The Narcissistic Truths – No. 32
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Would a Narcissist ever repeatedly warn their intended victim before love bombing them? E.g. My public persona is nothing like the real me, you’ll just be very disappointed. Be warned! Unfortunately, I was too stupid to take heed.
Hello CH, yes that does happen. Have a read of this article
https://narcsite.com/2017/07/07/a-glimpse-of-the-future-3/
Indeed that may be the case, but I will NEVER entertain the narcs again. I can notice toxic people quite easily now, including toxic empaths (they can exist HG can they not?).
I would suggest that a toxic empath is not an empath. A toxic empath is most likely a mid range narcissist.
Well that opens a whole ‘nother discussion! Now I have too much in my head to process 😩
Creepy image, but it sure drives the point home. Yours forever!!!
Might
I’m worried… please come back..😔
I hope not! I mught fall without my wings. I lost them when I made a choice to engaged with you. Wings for knowledge. Fair trade?
I am discovering things about fuel in relation to myself.
If I hang out with someone who respects my opinion and is friendly and positive I get fueled. It is a good feeling.
And yet it’s been quiet for going on 3 months. Seems to me like I’ve been let go. I’m still waiting to hear “I told you so”. Hopefully I’ll never have to hear those words.
Three months is nothing.
I have about 7 months with no hoover and no contact on my part from my most recent narc (6 year relationship after the 10 years of marriage to my ex narc husband). But, based on HG’s teachings, I am vigilent in staying out of any spheres of influence.
Also, I received an attempted hoover via Facebook by the second narc in my life a few years ago after 22 years ( a highschool/college boyfriend – all four major relationships in my life have been with narcs…yes, exhausting…sigh). No physical contact, thank goodness. Apparently, he had been trying to find me for years.
So, heed HG’s words, they can hoover at any time.
Wendy, were you married to a shy mid-ranger? My ex is a shy mid-ranger. If so, i have some questions for you that may help me out. Thx.
Jenna, I believe my ex husband is mid-range to greater based on his maliciousness and calculation. I can’t say I’ve been attracted to anyone who is shy (but don’t like annoyingly boisterous either).
Thx for your reply wendy. I’m sorry you were married to someone malicious. I’m glad you’re no longer with him.
I need to find someone on this blog who’s been married to a shy mid-ranger, because i have a question related to it. I asked HG my question, but he posted it without answering😩
strongerwendy, i also was ‘looked for’ after 35 years. I had believed him. Who would ever lie about something like that, right?? Stay strong, stay away……
Are you sure? Because there are so many. And you say that you forget about them until they enter your sphere of influence. How can you possibly think this about each and every one?
This past week I have not felt his presence at all for the first time since NC. It really does feel like he has let me go. I can’t see him making contact at all. Believe it or not, a part of me is grieving. These feelings make no sense. I should be relieved, but I just feel immense sadness. Crazy.
It makes perfect sense and you aren’t crazy. You know intellectually that you should be relieved but you’re still grieving who you thought he was. I grieved for a year and I felt so much shame about that. It takes a long time. Far longer than a break-up with a normal.
Thank you 12345, for your response. I’ve been NC 4 months which I know is not long. Never-the-less, having read Exorcism, I’ve been thinking long and hard about my feelings over my narc. I now believe the one thing that causes me ‘pain’ is knowing I was worthless to him, that I am am object. I don’t think I love him any more but can’t be sure…
I’m learning to accept that’s his mentality and not to take it seriously. Since posting my comment on the 5th, Narcy contacted me on the 6th, via the studio were we work. He thanked me for covering him but I didn’t really. Anyway, I didn’t reply. I’m very pleased with myself I had the strength to remain NC.
HG i miss your support 😞
I don’t want to put any pressure on you, but i will be happy when you come back.
I wish that were the case.
You better not “ever let us go”, we need you HG!
I hope you are safe and weren’t caught in these awful terrorist attacks.
I have no intention of doing so. I am absolutely fine thank you.
HG…has your ‘disappearance’ from the blog since Saturday anything to do with the terrorist attacks. You had to work?
“… better not…”
Did you just say ‘better not’ to a greater elite narc ? I think you might be in trouble now…😱
Haha Jenna. I did! But HG is the exception to the rule. He’s the Only Narc we need.☺
Hello! So I have a friend who I believe is a narc. She has used the love bomb, devalue, discard technique with many men. Except now it was done to her. Can a narc use another narc for fuel?
They can indeed. See the two articles (and more are on the way) When Narcissists Collide.