Ten Seductive Sentences
The Perfect Ten Sentences of Seduction
What is really meant when we say these words.
1. I love you and I always have
My need to seduce you is considerable and therefore I will use language which will appeal to you and be so outlandish that it will blow you away. I do not actually love you. I do not love in the way that you do. I understand that the closest I come to it is infatuation. I am not in fact infatuated with you but more precisely with what you can do for me. My needs are paramount. Yours are largely irrelevant. I write irrelevant because I do take them into account during the seduction but after that they are thrown to one side. I love the fact you fuel me, allow me to steal traits of your for my own use and you give me shelter, meals and money.
2. We are soulmates
I know you are a big believer in emotional concepts such as love, spirituality and the soul. I need to tap into that and I need to do so quickly. I want to suggest that our love goes beyond this earthly plane on which we stand and it is something all the more ethereal and noble. That ought to impress you and cause you to become bound to me. I am not your soul mate, I am here to steal your soul because I do not have one.
3. I have not loved anyone like this before
There will be half a dozen willing witnesses who will testify to the contrary. In my world however I have deleted them from my mind (except when I fancy hoovering them and triangulating them with you for some extra fuel) and there was nothing like what I feel for you now. They are defunct and redundant, an unfortunate reminder of an abuser who trapped me. They do not matter now, you are all that matters to me now, your fuel, to be accurate, is all that matters to me now.
4. I want us to be together forever
There is no want about it. We are already locked together forever. You may not think this and indeed somewhere along the line you will want to escape me, although quite why that is when you are the problem, is beyond me. Anyway, that is for later. Right now you have agreed (although you will never recall having said such words to that effect) to remain my property for the rest of your life. This means that everything you own, have and are now belongs to me and I will deal with it in whatever fashion I see fit. I will use and abuse you over and over again as this is my right. Just when you think I have disappeared I will be back more. This is a life-long covenant.
5. We have so much in common
What a wonderful occurrence, such serendipity that everything you like I like as well. Even better, all the things that you do not like, I do not like either. It as if we are two halves of one perfect person. That is exactly what I see because all I will do is mirror you. I have spent time watching you, observing you, finding out about you from friends and scouring your internet footprint in order to learn as much as I can about you so that I can present myself as mirror image. I actually cannot stand listening to Coldplay but that isn’t going to stand in the way of my replication so I seduce you with incredible speed and ease.
6. I hate it when we are apart
A rare nugget of truth here. I do hate it when we are apart but for the reasons I have made you think. You think it is because I miss the wonderful, kind, humorous and delightful you. I actually miss all that positive fuel you supply me with when we are together as you are taken in by this illusion that I have created. Moreover I hate the fact that when I am not with you I cannot control your environment and I am concerned that with space to think and breathe you may just see through what I am doing or even worse, you may listen to one of your so-called friends who will be whispering in your ear and briefing against me. I don’t want your head turned elsewhere. I want it looking at me. Always.
7. Nobody can love you the way I do.
Amazingly another piece of truth. Nobody else can love you in this way because none of it is real. This is all made-up in order to attract you and bind you to me because if you saw what I was really like (not that I would ever allow that to happen) you would run screaming and never return. Accordingly, I will love you in a way that you are unlikely to have experienced before by deluging you with desire and then nearly destroying you through malice and vitriolic hatred. Told you I was special.
8. I can’t believe we have only just met. I feel like I’ve known you forever. Let’s live together.
It feels familiar to me because you are giving me positive fuel just like your predecessor and the one before her and the one before her as well. I do not distinguish between you, not really, because you are all appliances to me which I want to ensnare and then drain as you pump out delicious fuel for me to consume. I say this though to make you feel special and because I am obviously so wonderful and brilliant you will be thrilled that someone like me wants to live with you. This will make you grab this marvellous opportunity before you lose it and then I have ensnared you.
9. I need you. I want you. I love you.
Sounds dramatic and romantic doesn’t it? Makes you feel as if everything is focussed on you and I could not live without you. Notice how many times I used the word “I”? That’s because this is all about me and nothing to do with you save for what you can do for me. I really mean that I need your fuel, I want your fuel and I love your fuel.
10. You have saved me.
Yet more drama straight from the romantic handbook. I know your type. That is why I chose you. You like to fix, heal and save. You will have plenty to do in that regard, believe me, but that will come later. For now what I really mean is that you have saved me having to look anywhere else for fuel. Time to feed.
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I am so glas i found this site. Thank you for your support and time! So i became suspicious of my bf and the endless meaningless drama initiated by him. We know each other since childhood, lived nearby and know our families. We have always been friends. So after we found each other again recently and started dating I quickly recognized mental issues like being overly obsessive and jealous for no reason. I must say since I know all the family I can assure that both parents and also many relatives are suffering from narcsissist disorders and are just horrible. However he is my friend and everything turned out perfectly with us. My friends told me he is so honestly in love it is crazy. My parents adore him and our relationships brought me closer to them. Yet after a while he never seemed satisfied with what I contribute to the relationship and how i fullfill his wishes and needs.This usually leds to pointless conversations when I quickly started to ignorie these accusations and directly confronted him with the real issue here: him being psycho AF and trying to manipulate and control me. I feel he gets passive agressive when my attention is on anything but him. Several times feel like I get to him and in many ways he is even a real support to me in my life. Its not that he is ever trying to humiliate or talk down to me neither he tries to lower my self worth. I can really say he is supportive indeed- unless there are certain points of arguments when there is no point to go back and you can see how dirty and mean a person can be. However these fights can occur without someone being a narc? For myself I can say that I am a very rational person that keeps fighting for her boundries so I am at a point nos really to question this. I know for now that i really think my bf loves me like usually people would define love and he also has emphaty and has understanding for me having to endure his crazy behavior. He is doing therapy and has even successfully done it before which has changed his life for the better. Also I can tell from what I now from other relationships he had (we have been best friends) that he is not lying at the moment about anything. However he is panicing that I could leave. Do all narcs lie? Thank you for your good work and all the best! 🙂
of course.
It is just that i have no clue of what you are talking about.. but it doesn’ t matter really…i do not need to know.
ohh.. okay. thanks
who’s the blog’s resident multi-name and symbol using individual?
Forgive my ignorance.
It would take too long to write out all the names and symbols.
I hear it all the time.
8 years of declaration of love.
Who can resist that?
There is always a ray of hope
for the one of mi kind.
The addiction to it is too strong .
We are not even living together.
I think that we’ ll never will.
But words are so powerful…
ohhhh… so powerful.
HG, could one thing though be true?
Could i be the only one or it is just an illusion like everything else?
Are there some Narcissists that for whatever reasons stick to only one source?
Please give me some imput .
Heard all of them, my goodness, story of my life.
Funnily enough, even in platonic relationships of the same sex.
You know, the frenemies who utter statements like “We have so much in common. We are just like sisters!” only one month after you’ve met them.
Most of these statements also form part of chick flicks/valentine movies. Who writes these scripts? Lol.
NP
platonic relationships.
they thrive in that even more.. because when an empath gets into a deep platonic relationship they are more apt to be in their best enviroment and thus gives lots of fluel to the Narcs .. because of the very nature of the realtionship which is built up on ” pure platonic spiritual love ” .. which is real attraction for some Christian emphats ..
Oh, the narc love script. There it is. It’s used over and over again – Each one thinks she is his last stop. Lol!
I’m not sure this is the place for it but I have questions regarding a friend. I couldn’t find any information about narcissists and depression by using the search feature.
A friend is involved with a man she met online. She has dated a narcissist before, and believes she can spot one so she is convinced this man is sweet and valnerable and that I’m overly paranoid to suspect another narcissist. This man claims his ex wife, who was half his age, cheated on him and scammed him out of his life savings. He’s in his mid 40’s and now lives with his mother.
My friend was dating him for only a month before admitting to him she had fallen for him even though he did return the same sentiments. She said he was texting her all the time at first and was always so attentive when they were together. He couldn’t keep his hands off her, she claims.
The first red flag was that he never called my friend, only texted which bothered her, and she finally spoke to him about it after two months of dating. After this conversation, he agreed to call her while she was on her next business trip and yet never did.
Then his ex wife, who is apparently living abroad contacted him via Skype and got angry with him. Immediately after, he became distant with my friend. He made excuses not to see her and after this had gone on for 5 weeks, she called him to ask him if it was about her. He claimed he was stressed out by his life and could not see her right now. But he assured her it wasn’t her and now he still contacts her sporadically, sending photos of himself looking sad and downtrodden. She has tried to help him by sending him links to counselling resources and support groups but he has declined.
She has not seen him since the Skype session with his ex two months ago, but still thinks there is hope once he finds a job and recovers from his awful marriage. She blames his ex wife and claims the wife has a personality disorder.
My friend became so distressed and depressed over this man, she could not leave her apartment for days and claims she often spends evenings in bed crying for him. She believes he’s a sad soul who has been treated horribly by his ex. Recently, he didn’t text her for 10 days so she called him. He texted her back but didn’t call. He will text with her for a day or so and then disappear again for days or weeks.
I suspect he is using her for an ego stoke or getting off on her pining for him. He told her he wasn’t in the place to give her a relationship right now and she told him he could call her when he was, even if it was a year from now, She is a mess, bursting into tears when the conversation turns to him.
I think he is a narcissist who has found new supply. She thinks he is an abused man with a narcissistic ex wife who is traumatized. She believes she can help him feel better if he agrees to see her even if only for a hug.
So my question are, after that horribly long story — has this man discarded her and is he using his so-called depression as an excuse for the occasional hoover? Or could this man really be depressed and continues to text my friend because he cares for her even though he can’t offer her a relationship right now?
Thanks. Highly informative site, by the way.
Hello Ella, thank you for your compliments.
1. His behaviour is that of a narcissist.
2. Your friend was being groomed as an Intimate Partner Secondary Source with a view to her becoming the Intimate Partner Primary Source.
3. Her promotion to IPPS did not happen because the narcissist granted a respite period to his wife (the current IPPS) and therefore your friend was placed on the shelf.
4. He will hoover her in due course if he regards it as worth doing.
The only one I got that remotely resembles any of these is “You have touched my soul.” Which is quite ironic considering he doesn’t have a soul. Oh how I would love to through that little grenade at him.
Here are some to add to the list:
1. You make me want to be a better man
2. You are IN my soul
3. This is my last shot at happiness (seductive because it implies that no one comes after me. HAR!)
Seduction. So sweet. So lovely.
The third one is great. When I discarded my ex he said it was game over for him, he couldn’t possibly fall in love with any woman after having me … the last part was true at least cause he can’t love. Period.
“Accordingly, I will love you in a way that you are unlikely to have experienced before by deluging you with desire and then nearly destroying you through malice and vitriolic hatred. Told you I was special.” Okay, this actually made me laugh. Not a hearty joyful laugh…more a sardonic laugh. Yes, you and your kind are indeed special, HG. 😀 😀
After showing me tears (fake I now know) handing the driving over to me (too intoxicated) and promising to never leave me if we ever made a mistake during an intimate encounter (a lie), I was asked “Are you ready to be with me forever? Say yes.” I didn’t answer. Obviously I already had. I also heard “you sound just like(insert name)” by what I now know to be his coterie on many occasions. Didn’t know he had done the research to pre-mirror me to others. Without a lifelong friend throwing the word Narcissist in the air, I would’ve stayed stuck in “why & how can someone?” forever! This has become the most empowering internet search of my life.
This list is very confusing to me. I was the one who said all of those, except for 8 and 10. Except that I wouldn’t interpret them all the same way you did. I said things to him I have never said to anyone. I still do not understand that part at all. Nor do I understand how something flipped in me at some point and I couldn’t stop doing any thing but challenge him. At one point, very astutely, he said when I picked a fight with him (yet another fight), “If you want to say hi, why not just say hi? Say, how’s it going, what’s up? Instead, you want world war III.” He was right in many aspects. I was dying to hear from him wanting to talk. But I guess when I realized nothing was behind his version of what he said above, I reacted over and over. I found no comfortable role for myself. No way was I going to be one of his Coterie, he had shown me I didn’t mean much to him, and yet the longing hadn’t died. I was in no man’s land left profoundly hurt but refusing to be turned into one of his harem members. I have never felt such painful conflict before that the one person I wanted, was right there, would tell me even, I am not going anywhere, I am here and yet… and yet….. I felt so helpless and one down’ed to him and I refused to ever accept what he was offering. I don’t even know what it was, but it wasn’t what I was led to believe was going on, despite all his massive denials. I didn’t just pull it all out of a hat and invent everything on my own. But I could just never accept that he was there for. I couldn’t accept anything he said as truth. I am not even sure how it was that it was ME saying all that in the end. I feel like we switched roles entirely.
It creeps me out and fascinates me reading your work. It is like reading my life story. But thank you, this blog is invaluable.
You are welcome.
You’ve only proclaimed the uniqueness of your love to 7 women? Could my past be more sordid than yours?
No. The reference to half a dozen is an example on the basis of the comment being said by narcissists in general, it was not specific to my history.
I don’t think anyone had ever said any of these to me.
Shit – is that good or bad? It’s hard to tell anymore!
Lol Flicka, these are my words to them.
Fascinating yet creepy.