The Heart Hooks No. 4
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Good day H.G.! He come back again to hoover me… he is tireless!
This is the sentwnce that he told me almost every day in the last month… 😂😂😂
Maybe he told this words to all his lovers…
HG I never even liked the look of the bloke initially. I said NO to him then he managed to talk me round online. Somehow things changed and I really thought he was lovely but he is really nothe of my calibre. I can relate to this as I never felt anything as strong before and fun but hell. Abuse=Freedom which led to hell then onto recovery and meeting me for real. I wonder if this happened because my parents were self obsessed. Dad I would say is a narc and mum well think she is also one. The question is how the he’ll was that able to happen?
It is all part of the inherent susceptibility which is exploited by us.
He doesn’t know how I feel. I’ve been going no contact for the past three months.
He tried hoovering. Didn’t work.
Now it’s all dead.
I’m writing here with no particular connection with this post. What I am wondering is…would you feel pride or satisfaction if someone felt they couldn’t get over the experience with a person like your kind? Would it make you feel victoriuos? I am not talking about love here but the sadness and the inability to make sense of what happened. The humiliation of being treated like an object with no feelings or emotions. I just can’t accept this kind of behaviour. I am going on with my life, seing other people, being content but the wound remains.
Is this something that you enjoy?
I know this is design but does it make you feel good?…really?
Creating this state of paralysis is a necessary outcome to enable us to continue to draw fuel and exist. If that person has been removed from my influence and I gain no fuel from that person even though they are unable to get over the experience there is no pride or satisfaction in that as it does not benefit me. If I am able to draw fuel from them still because of the inability to move on as a consequence of this emotional infection then there is satisfaction at maintaining the fuel connection.
Cheesy pick up line. I can smell tbe cheap cologne from here.
UGH
So he said and then I felt the same. All according to a well prepared matrix of deception.
On request I hereby change my name form Broken to Karma. It came for me and now it’s going after him!
H.G. can you answer this for me? What advice can you give as to how to respond, what to say or how to act or be to my ex narc. To get my way or get him to something I need like pay more child support or in dealings such as that with him? Or is there not a way? How do I get MY WAY!?
Hello Knowledgejourney, such a question requires more information from you as to the precise circumstances to enable me to provide you with the correct level and detail of insight. Accordingly, you would be best served organising a personal consultation.
You never get your way with a narcissist
Indeed Dragonfly.
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Uhg! Just the title of this one makes me want to throw up!!! Brings back horrible memories of what he told the women he cheated on me with. Or he would say “I have bonded with you so quickly when I have never been able to bond with her in 8 yrs” I will NEVER forget that one.
Uuh..that “connection ” looks a little bit quick to me too…especially if this our first date!
Uncanny
HG, have your exes said some of these to you?
It’s really something that you can make us feel that deep connection. I swore up and down that I felt something.
Maybe that’s why I can’t trust my feelings. I can’t tell what’s real and what’s not.
A derivation and of course further into the relationship than our kind would say such things. With these heart hooks a normal or empathic person might say something along those lines but
1. Never with the speed at which we do so; and
2. It is not as outlandish in terms of how it is said.
You can trust your feelings – your intuition is something else.