Outraged
Fury is the instrument of the narcissist. It is a tool that we deploy in furtherance of our aims. The narcissist’s toolbox is a thing to behold. It contains many devices, objects and instruments that we deploy in order to secure our objectives. Other people may use these devices in a similar if diminished form but they will not be anywhere near as dangerous and effective as the ones that lurk in my toolkit. Some of these instruments are used to subjugate, others are deployed to control and yet again there are others that will be used for the purposes of manipulation. The placing of fury in this toolbox recognises its use to the narcissist as one of his prime instruments.
All of our kind bring the fury but what is it? It will be instructive to start by considering what it is not. Fury is not anger. Anger is below fury on the scale of violent responses. Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure or hostility. It is greater than vexation, it is something more than feeling cross and it is beyond exasperation. Notwithstanding this, it is less than fury. It does not contain the unbridled vitriol that is synonymous with fury. Nor does it contain the violent hostility that one finds with fury. What is most important to know about anger is that it is a normal emotion and thus by comparison, fury is an abnormal emotion, hence why fury sits in our toolkit. Anger is an intense emotional response that is normal in nature and arises as a consequence of real or perceived provocation. Anger in itself is neither good nor bad. It can be used for either purpose and it is down to the manner in which that particular person handles it. An individual may direct it into violence towards another person in order to protect him or herself from a threat. Alternatively, it may manifest in the destruction of property. You as a normal and empathic individual become angry. Indeed, as part of our mission to obtain fuel we strive to provoke anger in you, either through angry gestures or through angry words on your part. This provides us with fuel when you react in this emotional fashion. It is an acceptable and understandable response for an individual to become angry.
It is a normal response to a threat or harm. It also releases pressure that builds up inside a normal person. The expression of anger enables people to dissipate this pressure and thereafter feel spent but better for having been angry, as opposed to suppressing the sensation and allowing the pressure to build even further. Some normal people can only take a small amount of pressure before they blow a fuse whereas other people may be regarded as slow-burners who take a long time before they express anger. In either instance the response is an entirely normal one. People become angry for a host of different reasons.
You may agree that anger certainly serves a purpose and concur that helpful and beneficial consequences can arise from this normal emotion. I should imagine that you will also venture to suggest that there is a downside to anger, that results in destructive behaviour and violence. That is not anger. That is fury. That is when something beyond anger is experienced and this fury is more prevalent amongst my kind.
Interestingly, anger also results in a suspension of empathy by those who behave normally. The individual, through anger, becomes focussed on his or her own needs and requirements. This is not applicable to me. There is no empathy to suspend. That is why we do not deploy anger. We have no need of a device to suspend our empathy because we do not have any. This is a further reason why anger serves no actual purpose to us and why we must deploy fury instead. Anger is a normal reaction. We operate outside of the usual normative values. This normal anger serves certain purposes. None of those purposes are of any use to my kind and me. Anger can be regarded as a force for good. That is not something that we are interested in.
Fury is beyond anger. It is wrath, frenzy and savagery. Someone who is furious has gone the extra emotional mile. One might even consider it to be madness. The wild nature of fury causes it to surpass anger and fury is not to be found in the responses of the normal person. I will emphasise that point. You will not find fury as a response of a normal person. Anger? Yes. Fury? No. The deployment of fury is the hallmark of the abnormal. If fury were a normal reaction there would be chaos as explosions erupted everywhere. Most relationships would disintegrate, more people would be injured, and property broken and destroyed and the repercussions for society as a whole would be severe. The cost in terms of money, emotion and well-being would be enormous. Consider the number of times you have been angry. It has happened has it not? You will also be able to recall when your parents or at least one of them became angry, a friend, a stranger, a colleague or a partner. You have seen anger in everyone and that is because it is normal. They may have used that anger for some purpose, kept it in check or let it flow over them and dissipate with no consequence. For those of you have had an encounter with fury, you will also know it. It will have happened amongst fewer people than the categories that I have just mentioned. This is because the development of people has been such that fury cannot become the norm. If it does then society would begin to break down. You may have seen many instances of fury from one particular individual. That is because that person is not normal. They are the exception.
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Excellent article. FYI, Fury was also the name of a television show I grew up watching. It was about a basically nice horse who could also get very pissed off now and then.
Thank you. You like horses don’t you?
HG, do you rage at yourself? If so is self rage ever in front of others or would that be a manipulation?
Sorry I type same question earlier yet it belongs here.
Example friend knocked over a glass of wine and began raging at herself. Stomping screaming and distorted face. Calling herself stupid, etc. lasted about 10-20 minutes. Not the first time she has raged but the first time she has self raged. Or was this a ploy to get out of doing the dinner dishes?
Hi Janie, assuming you were witnessing this raging it will have been done to draw a response from you
“What’s wrong, calm down?”
“Hey it id okay, it is only some wine”
and thus gain fuel.
(Oh and to avoid the dishes as well as we do not do menial chores unless absolutely necessary)
The episodic rages of fury sometimes come out of no where
I was just thinking: I noticed on the other hand that your kind can seem very patient, kind of enduring and non-getting-angry at all, like, when I made a mistake or broke something. I know you stated it yourself in your post, but what do you think in situations when a person operating within normal range would get angry? What do you think when someone scratches your car by accident?
If someone scratches my car by accident it infuriates me but I will initially control the fury as I ascertain what can be gained from the situation.
I have felt such fury as a BPD. I have gone after some in this fury in order to kill. But, had I achieved this outcome, I would have felt deep remorse afterward. But, during the fury I do not feel the remorse, of course. I am on medication that curtails this streak, among other things.
My narc is an introverted, quiet mid-ranger. When i first saw his fury during devaluation, i was surprised and shocked. I guess he kept it well under control.
🙂
*laughs*
Glad you like it. 😉
Like “Yeahtsorn”. ;D
Danke Izzy 😁
We have a special word in German for ‘violent fit of temper’. People who constantly have a very bad temper over nothing. Do you think that’s the same? I have an ex-partner who was like stomping up and down the room while having violent outbursts of words…. or he ran out of the house. Especially when he felt criticized. Is it the same? And it’s not necessarily narcissistic?
I think it is the same and I think it is a narcissistic trait even though it may not mean that that person is a narcissist. What is the word in German?
Jähzorn.
I like.
Copycat
You are funny!!
Well then, if HG like, then it be likable enough for me to steal away for my own
____7th identity__
Jähzorn.
After all, I am of German heritage, and it sounds SO much better than “That F___king B___h!”
By the way, that is ALL the Narc next door had to say to the police one of the last times she was able to abuse the right to have officers respond to protect her from me, her feather mocking victim. Burning rubber up BOTH blocks to take lengthy statements from the drunk across the street
(“Yoooou got the devil in You GiiiiRL!)
((I remember thinking “Great, next I’ll get Small Pox, and die.”)
Fury sounded like this from my front yard
“That F___king B___h! SqUAkkkK!
That F____King B____h! SqqQquaAAK!
That F___king B___h SssQuUaaK
FunFUNfunny
*Well, she does have a Cockatoo, but I’m certain it was her fueling on Officer Snail, I mean Snell.
SquaK!Squak!
Just blows my mind nobody ever catches how freaking awful and just plain damned-like she is.
Go team SuperEmp
I sold my 2 houses….at a loss…..feeling better, and if not, well, there’s always gemstomes.
hehe
What. In. The. Actual. Fuck.
Never seen anyone get so worked up over jazz hands.
It sounds sexy when you pronounce the J. But I was saying it all wrong. I looked it up and it is pronounced ‘it-sorn’.
Kinda like shit storm. Lol!
When you calm down, I will give you a clean shave…I like to pamper someone.
Oh W, Mr. Tudor has a breathtaking shaving ritual. You will be hypnotized just by watching. I wish he would make a video!
🙂
And, you are thinking of me, thus the look of fury.
I think this is a pic of you, M. Tudor, snuck in there…