The Five Central Questions to a Greater Degree
The five central questions have been applied in respect if the Lesser and Mid-Range of our kind, but what of the Greater Narcissist? How do these five essential questions about the behaviour of the narcissist apply to him or her?
1.Do We Know What We Are Doing?
The Greater Narcissist is gifted (though of course his or victims will not regard it as such) with an awareness of what he or she is. The greater of our kind knows that they are different. They know that they have this insatiable hunger for the outpouring of emotion, whether positive or negative, from those around them. The greater knows that there is a feeling of emptiness which pervades. Whilst the lesser has this manifest as sense of unease and irritation, the greater feels a yawning chasm which must be filled. The lesser operates by instinct, a knee-jerk response. The Greater Narcissist also operates through instinct but there is nothing knee jerk about him or her. This instinct is attuned in the sense of selecting the victims who will haemorrhage fuel. This instinct enables the most effective seduction, the most devastating devaluation and the most callous of discards. The instinct for scenting fuel and those who will provide it serves the Greater Narcissist considerably. He has an instinctive knack for selecting the bets hunting grounds, an innate ability to target the most productive victims, a chilling capability to extract and exploit information and to cause people to think that what they are doing is a good thing and on they wish to take when in fact the Greater Narcissist is manipulating them. The Greater Narcissist is aware that he or she is different from other people. He or she knows that their emotional spectrum has been stunted or as we prefer to regard it, altered to achieve maximum efficiency in our machinations. The Greater Narcissist knows he operates in a different world to other people and revels in such a special status. He or she knows that they are superior, admired and feared.
- Do We Know We Hurt Others?
Unlike the instinctive response of the Lesser Narcissist or the considered but moderate reaction of the Mid-Ranger, the Greater Narcissist knows that he or she is an instrument that inflicts pain. Whether it is the withdrawal of something wonderful or delightful or the imposition of something unpleasant and hateful the Greater Narcissist knows that they hurt. They regard every action taken in this regard, every step, every machination as necessary for their survival and advancement. The Greater Narcissist fervently believes in the doctrine that the end always justifies the means. Pain, misery and hurt are by-products of the process which he or she must engage in. The inflicting of hurt on another person is regarded as a collateral consequence of the need to obtain fuel. The Greater Narcissist knows that during devaluation and the malign hoovers that the application of his or her behaviours is specifically directed to cause hurt. You will take the view that he or she does not care and you are correct in that view since the Greater Narcissist, like all narcissists is not created to care. What you ought to understand though is that this failure to care is actually secondary to the need to acquire fuel. If all that mattered was the inability to care, then we would administer hurtful behaviour all of the time. The reality is, the order of priority is that fuel must be obtained and during devaluation this causes hurt to other people and furthermore we are not designed to care about this hurt. By contrast, someone who is manipulating a dislocation back into place knows that pain will be occur but is a necessary consequence of the act. The difference is that this medic or doctor will care that the person is being put in pain and also seek to address that once the dislocation has been addressed.
- Do We Act Deliberately?
Everything that is done by the Greater Narcissist is deliberate. The lesser responds as a matter of course. The Mid-Ranger consider what action to take and do so with a sense of purpose but this pales compared to the behave of the Greater Narcissist. The actions that are taken are planned. The seduction is orchestrated from careful target selection, the reconnaissance of the subject and the gathering of information is organised and the seduction is methodical and deliberate. The Greater Narcissist does not speak without first considering how effective those words are. Are they to be used to elevate or denigrate? Praise or punishment? Elated or erode. Like some great architect in the sky the Greater Narcissist, in accordance with his god-like view of him or herself sees other people as chess pieces which are moved in accordance to his or her wishes to cause check mate. The Greater Narcissist purposefully manipulates everybody around him or her. Each person has a role, a position and a purpose. The Greater Narcissist acts with considerable deliberation and indeed this need to position and pose all the players in the narcissist’s world results in the need to control being overwhelming. To be this deliberate in manipulating other people requires a significant degree of control over other people and therefore the Greater Narcissist will exercise his or her skills to achieve that outcome.
- Can We Control This Behaviour
Not only is the Greater Narcissist an expert in the control of others he exerts considerable control over his own behaviour. His higher functioning allows him considerable latitude to pass the blame onto others and feign an inability to control what he does.
“I don’t know what comes over me sometimes.”
“It as if something else takes control of me.”
“I cannot help it, it just happens.”
“It is like there is some other force that makes the decisions for me.”
All of these comments are liars. The Greater Narcissist is able to direct his ignited fury to a level and extent beyond the capability of others of our kind. This is why often cold fury is exhibited by Greater Narcissists as we are able to control the ignited fury so that it does emerge as heated fury and rarely does it show in the form of physical violence. Such a reliance on such brutality through physical action is regarded as beneath the Greater Narcissist and is an insult to his Machiavellian mind. The Greater Narcissist revels in his higher function allowing him to devise and apply far subtler and rewarding manipulations. He or she is also mindful of the consequences of providing damning physical evidence of the abuse. The only time this formidable control weakens is when the Greater Narcissist is thrown into Chaos Mode as a consequence of a sudden and unseen cessation to his or her primary source of fuel.
5 Can We Stop It?
The Greater Narcissist could stop his or her behaviour owing to the degree of control that he or she is able to exert but whilst there is the capability to stop this behaviour, both benign and malign, the Greater Narcissist will not do so. Firstly, this is because the Greater Narcissist sees no need to. Why stop something that is highly effective and serves a purpose in allowing him or her to shine and function at some an impressive (to him or her) level? Why halt doing something which always deliver? Secondly, the Greater Narcissist will not stop this behaviour because the malevolence which runs through him or her will not allow him to do so. Why give up such a delightful way of manipulating someone? Why relinquish such power over an individual? Why stop flexing those machinations? Why stop doing something that is both necessary but also enjoyable. The lesser does because he is programmed to always respond in such a fashion. Choice has been removed from his thought process. The Mid-Ranger does because he realises it is necessary for his survival but there is not enjoyment or malice driving the behaviour. The Greater does because he or she can. The Greater does because he or she is driven by the furious malice which burns at the centre of the narcissist. This malice arises because the higher functioning Greater Narcissist is more aware than the others of his brethren just how unfair and brutal the world is. He is attuned to its attempts to depose and dethrone and he knows that engendering and harnessing this malice is entirely necessary for the purpose of protection. It is better to strike first then be struck. It is better to get the retaliation in first. He who dares wins. The Greater is a dangerous individual because not only does he regard what he does as entirely necessary, he is driven not only by the need for fuel but by the malice that is wrapped around his core. This means he goes further, longer, stronger and more often that others of his kind. He is the defiler, the punisher and the destroyer of worlds. Your worlds.
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Are you Ex-special forgec HG? I am very late to the show but I am catching up lol
Great writing style.
*forces
Thank you.
Always better to arrive at the show at some point than never arriving. As Tamerlane said ‘It is better to be on hand with ten men than be absent with ten thousand.’
I wouldn’t call You destroyer of my world…I’d call You an architect of it…xxxx
Catching up on the blog again… thanks for this one HG (and when did you edit your name?) It actually helped me with some closure on an old chapter in my life. Hugs and kisses… from the redheaded strumpet xo xo
Hi Sheila, just recently. Pleasure. Strumpet – that made me laugh
It’s much nicer to see ‘HG’ when talking to you 🙂 And I thought you’d get a kick out of strumpet… the Canadian version was thrown my way many times in devaluation and discard by K. It used to hurt very much, but no longer. I know it was his infidelity that he was masking by accusing me.
Who is Amanda and where do I read that story? Hope you apologized to her – even if its been years…closure is nice. Wheres this Amanda
further Confessions Susan. I’ve had no need to apologise as I never hurt her.
Further Confessions is blog or book. Interesting. I am on my Kindle taking the week off so…enjoying reading week 🙂 thanks
Got it! about to read. Thanks
Angel of my Creation 10/10/15 &
The Voice of an Angel 11/20/15
I’m impressed
You should be!
It was interesting to go back and re-read my comments back then upon the first reading and where my head was at the time, in a complete fog that I was trying to come out of.
Do you feel like you’ve made progress?
In some ways yes. In some ways no.
Understood. Which part yes and which part no.
Not wanting to share publicly at the moment.
Understood.
HG Dear,
Being a Greater, you do understand that the people you are hurting only ever loved you? You do know that they don’t deserve this….and your actions will eventually push them away from you….permanently….right, babe?❤️
But if they loved me T why did they let me down. Why make me replace them?
I can promise you, HG….they had no idea that they let you down…They had no idea that they hurt you❤️💋
Well yeah, I ALWAYS know what I’m doing when I manipulate/lie to/use someone for my own purpose. I’m great at SAYING I didn’t realize I manipulated the person (and usually pretty good at not being caught in a lie, although my mother, a greater narcissist than I am, CAN see through my lies). But I can choose to NOT manipulate/lie to/use people, and to deal fairly with them instead (although that can leave me wide open to being manipulated/lied to).
Amanda isn’t coming HG…you are. You are coming …for you. You are everything you have been waiting for!!!
Thats prophetic!
Just a strong hunch😊
How do you know Amanda is not coming?
There is no Amanda. Amanda is a unicorn.
Alexis how could you? That was harsh!
I just hope there is an Amanda-esque person that will be the light to his darkness. There is an image with a saying, “She was an angel seeking chaos. He was a demon seeking peace.” At some point the craziness has to subside and they intersect.
The song is called Nikki
“Nikki”
He was the man of every hour
He was a party all alone
He’d give his jacket to a stranger in the cold
She was the beauty queen from dallas
She could put a lion on a leash
And before he knew himself
She knew the man that he could be
It’s never that easy
It never seems right
When careful meets carefree
And in just 4 minutes they knew each other for life
And he said
“Alright Nikki, it’s alright Baby tonight
you can let your hair down
Alright Nikki, it’s alright Baby tonight
You can take a breath now
If you only live once
Stay in the clouds
Never come down
Trust me
Alright Nikki, it’s alright Baby tonight
you can let your hair down.“
She was an Angel craving chaos
He was a demon seeking peace
But they were each other’s
toxic cure called codependency
He tried to dig his way out of a coffin
‘cause she smothered him with care
Before they lived in castles
They were dying on a prayer
Maybe, but it is true though HG.
HG, I’ll be your Amanda 💋👼🦄
Deal.
Because salvation is not found in another., he can and will find it in himself.
Understood
Wow astonishing piece of description there. We know from the deep inside what drives a malignant narcissist. A bit scary to read though. I imagine to have this drive a person must have endured alot of non-love and abuse 😢. Coldness and feelings of abandonent and coldness.. The sufferement and pain inside must be great to act and feel this way 😢. Its gives pleasure to give pain because its own must be unbearable 😢.
One sentence is clear from the greater. Revenge and give back
Its very sad and painful to read this description. 💔💔
Great work as always HG ❤️😘
Impressive ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🌟
This has been quite the distressing day for me reading your blogs. This is petrifying to me. Selecting victims that you know will hemorrhage fuel? When you find you find that person and decide to claim them as yours for a time, they really don’t stand a chance do they?
Do you still believe there is an “Amanda” out there that could save you and and buffer the malice around your core?
Thanks for your honesty Clarece. I believe in Amanda. Absolutely.
What is a rationale to believe in Amanda? Is there any statiatical confirmation of this possibility based on ur or other MNcs experience?
No.
There is always a first time and beliefs not always have to be based on statistics and proven theories.
I know about Ns that have a partner that took care of them until end (1) and another one who still has a nice devoted wife besides him. I dont know what type of malignancy or Ns they are I just am pretty sure they are Ns and and they have and had Amanda.
I am sure there is Amanda for HG around the corner. love me, care for me and protect me like a baby in your arms ❤️❤️😘.
An amanda that admires him for the many qualities he has, put up with the flaws, feel his needs, sacrifice more than others, just for the beauty of being and feeling together. A total inspiration of love and feelings and emotions. 💓💓
I do believe in Amanda…. 🌔🌈🌈 very very much. ❤️
So, if u know there is no any reason to belive in existance of Amanda, and taking into account that all ur actions are carefully calculated, why u believe in Amanda?
No, I was answering your question about statistics Yo.
Thank u dear defective person for the answer twice without answering)). So tell me 1) why u didnt answer about the core question: 2) ” what is the rationale/basis to believe in Amanda if , as u said, statistically there is no any conformation she could exist?”
P.s. i am more interested now in answer to the question marked as “1)” 🙂
Remind me of the core question please
The original core question was mine and that do you still believe in Amanda, which you answered yes. But also, can she provide the buffer around your core from all the malice that surrounds it?
But possibly Kim is now your “Amanda”? Being your “flower in bloom” and seemingly has not let you down yet for you to devalue?
I hope so.
Kim isn’t Amanda by any degree, but she is staying the course so far.
I loved ur answers (without answers))). It s exactly the way how my ex MN maintained conversations. On this simple example (thanks for it) now i see why it was never possible to reach to any positive outcome /solve isdues eith him
You’ve got it Yo!
That’s a relief ♥♥♥♥
Hi Yo,
I too ‘love’ thee unanswering “answers” though he’s only done it once to me. Next time don’t give him any fuel and simply say “Thank you”.
Best,
Vashti
Hg Tudor knows his own father tried resasoning with hg about his actions his silent treatment with Anita ? Is that her name ? Hg did not listen to his dad .
Hg Tudor knows he always did know but chooses a different path .