The Effect of No Contact on the Narcissist


You know that No Contact is the key to beating the narcissist, but how does it affect the narcissist?

This Logic Bulletin explains to you what happens when you impose your No Contact Regime and how you can expect the narcissist to respond.

It covers Lesser, Mid-Range and Greater Narcissists in fascinating detail.

How does the narcissist feel?

What happens if you tip-off the narcissist that you are leaving him or ending the relationship?

What happens to the narcissist if you end the relationship and say nothing?

How does the narcissist respond?

What do you need to look out for in terms of common errors which will prejudice your no contact regime and place you at risk?

What will the narcissist do by way of response, so you can ascertain how to avoid this?

The content of this Logic Bulletin will give you these answers and more so you can build your Logic Defences and understand what will happen when you impose no contact now or in the future.

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23 thoughts on “The Effect of No Contact on the Narcissist

  1. Angela Child says:

    Will he ever post the “revenge-porn” all over internet or he will think that this will expose him as well?

  2. Supernova DE says:

    HG do these patterns upon threat of fuel cessation from an appliance change when the appliance is IPSS rather than IPPS for the Greater? Or perhaps the response is the same but not as rigorous? Thank you.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      The latter of your suggestions.

  3. Bibi says:

    In reading this, I am reminded of Michael Corleone from The Godfather films, when Kay tells him she is leaving, he uses all the tactics you describe.

    Damn that is some great directing on Coppola’s part. And Pacino is fantastic.

    Unfortunately, when I think of Greaters, I am left with fictional characters because I don’t think I have ever had any personal interaction with any…other than this one guy who runs a narcissist blog and has a Daniel Craig-style silhouette. 😉

  4. keli says:

    I am just starting to read you, and it is interesting and confirming. Your reasons for sharing are secondary. The fact that you do share is what counts. Have you done in-person workshops, and if not, would you consider those?

    After reading parts 1-3 of the “How No Contact Feels” series – would you deem it possible that the same person may react in different incarnations, starting out as a “lesser”, then a “mid-ranger”, finally, as a seasoned narc, according to what you describe as a “greater”?

    I seem to recall seeing all three reactions progressively. I’ve been away from my relationship for 18 months, and still get calls from odd numbers every 2 months or so, but I treat them as potential client calls or mis-dials. Whoever needs to reach me will call back and speak.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Keli and welcome on board, I do one on one consultations but have not done work shops owing to the need to protect my identity (although I suppose I could do those remotely to a small, select group – something to consider). I would eventually want to do the seminars and conferences etc.

      No, the narcissist does not move between schools. However, some behaviours are present in all three schools and therefore you may have a Mid Range narcissist who appears to first respond as a lesser, then as a Mid Ranger and then as a Greater, so it is feasible (but they do not shift schools) but such an occurrence would be rare. I could of course analyse this for you in greater detail through a consultation if that is of interest to you.

      1. jenna says:

        HG, WHAT R U SAYING?!!!!! 😊😊😊😊
        AM I DREAMING?!!! 😇😇😇
        Seminars, conferences?!! 💃💃💃💃

        If u will b there, i’m there!! (Well, as long as it’s in the US.)
        Date, time, location pls?! 😃


        Oh, and u must b unmasked! Ok fine, like i asked b4, how abt those type of masks mj’s kids used to wear? But we must see u in the flesh! Plssss, pretty plsss?!

  5. Stupid to Believe says:

    This article is how I know that he is a greater. Even in court for a restraining order, he believes and acts out on the notion that he is above all. Still finding ways to contact me to tell me to leave HIM alone 🙄🙄

  6. Greaters are meanies!!

  7. Lynsey says:

    The danger of planning the perfect escape is if you are dealing with a co-morbid. The super narc may scurry off to lick his wounds. The psychopath will not. Never get too cocky and believe you are winning. You may well be winning the battle and losing the war. 1x attempted murder charge, 1x kidnap charge and 2x charges of carrying deadly weapons, 1x very lucky to be alive boyfriend who needed surgery to repair the stab wounds, later and I have most definitely learned never to underestimate my enemy. Never forget that these are some of the most dangerous people on the planet!

    1. Matilda says:

      Absolutely, Lynsey. It is a grave mistake to underestimate any type of narc, but especially those closer to the psychopath end of the spectrum as nothing deters them. I hope he got locked up for a long time.

  8. Disbelief says:

    I’v heard 6 of those with the preventive hoover, 4 of the future faking and 3 of the threats, which would say a greater? But also given silent treatments, followed by devalue then with disappearing acts, usually a few hours, or up to a few days. Very rarely, a push or shove that I always seen as not intended but almost as a warning or would happen if things had escaleted. What’s your thoughts on what class he’s in? Upper middle? I’m having a difficult time figuring it out, please help, I’m trying to mentally prepare for what’s next in all of this.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It is difficult to state on the information provided. He does not sound like a Lesser, that much is evident. This type of situation is best addressed through a consultation Disbelief, as you can provide more detail to enable me to make an accurate assessment.

    2. Priti says:

      Get him arrested. And summoned. Only way they stop.if they do

  9. Restored Heart says:

    My heart is restored. There is no fear. There is no pain. There is only love.
    Chaos Mode must have been harrowing for you. I pray you too also learnt. I know you did. Trust it.
    Your maligns continue to fail & they do not serve you. Our spheres will always cross daily. Deal with it.
    Bring it on dragonboy. I am here. I am ready.
    Nope, you will not come. You are not my dragon to slay.
    You served your purpose & I served mine.
    For now.

  10. amsodone says:

    … another window into Narc world. Textbook/rulebook, and am glad to know no contact causes issues. Ironic, when the silent treatment (NC) gets thrown back

  11. Matilda says:

    For heaven’s sake, HG, reflect upon your words here! How can you claim to be superior to us, when you are -in fact- nothing without us? If the escape was done properly, you’d fall apart.

    You are not the master, you are the slave. We can walk away and be free, but you will be in chains forever. Perhaps that’s your punishment for the hurt you cause…

  12. In the beginning….
    I thought you were so delicious that I would lick those words right out of your mouth.
    In the end….
    I thought you were so foul that I would vomit those words right out of my mouth.

  13. katanon666 says:

    You described my favorite Sociopath perfectly. Tomorrow is 1 month no contact with my Greater. I have been weak these last few days. I do not know if he has a new primary source, I suspect he is still using secondaries but he had so many female “friends” I am sure he is feeding just fine. I had been thinking of him less but last night succumbed to morbid curiosity and checked the playlist for the jukebox at the bar we frequented each weekend at the time I know he always arrives. I watched the playlist switch to his familiar genre then a song that was meaningful and almost meant for me…He knows I used to watch the song list when he was devaluing me and going by himself to punish me for not being sufficiently submissive and obedient. I should not have done that. But, I didn’t break down and try to contact him. So, I await his next attempt to hoover whenever that may come. I feel like I am not healing fast enough for the coming onslaught. It is that swimming you described just trying to get to land….

  14. Brian says:

    Oy Vey

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