A Prosperous Cheat
I have admitted previously that I am a pathological liar. I speak and a lie pops out. I really cannot help it. It happens so often it has become my default setting. The lies of course vary. Sometimes I need one to support my grandiose nature,
“Yes I have two Bentleys at home, one for winter and one for summer.”
Alternatively, it may be to cut you down.
“No that shirt does not suit you. Pastel shades make you look insipid.” You look great actually but I cannot have that.
Other times the lie appears to deflect your unwarranted criticism of me.
“I could not be in Revolution bar with a blonde lady because I was in a meeting still with a client. Shall we ring him and embarrass him by asking him to confirm he was with me? No? Thought not.” That blonde was a delight. I got her number within minutes.
I was discussing all of this with Dr O. She asked me if I could remember when I began to tell lies. I sat silent for a short while.
“Can you not remember? Would it be fair to say that you have always told lies?” she asked.
“Wait I am remembering. That’s it. I remember now,” I answered triumphantly. She looked at me in that expectant way she has. I do like that. I hope to see her giving me that look from my bed in the near future.
I went on to explain that I recall cheating at Monopoly. I always insisted on being the banker and in the more frenetic stages of the game I would always ensure an extra £100 would be allocated to me when I passed go by sliding it off the pile with two other notes. Nobody noticed. I would then routinely give the other players short change and they usually failed to notice. If they did, I would correct it and blame it on the speed of the game. I would then invent rule changes with players who were not regular players and as with any instance where I look to alter reality, I would say it with such conviction they would back down. After all, my word is law, I am a god.
I continued to explain how this set in motion an reliance on cheating and telling lies. I noticed how doing so always afforded me a better table at a restaurant, got me out of a commitment I was no longer interested in, garnered interest from somebody new as I lied about my career. I achieved promotions by lying about my achievements and telling tales about my competitors. Wielding my trusty friend plausible deniability I carved my lies into the landscape, built towers of fabrications and cities of deceit. In fact, I confessed to a scribbling Dr O I would be hard pressed to recognise the truth anymore since lies serve me so much more effectively.
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I do believe all narcissists are pathological liars. I also believe that all sociopaths pathologically lie, but not all sociopaths are narcissists.
Do you think all pathological liars are mentally ill? Sociopathic?
It’s easy to compartmentalize over-the-top liars as sociopaths, but is that over-simplifying?
Quick question: Mr. Tudor
Sooo…in your expert opinion,are all narcissists unfaithful?
I’ve been listening to your YouTube videos for quite some time now… would love to pick your brain
Amanda
Yes. As explained previously, there are differing forms of infidelity.
HG, we have seen more of your good side then your bad! You dear sir have helped so many! I hope you truly find the answers you are looking for! I also hope that someday you will be able to release all the emotions that I know you have buried deep inside of you! Bless you sweet man! Xxx
Thank you Fool Me, most kind. Yes that is part of the rules of engagement here and in fairness I have no need to devalue you here. I appreciate your kind sentiments.
I failed a final exam on purpose. One of the classmate was cheating from my paper and i caught him, so I wrote all wrong answers. He was already failing the class. That pic triggered the memory.
I’d rather have someone throw the board up in the air with every piece, including the pink and blue pegs, than play with a cheater.
You scoundrel, I like though.
I have done a few board hurls in my time. Unfortunately boardroom tables are too heavy.
But not the coffee mugs or laptops on the boardroom tables…
What have I told you about hanging around the boardroom Clarece ?!
Haha! I don’t have to hang out in one. I’m a strong presence in one being a Project Manager!
If you could do that to a table no one would mess with you. Nonetheless, I’m sure you are a force ro be reckoned with in the boardroom. A coworker once had an ED throw a pen at him and call him a srupid kid. I’ve only seen one display.
The game with the pegs is Life. Have you ever played? It is cheater friendly with money, a banker and a spinner. You start out with a car and a blue or pink peg and away you go. You get married and maybe have kids. You have ups and downs and end up in the poorhouse or a millionaire. It got me thinking about Life the Narc or Empath edition.
It’s a similar premise. The game would be set up in stages. The empath edition would have the E deciding to drop out or stay in school, which would impact later life challenges. It would have a box that would say, “you’ve been hoovered! Go back five spaces before the devaluation stage.” Or, “hoover over. Move ahead 10 spaces and lose a turn.” The Narc edition would have boxes that say, “you received premium fuel and closed a deal! Collect £50,000” Or “fuel supply running low, hoover time. All players spin and the highest number moves back to share a space.”
Hmm.
I know the game you refer to. Here it was called Game of Life. I might devise a game called Horns and Halos. There are two rules books. One for the victim which is a massive compendium. The one for my kind is a one page sheet saying do as you please. In your suggestion you could have two tracks which run alongside and then intersect, the narcissist track and the empath track. I like your descriptions.
I like your idea. The Narcs rules would be a page long. The Empaths would be something more. Who’d want to read them? Assumptions…assmumptions. Your cover art could be a pic with the Halo being held up with Horns and a pitchfork.
Thanks on the descriptions. People would have to spin to see who would be the N if there were two starting points. Highest spin would be the N (there can be only one). Everyone else would be a victim or later volunteer.
Your answer to Fool me 1 time answered a question of mine. Would you devalue members of your readership? It seems like it would be easy to do. People still say that internet connections are not real. Anyway, have a good weekend.
And yet you convincingly insist you tell the truth here since you do not know any of us personally and the bigger picture is your success at being the number one resource for narcissism.
Any embellished blogs any of us should be aware of? Lol
I do adopt that position yes for reasons I cannot expand on, but you will just have to trust me on that. The whole point is for me to tell you how it is ,no matter how reprehensible or uncomfortable and I know you get that. The pathological lying is used outside of this arena to secure my aims.
Let me ask you this then. Has it been refreshing at all to have this arena to be completely honest in and feel accepted? Everyone stays and continues to read and many are supportive of you. You haven’t been rejected for the actions you’ve written that you’ve done. Has this and therapy caused you to decrease the amount of pathological lying in other arenas?
I am respectful of the reasons why people come here. People want to understand and comprehend and I applaud that. It naturally gives me a platform which I enjoy. I get some fuel as I have always admitted. Since I operate from a position of respect I expect that in return and that has been the case. Yes, occasionally someone unloads on me which I completely understand and it is some more fuel, but I have always been pleased in the way that the majority of correspondents, the vast majority, have engaged in a constructive fashion. I am always learning, that suits and assists me. Those who come here want to learn. Is it refreshing to be honest here? Yes, I suppose it is because it is different. I have no need to seduce here, I want positive responses, don’t get me wrong, but my seduction serves me way better outside of this arena. Do I feel accepted? I have not really considered that. I do not feel like I need to be accepted, after all, it is my kingdom, but that raises an interesting point and I am going to reflect on that. I know you will remind me in due course!
Yes I have not been rejected. I would quite understand it if people did that but then I would regard it as cutting your nose off to spite your face. One can come here, receive a perspective from “the dark side” and make your own decision what to do with the information you have obtained. If people want my view on a situation, I will give it, along with suggested steps to take, but it is always your choice. I have no desire to control that choice in this arena, I do plenty of that away from here. I am very pleased that people come here and embrace the concept in the intended way and offer some interesting insights of their own. I know a lot about the perspective from your side, through experience and the good doctors, but there is still much to learn. I may advance the appearance of knowing everything but I am no fool, I know I don’t and I can still learn plenty from all who visit here, both in terms of bolstering my dark side and kindling my good side, if I can put it like that. This segues neatly into your final question. It is too early to say but the fact my awareness has increased considerably means that at some point I may well be able to measure (not empirically though) whether there has been an adjustment. I suppose, if you knew the people in my proximate networks they would be the better people to ask that question of!
I love when I make you reflect! I hope as a natural progression of interacting here and working with the doctors it just happens less and less with the pathological lying in your other arenas as more kindling to your good side grows!!
Your kind sentiments are appreciated.
One more quick question. I know you prefer and have asked the doctors to not read your blog. But how tempting and I’m sure they check it now & then. If you had to choose one blog to share with them, which has been your favorite (that includes content and message delivered along with reader commentary you received in feedback)?
Excellent question. How do you choose from such excellence though? It is by a hair’s breadth of a distinction surely? There are those articles which are a pleasure to write as it allows my form of expression free range, then as you identify, there are those which I delight in for the message contained in it and then of equal importance is the reader reaction and feedback. One does spring to mind, but I am going to reflect on it. Whilst I do that, which is yours?
I was stuck just like you. lol So what I did was completely clear my mind and just think of the blogs that instantly popped in my head for resonating with me the most at the time I read them and therefore they remain imprinted above all of the others. I have a Top 5 in no particular order (yet).
1. The Caretaker
2. Power of Illusion
3. Silent Assassin
4. In the Middle
5. You Fill my Senses (Pt. 1)
Tag, you’re it!
Thank you Clarece, your selection includes a frontrunner of mine to be number one, but I have yet to dedicate sufficient time to consideration which will be available (football permitting!) over the weekend.
My favourite work of HG’s is Love is a Taught Construct. Such wisdom, he poetically describes truth of human nature, and how a narcissist is created. It kept me awake crying for him. I love and accept him.
This post was revealing and validsting. A few questions as my comment: Do you ever get mixed up in your lies? Contradict yourself? Also do you actually believe your lies as if they were true?
Once in a while yes but I have the charm and mental gymnastics to get me out of trouble pretty effectively.
Do I contradict myself. All the time. No I don’t. Yes I do. I appear contradictory from your standpoint but not from mine. In my world it is perfectly acceptable to say this orange is black and then two minutes later say it is white and always has been.
Believe the lies? Lessers always do. With greaters it is a spectrum of veracity in respect of the things said and beliefs held. If I know it to be a lie I cannot believe it is not.
Well you obviously didn’t start telling lies while cheating at monopoly…you’ll probably never tell (anyone here) how or when you started telling lies.
For me, it started when my maternal grandfather raped me…I was ten years old and after he finished, he basically bade me to not tell anyone what had happened, so the first BIG lie I told was one of omission rather than commission. But I got away with it, I didn’t tell the truth and nobody suspected, so thus began my career in not telling the truth. Didn’t take long for “lie through my teeth” to become the default setting.
Oh Cara I’m so sorry!! Because no one suspected and therefore could not protect you, it’s like the default setting became the punishment to them and they deserve to be lied to for letting you down.
Cara…that sucks. People like that who do that to kids…just no. The males need a permanent case of blue balls and the females need a permanent case of tender t*tties. I know that I’m sorry doesn’t make it better. I am sorry.