? You clearly respect her. Now my question is if you were able to be affected by mushrooms why not do it again. Seeing a devil in the mirror of yourself and a dancing beautiful lady. It’s obvious it’s your subconscious: seeing how you see yourself at the core: bad. Outside the facade. And your inner desires: beautiful women. But why not continue since no adverse effects. For me, there are. I lose all inhibition and see everything as beautiful, flying and I love everyone. I am straight but women become attractive to me too. I once in my 20s found my then fiancée’s best friend who looked like woody allen irresistible . Thank God my fiancée walked into the room as I had shed my clothes and who knows. He put me in a cold shower. Probably a narc. lol. . Realizing my limitations on psychedelics , I stopped. I once went to a Grateful Dead concert and was accidentally given LCD as I let someone with ice put it in my mouth laced. I had sat right in front of their lights and flew into a cosmos of lights and to be alone in a stadium at 4 am. I got a cab and surprised a friend. The point is you aren’t lost in space like me. I feel I am high on life as it is…my dreams don’t require LSD nor does my artistic mind when painting etc…once when acting as a teen they had to wave flowers over my face and poke me as I was lost in character. I am not a good candidate for . You could delve deeper into you or if you follow Sam- the higher power or conscious connectiveness. Meta universe it’s often called.
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Why not see where the next trip takes you?
1. Would you?
2. Why not?
My ex LMN quit drinking 8 years ago. He turned to pot. It caused his aggressiveness to diminish for awhile. Sadly he took spice in the UK as addicted even with a medical card. He gets high every two hours last I saw him. And I think his tolerance is such it no longer keeps the fury at bay. I think he has even had psychic breaks from reality which I don’t know are from isolation, extreme paranoia and low fuel or all the he above.
But you seem immune to real effects yet tap your unconscious, why not dig deeper? Be fun to hear about HG’s Timothy Leary experiment.
Of course I am a Californian…;
Sam is not a former IPSS.
I see nothing to be gained from taking mushrooms.
Thanks H.G. for assisting me on martyr category. I get it now. I got very confused by the label or etymology of the word but I know understand it is meant to be defined only by the empath- narc relations and nothing else…and that someone could be a martyr for a cause, an ideal, or even a normal, an empath and often are but your focus and definition is on the narc- martyr alone. And that many behavioral martyrs also fall into the martyr- narc relationship and well the narc is not worth the effort:) much appreciated! I hope as slow to understand;)
Great questions, Jordy.
Hi HG.
Thank you for the videos about the narcissists facade. They brought up a lot of childhood pain but reminded me it wasn’t my fault.
Where is Carole?
I am so glad you asked! I was thinking about starting a post with this exact question, and a message to Carole:
Carole, please don’t be discouraged. You are a positive asset to our discussion group, and you are wanted here.
Please know that you are understood and accepted by me, and others in this group. You have a big heart, capable of unconditional love and massive amounts of compassion, and you are absolutely beautiful for it. You have stayed graceful and polite when faced with what I consider to be more than your share of scrutiny. This alone shows the strength of your character.
These have been my thoughts all along; I’m not saying them just to make you feel better. I’m glad this situation has given me an opportunity to share outside observations that can be difficult to see in ourselves.
I hope you decide to rejoin us after taking a break.
And remember: HG’s opinion is the only opinion that matters!
Much ❤️ to you
K@,
Beautifully said!
I have wondered where she is too. I hope you come back Carole.
Dear Sonya,
Thank you for taking the time to post a comment, I appreciate it 🩷
I needed to address a few difficult decisions that I had.
While I am not entirely sure that I have addressed everything that I needed to, I was having withdrawal symptoms from our lord and master 😉
It’s good to have you back, Carole.
Carole,
I’m really happy you are back. I sure understand the need to address difficult decisions, I have to take step back to do that. Do you think we are ever able to address everything we need to?
It seems like life is a series of addressing difficult things. Get through one and then Wham, three more hit me in the face. It is a process.
I’m glad your back here and happy you filled your soul.
Dear K,
Thank you for your kind words, I felt extremely touched when reading what you wrote about me, I appreciate it very much 🩷
I really do understand and appreciate that others comments are from a place of understanding, support and care, and sometimes just as we fail to see those red flags, it needs someone to be brutally honest for those concerns to become visible to a person, that said, I know that HG is a narcissistic psychopath and I will never judge him for anything that he has done, is doing or intends to do, he will always have my love, respect and loyalty.
His narcissism was born out of a lack of control during his childhood and I feel as a result of that he has suffered enough already.
I understand that not everyone will agree with my decision but I make it with the knowledge that I have gained from HG’s work. I understand that I may be hurt at some point, but you don’t attempt to ride the rapids and not expect to get a little wet 🤷♀️
I stepped away to do a lot of soul searching within myself, I had some difficult decisions that I needed to address, including my own moral compass. I am not proud of certain decisions that I have made, regardless of how or why I reached those decisions.
You are all truly amazing people here and I am grateful to be included.
Thank you to you also, Joa 🩷
Thank you HG for your continued kindness and support, sending you love ❤️❤️❤️
Welcome back!
Hi HG, I was as wondering if you could share some study tips or tricks that you’ve learned over the years.
Any suggestions or advice that has seen you through school? Perhaps habits or regimens
which allow you to achieve the high efficiency of the work you do presently?
Thank you!
You would need to organise an audio consultation to receive such information.
HG,
Do you find narcissistic individuals to be more likely to be competitive with narcissists than normals or empaths?
One side of my family has many narcissistic people, with one lone narcissist; they never let her get away with anything; perhaps that is why we seldom see her. 🤔
Yes.
HG, I have some intimate questions for you, just for you, only for you:-D
1. Do you eat “Kebab”?
2. If yes, with Mayonnaise?
3. Beside from having a sweet tongue yourself: Do you like sweets?
4. What is your favourite desert?
5. Your fav cookies?
6. Your fav cake?
7. Your fav cream cake?
8. Do you like scones with clodded cream and strawberry jam?
(Claimer: This is not food porn)
I think you need to take a cold shower.
You mean to cool down? 😀
Well, that might help a bit for my fire but not for my hunger for sweet things 🙂
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AsCEU0e-Xwg
Firework rockets under water: Did you try that HG?
Still waiting for your answers about your liking of food and sweets.
Thank you very much in advance Sir! Much appreciated by a sweet fan of yours…
Another note. If Sam is right about interconnectiveness. If I was under LSD and loving everyone in the room and you were under LSD and you were looking in the mirror and saw a devil. What would I see when I looked at you? Interesting…would I see a scary devil or a handsome rugged H.G.? For some reason I go to places others don’t roam but maybe other readers have? Please tell.
One more thing on Sam, please ask her about dreams. I don’t want to go down the rabbit hole with this. But many cultures and historically believed this interconnectiveness. I call God.
In ancient civilizations, dreams were often considered as important messages from the gods or the deceased. The Egyptians, for example, believed that dreams were a way for the gods to communicate with the living, providing guidance or warnings. The Dream Book, a papyrus from the New Kingdom (c. 1550-1070 BCE), lists various dreams and their meanings, emphasizing the importance of dreams in ancient Egyptian culture.
The Greeks and Romans also placed a significant emphasis on dreams. In ancient Greece, dreams were thought to have prophetic powers. The Oracle of Delphi, for example, would interpret dreams as messages from the gods. Similarly, the Romans believed that dreams could foretell the future and provide guidance. The famous Roman physician Galen used dreams as a diagnostic tool in his medical practice, suggesting a connection between dreams and one’s health.
Many Indigenous cultures around the world have rich traditions relating to dreams, often emphasizing their interconnectedness. For example, the Aboriginal peoples of Australia believe in the concept of “Dreamtime,” a sacred era in which ancestral spirits created the world. Dreams are considered an extension of this spiritual realm, offering guidance and insights into the interconnected web of life.
In many religious texts, dreams In the Bible, for example, dreams are often depicted as messages from God, guiding or warning individuals. In Islam, dreams are considered to be one of the 46 parts of prophecy, with some dreams thought to have deeper spiritual meanings.
The study of dreams took a scientific turn with the work of Sigmund Freud in the late 19th and early 20th centuries. Freud’s “The Interpretation of Dreams” (1899) introduced the idea that dreams are a window into our unconscious mind, revealing desires and fears we might not be aware of while awake. Carl Jung, a contemporary of Freud, proposed that dreams tap into the collective unconscious, a shared repository of archetypes and memories inherent to all humans, highlighting a form of interconnectiveness through the collective human psyche.
Contemporary dream research often focuses on the neuroscience behind dreaming and they have no answers.
I think psychedelic drugs is dreaming in a form. It taps the unconscious.
For example the other night I asked God to give me an answer about a current challenge. That night I dreamed I was making a lemon cake with my beloved father and he was putting real stars in the cake that bore holes and the light shined through. I awoke feeling calm, loved and hopeful.
I think the unconscious would be a great way for you to explore you.
Do you?
I am reluctant to talk about dreams, the only time I will countenance somebody talking about them is when they recount a dream they have had about me, otherwise they are interminably tedious to hear about.
Last night. Blue silk. Black leather.
HG, When I clicked on “HG on Spotify”, the link did not work. Are you currently on any podcast platforms? If not, do you have any plans to put your content on a podcast platform? It would reach additional audience with minimum additional work on your part. Some only listen to podcasts and not youtube. Podcasts are easier to listen to underground and other places with poor wi-fi connection.
I had a small amount of work on Spotify, I see no reason why it would still not be there. I am not sure how you arrive at the conclusion that it would amount to minimal work on my behalf as I have an extensive body of work, thousands of videos and uploading that to Spotify would take a large amount of my time. I would like to have my work on Spotify, but it is not a task that is high on my current list of activities.
HG, I was not clear when making that suggestion. It would, of course, take a lot of time to put existing work on a new platform. I meant releasing new material on a podcast platform at the same time as on youtube. The podcasts that I listen to on topics not directly related to narcissism (primarily on health and productivity), release on both youtube and free podcast platforms at the same time (for example Huberman Lab, which is surprisingly popular despite delving deeply into scientific topics). For them, the cost was adding video. But much of your material is audio; that’s what I meant by additional cost being low. But, of course, there is the cost of maintaining the platform.
Yes, the issue is uploading all of that body of work takes a lot of time, thus you are suggesting that in the future that each time I release a YouTube video I also upload it to a podcast platform, yes?
HG, Yes, that was my initial suggestion. But as you are much more productive than most who have podcasts (one podcast a day or a week is standard), it is also an option to upload future videos as podcasts selectively. For example, those that describe the behavior of the narcissist more generally, and/or videos about politicians and elections (although then it would be an injustice not to include the Putin analysis videos). Political and economic podcasts also tend to be on both podcast and YouTube platforms, but people I know listen on podcast platforms, as they listen when they drive or exercise.
Thank you for your observations.