The Hateful Eight
When you speak, this is what we actually hear. We hear the words but the effect differs. You say the words in bold but beneath is what we really hear you say to us.
- I Love you
I admire you. I adore you. You are a god. You are a prince among men. Nobody does it better. You are a king, an emperor, a champion. You are everything that I have ever wanted. I would wither and die were it not for you. I want to be with you forever. I want to worship beneath you and give thanks minute by minute that someone so scintillating, so special and so brilliant as you would choose me to be by your side. I will give you sweet, potent and invigorating fuel now and forever. I am bound to you now, do as you will.
- Please leave me alone
Stay and punish me. I am disloyal and a traitor. I have wronged you on so many occasions and I deserve everything that I get. I am weak, pathetic and disgusting and I am amazed at your generosity in remaining with me. I have failed you and I am so unworthy I wish to crawl into a hole and die there but I ought to face you and accept my punishment because my treacherous behaviour deserves nothing less. Continue to berate and denigrate me and reinforce why you are so much better than me.
- Why are you doing this to me?
I am challenging your right to treat me like this because I am suggesting that you are not entitled to do this. I am making it plain that you are not superior to me and you have no basis for behaving like this. I am trying to make you feel small and weak because I am disloyal and I am always looking for ways to stop you getting fuel. I am a traitor, a fifth columnist who is seeking to bring you down and topple this empire that you have created. I am criticising your entitlement. Do you hear that word you hate so much? Criticise. You need to carry on and punish me.
- What would you like for dinner?
I am trying to irritate you by suggesting that I do not already know. I am doing this because I am suggesting that I do not think ahead, plan and second guess to cater for your every need. Do you know why I am suggesting that? Do you know why I am pretending that I do not already know? It is because I want to strip you of your special and superior status. Yes, this is another of my seditious acts which is designed to make you think and feel that you are losing your power over me. It’s working isn’t it? You are feeling weakened and you are wondering what other treacherous acts I will engage in. Why don’t you lose your temper and throw something about? That will show me.
5. I think the blue shirt looks better on you
I am telling you that your choice of the red shirt is a bad one. Do you know why that it is? It is because you know nothing about clothes and fashion. In fact I am going further than that because I am actually telling you that you know nothing at all and I know better than you. Yes, can you believe it? Little old stupid me knows more than this supposed god that stands before me. How does that make you feel now eh? I love doing this. I love to challenge your choices and make you appear stupid next to me, a person who is apparently useless. Does this hurt? I thought so. That is why I do it because I am trying to destroy you with comments like this. I think you should storm out of the room and leave the house for a couple of days so I know who is in charge.
6.There’s something wrong with you
I am on to you. I know what you are. I know there is something rotten in the state of you. You are warped, evil and not the person you make out to be. I am not fooled any longer by your showmanship and I am going to tell everyone about you. I know the truth of what you are. Oh I know, how can I know when I am the one who has the problem. I know that I’m really the crazy one and I do nothing but make your life hell, but I am trying to brush that under the carpet by suggesting that you are the oddball, the maniac, the fruit loop, the kerazy wild-eyed freak. How dare I do so when I am the one that is obviously ill and needs help. I know I do but I like to play this game with you but it’s okay, you should go and tell everyone else what I am doing again and why not arrange for me to see a doctor too to give it a real ring of authenticity?
7. Please don’t leave me
I am weak and pathetic and useless. I should have known better than to fail you. I will do anything, anything at all to make you stay with me. You can treat me even worse now. Do what you will to me, I am nothing compared to you. I should be punished for my transgressions because I am so pathetic compared to your greatness. I am nothing without you. You have given me everything and like a spoilt child I have been so ungrateful but I need you. There I have said it. I need you so, so much because you are fantastic and you do so much for me and I am just a horrible person. You can treat me like dirt because that is what I deserve but why not ensure I get the message by walking out and staying away for several weeks without ever getting in touch. That should show who is boss shouldn’t it?
8. It is over.
Well I have said that but that is not what I meant. I meant I am an idiot and I say things which I do not mean because let’s be honest, there must be something wrong with me if I want to be apart from someone like you, someone so special, kind and wonderful who has only ever tried to do the right thing and someone who has only ever had my best interests at heart. I don’t mean it really. I am just doing it for attention, but I need you to tell me why I should stay and it would be great if you cried a bit too, just to make it look like you are really upset by me telling you it is over. Go on, squeeze a couple out to show me you really are human and can be hurt by my horrible threat. Oh and don’t be concerned, I know you finished it first.
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I feel
1. Interested.
2. Surprised.
3. Sceptical.
4. Disappointed.
5. Annoyed.
6. Resentful.
7. Disgusted.
8. Interested.
I thought “Love” would be here for sure… she missed an opportunity to rush in with her, “I LOVE YOU, HG”; “HG IS BRILLIANT”; “I WANT TO KISS THE TOILET PAPER HE USES”; “I WANT HIM TO WIPE HIS MUDDY FEET ON MY BEFORE HE COME INDOORS”. Hmmm, I guess that “Love” character must be busy on another one of HG’s post at this time, licking the lint out of his belly button, elsewhere…
This article is very interesting.
Thank you
You are welcome The Bridge.
I have always felt that this is why it is such a difficult thing to divorce someone with combative personalities. I think they say things and do things they don’t really mean but aren’t sure how to get out of it without saying they were wrong and I’m sorry. Things that are not possible with narcs.
many times we all actually perceive what we are proned to perceive.
It is a fact.
In fact, i think that, we all perceive 90% of what we hear in our own way , and we therefore interpret it accordingly.
Couldn’t even finish reading it… stopped halfway. How more messed up can a human being be?
It’s interesting, I was on another thread(?) post (?) and in some of the comments posters were flirting with HG. That is messed up. And so the cycle continues…
My comment above might very well cause “your followers” to come running to the rescue to reiterate their past, recent comments about how truly “desirable and special” H.G. really is, and that I am, in fact, very much deluded, and wrong, to point out what I did in my above comment.
Maybe they will wish to use this opportunity to prove just how “empathetic” and “good” they really are by running to your rescue. And somehow, they will prove to themselves that they are the very persons you are writing about in your articles and books.
They do love you, and adore you so, H.G.! It’s like a Harlequin Romance Novel.
Nice to have someone ‘thinking’ and ‘talking’ for us. Your kind can have anything you wish for because you imagine it to be so. Many things you think are true are really just your own “creative thinking” working overtime. You want it, so you get it…because you are delusional. Your world is whatever you desire for it to be only because you do not live in reality. You live in your own self-made, Narcissist induced reality. Truly, the world does not revolve around you. Most of the people in the world have never even heard of you. And, not everyone adores you, wants to be with you, or even gives you a second though (if they even gave you a first). You are not the most desired, brilliant, incredible, or special man in this world of ours. You are, but one, of many other sociopaths, let alone people, in this great big world, who thinks they are “it”. Being evil does not make you special, believe me. They are more evil people in this world, than good. It’s just that it is the good that will ultimately have victory.
Such a toxic mess. Hateful points that we ended both flinging back and forth at each other. #3 particularly potent.
These are really helpful. No wonder it is impossible to analyse your eruptions and make sense of them with working out how they began. It is as though we speak a different language to you and further to that; you have totally different comprehensions of quite simple statements than we do.
Yes, very helpful indeed.
Jesus!
This is so fucked up and disturbing…