Bah humbug!
Christmas is on the horizon and for many it is a time for celebration and an opportunity to spend precious time with friends and family. I wrote in Danger : 50 Things You Should Not Do With A Narcissist about how our kind will spoil Christmas. Unsurprisingly, I am not the only one who knows that to be the case. Here is a seasonal view from the other side of the fence courtesy of our friends at Relationshipedia.
http://relationshipedia.me/2015/11/03/the-reason-why-most-narcissists-hate-the-holidays/
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Fascinating. I was a little surprised by how many posts in December.
Now I know.
I am learning alot from your books MalignNarc. I was always left thinking “what’s wrong?” and of course no answer. I knew he didn’t like the holidays, he would leave me celebrating them by myself with our families. I never asked for a gift, I was so conned. SMH I always bought him an expensive present and never received anything. This is the first Christmas not physically together and it’s great! My present will be my divorce. His, his sorrow, me not under his control, and his shiny new ugly appliance. I can see him pout and act like a toddler with his victim status. Poor me, divorce is hard, boo hoo me. Smile! damn. Keep writing and the details are great.
Thank you YNKC, glad you are finding the books useful. The content of your message certainly suggests you are seizing the power.
Yes, trying. I rather feel nothing. Do you have a book on triangulation? I don’t want to fall for a let’s be friends scenario. Right now his ego is being pampered to the extreme by his new supply but he will get bored and start contacting exes.
Triangulation is dealt with in Manipulated, YRKN. Also in Escape.
Oh okay, haven’t read that far. Does this book also mention blame. Everything is my fault and he is always mad at me. The more I stand up for myself, the worst he gets. He has it all. So why continue to be mad at me. Get over it. Makes me want to use his narcissist skills against him.
Oh yes blame is in there too.
Nah, I’ll hope you stay nice over Christmas, just look at how nice you can be here, on the blog.☺ Santa will definitely visit you, if you keep up the good behavior! Yes, I do expect a hoover soon. Bah. I hope I can resist it. Please don’t make anyone cry near the Christmas pudding btw, it gets too salty.
A salty Christmas pud would end up being defenestrated along with the person who made it salty!
I do have some truly bad Christmas memories from the Narc! Thanks for reminding me of this subject. I’m gonna have to write a blog post about that later on. I do hope that you one day get to experience Christmas the way I do: magical, serene, full of peace and togetherness, connection and great times with loved ones! 😄
So long as I am at the centre of the magic and everyone is connected into me then I appreciate the sentiment survivednarc. Care to share some of your memories with us?
Haha, I still wonder if you’d be able to resist ruining things just a little bit for someone close to you.. after all, isn’t it juicier fuel if someone gets really disappointed? (I truly wish you are able to refrain from doing that, but I’m just wondering☺). Uhm about the Memories, I’m gonna have to dig in Chambers of Memories a bit more, and write it all down in a post. But for my narc, he was really big on the disappointment theme. Any way he could disappoint me, he took the chance! (Very subtle though). I’m glad to be free! But, how much would you bet that he will absolutely hoover me by Christmas? He won’t be able to resist! Haha. I will be stone cold, though! ☺
Oh I am sure there will be tears over the Christmas pudding and chaos with the crackers! Yes, the negative emotional reactions always outweigh the positive ones. You can expect a concerted Hoover around Christmas. Our kind likes to take advantage of the sentiment, goodwill and expectation that surrounds Christmas to make a move.
You and your kind are truly such babies for not having all the attention on you on holidays. I am really revolted when I think I lost all to a temper throwing toddler. What a disgrace..
Temper,temper survivor, I have seen a few tantrums from you recently.
Oh really now…. is that what you call them. Just goes to show how distorted your few really are.