The Effect of No Contact on the Narcissist
You know that No Contact is the key to beating the narcissist, but how does it affect the narcissist?
This Logic Bulletin explains to you what happens when you impose your No Contact Regime and how you can expect the narcissist to respond.
It covers Lesser, Mid-Range and Greater Narcissists in fascinating detail.
How does the narcissist feel?
What happens if you tip-off the narcissist that you are leaving him or ending the relationship?
What happens to the narcissist if you end the relationship and say nothing?
How does the narcissist respond?
What do you need to look out for in terms of common errors which will prejudice your no contact regime and place you at risk?
What will the narcissist do by way of response, so you can ascertain how to avoid this?
The content of this Logic Bulletin will give you these answers and more so you can build your Logic Defences and understand what will happen when you impose no contact now or in the future.
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I am so sorry about the terrible wounds we inflicted on you. You deserve every ptiy in the world, don´t you? So you can go on destroyting other people´s lives, because you are so terribly wounded by us, your victims. And you actually get a ot of attention fior your terrible plight. We should be ashamed of ourselves doing this to you. You are only doing your best helping us, we should be grateful. You have quite a lot of supply here, don´t you? Playing the victim card. It is old hat for us, you know. We know all your BS. You have gathered a nice little pool of supply here, pretending to help. Well, I am a thriver and i do not fall for this and I do not need your help. You can stick it in a place wehre the sun don´t shine.
1. I do not require pity. Established readers know that.
2. No I do not have “quite a lot of supply here” – if you actually applied what I write about you would realise that is the case. Of course you will not because it is far easier to try to make such an accusation. Of course your accusation is incorrect and is thus a failure. The purpose of this is to give people information and answers. My fuel needs are addressed privately.
3. Nor do I play the victim. Many of our kind do, I do not.
Well done on not needing my help, although your erroneous suggestions tend to indicate to the contrary.
Hello hg I have enjoyed your blog I left after ten years separated for 3 and went back chaos chaos he’s never cheated but found him on numerous dating sites he has serious body issues apart from me and one other woman ( short relationship ) he has never been with no one he didn’t want me to leave but I couldn’t take no more he has some things at mine he’s been to collect them once and brought more things so my spare room full of his things he said we were better of apart I agreed his family all want me to go back I can’t he has never been violent sorry once but I am a tough cookie and physically he is no match for me both his parents were addicts he was raised in care local authority I do love him but do not like him lies lies lies and can switch his behaviour in seconds one minute he hates them the next there his best friend when we separated he kept my things for 4 years this girl lived with him I never I have my own place he got with her weeks after we separated he told me she could of been anyone he got with her to stop him calling me she had to live in that house with all my things for 3 years even my shampoo photos of me he refused to throw my things away sorry if this is all random I’m 6 months out and since Christmas I have been plagued with calls from a withheld number as soon as I speak the phone goes dead is this him he is a lesser from your description what does he want am I in danger
Kelly
Can we have a conversation about when a narcissist implements NC against us?
I called my guy out on his shit after two months.
The honeymoon/idealization period only lasted about 6 weeks.
He told me he loved me after 1 week I was the woman of his dreams,
He told me after one week he loved me.
He told me o saved him.
He told me he never had this connection with anyone before.
He asked me to move in after two weeks.
He was constantly coming to see me 4-5 times a day ( I own a successful business in a downtown area that he lives two blocks from)
He was very altruistic to me, my children, my family and my community.
He changed his appearance to suit mine.
My dreams became his.
We had a disagreement.
I established boundaries.
He didn’t like it.
His eyes turned black during discussions.
His facial muscles tightened. He looked like a ten year old.
His rage was disproportionate to the discussions.
He took everything personally.
I knew something was different/ had shifted after two months.
I confronted him.
He told me he was overwhelmed.
He told me I was better off without him.
He told me shit was getting real.
He told me he wasn’t good at commitment.
He told me it’s not you its me.
Then I grabbed my things and left.
Silent treatment for 4 days.
I went to his house and he was haughty, condescending and gaslighting me. He told me I needed help and I pushed the nuclear trigger.
Then he looked at me and said I want to be your friend.
He took no accountability.
The next day I told him I wanted nothing to do with him…that he was a leach, a con artist and a narcissistic sociopath. I also told him that my family, my community and everyone that knew us as a couple knew about what he did to me, how his eyes turned black (I was scared) and that he was a con artist.
He has blocked me from his phone….and all other forms of social media. Can we have a discussion on why the narcissist uses this against us, what they think it will do, and if they are waiting for “my kind” to go seek him out.
Painful… Yes. But I’m holding my ground and not seeking him out. I want to know HG what happens to the narcissist once they are called out? It’s fury…yes. It’s rage…yes.
But in combination with the fury, the rage, and losing the control over me and the pathological narcissistic space what is happening to your kind?
By blocking me he may think he is creating harm…but I feel I have the upper hand here.
Again am I in pain? Yes. But I established clear boundaries…basically told him to pound sand, and stay away from me, my family and my community.
I hope he is enraged. I hope he is injured. But most of all I hope he is paranoid and will ever set foot in my life, my business and my community.
Let’s have a conversation about when they use NC against us, it’s like a 10 year old child with his hands in his ears saying “nah…nah…nah…nah…nah”
You are my hero HG. Love the live interviews the most.
Hello Islandwendee, thank you for your kind words and I did like your summary of the relationship, it reads as an excellent precis of the typical dynamic. Are you wanting me to write something about what happens when you expose to the narcissist himself what he is?
I’ve been no contact for overy a year …through flying monkeys there have been attempts to provoke a response. My response to false allegations were to look up the definition of Projection”.
Perhaps, because of the holidays I’ve been reflecting …this has brought about unwanted thoughts and emotions. We all have good days and bad. Here’s a song that I can relate to right now.
https://youtu.be/GdiHbV0qmIw
Thanks hg. I read the other comments and now i see all narcissists will have a,similar type of reaction when someone goes no contact. Can’t wait till your vice book comes out!! I really enjoy your books and daily blogs!! You are a brilliant author.
Thank you Lizz, I appreciate you letting me know, do keep reading.
Good sunday H.G.
I’m very interest about the reaction of the other level of Narcissist, although I was not the formal partner (only recently I realized that I’m lucky that I’m not his wife although she is unaware of everything and lives happily) so I think think (you correct me if I’m wrong please) that i’m out of danger by large demonstrations of his fury simply because he could a bit angry but then will turn the attention on other new prey and forget me for ever.
He will not forget about you forever. Whether he turns his attention back to you Noah80 depends on whether there is a Hoover Trigger and the Hoover Execution Criteria are met.
This is all too familiar with me . The doors were locked & my car keys would be hidden along with my mobile phone, landline and laptop . I couldn’t contact anyone .
The times I tried to escape he would drag me back into the house or slash my car tires . He never cared that my neighbors could hear me screaming or about the repercussions just as long as he got me back .
I lost count of the number of times I had him arrested & from what I gathered he was always arsey with the police ( fuel ) What I never understood was WHY he kept on coming back .. It’s clear now . I was his main supply & he didn’t have enough in reserve .
Thanks HG ! I can put this question to bed 🙂
You are welcome NSS.
As always HG x
Does a victim narcissist react the same way hg??
Awesome information!. .can’t wait to read about the midrange reaction to no contact. Currently my situation..thank you