They actually are victims of their childhood and that’s why I feel so sorry for them. Many of you keep asking why they don’t/won’t change but they can’t. That part of their brain/personality couldn’t develop because they had to focus all energy on surviving their life with their Nparent. They didn’t have the luxury of learning to be empathic. They were victims and they survived mentally the only way they could. No ‘normal’ person will ever be able to understand. Mine is still reliving events that happened when he was 3, almost 40 years ago, always resentful of the lost childhood he never got to experience. My heart breaks for him because I know it/he can never be fixed and it wasn’t his fault.
OoW?,
I was a Narc and I changed. I was the coldest bitch. I tossed people aside like they were yesterday’s trash. I did not care. I used everyone, I was conniving and ruthless. I retaught myself how to act. It can be done. It takes time and work. You have to want it and go get it. I did that. So I must say that you really cannot make a blanket statement about not being able to change. It is application of knowledge. The force that actuates the mind, that causes the change. It made sense for me to change. If you have no reason to, why do it? Everyone chooses. I do not agree with being made by evolution this way. I believe we are made in God’s image and if he is love than nothing bad comes from him. He created us with his cardinal attributes. Love, wisdom, justice, power. We by free will choose how to act with the information we have.
I feel like I have made a turn in the road and bam there it is again. The victim card… It does two to tango. Live and learn… As many warned I took a blind eye
Spot on! It takes two to tango. You learn when you start asking yourself what and how you contributed to this toxic dance… and most importantly WHY, what the issue is within yourself… you reopen your wounds and examine them, to heal… so, in a way, I would have to thank my narc for reaching a higher level of awareness.
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They actually are victims of their childhood and that’s why I feel so sorry for them. Many of you keep asking why they don’t/won’t change but they can’t. That part of their brain/personality couldn’t develop because they had to focus all energy on surviving their life with their Nparent. They didn’t have the luxury of learning to be empathic. They were victims and they survived mentally the only way they could. No ‘normal’ person will ever be able to understand. Mine is still reliving events that happened when he was 3, almost 40 years ago, always resentful of the lost childhood he never got to experience. My heart breaks for him because I know it/he can never be fixed and it wasn’t his fault.
OoW?,
I was a Narc and I changed. I was the coldest bitch. I tossed people aside like they were yesterday’s trash. I did not care. I used everyone, I was conniving and ruthless. I retaught myself how to act. It can be done. It takes time and work. You have to want it and go get it. I did that. So I must say that you really cannot make a blanket statement about not being able to change. It is application of knowledge. The force that actuates the mind, that causes the change. It made sense for me to change. If you have no reason to, why do it? Everyone chooses. I do not agree with being made by evolution this way. I believe we are made in God’s image and if he is love than nothing bad comes from him. He created us with his cardinal attributes. Love, wisdom, justice, power. We by free will choose how to act with the information we have.
My narc got out free. After 1.5 months of no contact, I forgave him for everything.
I feel like I have made a turn in the road and bam there it is again. The victim card… It does two to tango. Live and learn… As many warned I took a blind eye
Badass empathic here ✊🏼 I own my merde, et u?
I own my own Red Merle- she is an Australian Shepherd. She has one blue and one brown eye.
Spot on! It takes two to tango. You learn when you start asking yourself what and how you contributed to this toxic dance… and most importantly WHY, what the issue is within yourself… you reopen your wounds and examine them, to heal… so, in a way, I would have to thank my narc for reaching a higher level of awareness.
That is so very true Matilda.
I am pleased that this resonates with you, alexissmith2016. We do understand one another in this space… I am learning something new every day 🙂
Lol…
I like his blue-striped tie with the black suit jacket, and clean nails.
seriously where do u get these? dead on…..never ending. impressive.
Please explain. I accept responsibility.
PS. Never claimed to he a good empath. Silent Treatment deserved.
lol i fall for that
You know the answer already 1jaded.
I don’t know much of anything, anymore.