Fuel is Everything
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Understand what fuel is and you will understand the narcissist
Learn all about what drives the narcissist and YOUR role in this
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By the way, some real zingers in there. The humour and sarcasm is highly evident. So I was torn between laughing and crying.
I have read ten of your books so far, and tbh the one I found most difficult to ingest emotionally by its mere content was From the Mouth of the Narcissist .
The so very pointed statements and the rapid fire approach in which they were presented. Just reading it felt like an internal assault.
So powerful, to be clear I really enjoyed it. Many of the statements resonated deeply.
Interesting you found that to be the case and thank you for letting me know
Just bought this one too.. But I feel like a very slow reader 😱
Ha ha you are not my tri lingual friend
💋💋 thanks !!! Tonight I will finish toolkit and start the new one on treasured and tormented… Although I had manipulated im mind.. Lets see. You will notice it on what I review 😃😂
Thank you Nikita.
I am sure you will recognize much of the statements used as well, Nikita. It was like he was sat whispering them in My ear. Good thing only a few criticisms can effect my self esteem, most things make me laugh more then cry.
Karaa I will let you know how familiar it sounds.. I think with the years and the experienxe I can resist better critics but that was not the same 10 years ago.
Its is difficult though, because the first reaction of the person is to feel hurt on why me?? But to this I also have an answer… Lets see what happens. I am curious to see if this person seizes the power, understands…
But what I am very surprised and almost speechless is that the N this time is a girl and just how you said once in a discussion.
She could fool everybody. She is one of the nicest, sweetest, innocent girls of the office. Sweet talking, soft very soft tone of voice, extremely nice, you could compare her with honey… Amazing its just amazing. I think it only gets a very expert N to discover her.
I recommended the two books about snared and seductiom.. Im just a bit afraid the person just does not want to face the cruel reality. Lets see.
i can never stop praising this book!!! excellent. I needed to counsel somebody on what a narcissist is and went back to read a little bit and everytime I have to think. What a masterpiece.
Thank you Nikita, your mission is to ensure others realise that this is the case.
I really. Struggle with this HG ?
How do we educate ?
In my view we can only educate and support those who we find have been through the process and even then most of them won’t ‘get it’.
Because when someone is being love bombed there is no chance. They’re hooked.
So how / when ?
You are right it is difficult but getting people to recognise the behaviours beforehand, to rely on instinct and to take the stance that if it feels wrong then there is a good reason why that is so. You have the capability and the capacity to take what you have been told and experienced and forewarn.
Thanks HG, you’re like our leader aren’t you ? 😉
You betcha Alexis !
Haha of course. Well I will take your advice and help anyone I can, although I won’t be applying this to the place I know the MN from and sadly not for his victims either as this would be foolish of me.
I’m midway through fury, and it reminded me of an occasion myself and my son must have invoked fury in this father and son.
We were playing tenpin bowling as a group of parents and children. One of the fathers there was always very quick to react / overreact and likewise was his son. An N and N in the making.
My son had won according to the score board and his son came second.
His son started having a massive tantrum and saying how he had won but his last score had not been counted for some ‘technical’ reason.
He and his dad were going completely crazy, so angry and trying to convince everyone they had won. This was upsetting my son a little,, so I told him to say to the boy, ‘it’s just a game, it doesn’t really matter anyway’. Knowing this would further his ‘fury’.
It did !!
I quite enjoyed it at the time because I didn’t like them anyway. But now, reading fuel, this makes me realise this was more than a little anger and upset for them.
Absolutely Alexis, Dad’s world was caving in through this criticism of him (through junior’s defeat) and he was trying to shield the situation by claiming the score had not worked but was clearly struggling to prevent the ignited fury from emerging as an explosion.
thanks HG, I always recognised some people could be easily wound up by saying the most ‘innocent’ of things. But I didn’t understand the absolute power of this until reading your book.
You are welcome Alexis.
I agree that this is lifechanging.
I stepped into the N’s evil web of lies when I was 21 years old. I was young, beautiful (I didn’t think of myself as attractive) and starved for love after an abusive past. I was nothing more than a pawn in his evil game.
At that time, you never heard anyone talk about Narcissism. I didn’t even know that people like that existed.
It is an often heard refrain. “I had no idea what he/she was until afterwards when the damage had been done.” I have had a number of commenters on my FB page state that my books should be made available in schools so people are forewarned. I can understand that. For reasons that have been well expounded, even when you are in our grip you rarely think “This person is a narcissist”. The reality is that if someone repeatedly mistreats you then they have some kind of problem. It is also the reality that too few people recognise us or do anything about it. Thus we move amongst you undetected and move on to another and another.
I’m ordering this, I’m free of my abuser but still struggle with the chaos constantly swirling around me from them. I’ve been completely silent but this book may give me more understanding to the insanity. ..
Hello Anite, yes it will as will many of the others.
Anite its true every book brings a piece of knowledge but Evil, and mainly Fuel and Fury are impressively enlightening.
Besided reading HG is such a pleasure.
😂😂 I am sure she knows, maybe this is part of the reason why she said she would not read them 😃.
This book is lifechanging!!
Thanks Nikita. Tell my mum I did well yes?
This is absolutely number one in reading ESPECIALLY if you want to know what exactly drives your narc. We all have a need for fuel of some sort BUT what a narc needs it for and the type of fuel is not the same as us.
This is well written and a very thorough read.
Thank you for your contributions of yourself Malignnarc… your first person view coupled with another group I am in helps me keep focused and not lose myself in lies… it also is keeping my sanity as a narc is absolutely great at making us second guess ourselves.
Thank you Leslie I am pleased you have found it informative. Yes making you second guess is one of our favoured methods of manipulation. Very effective at frustrating you and keeping you anxious.