Telling Tales
We have cast you aside after subjecting you to a litany of abuse, mistreatment and the full horror of our manipulative and disorientating repertoire. You have your absolute all in the pursuit of what you believed to be our perfect love. You have endured humiliation, denigration and belittlement yet you still hung in there, desperate to cure and to heal. You wanted us so much that it hurt and it still does. Not only have we discarded you with a callous disregard for your welfare and sanity, we have added to the pain by parading our latest conquest for all the world to see. You are no longer the recipient of our burning desire. You have been removed from our grace and favour and a new beneficiary has been installed. The monument to our supposedly everlasting love has been razed to the ground and on that once sacred ground we have erected a new edifice, lauding our new, shinier and much improved interest. What was once promised as lasting forever has been smashed into pieces and erased from the history books.
Your hurt, anger and indignation are tangible. The traitorous behaviour we have subjected to you has torn you apart. It is awful enough that after everything you have done, everything you have given and everything that you have endured, you have been struck from the record. The insult has been magnified and multiplied by reason of our infatuation with your replacement. How dare we do this to you. It is utterly unfair.
Your desire for retribution is immense. You want to cause our come uppance and warn the world about the monster that you see us as. You feel that all must be told about the awful toll that you have taken from our treatment but greater than that, you have that irresistible sense of needing to protect and warn. The empathic nature that made you such an attractive target to us has survived notwithstanding the mauling we have given you. You need to save our conquest from what you have been put through. Not only must you rescue the poor innocent from our toxic touch this will enable you to exact a delicious revenge on us. By taking away the thing that we crave, you know that triumph awaits. Our fresh acquisition may work out what has happened, but that will take too long. No, you owe it to her and you owe it yourself to intervene, to educate and warn. It is time to expose us for what you say we are.
You call us for the perfidious behaviour that we have engaged in. You decry our stories of your hysterical and unreasonable behaviour and yet here you are, ready to spread such lies about us to our new love. You hold yourself out as being a person of good nature and compassion yet you are hell bent on ruining our new-found happiness. You were not good enough for us. You let us down and thus you had to be moved to one side replaced. Out with the old and in with the new. That is the natural order of events. The appliance does not work anymore, therefore a new, faster and more effective appliance must be brought to the fore and installed. Why complain about that? Had you been fit for purpose you would still be the object of our affection, but you failed. We gave you every chance and yet you still came up wanting. You are to blame. You only have yourself to blame. Yet, exhibiting the malice that you laughingly accuse us of you go running to our new interest and tell tales about us.
Your poison-laden tongue weaves its malevolent words as you whisper fabricated stories in order to discourage our new love from remaining with us. Do you not understand that this is the very reason why we had to let you go. We tried. We really did, but you would insist on railing against us and not submitting to our will. There was no hope for it other than yo remove you from our lives. As people of substance and rigour, we have not gone with our tales of lament to others, seeking to draw sympathy from them. No, that is not for us. We chalked off our time with you as a mistake and we learn from it. Now we have found someone better. So what that we moved with what you regard as unseemly haste, we are entitled to drive forward. You should take heed of our capability in that regard, instead of remaining mired in what might have been. Imprisoning yourself in a tomb of melancholy is not the way of progress. This only underlines our superiority to you. We have moved on. If you cannot, then that is your problem and not ours.
We act with honour and do not stoop to your level. We know that our character speaks for itself with this new person. We allow them to make their own mind up and the extensive groundwork which we put in place has ensured that this person is impervious to your unsavoury behaviour. We know that our impregnable façade of magnificence cannot be pierced by your savage and twisted lies. Run to our new love, run to them and seek to pour your poison in their ears and we shall watch smiling as they turn to you and shake their head. They are immune to your campaign of smears. They know that we are truly wonderful and that you had your chance but you destroyed what we had as a consequence of your quite frankly unhinged conduct. She tells you how magnificently I treat her and you try to explain how it was like that for you in the beginning but your words are lost in translation. You are told that your jealousy has skewed your outlook, that your paranoia has warped your view of the world. Your craziness has been well documented. We have done the protecting. We have done the warning and as always we got in first.
Tell your tales but all you do is reinforce our brilliance and the reason we were oh so right to be rid of you. Nobody likes a tell tale. Nobody likes you.
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Thanks, HG. I stupidly introduced my ex N to the handyman at my church because he needed work done on his rental properties. He employed and charmed this man….and they became friends(also used to spy on my at church)…he might be a lieutenant…not out of loyalty to my ex…but because he thinks we made a great couple and wants to see us back together again. I don’t inquire about my ex when I see this man at church/bible study…but he always volunteers information. I have not told him the truth about my ex….he’d have a hard time believing it…..
HG, my ex does not know what he is….he does not have any idea what drives him to act the way he does…..after a small disagreement in the golden period he accused me of purposely criticizing him….I was so hurt because that wasn’t the case at all…he realized he had it wrong and that was the only time he apologized and said he had no idea why he wasn’t in touch with his feelings and acted like a baby sometimes…that was the only time he knew he was wrong and fixed things….after that he blamed me for everything..
I was reading Fuel last night for the second time…..I missed so much in the first read (lots to absorb). So, the mean/sweet cycle with a former intimate partner is all for attention (fuel)? When I tried to move on with my life post breakup N3 would call and hang up and not return the call….he never had an answer for this…he just kept engaging me…he kept invoking my anger until I emailed him and told him I was tired of his abuse and never wished to see him again. No Hoover yet….and from what I hear, he is desperate to replace me…but is having a hard time doing so….
HG, what can I expect next? A smear campaign? Or will I be left alone? It’s been 3 months NO CONTACT TODAY ! YAY, me!!!
….but he did hack into my facebook and email…and call from random numbers….but I can’t prove it was him…but I am sure it was…..
Well there’s a hoover.
Who is telling you that he is having a hard time replacing you? That may be a hoover by proxy. You will not be left alone. He will come looking for some hoover fuel at some point. Three months is a good start with the no contact. You will face a follow-up hoover if the opportunity arises so don’t give him that opportunity.
No problem, I give and deny fuel as I please 😉
Ha ha.
Out with the old and in with the new………… Exactly the words ex N posted on his FB less than an hour after he left me .. Ouch HG .
There there, yeah you’re lovely, there there *pets your head*
Thank you !
“Tell your tales but all you do is reinforce our brilliance and the reason we were oh so right to be rid of you. Nobody likes a tell tale. Nobody likes you.”
That’s nice
Aren’t we just?
Same with a smear campaign. Your offensive move with your great storytelling skills captivates your new partner and / or minions so the previous victim would never be believed. People ignore their intuition when they don’t want to believe they too are being duped by someone they care about. Victim is stuck in a rock and a hard place. Doomed if they defend themselves. Doomed if they don’t. Narc is 100% self-regulating and keeping his control 24/7. No wonder you are exhausted at the end of the day! lol
Usually its true this never ever works, one person telling the bad sides of another person or an entity because its human behaviour to go and test by themselves their own appreciation. The information coming from the other side would only be taken as a referenc standard to see ” am I wrong or am I right ” ” is she wrong or is she right” . Natural human behaviour.
This is why its so difficult to convince teenagers about drugs, alcohol, early sex.. They will observe and listen but the majority will go out to test. Anthony Robins recommends to let them see live what the effects of drugs and alcohol are and maybe you have a chance that they listen more to you.
Fair observations.
Ugh and ouch. This one hits so close to home. Not because I ever attempted to warn her…but the accurate brilliance with which you describe the discard, the pressing forward and the horrific truth unveiled when the mask is off and the victim realizes how easily she was replaced.
Thanks Bethany
This is as if you were in my world last night. This is exactly how it is and what happened when I told “tales”. This is so validating. He even said this is why I’m glad we are not together. Wow
What if people do like and they don’t like YOU?
Hello Me, I do like talking to myself so a warm welcome to you! What do you mean what if people don’t like me, when would that ever happen? Everyone likes me ! If, in a hypothetical scenario someone did not like me and that was the situation from the off, then I would either use that to gain negative fuel or leave them be. After someone has been entangled with me they sometimes do not like me but they have signed the contract by this stage so I will just keep drawing negative fuel from them and point them out as being the Crazy One to every one else.
Hello You and thanks for the warm welcome, but I’m Me so I will call you, You
I meant what if you’re in a ‘relationship’ and the mutual friends/family don’t like you and never will despite attempts to discredit the victim before, during, after, whenever, and tell everyone that everyone that doesn’t like you is crazy, this all sounds crazy right? It is and so are YOU
I do like your articles I like the honesty and accuracy, I’ve already said that I cannot identify with it generally speaking, but I can forgive your arrogance being the caring, wonderful, nurturing, forgiving soul that I am. I hope the sarcasm didn’t go over your head there.
Your fuelling forgiveness washes over me in a wonderful way ! If I am in a relationship and the mutual friends etc do not like me I will isolate the victim from them. The primary source is the jewel in the crown and she must be preserved. The jealous and mistaken friends etc will be pushed to one side.
How would you react to being the one cast aside? Has this ever happened to you? Forget the new person they will believe anything you say, personally I wouldn’t waste my time ‘telling tales’ to the new victim, but what if some do believe, close friends, family etc how do you deal with that, and many do. What if it was you that was not good enough, despite all the delusions of grandeur? What if, despite how much you think you have conned and lied they know exactly what you are? What if they hated you all along? Just curious.
If I was cast aside then my fury would be ignited and I would look to hoover that person back in. If that did not work I would find someone else and then do follow-up hoover on the former person thereafter. Just to clarify, I assume you are talking about the close friends and family of the new target?If so, if these people believed the Crazy One I would look to re-educate them. If that was not possible, I would isolate the new target from these trouble makers and smear them. It is fairly easy to ensure the new target believes me and does not accept the words of the close friends etc, even if those close friends know what I am.
In terms of “what if they hated you all along” I am not sure who you are referring to. Do you mean the old primary source or their family or friends?
Thanks for the reply. Again personally speaking I have zero interest in the new victim or anyone associated with them, you are now their problem. I meant mutual friends, family, associates whatever of old victim, mine hated him all along whatever he did or said, still do and always will regardless.
I do enjoy reading your articles and yes much does ring true, but there are many things I do not agree with hence my questions above. Many times I ignored his calls, texts, emails, pretended I was busy, didn’t hear the phone, whatever, cancelled dates because I couldn’t be bothered, I don’t feel that burning desire for the justification of his behaviour or care about any lies that are told now, (hated them before) yes I was treated badly and can identify with much of what you say but in the end I was elated and relieved he is out of my life (my doing) and as I said do not feel what you describe in this article, as brilliant as it is.
Additional info- grand gesture hoover, diamonds etc, gratefully accepted, final dump 2 months later. (me again) So much so many lies but you already know that don’t you?
You are welcome. I am pleased you enjoy reading the articles. There will undoubtedly be occasions where you will disagree based on your experience. Whilst we are similar in many ways there are differences too and I am always interested to read about what people’s experiences have been,so thanks for contributing. With regard to mutual friends etc of the old victim unless there is fuel to be gained or they are instrumental to a hoover then if they dislike me I will have isolated the victim from them previously and once the old victim has gone, unless there is a purpose I can obtain from them as mentioned I have nothing to do with them. Instead I focus on ensuring all those associated with the new victim like me.