While I love most of the images on this blog this is one of the most powerful for restoring my psyche. I am 8 weeks post discard & now instead of picturing that powerful handsome businessman feigning heartbreak at my cruel addict abusive thieving hands, smearing me to his church community & our mutual friends even costing my daughter her boyfriend, I see a hapless ridiculous Pinocchio who is a puppet to his own fear.
Thankyou HG & congrats on the 2 mill+.
Im new here…..learning many painful truths. Things I already knew, but confirmation helps. Im in the battle of my life fighing to protect my 5 year old son and I from further abuse. My ex was arrested a month and a half ago and there is a protective order. In that time Ive gotten 2 jobs and am managing our home on my own. Im now working on getting my son on the protective order as that is my only shot at maintaining peace. I suppose Im what you refer to as a Super Empath. Ive been onto him for quite awhile and have thousands of text messages saved and in the end started recording his nonsense (legal in my state). Im confused about one thing however, in our 6 years together he idealized and devalued, but never really discarded me other then nights spent at casino. Im positive he cheated, but never went more then 3 hrs without being in touch. Everything else is on point. H G, I commend what you are doing and although your words burn me to the core I cannot take from you how powerfully you execute them.
Hello Weary Heart and welcome on board, thank you for your kind words. I take it you escaped him? That will have been why there was no discard. The nights he spent at the casino were Absent Silent Treatments. It is entirely possible to have a relationship of 6 years in length and throughout that time have the seduction and devaluation but for the discard not to yet happen and if you have escaped him (as it seems to be the case) you got in first.
So thankful you said that HG. It is all rooted in fear. When I saw the fear increase in the man I married as he knew I would leave him, the narcissism came out full force. The demon within him was released fiercely. HG do you think the therapy you go thru helps get to the fear? The root? Do you recognize the fear for what it is when it comes up or do you suppress it down and not deal with it? Do you think you could learn to deal with it and conquer it? Overcome it? Or do you think it will always be too painful to face?
The therapy is trying got address that fear, but I see no reason to address it, I have a highly effective method of keeping to at bay already. I have already conquered it and imprisoned it.
Huh… I see. However that does ultimately imprison you, your true self. I do note and get your thought process, however as long as you have imprisioned your own soul the true real HG can never be known or set free. So you have conquered the ability to capture and imprison true identity of self so that it does not exist, so therefore that manifests in you attempting to capture and imprison others true identity… well making them turn against themself and imprison their own true identity, but with you thinking you hold the key to the door. So what you do to others is a direct reflection of what you have done to yourself… self destruction… yet… self re-creation… who can be above the one that is able to re-create soul & spirit right?? OMG! It all makes total sense now. The spiritual war makes complete sense now! The original Narcissist is trying to prove he is above & better than the One True God by his own re-creation…. OMG!! And it makes you think you have all power, exactly what he promised to those that will follow him. The one I serve came to set the captives free… so there is freedom… the hindrance here is that most of you actually Don’t WANT to be free… b/c you want & love the power… and that is the one thing we can’t mess with… free will… OMG! Exactly what I’ve been waiting for! Thank you.
I never knew what a narcissit was..never even heard the word before until a few months ago. I had left my husband for the fourth time, and was on facebook. I opened a post and started reading. I was in total shock because they were describing him perfectly. Thank you so much for these posts. They are helping me heal and realize that I am not crazy.
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While I love most of the images on this blog this is one of the most powerful for restoring my psyche. I am 8 weeks post discard & now instead of picturing that powerful handsome businessman feigning heartbreak at my cruel addict abusive thieving hands, smearing me to his church community & our mutual friends even costing my daughter her boyfriend, I see a hapless ridiculous Pinocchio who is a puppet to his own fear.
Thankyou HG & congrats on the 2 mill+.
Thank you JR
Im new here…..learning many painful truths. Things I already knew, but confirmation helps. Im in the battle of my life fighing to protect my 5 year old son and I from further abuse. My ex was arrested a month and a half ago and there is a protective order. In that time Ive gotten 2 jobs and am managing our home on my own. Im now working on getting my son on the protective order as that is my only shot at maintaining peace. I suppose Im what you refer to as a Super Empath. Ive been onto him for quite awhile and have thousands of text messages saved and in the end started recording his nonsense (legal in my state). Im confused about one thing however, in our 6 years together he idealized and devalued, but never really discarded me other then nights spent at casino. Im positive he cheated, but never went more then 3 hrs without being in touch. Everything else is on point. H G, I commend what you are doing and although your words burn me to the core I cannot take from you how powerfully you execute them.
Hello Weary Heart and welcome on board, thank you for your kind words. I take it you escaped him? That will have been why there was no discard. The nights he spent at the casino were Absent Silent Treatments. It is entirely possible to have a relationship of 6 years in length and throughout that time have the seduction and devaluation but for the discard not to yet happen and if you have escaped him (as it seems to be the case) you got in first.
Fear makes one do many things
It also becomes second nature and soon lies are used even when theres no reason to lie at all. A way of life for many narcs
Exactly! They lie even when there is no reason to do it! So much so that they forget the lies they say!
Fear of what?
The loss of control, the loss of fuel, the loss of superiority amongst other things.
HOW can one assure You that You won’t loose above in order to stop You from lying dear G? THERE MUST BE A WAY?
hm???
So thankful you said that HG. It is all rooted in fear. When I saw the fear increase in the man I married as he knew I would leave him, the narcissism came out full force. The demon within him was released fiercely. HG do you think the therapy you go thru helps get to the fear? The root? Do you recognize the fear for what it is when it comes up or do you suppress it down and not deal with it? Do you think you could learn to deal with it and conquer it? Overcome it? Or do you think it will always be too painful to face?
The therapy is trying got address that fear, but I see no reason to address it, I have a highly effective method of keeping to at bay already. I have already conquered it and imprisoned it.
Huh… I see. However that does ultimately imprison you, your true self. I do note and get your thought process, however as long as you have imprisioned your own soul the true real HG can never be known or set free. So you have conquered the ability to capture and imprison true identity of self so that it does not exist, so therefore that manifests in you attempting to capture and imprison others true identity… well making them turn against themself and imprison their own true identity, but with you thinking you hold the key to the door. So what you do to others is a direct reflection of what you have done to yourself… self destruction… yet… self re-creation… who can be above the one that is able to re-create soul & spirit right?? OMG! It all makes total sense now. The spiritual war makes complete sense now! The original Narcissist is trying to prove he is above & better than the One True God by his own re-creation…. OMG!! And it makes you think you have all power, exactly what he promised to those that will follow him. The one I serve came to set the captives free… so there is freedom… the hindrance here is that most of you actually Don’t WANT to be free… b/c you want & love the power… and that is the one thing we can’t mess with… free will… OMG! Exactly what I’ve been waiting for! Thank you.
I never knew what a narcissit was..never even heard the word before until a few months ago. I had left my husband for the fourth time, and was on facebook. I opened a post and started reading. I was in total shock because they were describing him perfectly. Thank you so much for these posts. They are helping me heal and realize that I am not crazy.
Hello Roxana, no you are not crazy, you are just made to feel that way. keep reading, there is much to learn.