No Contact No Nos
No Contact is THE key to beating the narcissist.
Most people get it wrong. There are two reasons for this.
1. Not understanding the requirements of a Total No Contact Regime , and
2. The misleading effect of Emotional Thinking.
As part of the first element, the establishment and maintenance of a Total No Contact Regime means not only knowing what you MUST do for your Total No Contact Regime, but also what you MUST NOT do.
No Contact No Nos provides comprehensive information about the fundamental errors and primary risks which exist to your Total No Contact Regime so that you know what they are, how they threaten your regime and what you can do to make sure your Total No Contact Regime is properly implemented and also securely maintained.
This extremely useful and eye-opening guide tackles the weaknesses to your no contact regime in an effective and straightforward manner and is available for just US $ 5.
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Hi H.G
I’m involved in a battle of wills with an UMRN. I was never an IPPS. I’m a NISS in exile. I refuse to see him & will not be compliant. I enjoy tormenting him. He’s devaluing and trying to gain the upper hand. I don’t want to go NC. Any advice on how to ‘crush’ him into submission?
Thanks for the consult too H.G
No Contact and apply the Ultimate Revenge. You are welcome.
Mine doesn’t leave me alone he’s never discarded me for anyone else, every time I’ve gone no contact, I’ve fell for the crap again, I have no kids with him and won’t live with him. I’m at the point thinking I’m going to have to move home to get away. I’ve read and reread your book hg, for which I thank you ,
i don’t understand your first sentence? and your English is hard to grasp for someone of a foreign language. however at the end he misbehaved about my clothes and men looking at me it was unbearable, and then his ex contacted me and i gossiped with her he found out and then said he never wants to see me again.
It was a joke. I was suggesting that you were in prison for 5 years and that is why he has not been able to hoover you.
Haha, wow love your humour. charming like a true narcisst huh. Well i wasn’t in prison he could of send me whatsapp since i never changed my phonenumber nor did we blocked each other. He does have a new supply. Could it be that some narc never hoover exes? cause i talked to his exes and he never hoovered them either he just moves forward .
Great and relevant information! Thank you HG! Naturally, I did everything wrong post discard and hoover/exposure, however No Contact measures remain in place!
You are welcome. Keep it in place and maintain your defences.
Hi HG Tudor, how come my narc has never ever hoovered me, he did caught me chatting with his ex and i was insulting him in those messages. could it be why he has never hoovered me? been 3 years now. he even got new supply
I think your 5 year sentence for public order offences must have been a factor Samantha!
There are a number of reasons why he has not hoovered you and I would need more information. He may have tried to and you have not noticed or not considered it a hoover. Even if that is not the case, then it will be because there has been no Hoover Trigger or more likely, there has been a Hoover Trigger but he has not executed the hoover because the bar on the hoover execution criteria has been too high for various reasons.
I’ve had weak moments and revoked the No Contact, which wasn’t breached. Time seems to weaken my addiction towards him. No Contact is intact now. Thank you for letting me know who and what I was entangled with! Your information started my healing process!
Good to know. Seize the power.
I am with a greater somatic altruistic narcissistic sociopathic pathological liar. Yay me. I have purchased my own home and I live here, he lives at his house. His daughter was a drug addict I couldn’t deal with the enabling any longer even though that wasn’t the whole problem. He is a cheater and he is emotionally abusive, manipulative full of shit excetera excetera. I truly need your advice on something we have a business together which is our hook at this point. We are successful in the real estate business. I can see that neither of us has the ability to let go for that reason even though I know that he’s taking women to his house. And it shows on Facebook that we are in a relationship. He’s never introduced any of these women to his family and only uses them for sex and supply. Occasionally one of them will contact me on Facebook Messenger to tell me that he’s cheating on me like I don’t know this. At this point I feel like I’m just cock blocking him. I am most certainly an empath but I am flexing my narcissistic muscle when it comes to him, and I’m kind of enjoying it. I found out he was cheating on me when I was going through chemo for breast cancer treatment I will never forgive him for that. Is it possible that something else is going on here? he doesn’t have the guts to discard me and I don’t have the guts to discard him and we would both suffer financially. we no longer have sex because I am not attracted to a cheating lying man whore . We’ve been together 10 years. Please advise
Do you understand that by you continuing to repeat this golden period, then disengagement, then hoovering, that you are really just trying to maintain autonomy? The rush of emotions at the beginning of each cycle feeds the need to attach then you protest when you feel your space is threatened. It keeps the empath in a hyper emotional state and serves your need to maintain a sense of self reliance and not needing anyone or anything but yourself. You see and despise the need in your partner for intimacy, because it’s viewed as weakness. Do you think that maybe supporting your partners emotional and physical needs creates a safer environment, a solid non-weak arena for you to let go and expand your emotions with the safety net of a solid partner? I suggest at some point that if you have not done so, watch the movie Into The Wild and remember what the main character writes in his journal at the end of the film or not and carry on with what works for you. I am just trying to make you think as many others have attempted. If I fall upon deaf ears well, I’m not accountable. It’s all good. I still support your endeavors, you know that. 🥇💰📖💻🇬🇧🇺🇸
The truth is that now, when I know what he is and how his world looks like, I only look at these three painfull years as on unique experience.
No pain no nothing.
No desire to tell him anything, no sign off (although I told him few weeks ago that this our relationship is silly and that I’m bored (but it was really painful, real Hell, seems to me now that he might be the Greater)).
I don’t want a revenge.
No desire for real No Contact.
No desire for him to contact me.
Nothing.
Just curious which move will be next.
With gentle smile on my face.
I’m waiting to have fun again, watching him making a fool of himself, again.
Last time we were at a bar (a week ago), I told him that I still love him and want him.
But I don’t.
Just wanted to see how he would react.
So predictable.
He doesn’t even see that I’m making fool of him, telling him what he wants/needs to hear.
Just for fun.
Just enough to leave me alone, I am sure he is engaged with another lady.
His lies amuse me.
I enjoy watching him making his excuses and stories, his reactions.
He doesn’t see that I’m manipulating his manipulation.
For almost two months.
I’ve survived two cancers.
And here I am.
Still young, beatiful, smart, successful.
What an N can do to me now when I know what he is?
Thank you HG, everything was much easier after I realised what I’m facing with.
Just like cancer, once you realise what is wrong, you know how to deal with it.
You are welcome.
Whoever you are I love you. I’m doing the same thing. I despise him 4 cheating on me at my lowest point in my life. He’s the biggest coward on the planet but he thinks he’s just amazing and he does have some things going for him I will give you that. He reminds me of a predator Venus flytrap. But I mess with him too and I enjoy it. Kick ass and take names