HG.. Bears are cute. Bears are also distinguishable by their bear-like features. As humans we are (hopefully) taught that bears will harm you. There are literal signs telling you not to feed, pet, or engage with bears. When I see videos of people running away from bears bc human tried any of these things, I’ve laughed. Call me evil. One can easily distinguish a bear. That is the difference.
People with npd are human. They are charming. Signs can be made…do not feed, pet or engage with a narcissist, but how can one tell? Usually, it is too late. Someone should invent a device.
I will project my feelings here and say that doesn’t everyone want someone who is really sweet but at the same time scares them just a little bit? Must be my childhood abuse talking, eh?
I think a lot of us want someone who will challenge us. Although I’d rather have someone with strong opinions who likes to debate, or is quick-thinking enough to have good banter with.
Would rather avoid those with a narcissistic urge to be in control and devour my energy, though!
Why does it seem like all the decent men are too dull?
I will give the decent men a chance, now, but to be frank, that’s what I thought I was doing with my primary narc. He started off very quiet, no opinions of his own, no decent banter. I was actually pretty bored by him early on. But then things got twisty. How the flip are you supposed to tell?!
Chaotic behavior doesn’t go with decent. That’s the problem. We need just the right balance of stable/crazy. My husband is purely stable. Thank God I score high on the crazy/beautiful scale as seen on the TV show, How I met your mother. Otherwise he would have never fell for it….lol!
Challenge, fun and adventurous doesn’t have to come with abuse. Yeah far better to get in debates, go on crazy trips, then get into ugly endless mindgames. I really don’t have the long term interest in them. I burn out way too fast. Its not what I fundamentally enjoy in any way.
I’ve been through your site and I cannot deny the thruths you are sharing, however, there is something very disturbing about this.
It is disturbing to discuss these things with someone (you!) that will not feel any remorse of any kind, moreover, someone who is going to enjoy the pain and the confusion he may bring.
You say you welcome the open discussion but how do I know this isn’t just another way, a clever one, for you to get the supply you need?
Hello Giulia because you are a remote stranger (as is everybody on this blog) and therefore the responses I receive come from remote strangers through an electronic medium. The fuel is weak in that regard and so if I was doing this purely to gain fuel, I would not be well fuelled at all.
No, scratch that he fell in love with HER in the movie.
One Apple ruined the whole crop. We have been down graded from an appliance to a electronic device. At least most appliances or essential to daily living.
H.G. what if i start at 5 :50 am you think that will warrant an upgrade to appliance?
Lol Sorry HG I don’t see you or any of your kind as a bear, bears are predictable in a sense, not a freaking mountain lion or any other cat for that matter, hell they are sneaky bastards and you never see them coming, until its to late.
Victimize me once, and I will rise again, victimize me by the inability to prosper from what hurt me, and I will wither and die. We must find purpose for our pain and a healthy way to transfer it to good or we will wallow in it like masochists.
Difficult cats, difficult men, you better let me pick your next date. Btw I don’t have a cat. 😸 I being the good empath I am, have a dog 🐶. Yes, because I need that kind of assurance.
We see. But we ignore because it feels so good. Rephrase, we feel the danger (nagging feeling inside) but fail to see. We want to fulfill our own selfish desires.
I agree, we do know, our instinct tells us very early… it’s how we choose to proceed… for me it was a game.. as he mirrored me; I mirrored him.. I knew he wanted fuel so I played along. I loved the danger of the game… funny thing is silly little Narc did not know me as he thought…. giggling
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HG.. Bears are cute. Bears are also distinguishable by their bear-like features. As humans we are (hopefully) taught that bears will harm you. There are literal signs telling you not to feed, pet, or engage with bears. When I see videos of people running away from bears bc human tried any of these things, I’ve laughed. Call me evil. One can easily distinguish a bear. That is the difference.
People with npd are human. They are charming. Signs can be made…do not feed, pet or engage with a narcissist, but how can one tell? Usually, it is too late. Someone should invent a device.
I will project my feelings here and say that doesn’t everyone want someone who is really sweet but at the same time scares them just a little bit? Must be my childhood abuse talking, eh?
I think a lot of us want someone who will challenge us. Although I’d rather have someone with strong opinions who likes to debate, or is quick-thinking enough to have good banter with.
Would rather avoid those with a narcissistic urge to be in control and devour my energy, though!
Why does it seem like all the decent men are too dull?
I will give the decent men a chance, now, but to be frank, that’s what I thought I was doing with my primary narc. He started off very quiet, no opinions of his own, no decent banter. I was actually pretty bored by him early on. But then things got twisty. How the flip are you supposed to tell?!
Chaotic behavior doesn’t go with decent. That’s the problem. We need just the right balance of stable/crazy. My husband is purely stable. Thank God I score high on the crazy/beautiful scale as seen on the TV show, How I met your mother. Otherwise he would have never fell for it….lol!
Challenge, fun and adventurous doesn’t have to come with abuse. Yeah far better to get in debates, go on crazy trips, then get into ugly endless mindgames. I really don’t have the long term interest in them. I burn out way too fast. Its not what I fundamentally enjoy in any way.
This explains my deep love for Jack Bauer. Sweet, good, utterly ruthless and would torture and kill you in a heartbeat if he had to.
Of course he would be sorry – HG would not.
I’ve been through your site and I cannot deny the thruths you are sharing, however, there is something very disturbing about this.
It is disturbing to discuss these things with someone (you!) that will not feel any remorse of any kind, moreover, someone who is going to enjoy the pain and the confusion he may bring.
You say you welcome the open discussion but how do I know this isn’t just another way, a clever one, for you to get the supply you need?
Hello Giulia because you are a remote stranger (as is everybody on this blog) and therefore the responses I receive come from remote strangers through an electronic medium. The fuel is weak in that regard and so if I was doing this purely to gain fuel, I would not be well fuelled at all.
Oh I have failed you Mr. Tudor! 😞
I need a melodramatic emoticon to better represent me.
Love,
You deserve a whole line of emojis for your own personal style. Lol
No blurred lines…Let that sit for a moment.
We are HER (IOS) in the eyes of HG.
No, scratch that he fell in love with HER in the movie.
One Apple ruined the whole crop. We have been down graded from an appliance to a electronic device. At least most appliances or essential to daily living.
H.G. what if i start at 5 :50 am you think that will warrant an upgrade to appliance?
https://youtu.be/NJ6jv_lPBN8
Lol Sorry HG I don’t see you or any of your kind as a bear, bears are predictable in a sense, not a freaking mountain lion or any other cat for that matter, hell they are sneaky bastards and you never see them coming, until its to late.
That’s a beautiful picture HG.
So cuddly and cute but he will eat you alive.
Welcome to me!
But if we’re masochists, then the danger is intoxicating. Lol
Victimize me once, and I will rise again, victimize me by the inability to prosper from what hurt me, and I will wither and die. We must find purpose for our pain and a healthy way to transfer it to good or we will wallow in it like masochists.
It is indeed
Ooh! A Bear! I shall take him home and love him and pet him and feed him and I shall call him HG.
I want a bear now.
Ha ha Flick!
To be honest, I rather like poking the bear.
Me too! 🙂 – That sounds really rude actually!
I’m definitely calling my next kitten HG
Be warned it will not do what you want.
Does any cat? Perhaps that’s the attraction??
My cat does exactly what it’s told. Oh are you talking about literal cats?
Is your cat broken or did I just pick particularly difficult cats? My cats are a law unto themselves.
Difficult cats, difficult men, you better let me pick your next date. Btw I don’t have a cat. 😸 I being the good empath I am, have a dog 🐶. Yes, because I need that kind of assurance.
Well I was going to ask if your cat barked! I obviously can’t pick them myself!
Lol Flicka, in the US, cat is slang for something else … 😉
And that is the truth… until you’re way in deep.
Very true. Love the pic!
Ooooooooooh he is sooooo cute!!! ❤🐻❤
We see. But we ignore because it feels so good. Rephrase, we feel the danger (nagging feeling inside) but fail to see. We want to fulfill our own selfish desires.
I agree, we do know, our instinct tells us very early… it’s how we choose to proceed… for me it was a game.. as he mirrored me; I mirrored him.. I knew he wanted fuel so I played along. I loved the danger of the game… funny thing is silly little Narc did not know me as he thought…. giggling