Contractual Obligations
The moment you met me you signed a contract. You did not realise that you did this but you most certainly did. You did not see the contract and nobody mentioned it either but your interaction with me meant that you accepted my offer and you supported it with valid consideration and as a consequence a binding contract was entered into between you and I. How can you accept an offer that you did not know about? That does not matter because the applicable law to this contract is the law of my kingdom, not wherever you may be domiciled. Our offer was simple. We would give you a perfect love and in return for this perfect love you would provide us with perfect fuel. Straightforward isn’t it? I was even so kind as to explain to you how this perfect love would look and I gave you many examples didn’t I? Ah yes, I can see that it is all starting to make sense to you isn’t it? The charm, the seduction, the gifts, the love-making, the trips, the beautiful words, the moving letters, the little gestures and the promises of it lasting forever were all examples and manifestations of this perfect love. I kept my part of the bargain. I adored you and gave you this perfect love without restraint.
You began well and furnished me with that perfect fuel, high-grade and in vast quantities as you admired me as I impressed you with the repeated exhibitions of my perfect love but then you breached the contract. You failed to keep up the provision of the fuel. I must admit I was staggered when you did this. After all, you only had one obligation and it was not that difficult because you did it at first. It was not as if I asked something of you which you could not deliver. You began at the start to provide me with this perfect fuel but then you let it diminish. I even allowed you a chance to remedy your breach by giving you a further chance, I warned you as to your conduct but you failed to heed these fair and reasonable warnings. You have only yourself to blame but that is usually the case. Your breach meant that certain clauses were activated and it is no good complaining that they are unfair or that they are penalties because they are not. They are genuine pre-estimates of my loss based on your diminution and cessation of my fuel. Accordingly, I was able to invoke the clause allowing me to apply Punitive Manipulation and thereafter seek redress through the provision of negative fuel. It is no good bleating about how much trouble that caused you, you brought the problem on yourself and you have, as ever, only yourself to blame for this action. Was it an error of judgement on your part? If I was being charitable I would say that it was but most likely you did it because you thought, you could do what you wanted and escape this binding contract. Not only was I allowed, in accordance with the terms of this contract to apply Punitive Manipulation I was also fully entitled to invoke other provisions contained in the schedule. What do you mean you did not see a schedule? You did not need to did you because you said you would always give me what I needed, so why would I have to show you something when you evinced an intention to abide by the contract? Honestly, I think you take me for a fool at times. Thus I was able to rely on the clauses involving the following: –
- Smear Campaign
- Triangulation
- Character Assassination
- Circular Conversations
- Boundary Recognition (Lack of)
- Projection
- Blame Shifting
- Intimidation
- Gas Lighting
- Threatened Loss
I was divested of my obligations towards you and therefore I was able with immediate effect to bring about the cessation of Love Bombing. On the advice of my crack legal team it was also necessary for me to mitigate my position. I duly did so by engaging my Lieutenants, releasing my Crows and best of all I was allowed to seek fuel from alternative sources, both primary and supplementary with no fear of retribution from you. It is no use complaining, that is not going to resolve the situation. I suppose you really ought to have got a good lawyer on your side at the outset but then just like he has the best tunes, the devil has the best lawyers as well. See you in court.
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I have observed in narcissists’ face the story “I am an ugly, useless, worthless, unloveable waste of space and nobody but nobody is ever going to remind me of it and hurt me again” and their reaction to pain is a flicker of something they forgot from a world far away.
And in a psychopath I just see “oh, hello!”.
lol. And one more thing – can you recognise a psychopath, and if so, how are they different to you? Are you afraid of them?
Yes I can. No i am not afraid of them. They are different because they do not know the difference between right and wrong. I do, I just do not have any mechanism that makes me care about the difference.
That they don’t love? Instead of carrying on for years enjoying themselves?
Yes.
So in this case, why don’t they just say it?
Say what Violet?
I would like to know if you agree with me. I think I have seen narcissists love. The situation has been I suppose a mutual appreciation of qualities and the good times of sharing those qualities but in my case over a long period of time and under controlled conditions that gratfied the narcissist’s ego but also conditions that freed him of the pressure to keep acting and/or controlling. So the environment was one of complete comfort in self expression, including vulnerabilities, and mutual liking. But I would have decribed it as a childish crush and desire for attention that did not involve any abuse. And a little while afterwards of course it was gone.
That is interesting Violet and evidence some management of the behaviour arising from narcissistic behaviour but as you identify yourself, it was not love.
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You actually do seem to answer don’t you? You take the time to read what people say and actively try to help them by pointing out how they are manipulated or brainwashed. I cannot comprehend this, it defies every law in my book. You, Mr. Tudor, seem to be a Black Swan. Antifragile by design.
Although your doctors successfully created a new level of incompetence by letting you attend therapy (be honest, you’re sharpening your knives), it is clear to me why they’ve not stopped it either.
Yes I do. I read every single post (that’s why there are delays in the posts going up and me replying to them) and if someone asks me a question, most of the time I will answer it. I revel in the fact that my superiority is being used in this way also, arming the empaths so they can frustrate and overcome members of my brethren, how about that for power? Someone described me as antihero recently, I believe that to be accurate. I get to tell people how it is, answer their questions, they give me a little fuel, I get to continue being the puppet master but this way I add some extra zest and spice to proceedings. Your final paragraph is entirely accurate.
Mr. Tudor, you continue to surprise me. Didn’t think you’d post that one due to delay, thought you were trying to yank some chain.
To whom are you referring when you talk about staying the puppet master?
Could you elaborate on the difference between power/control and fuel? To the untrained eye they look the same.
I am referring to myself.
Fuel is the emotional reaction provided by a particular method of delivery from certain appliances.
Power is what I feel arising from the provision of fuel.
Control is what must be exerted in order to bring about the provision of fuel.
What are the contractual obligations for receiving help on this site?
Ask the question and I will answer. I will collect your soul at my convenience!
You have to be for ever thankful to HG and spread the word of what a magnificent writer he is. Buy his books and be a blog reader until the last day. 😃😃💝
You are the first and only Narcissist to welcome me in my pain, my loneliness and my rage! This might actually be the only place I’ve ever had permission to actually express myself at all! I’ve never jumped in on a blog in my life. I watch and read. You help me by sorting out the pieces of my broken mind in the most personal ways and allowing me to go back to those places!! One at a time with the work already done to reach each memory. No more therapists to try to explain it to anymore who would never understand in 1 million years ! One by one we go and it’s as if the person writing it is the person who did all those horrible things to me! Now I get to feel what I should’ve been allowed to feel when it was happening! And say what I would’ve liked to say from the depths of heart that I FEEL! This is the closest I have ever been to what empathy for me must feel like? Or to just voice my experiences! Even if you don’t prescribe to my faith or way of seeing this Narcissist. Or ignite a fury in me! Or acceptance and permission to just let it all out! My boundaries are so much stronger now in just a few weeks time then the Swiss cheese they were the day I found this place. You’re helping me see all the mistakes I’ve been making . And you’re helping me not want to return to my own vomit! I have been hoovered night and day this week . It’s really painful and very scary! I have not showed any fear! I have held my ground! I guess my heart is still breaking over it but that’s OK . I don’t want to go back I just feel the loss of something that wasn’t even real . The way I saw the world. It is all I’ve ever known . So again. Thank you H.G from the bottom of my heart! This the place we get to correct our behaviors by facing ourselves. Believe me! It’s often just as horrifying to me to see myself as it is you! You are just flipping that mirror so fast it is Wonderful!!! It’s scary! It’s REAL! Eyes wide open are better than Eyes wide shut! 😘 It’s a blast here!
Thank you Heather, it is gratifying to witness the impact it has on you.
Did I answer your question?
You ever see your little girl idolize a young fresh faced Disney star? Like the Duel Personality of HANNAH (spelled the same in reverse) Montanna the two faced personality? Only to see her turn into the Whore of Babylon on stage at the Super Bowl right before your eyes? The Siuper Bowl is the place where satanic rituals are performed step by step in front of us. How bout sweet little Brittney Spears? SHE was a Mickey Mouse Club Star! Look at that poor girls life? Why was she going nuts and shaving her head? Google before and after Disney Stars. 666 in the Walt Dismey Logo. All kinds of hidden signs and sex references in our favorite Disney Movies. Pedephillia is the monster that runs it. Ask Cory Feldman he was a childhood star passed around with his other friend Corey who killed himself. Our children are the Fuel. Casting couches are gross! The 911 attack on the World Trade Center with the actual planes crashing into them is in DOZENS of movies and cartoons long before it happened. Referencing 911 over and over. I have followed the white rabbit down the hole for miles and it is deep! 1000 of hours LOOKING at the research of others on line. Proof, confessions, documents, news casts. interviews and of course movie clips.. Predictive programming is when a future tragic event is foretold in our programs. They put their signs and symbols on all of it so it’s easy to see now. (Like Neo) The all seeing eye of Horus is a big one! That eyeball has become a joke around here now. It’s on everything. once ya see this, ya can’t unsee it! It’s printed on our money. There is a Christian minister that decodes our currency here by folding it to find the next thing they plan on doing! The 911 attack plan is right on our money!! Other events as well. He can show you the explosions and after math just by folding money. . Sept 11, 2001 was on Neos Drivers Licence. 1000’s of examples of Narcissism in our programs. Hollywood is a big satanic club. Signing blood contracts to get famous.. Music industry the same. Beloved stars suddenly dead after trying to tell this to us. John F. Kennedy has a speech about this and how he planned on stopping them. He was shot in the head. John Lennon to. Micheal Jackson was begging for his fans to LISTEN to what he was saying! They were too starry eyed to even SEE the frantic man! What happened to our sweet Robin Williams was pictured 1st in a Family Guy episode, Boston Bombings to. And don’t get me started on our World Leaders vacation spot right here in the U.S.A.! Look up Bohemian Grove. You won’t believe what they are doing for 2 weeks in that forest! Protesters outside with armed guards to keep it secret. Secret societies are running things. All the way to the TWELVE FAMILIES that OWN the Banks of the World! 2 faced Narcissists all the way up. Satan has to tell us what he is doing in these last days! This is one place that is happening. The lying idiot box is not called programming for nothing. My Bible told me all of this first. I just didn’t know it was going to be what has been in front of me the whole time! I believed it before I ever saw it. I suppose that’s what Faith is. The New World Order is their goal under 1 world leader! Guess who? So? What’s it gonna be? The RED PILL? Or the BLUE PILL? I heard a great man once say, “Often the best medicine tastes the foulest”.,
He certainly did say that Heather, he certainly did.
Thank you for being here and doing this. You have helped me tremendously.
You are welcome.
Wow talk about putting down your heart wow forgive my asking where do you live in the us heather?
🎧Who’s the Leader of the Club that’s made for you and me?🎧 Ha! Another face we love and adore.! I LOVE WInnie the Pooh! I used to grab at Mickey Mouse at Disney World like he was a Rock Star with a mob of screaming 5 year olds! I just learn a lot from watching them now. Your entire paradigm will change if you look what’s behind Mickys beloved face! And who His friends are. And what or Who FUELS that machine!! Hollywood to.! Don’t believe me? You can go into the Disney Dungeon and see for yourself! You Tube it. Google it. That’s just one.. Please look into that. Would that make you see things differently? This blew my mind like any Narc I thought I knew! We are hear to expose the Narcissist. Right? I’m just a messenger. I don’t like any of it. It’s REAL. It’s a bummer. I just want everybody that can see here to look behind the curtain.
Winnie one if my favorites I collect his mugs T shirts anything to do with winner abd I’m in my 30s it’s good to be like a child closer to heaven I like it it’s me yes jaja
Hi Clary. I grew up near Detroit Metro. Now I’m out in the country away from all the noise. Spent the time in isolation, and discards and silent treatments and also sickness time studying and searching for answers! Doctors were making me worse! You Tube and Google has advanced my research exponentially! I’ve learned a lot about the systems of the world. H.G. Is filling in the blanks on how they think! FUEL. That last rant comes from a place of great concern for average people that just want to live their lives and raise their kids. World wide! I don’t know how I could keep THAT to myself? I’ve had 3 pastors laugh at me and call me “Job” from hearing my story. Ignorant. “They” the healthcare system made me sick beginning by handing me antibiotics for everything and it went from there.. I can’t unknow something. There are a ton of intelligent people on there that did the investigations to back me up here. Not just making it up!! Narc abuse hasnt helped my cause. I wish he would go away!! Got a break at a Rock show tonight. That was fun! Thanks. Why do you ask?
Neo.
I think our timing is a bit off here! You are funny! 😀
I see this place as the matrix that it is.. False reality. The news, the governments, the wars and even the pestilence! Look at the ingredients on your food in the grocery store! You can’t even pronounce it let alone believe what it actually IS and what it does to you! POISON! From the gmo seeds to the Chenm trails! Pesticides. Plastics artifial sweeteners hormones on and on poison! It’s supposed to be FOOD!!! Then we get sick and need a Doctor. Ever notice those medicine commercials with the butterflies on it on a warm spring day for your ailments? Then the disclaimers that go on and on and on about all the ways it can make you sick? Then the attorneys commercials if your loved one died after taking it? We are forced here in the U.S. To buy insurance so that we can go there to get better? I submitted to the system for health care and ate a lot of poison, was tortured for 13 years with experimental procedures, and mutilated and cut up on the operating table! Check out what’s in the vaccinations they give our kids! Fluoride makes ya dumb. I have had to learn about this world and its system experientially! The hard torturous way! Made me search for answers to all of this to get well! T.V. Programming, movies and music are all fueling Narcissism! It really is “programming”. You guys can research this stuff yourself! The Bible is forced out everywhere. And those of us that believe in it as the only solid foundation are told we are intolerant for believing the words. “Religion” is run by narcissism the WHOLE system! All in bed together with the chief Narcissist! We are ALL FUEL to this system! I feel like freakin Nei that got unplugged from my pod! Money, greed, sex and power! FUEL! We are all slaves and victims to this system. All blinded to the Truth! You are doing a great service here!
Do I know how to be smart, I do hope so HG. I have protected myself well, however there are life moments that even I can’t imagine, losing a child for instance, or illness, or some other catastrophic event, that may make me vulnerable, and this is when I fear I will not have ability to be smart. This is where I have to rely on faith and faith alone and why I consume myself with knowledge every day sharpening my skills, my sword, my self love, it truly is a matter of life and death. I do hope you are right.
Ever Notice Adam let Eve take the first bite? When her head didn’t explode THEN He took a bite! Then suddenly their eyes were open and they were ashamed and naked and they hid! Then the BLAME HAME Got STARtED! Fingers pointing everywhere! . That’s Narcissm
Well of course he did, he was being polite. He knew that if he didn’t do so she would have kicked off.
Before I came here I only had light on the light side and evidence of the darkness in the dark! Now, H.G. Is shedding light into the dark side and it opened up the whole picture for me. Narcissism is the spirit that is in the world that is responsible for every social injustice. When we now to it we give it power
Thank you Heather.
– Narcissism is the spirit that is in the world that is responsible for every social injustice – that’s an interesting statement, would you expand on it for me?
Hi Heather it’s completely true what you write about injustice in the world , it can only be carried out when narcissism is present. When you understand what it is and that it is everywhere.
In Court? Yes, I know the Judge!! 😀 He’a MY DAD!!! Having coffee with Him right now! He’s so funny! He’s LAUGHING!! He told me to text you to say Hi and said you are invited to come see Him in His chambers for a talk anout your contract and to bring MY advocate with you because He’s been waiting for you! Otherwise there is a standing warrant against you for your arrest with violations up the WAZOO!! Incarceration for the duration.. His laws cancel your contract and make it null and void! He said He cannot help things to go well for you on our court date or offer you protection from yourSELF unless you come in to see Him! He’s merciful that way! He’ll wipe your entire record clean if ya just go and take my lawyer with you! My Brother paid for your crimes but you have to go to them personally to accept your free gifts! We want everyone to win in our family! He said to tell you that if you decide to keep on the run and keep hiding from Him eventually you will STILL have your day in court with Him and by then it’ll be too late! My lawyer can’t help you that day either even tho He wants to, and he’s waiting for you to call him too. So, either way we’ll see ya there! Boy! He’s the wisest person I know! My brother and lawyer are in perfect agreement with Him every second of every day! And they Live by the Book! It’s awesome because I can trust what they say! So glad they got court to sort these difference out! We are taking this case to the SUPREME COURT of the Most HIGHEST FORM OF JUSTICE!! To the RIGHTEOUS JUDGE of the WORLD! He’ll straighten this whole misunderstanding out on That day! My Lawyer has NEVER LOST an argument! 😀 He knows EVERYTHING about the Law because He and my Dad AND my Brother WROTE the Book OF THE LAW! They tried.. My advocate is just like our Dad! Chip off the old Block! He told me not to worry, since I’ve been listening to these 3 my whole life telling me what the Book says and what it means.. Read it to me as bed time stories! They have taught me where the boundaries are! Showed me what I know .. I’m the problem child in our bunch! Dad has eyes all over the place! I can’t get away with anything! He’s trying to discipline me so I can stay OUT of trouble! I’ve gotten caught so many times sneaking off roads, violating the guidelines.!! I never seem to learn!! Suffered many consequences! He’s made me pay a few tickets here and there. Reaping and sowing is a LAW ya know? Consequences! Shmonsequences! Right? No. Don’t MOCK HIM BOY!! He means it! Responsibility is another LAW. Dad has had to my Big Brother cover me! I’ve gotten in a lot of trouble because I didn’t listen! He’s had to drag my lifeless body out of many bad places! Carry me around.. Then He nurses me back to health. My gullible nature gets me into more trouble! My rebellion to violate what I know is the real problem! I thought everyone was like them! I trusted the wrong people! I’m a co-criminal! Down-right minion like! Serving my Dads enemies like they are ROYALTY while they MOCK HIM!! While I was mocking him! I’ve been in His court room every day about it.. My lawyer keeps pointing at my Brother on my behalf that took my place and payed for my crimes and fines in full and I’m set free! Daily! Boo boos on my knees. Cuts and bruises.. Sore fanny sometimes to! He has had to fight my battles and get the Bad Boys to go away! Kids will be kids! But this IS SERIOUS! This is going to be the BIGGEST TRIAL of the AGES!! I’m not dumb enough to walk in THERE alone based on how wonderful I AM!! NO WAY!! I can’t represent myself! This will be an HONEST AN OPEN CASE with a FAIR TRIAL!! I heard you got that Smarmy lawyer!??? Really? I can’t believe you think you have a chance in HELL to WIN with THAT GUY representing you! Are you crazy? I heard HE is the BIGGEST CRIMINAL MASTERMIND on this planet! Responsible for every evil this planet has suffered! Duh? HE TOO will be placed on trial that day in front of the whole entire world! And they will be the witnesses . His record has gotten EVERY PERSON INCARCERATED that he represents! After HE USED them to commit his crimes against humanity! Got a REAL KICK OUT OF IT!! He loves to torture people! On a power trip 24/7 with the whole goal in mind to consume every virtue and snuff out every light and wipe off every smile! To rape and to steal, to lie and to kill!! To seek and destroy! JUST to feel the surge of power because He WISHES HE WAS MY DAD!! Tried to steal his seat! He took control here over our minds by lying to people who then in turn give him power over their lives.! It’s crazy alright! Then he destroys them. JUST to hurt my Dad and His Family!! And kidnap as many people as he can JUST to take them down WITH him! Isn’t that so arrogant and Narcississtic? Good thing My Dad is THE JUDGE!! My Brother said it’s very clear I’m fully covered on all counts of true AND false charges and allegations because HE HAS ALL of MY FINES PAYED FOR ME in ADVANCE JUST for asking HIM to be MY Guy!! So, I got no worries there! Thank God! My Lawyer told me if you have any further questions about the Trial Date you can give Him a call anytime. He’ll answer you. Guarantee you a WIN! His number and his address are in The Book. Number to the Court House is in the same directory. If you have any questions concerning what went wrong between us, you can refer to the Judges Manual. My Brother doesn’t turn down anyone that needs a representative! Except YOUR representative! . He is going DOWN THAT day! Guilty AS SIN!! And he’s TAKING down anyone that’s stupid enough to back him! Call my Lawyer! He’ll straighten this out! You don’t HAVE to lose! Also they have the biggest adoption agency for lost and used and abandoned children in the Book to. Open adoption on the spot! All are welcome! My Dad LOVES CHILDREN!! Especially the ones that have been blinded by your stupid lawyer! Don’t take the fall for a little “surge”.. What a stupid reason to live and die by. see you in court
Ah yes, the judgment we will all face in the afterlife.
Unfortunately, this world isn`t ruled by your “dad” Heather, since He willingly turned it over to Lucifer for oh, let’s say, about a thousand years.
Even the Devil himself does God’s great work, Heather. That’s important to remember.
Hi bloods drummer! I agree.! Validation of the Truth is vital! The playbook of the enemy layed out like this has been eye opening! That’s the part I find amusing! Narcs have stolen our lives by using us! God is using a Narc to direct us out! It’s beautiful! I care about H.G.’s soul as much as any other.. He provoked in me a Lions Heart! And not the kind that go around roaring seeking a victim! He makes me HATE my true enemy! This place has made him my footstool! Yes! I agree! God is using this place in my life to turn BACK! H.G. Is a tool to take the blinders off of our eyes and see the deceptions for what they are! I love him for it!
Hey who are you calling a tool?! I’m an instrument.
Adam was given authority here. The serpent deceived the woman. Adam KNEW what he was doing. He was there! They gave it all away for the same reasons we give our selves away to the Narcissist! Deception, false promises! Sidestep the boundaries. Been going on since Adam and Eve gave it away. Christ bought us back. We still have to live here..
Adam was conned. It was the first case of Snake with Tits. Literally.
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Please talk legalese to me. It can only make me love you more…as if that were possible. 😉
Dear 1jade1,
We refer to our letter of the 4th ultimo. We note, with disappointment, that you have failed to respond, in detail or at all, to the allegations further particularised therein. We regard this position as untenable and outwith those which a prospective defendant ought to adopt. We also refer to our letter of 8th ultimo wherein our comments are adopted herein mutatis mutandi. The prolix response that you provided failed to advance any defence, either in fact or in law or therefore should you seek to advance a defence based on the contents of that correspondence therein, we shall have no option (subject to our client’s instructions) other than to make an immediate application, on notice, to strike out your defence and have judgment entered against you. We shall of course be seeking costs against you and given your inappropriate and evasive responses to date we shall ask the court to grant those costs on an indemnity basis. Our client’s patience is all but exhausted and we urge to treat this correspondence with the utmost seriousness and respond by return.
Yours faithfully
Sue, Grabbit and Runne
Your firm’s name. Are they a spinoff of Dewey, Cheatem, and Howe? That’s my representation. Please amend the name on the letter or this will be null and void (why should my firm even point this out, HG, your firm needs to replace the one who types the letters).
I thought you were represented by Norfolk and Good?
I’d make sure they were not representations of their names. I want someone cutthroat when fighting for me.
Thank you for the legalese. You speak it fluently. Are you a lawyer? This question gets into Space Invader territory so I’ll understand if you don’t answer.
No I am not, but I am related to one and have repeated interface with lawyers as a consequence of my work.
Interesting. I used to work closely with legal and read and apply contracts as part of a previous role. So much fun, it was. It was like reading the ingredients on a cereal box.
You absorb the language well, HG.
My most most favorite clause in the world is “Notwithstanding the foregoing”. It is like you are whispering sweet nothings in my ear. It amounts to nothing. I used to ask why we even bothered to draw contracts with language like that. I was told that we need something in writing. o_O. Why bother? Shady.
Are there books explaining narcissists that don’t know they are a narcissist. They are tired and want one person to stick with them and they are proven as much as can be to be faithful even with lack of fuel to maintain relationship. They know something is wrong because they can’t hold a relationship. Mine tries so hard in his own way but he is a miserable narcissist. I am submissive but independent so I thought he was indulging me at first. I’ve been with him almost 5 years but he was so off that I was investigating what he was and figured it out within 6 months. We live an hour apart and has not moved to be at least in same city. I’ve read lots of books on narcissists. He is one even to the point he cannot smile naturally (that very small tidbit blew me away as well as the odd giggle trait). Anyway, there is very little info on narcissists that don’t know and truly want love. Any suggestions?
Hello Carol, I will be providing a book on the Lesser Narcissist which is the type you talk about as they do not know they are a narcissist, nor do the Mid-Range ones a topic which I will also be providing more information about. If you read my collections which are alliterative (Beautiful and Barbaric, Cherished and Chastised) you will find more about these two types of narcissist (amidst lots of other interesting information) which you will find useful. Do you want to be rid of him?
Incidentally, he does not truly want love because he does not understand what that actually is.
I could be the official nail trimmer of the Merciful Master….I defer from being his scratching board.
Goodness On the image maker, take a look at his contractual obligations regarding proximate likeness in Image,
So, if we liken this to consummation of martial coupling to determine where there is a basis for nullifying a marriage or instituting a divorce.
If you, the GIVER, and I. The Devotee, Enter into a binding agreement, that is implied based on location of the GIVER, at the time of the coupling. That said agreement is determined by the GIVER lavishing attention, gifts. Vacations and love upon the DEVOTEE. In return, the DEVOTEE furnishes the GIVER, with unending admiration and adoration. Which is not dependent upon the intensity or determined by the length of time the GIVER decides to GIVE. The contract will be determined to be breached only by the DEVOTEE! Not the GIVER. At any point in time, of said designed arrangement. If at any time the GIVER decreases attention to the DEVOTEE, there is no codicil effecting that the GIVER, is in fact In breach of contract for neglect of duty.
I argue that if the Giver maintained approximate levels of attention to the DEVOTEE there would be no breach of contract based on the arguement of diminished fuel returns.
The DEVOTEE has no recourse to argue her case. So, the Devil may have his due.
No wonder my mother always told me to marry A lawyer, guess she did know best….
There is a much simpler contract.
I own you.
I showed you mine, now show me yours…contract, that is. So with the I Own you…the You, being the collective you,? not me, Personally?
I don’t recall a bid being put in….
Yes, I understand when you determine your V you then also assume ownership. Is this not just for primary source V’s” the ones you pedastalize?
It was the comment from narcissist to victim which is said so so quietly at the commencement of the entanglement.
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Yes that would sum it up, and was understood. Start seeing yourself as a possession, that is all you ever were and that is all you will ever be, this is why you are not truly ever discarded as HG has stated, because you are his, you belong to him, you have no rights, you gave them away as soon as you signed his contract even if you were unaware that you did.
Sigh. I know for the rest of my life. mine will come around ready to take back what is rightfully HIS. I will have to remain smart till the day I become a frail old lady.
Well put CC, but now you know how to be smart.
I imagine during seduction that is a most appealing arrangement for the victim hearing that from you.
Your mine – my ex always said that to me .
He tried to pick mymake up , clothes , shoes , my hairstyle .
I was his trophy at his golf club .
I was his fuel – no more no less 😔
I think im learning
HG, I made the decision to unblock my N after 3 months of no contact . But he could have contacted me if he had wanted to , so it was really more for me not to be tempted to look at his social media . We live in the same town so he clearly does not want to Hoover me. I unblocked everything a week ago because enough time has passed that I feel I don’t need to do that anymore . You said he may see that as me wanting him back (if he has even noticed ). I know this is the complete opposite to what people are usually asking for but I really want him to try and come back , just one last time , now that I know what I know. Is there anything I can do to try to lure a Hoover ? Without me doing any of the spheres of influence . Would posting anything on social media or profile pics or anything have any affect ? Obviously he thinks everything is about him naturally anyway ? Any help you can offer ? With out me actually contacting him ?
Hello Lisa,
I suspect there are some other messages still in moderation touching on this so hopefully it will join up. I don’t think I have yet understood why you want to have him contact you nor why you do not want to contact him directly. If you want an interaction the simplest way is to contact him. Bear in mind that what you consider as contacting him will differ from what he sees it as because as you write everything is about him naturally anyway. Thus, if you go to see him or telephone him, that is a clear contact. However even if you post something on social media which is an oblique reference to him or say is even about a new man that you have and he is not mentioned, he will see that as you still contacting him because you belong to him (in his mind still) and therefore you for example mentioning a new man will be seen by him as criticism but as you contacting him to criticise him. You will enter the spheres of influence in this way so you cannot do it without entering them. If you want him to hoover you, you can bring this about but you will need to enter a sphere of influence and this will be seen by him as you contacting him.
HG do you think the lessers and mids or even some just with lesser traits but still narcs think in this way , belonging to them the contract in their head ?
I think they do regard you as their property forever, yes. They are unlikely to articulate it though in the way I have.
Thanks for the heads up Tudor this is ….. Interesting his bless you
Don’t expect me because I won’t be able to be there to debate about it for you are a loser who wants fuel amongst many reasons and for me YOur advocate can go to hell
Yes, the contract. It benefits you, not me. I really should’ve gotten a lawyer.
OK, now I’m screwed on that too…there’s no way out. I’m boxed in now and got no pictures only words. How did that happen? HG, any thoughts?
What are the words that you have?
This is how unlove ends up. In courts and in fights, sadness, separation, devastation.
This post reminds me of 14 years of marriage. Friendly separation but I still have to go also soon to court.
The only lietenant he had and still has is his mother but else the contract is not like above. I hope it stays like this.
Very good description HG of a divorce with somebody with NPD . I have heard from friends and seen it in my family. Such a contract.
Nikita, was your last N that you have been No contact for 8 months. The one you were Married to for 14 years, father of your children?
Good luck when the time comes….in my divorce, I made it simple , child support , that was it otherwise, he keeps what is his and I keep what is mine. The MN wanted my house , he never got it. He claimed as post does, because we were married In Uk he had certain legal rights regarding martial assets. Too bad for him.
Hi Jana.
No they are different. I separated now almost 3 yrs ago.
Childsupport works well and same here. Mine and his but there is a last detail on child support which is not so clear.
Its until now friendly and I saw his proposal and it seems fair so I haveto sit and review those papers . And free finally 😃😃
Sorry for confusion..I am glad al looks good regarding paperwork.friendly is much more peaceful .
I am curious HG.
If your primary source of fuel had a crush on another man or referenced that they thought an actor was cute would you consider that they broke their contractual obligation? Would you seek to punish them?
A crush on someone other than me? I don’t understand. Why on earth would that happen?
If they happened to mention that they thought an actor in a film was cute it would depend on when it was said. If during seduction, it would not matter and it would be used to our advantage, “Yes I suppose he could be considered that but not as cute as me though?” “Oh gosh, no, of course not.” Cue fuel.
If during devaluation. It would be received as criticism. Contractual obligation broken. Fuel ignited. You are in the Supreme Court of Malicious Prejudice.
If she had a gift from an old boyfriend, say a teddy bear or necklace, she kept around and seemed fond of would that make you angry and be considered another breach of contract?
Would your anger only end when the offensive item disappeared?
If this gift was evident during the seduction I would trump the token with one of my own so she forgets about the inferior version. I would look to spirit the existing version away as well, not destroy it, but keep it somewhere else so I could lay my hands on it for the purposes of additional manipulation.
Hahahaaaaaa oh please another example ke if looking at yourself in others eyes or mirror
What about after discard?
Good question cuddlymoll. CN was jealous over such things, I took it to a self esteem issue. The worst one was any time I mentioned Of all people Jamie Olivier. I said I like men with boyish faces, Jamie Olivier is that type. So is Cn though. He did same thing on actors, made it seem like if I found them attractive I couldn’t find him attractive. Which was not the case at all. I found him always the most attractive. So HG, it was never his self esteem?
No it was you giving attention to somebody who speaks Mockney and has an oversized tongue.
Harsh…..he asked me, so I told him…I thought he was cute, he is baby faced. An accent is not so bad if I can ignore it lol
Something else you both have in common he hates him too.
I have another situation for you, HG…
You are in the golden period with your primary source. One day you come find she has put up a poster of the actor you know that she has a crush on.
What is your reaction?
I have a larger poster made of me which I put up next to it.
Then the poster of him is set on fire when the devaluation starts. Maybe he is as well if I can find him.
What if your target found someone else after discard? Or you found out after discard? And the target had that person during devaluation Tudor?
Why would they do that? That is highly unlikely because of the way we have conducted the ensnarement and discard you will want us and only us, anybody else pales by comparison.
Why then he asked me to look for somebody else? Hurtful
To hurt you as you have identified.
That poor Teddy Bear. I can only imagine what you would do, HG. Hide it well, cuddlymoll, or it might end up with its paws tied behind its back.
Hog-tied 1Jaded, hog-tied.
At the beginning, my N spoke of a contract on several occasions, but it was mostly a sexual fantasy contract. Enticing and fun at first, especially when you don’t know what they are. But if I decided I didn’t want to play along, punishment was a sure thing. He later used the same as a triangulation when he spoke of another female who actually wrote up a fantasy contract and gave to him. I thought it was a little strange that he was telling me that, but I didn’t know why at the time. Now I do. As far as an unwritten ‘contract’, I broke mine with my N after a verbal altercation which included me hanging up on him and going no contact 21 days ago. I am my own lawyer.
Mine never did …. Ever that clever little idiot how ironic a clever idiot
I like that hanging up on him wish I could do that is on my wish list unfortunately
Dear Lucifer,
I’m screwed, right?
Mephistpholes
If that is what you want. Yes.
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