Early Warning Detector
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What if your narc is a combo of two of the 3?
Use this https://narcsite.com/narc-detector/
What about the N who can’t remember his childhood? Is he lying?
Parts may not be remembered, but to claim all of it is missing is a lie.
Thank HG! On the off chance I ever try anything other than purely physical pleasure I will certainly use this.
You are welcome.
This is great HG! I love the way you explain how each would reply, especially a normal person. It’s hard to admit but I’ve never been in a normal relationship and I grew up with narcs. It’s so helpful to know what to watch out for and look for! I will use this as a guide without question.
Very good HG! How would you define a narcissist who refuses to answer any questions about himself and is very evasive, even simple yes or no questions and will give the silent treatment for me asking, what do you think??
Do you mean what school of narcissist is this person likely to be?
He’s definitely a sociopath but I can’t figure out if he’s mid-range or Greater narcissist. He’s mostly cerebral and somatic, hard to figure him out. Never rages, never really love bombed, refuses to talk about himself but wants to know everything about you. Does he sound familiar HG?
Cannot all be put down precicely just like that.. there must be much more with many narcs..
Hi
As an educated empath, you can recognise a Lesser from a mile away, you can detect a Mid-Ranger fairly quickly, but the Greater is a real problem because he *imitates* healthy people perfectly.
You’d have to be alert to his body language, slight changes in his voice, flickers in his eyes… all very minor and fleeting signs, and probably not easy to even see/hear in the dimmed light and noise of a bar!
Furthermore, you’d need to be mindful in conversations, not getting carried away and sharing too much. The sophisticated ones are good at asking the right questions, and probing further, to extract as much detailed information as possible to use against you later on. HG is calling this Triple Tracking. They also like to employ the tactic of sharing something meaningful with you to encourage you to return the favour – only their story was a lie while yours wasn’t.
So, with this in mind, who is ready to date again? I’m not.
Excellent observations.
Thank you, HG. I am learning…
You are welcome and you are in the best place to do so.
Absolutely! 🙂
Me neither.
Shudder.
I feel like a Greater comes across as too good to be true. “Where have you been all my life”? “I’ve never met anyone like you”. A Normal seems a bit boring at first.
not I.
HG, would a narc (during a silent treatment/discard) ever think to themselves ‘Shit, it’s been a while and no fuel, I had better hoover incase they’ve disappeared’?
Or are they too big-headed to think that/too busy gathering fuel elsewhere?
I told my narc I love watching narcissist videos on YouTube and learning all about them. He’s been giving me the silent treatment for 3 weeks for ‘supposedly’ not complying and playing it cool with him. Just wondering if he thinks ‘I’m busted’, or if it still wouldn’t stop a hoover from occuring?
The longest he’s been away from me without a hoover (in 8 years) is 2 months. I guess he kept running out of potent fuel sources.
I’m also pretty sure he’s a Mid-Range
“I ask for so little…..and I’ll be your slave…”
https://youtu.be/_MolWhOGhRc
Yes,
“Just have to remember the last line, that’s the important one! ..ooh my, what pretty ball(s) you have there.. 😍 .. wait what was I doing?”
“Oh right, the line!”
HG,
Great analysis and very helpful for the future! I love it when you dissect the 3 different responses, it makes it crystal clear.
Thank you 🙂
Hm, patchy and disjointed memories from childhood. That describes my husband to a T.
And a fifth one “just a friend” and a sixth one “just for sex”, but she wants it, he’s not “interested”.
Sure…
I’m not even the only one he’s working like that. There are three more women plus one…that I know of.
Two of them are burned out beyond recovery. One is helpless and just on a side. The last one escaped but didn’t know what he was till I talked to her. I’m the only one that cut him out completly.
So this is not about love. It can’t be any further from it. This is about possession. This is about conquering someone for life.
It’s never going to happen. However weak I might be, or he thinks I am.
There is but one thin layer of skin between us. He can see my fear pulsing behind it.
He’s never going to rip it off. He wants me to slowly peel it off. He wants to be offered my open wounds.
To deepen them.
Stay strong guilia 💖
I think they do lead us to our deepest fears and our still open wounds in order to exploit them and control us and make themselves feel powerful.
But through that we also gain awareness of what our own core issues might be. From there we can do the real healing when we’re ready to.
@giulia I resonate with what you have written. My emotional state was a “desert” when I met him. He was an amazing and beautiful waterfall. Seems it was not water at all, however. It was acid rain.
Capitalizing on someone’s vulnerabilities, and therefore deepening the wounds, is the lowest of lows. Rape by deception.
So I sense a turning point in this process for myself. I am not there yet, but I see the curve in the road way off in the distance. I realize this experience happened because it had to happen. I was wounded and unhappy when I met him. Somehow all the parts aligned that he was my tipping point. I blindly offered my wounds to him on a platter. He poured lots of salt into them, devoured them, and then spit them back out at my face and then got up and quietly left the table. We all need to be very gentle as we take care of our own deepened wounds. No one else can heal them. But whoa, did it feel good when he was pretending. I pray the wound stops hurting someday.
I found this article extremely helpful and wise.Thank you.
I lied. He is a greater. Didn’t want to give him credits for being one. Didn’t care in the beginning to discover what he really was. Couldn’t face it, I was scared. Sometimes I still am because I can feel he is lurking around trying to find a way in.
Sometimes I can’t believe it, still. So much he brainwashed me with his words enveloped in shadows.
HG! This article is the perfect complement to your books Red Flags and Sitting Targets. Once we detect some red flags how we can test them …please write more about this ” testing”…it is very useful when start dating again!!!
There will be more of this to come SuperXena.
Thank you HG! I look forward to read more about this..These practical examples are very useful..I hope you have the time to write more about this…among many other things !
This could be perhaps very good material for a book? How to Flush A Narcissist on the early stages! With practical examples.
By the way what would be the best way of flushing them? I mean once you detect it…it is just like ignoring him and evading him? Would that be enough to flush him? Or does that depend on the school they belong to?
Evade and stay away. The book is in hand.
Sounds good!
By the way…I think the best way of flushing one if detected would be ” cutting his head off”😁That would be more than enough…just saying…
If carlsburg made warning mannuals…..
Thank you HG. Quite possibly the best and most valuable article I’ve read so far.
Thank you Karen.
@karen1303
Hi karen 1303, I agree with you…very valuable article..a Manual is needed after being entangled with one…I feels though like a teenager dating for the first time again🤔
and once flushed out HG, how can you get rid of one without them hating you ?
Well if you flush us out at a very early stage and evade us, we may press you (dependent on which type of narcissist you are dealing with) before we look elsewhere and you may receive an unpleasant comment or two but that would be the extent of it. There will be no lasting hatred.
If you get rid of us later in the dynamic, the hatred is not something you can control because you escaping us will ignite our fury.
Ah that’s perfect HG – thank you for your answer 😊😊😊
I find this description of events to be perfectly accurate…. I sussed out the last one in under two weeks. He was not above calling me “cold and uncaring”, but I have heard nothing else from him in over 2 months. I hope he has moved on.
Thank you so much, HG, for saving me wasting any more time or emotion on another black hole 🙂
@Alexissmith2016
Hi ! Your comment made me reflect a little: if you realise he is a narcisist and flush him on the early stages: why are you worried that he might hate you for doing that? If he does..it is his problem…why are you worried about that?
Superxena
I’ve known him for five years, he is part of a shared group of friends but has only started this odd behaviour with me in the past couple of weeks.
I genuinely liked the guy and I don’t need this as a complication in my life.
Hello alexissmith 2016! Thank you for your answer and I understand now why you are concerned about him “hating” you for rejecting him. It is certainly an uncomfortable postion for you and I hope you can find the best way for you to solve it!!
“There’s severed foot Frank…he’s a narcissist he is, Susan. No, it still didn’t stop him.”
Love this – very insightful, and funny
I wonder if a severed arm or leg would help them gain a more thankful perception, allowing them to be more grounded and grateful for what they have and make them concentrate on the outside pieces for a while? Failing that, keep removing a limb till they’re left with just a head and then triangulate them using their unattached foot. They’d also be much easier to spot then
Haha SarahJane. That made me laugh at the visual.
The Victim Narcissist, a very tricky breed; but I spotted him in less than six months! I just need to encounter a greater then I will be all set!
Exposure tactic numbers one and two work the best for me thus far. 🙂
I’m printing this and taking it with me if I ever allow myself to dip into the dating pool again. I have no shame in following a script if that’s what it takes. I do not trust myself to vet anyone properly anymore. Safer to be alone and sure.
Same! My new bible.
I am for sure destined to be on my own now forever. No poor man stands a chance.
“I bought you flowers Karen”
“Omg get the hell away from me you narc!”
“You look lovely Karen”
“Omg get the hell away from me you narc!”
“I fell out with someone from work today”
“He must have seen you for what you are. Omg get the hell away from me you narc!”
😅😅😅
@12345
Hi 12345! I like your comment…. I am actually ” interviewing” the man I am dating now…lol…I have actually a list with different red flags that I check and make notes…He has no idea of course of what I am doing…Feels more like a job interview but better safe than going through hell again!
Haha. I think you should be more candid with your interviewee and present the check list over dinner.
@karen1303
Lol ! karen1303 . You just gave me an idea:
I will print copies to have available next date with the questions and present it to him. Telling him that I have just attended HG Tudor ‘s Narc School, that I have delivered my questions to the first exam and waiting for my degree .
That will be a perfect way of knowing which school ( if he is a narcissist) he belongs to:
1. A Lesser will ask: “What is a narcissist”?
2. Mid range: would be troubled and perhaps make excuses for leaving.
3. The Greater: well the Greater will be amused at it, give me his “stare” and his charming narcissistic smile…and deflect by asking me if I would like some wine with dinner. He would make notes and certainly would like to see the questions I have..well a challenge is a challenge for the Greater
Lol😀
Actually that seems like a lot of hard work. I think what I’ll do if I ever decide to date again is pay for a telephone consult with HG. Put the potential boyfriend on the phone and let HG interview him for me.
Saves all the messing around trying to figure it out 😅
Ha ha a vetting service, not a bad idea.
@karen1303
Lol..karen1303.. You made me laugh! Well…that would be an option😉 And I hope you feel like dating again soon!
Hell no lol. No dating for me. I’m happy on my own (really)
Glad I made you smile 😊
Hello karen
Actually I was not thinking on dating now. After 15 months of No Contact with my ex greater..I am feeling like taking it easy. I was “dragged ” into the woods again by a very “muscular mushroom ” who trains at my work place! I have detected some red flags ,so he might be disqualified…I just want first a picture with him with his double biceps and his motorcycle( a HD) for VERY SPECIFIC Machiavellish reasons….concerning my ex greater! Lol.😉
Upps… that sounded very narcissistic…does that make me a narcissist HG?
Xena, you are very brave and I hope he’s the most normal person ever! It’s so funny how my view has changed. I used to associate normal with boring and a bit less fun or unsexy. I used to want passion, excitement and chemistry with a dash of danger right out of the gate. I’ve finally realized it’s a marathon not a sprint and that all those things (except danger – no thank you) can come in time. Makes me almost thankful for the hard lessons. Operative word there is almost😂
Hello 12345! Thank you for your kind words! I do believe that we can find excitement,passion and chemistry without paying ANY price. I understand what you mean by the” hard way “but if there is a silver lining to all this..is that I have learned a lot about myself during this process and I am good with it! You are a brave and strong women as well!!! How are you doing with your own process of detachment and healing?
@12345
Likewise! I got HG’s book(s) and wrote all 50 flags! (Power of handwriting btw).
Let’s set up Tudorettes’ meetup groups and team up before hitting the bar scene! Now that would be fun, putting those jokers through the Empath’s wringer!