The Narcissistic Truths – No. 105
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Yes, he has mentally, emotionally, and physically.
On Dec 29, 2016 10:57 PM, “Knowing the Narcissist” wrote:
> HG Tudor posted: “” >
My ex was taking everything away from me. I didn’t realize how much of me was disappearing. When someone takes all of your happiness, anger, and sadness, it’s no wonder we feel drained and then you feel full. You sucked everything out.
At the end of every day I felt the exhaustion but it didn’t matter, I kept going.
I did think to myself that I was in a tumultuous relationship, but I dismissed all thoughts like that. I had myself convinced that I had the best thing out there. A soul mate and a best friend.
I still have days that I just like to sit and do nothing and talk to no one.
I’m glad the holidays are over. I’m ready for my quiet days to return.
Hi Snow White .
How are you ?
I picked up on your comment “I still have days that I just like to sit and do nothing and talk to no one.” and can so relate to it .
Personally I think it’s a way escaping the turmoil & giving how emotions time to heal .
There still are days where I just want silence. I’m not sure if you can relate to that but I’ve found it very healing 🙂
Did I read somewhere you’re flying off to Florida soon ? I’m sooo not jealous 🙁 🙂
NNS x
No!! If HG is off to Florida, I shall be off to Argentina- wherever he is not is where I shall go!!
Please stay on your side of the ocean! Please!
Why is it that we do not recognise emotional injury and it’s impact?
There is so much that happens during the day we suppress, including in relationships, in the name of “getting things done” or “being considerate” and I’m astounded at what happens that injures us without us noticing.
I’m in my thirties and it wasn’t until I watched a movie with an abusive narcissistic mother / daughter dynamic (Black Swan) as I am a dancer too, all of these injuries I had from her that I never allowed myself to acknowledge just to “keep things smooth.” In truth I think we are so shocked by narcissists’ behaviour or subtlety that we think to ourselves “it is not possible for someone to be that bad. It is not possible for what I just saw/heard to have happened.” When in fact it is as pure shit as what you have just seen.
I am writing this because of all the times I’ve allowed narc friends or anyone back in, it always, and I repeat ALWAYS, returns to abuse and abandonment. They know you enjoy them because they will give you validation or adventures nobody else would and it is the drug. Please protect yourself.
Analysing my mother’s behaviour now, I see she was basically cutting me with a machete left, right and centre with her words and actions. The narcissist is skilled at making you turn your attention away from the impact on you via projection, victim pity, taking on your traits, “we’re in this together” anything to stop you seeing the cuts. You must ask, what do I deserve, and am I getting it?
Made me think of Doc Ock from the Spider-Man movie.
Good ole Alfred Molina.
One of my favorite actors, know any HG?
Several.
From now on, I shall think of you as a scary, poisonous spider with a British accent!
If that works for you WP so be it!
It does, M. Tudor, but if you ever change into a beautiful butterfly, let me know. I shall not hold my breath, however.
WP, lol!
🙂
Scary picture!
This is where our choices come in. In the case of mosquitoes, I would be using repellent and swatting them away. They would still find ways to land/connect and suck but I would make every attempt to shoo them away. It is difficult to do that with people. You have taught us how to seize the power. Thank you.
My narc left me confused, panic stricken, depressed, disoriented, and unsettled during devaluation. But devaluation is over now, and he is now being kind (maybe due to his current depression).
Pstd . Hi!
More like pity play to garner some of that empathetic fuel from you & hoover you back.
Let him wallow in his own misery, in fact hide his meds & give him a knife & a bucket to end it all !!, that’s if he actually has depression, remember they are good liars .
P.s Joking about the knife & bucket but given the chance I would . * queue Evil Laugh 🙂 x
Hi NSS! You are right. He may be trying to get sympathy frm me. HG has suggested this as well. But whatever it may be, i find it very difficult to leave him be in this situation.
The imagery of hiding his meds reminded me of HG hiding gifts at xmas time to gain fuel! Haha!! 😂
Hahah Ptsd ! That made me smile 🙂
Personally I think he is using alleged ” depression ” to bind you too him & by staying sadly he’s still controlling and manipulating you .
You said how devastated he left you and I understand that . Always one last chance to redeem themselves but did he care ? the simple answer is no he didn’t & you shouldn’t either .
Please forgive me If I sound harsh Ptsd I don’t mean to .
x
P.s
Can I ask who told you about it ? Have you seen any medical evidence? not that would be worth the paper it’s written on because as proved narcs can virtually manipulate anyone they choose . Doctors included.
NSS, you are not being harsh at all. My narc told me about the depression himself numerous times after we re-established contact. You are right, he may be lying😣
But since he no longer has an ipps, and is low on fuel, i am inclined to believe him.
And for some reason, i tend to have abuse amnesia, forget the past, and focus on the present. Presently, I just cannot see him so sad. I want him to be ‘not so sad’ 😄
But i do like maintaining contact with him. He is not being abusive, and if i don’t contact him, he contacts me every few days to ‘check up’ on me and ‘make sure i’m ok.’
Haha. Ptsd . ” Not so sad ” that made me laugh. You really have a great sense of humor 🙂
If you’re happy with the situation as it is, then I’m not going to try & change your mind, ultimately it has to be your decision .
Thank you for being so open & candid with your reply I understand how difficult it can be even with strangers on the internet 🙂
Ptsd . I really hope 2017 is a great year for you .
NNS xx
Thank you NSS. I appreciate your comment. And happy new year to you too!