Hidden Danger


The predatory lion will watch from the grass at the wildebeest gathered at the edge of the river of the watering hole. He is waiting for his moment to strike, to pick off one of the herd which has foolishly strayed from the protection of the herd. Once that beast has ventured into the range of the waiting lion its fate has been sealed. Much like the empathic individual who has recklessly wandered back into the sphere of influence of the waiting narcissist who is ready to perform a Hoover, the wildebeest is just moments away from being captured and meeting a grisly fate. The narcissist and the hunting lion share several similarities. We are predators, kings of our environments and noble. We have the edge on the lion however. He may be able to sit unnoticed amidst the dried out grassland, his coat blending in with the sun-scorched yellows, ochres and browns, but once he makes his move and breaks cover, his intended target has a chance. It may only be a slim window of opportunity to escape this savage beast but there is an opportunity nevertheless. I am sure the proud feline would welcome being able to stroll right into that pack of waiting wildebeest, mingle with them, move about them and then strike without any of the creatures noticing that one of their number has been taken down. He can wander freely around as he takes his prey and never break cover. That is where we hold the advantage over the lion. We are able to move amongst our prey, unnoticed and even welcomed as we study and observe, choosing our moment to strike again and again and again.

With such a spectacular cloaking ability we are able to choose the choicest environments in order to ensnare an empath, super-empath or co-dependent. Just like the wildebeest that congregate at a watering hole, providing a target-rich environment for the lion, we seek out those places where we know that we will find plenty of empathic individuals and thus our quest for prime, potent fuel meets with victory. Accordingly as an empathic individual you will be well aware of the places where there are many of your kind. Those environments which require those who care, protect and nurture are prime locations for us to infiltrate and gorge on the victims that mill around us. Charities, hospitals, schools, animal rescue shelters, homeless shelters and domestic violence refuges are just some examples of the places where we will worm our way in. We have little difficulty in doing this. As you know, we are masters of mimicry with our unrivalled ability to take on the traits and abilities of others. Although empathy is an alien feeling to us we are easily able to exhibit the ways of the empath. We spend so much time amongst your kind that we know what to say, how to look and what to do so that we pass unchallenged amongst your ranks. Moreover, the thrusting dynamism that we bring, our charismatic leadership and motivational skills are highly prized in such caring places. The hard-hearted captain of industry may see finance, law, accountancy, technology and the like as ‘sexier’ environments in which to prosper but all of the above places I have mentioned where one finds a higher proportion of empathic individuals than usual have their rewards. The executives of charities are well remunerated, the leaders of hospital trusts invariably have flittering CVs and various honours attached to their names. These sectors need thrusting individuals alongside the care givers in order to ensure that the organisation is effective. This suits us perfectly. Our driven natures, our sense of entitlement and grandiose behaviour is just what is required for those top roles. Couple this with our chameleon like ability to feign that we care and that we are empathic means we ease into the charitable and caring sectors with unchallenged ease.

These environments not only provide us with plenty of succulent empaths to feast on but they present us with opportunities for easy wins. We can dazzle and shine, using our ambition to progress where others are more concerned about the delivery of care as opposed to clambering up the career ladder. These organisations need a dynamic hand on the tiller (us) combined with the delivery of caring services (you). The fact that there are empaths on tap for us to hunt down is serendipity indeed. Thus, next time you look around the management at your hospital or you are sat in a meeting with a committee of trustees for your charity there is every chance that one of our kind is sat there, lurking in the grassland, sliding a forked-tongue across those sharp, sharp teeth.

26 thoughts on “Hidden Danger

  1. Asp Emp says:

    Oh, my, HG, that is a stunning gun. A perfect tool for hunting prey…..just don’t loan it to that fumbling inspector in Pink Panther…..(he, would not know what to do with it ! ).

    I’d have that shark ornament on my shelf, sorry, my mantle-piece, or wall……”it’s art”.

  2. Tiny Dancer says:

    My Ns brother, also an N, is a pillar in his community and a minor celebrity appearing in commercials and local news channel segments. His occupation definitely allows him to be the savior. He’s been married to his wife for twenty years – the only smudge on his shiny armor is the time he got caught having an affair with his wife’s best friend who was also married at the time. She took him back after he ended the affair and it’s like it never happened. Only everyone else knows he’s still cheating on her just not so close to home.

    1. Bel says:

      HG can I ask , I know the answer as I read everything you write … do you feel anything for the faceless people who write to you with broken souls?

      1. HG Tudor says:

        I am proud of most of my readers.

  3. Bel says:

    My ex husband was in charge at a major hospital , those that challenged him he would destroy their careers and reputation. He now is in charge of 3 rural hospitals ( very very scarey ).

  4. Narc affair says:

    Narcissists are all over. I find after 3 years of watching u tubes, reading books and articles and being in different narc type sites and forums i am pretty good at spotting them, even a covert.
    Once your educated in narcissism the chameleon doesnt camoflage so well anymore. Firmer boundaries in place, self love and self reliance make us question anyone that doesnt align with that and provides a protective cover. Most narcs want the easy pickings and over time if your boundaries are enforced repeatedly they will move on to someone who is far easier to extact fuel from. The lion goes after weaker prey and the narc does too but from a mentally vulnerable angle.

  5. Violet says:

    Why can’t we press charges?
    I nominate we do not accept this and introduce pressure to being laws against this abuse. Nobody should have to live with that treatment.
    Nobody should laugh this off. Nowhere should this hostage relationship be allowed to happen. Narcissists commit crimes and should be charged.
    And NOBODY should treat HG like some gracious predator and joke around with him.
    He continues destroying innocent people and admits it. Some of you flirt or make light of things with him like some sick belief you can seduce and control a danger. Get out of the sick Stockholm syndrome and stop siding with the devil.

    1. Anonymous says:

      We can’t press charges because usually, we don’t have evidence. I’m sure that if the wounds on my soul were visible, some people would demand death penalty for him. Hell, I’d beat the shit out of him if it was legal. And I’m not even a violent person.

      HG is probably like comic relief to some of us.

      1. Violet says:

        We can record conversations. Place hidden cameras in homes. Seek witnesses. Train bank tellers, hairdressers, teachers to spot signs of a hostage relationship. Report it.
        Don’t answer with a resigned acceptance. NARCISSISTIC ABUSE ISNT NECESSARY.
        It is not necessary to get along with dickheads. Don’t laugh with them, ignore them.

      2. Anonymous says:

        I don’t know much about the law in the UK (or the US, if you’re from either of those countries) since I’m Hungarian and live in Switzerland. But as far as I’m aware, emotional abuse isn’t against the law. Although I think there’s some new law in the UK? I’d have to Google it.
        Violet, I understand you. I really do. I spent the first couple of weeks asking people if we can hire a hitman, lure him into a dark alley and do stuff to him, break into his flat without him knowing it was us –
        because I know that my legal options are non-existent. And they really are, for me anyway. I don’t want them to get away, and resignation is definitely not my thing. But I’m being realistic. At this time, there is nothing I can do aside from taking care of myself, learning from this, plotting his demise (because it amuses me) and then perhaps try to contribute so that ONE DAY it will be against the law and other people after me will have the law on their side.

        I don’t mind laughing with HG though. I’m not going to choke on a laugh when he writes something I find amusing. I also won’t ignore him because if I ignore him, I will have to look for another source to educate me and I’m quite happy with this source. I am aware of what HG is, but he’s not harming me. If he was, I’d fuck him up real good.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Your final comment is spirited if misguided.

      3. Anonymous says:

        Do not underestimate me.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I’m relaxed, you’ve just admitted you are 11 !

      4. Anonymous says:

        11 wasn’t even on the list, so it is whatever I want it to be.

  6. Sillyolperson says:

    Dear Mr Tudor,
    I am gobsmacked! Your articles are amazing! Your detailed accuracy! Your intimate knowledge from every spectrum, everything down to a tee! No wonder we can relate to you.
    In my case, the narcissist I know, volunteers at schools almost on a permanent basis. To him, it’s his life line. When he fell ill, he thought he had to give up his school commitments. He went “absolutely crazy” at the thought of not continuing and hence depression set in. He also donates gifts to hospitals.
    He recovered, back at schools, still donating gifts to hospitals and has a nurse as his current supply! No wonder he’s happy, prey everywhere!
    God your good! You fill all the blanks and continue the never ending puzzle.
    Thank you Sir

    1. gabbanzobean says:

      The nickname of “Mr. piano recital during church” continues to ring true….

      Cue narcy piano music…

  7. HG, can you do an article on a celebrity narcissist and how they might operate?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Do you mean celebrity narcissists as a whole or a specific celebrity?

      1. Geminimom says:

        Kim kardashian?

      2. Celebrities in general with typical narcissism. I would imagine there are many in the entertainment business. It’s OK if you don’t .. I am still thinking I should have a private consult before it’s all over with. Thank you.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I have made a note. I think you should too.

    2. Ali says:

      You mean like Gerard Butler or…even more flagrantly obvious… jack nicholson??

      1. SVR says:

        Gérard, oh no. Is he?

      2. Lol .. I’ve never watched out for narcissistic signs in actors, singers, etc. I’m going to start that!

      3. Ali says:

        I’m not the narc expert, ask HG? lol

        if it were my guess a lot of “stars” are somatics but… again… not the narc expert here

  8. Anonymous says:

    “succulent empaths” haha.

    I would watch this movie.

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