Guilt update. As a child growing up, I had absolutely no guilt (or I can’t recall having it). As an adult I have it, however, it can completely disappear, no conscience at all, it is seamless and instinctual. I have no control over it; it just happens.
I found envy: I envy you your writing; it is sublime. You wrote that our (empath) envy is without bitterness, that is correct. And I am happy that I benefit from your writing (blog), thank you.
To be very clear, my emotions are different from childhood to adulthood and jealousy is so low (now) that I can’t find it. When I find it, I will post it.
I liked your comment. The Posts: Dirty Empath and Dirty Empath Marriage Breaker got me thinking about guilt and why it is absent or low on certain occasions. So, I have been trying to puzzle it out, because I do not feel guilty about being a DE and I am fascinated by it. And surprised, too.
DE & DEMB got me thinking about guilt and selfishness, so I checked out the traits and I do have a moral compass, however, there is some ambiguity. Although my empath traits are dominant, I can still revert back to most of my delinquent behavior seamlessly and without guilt.
Haha. A very similar post to one I read that finally ‘broke’ me. It made me laugh and I had to finally admit that I couldnt help but like you HG!
Been away from here for a while but like a bad penny….
I trust you are well HG.
There are situations when the Mid-Range knows he’s the one to blame because simply it’s too obvious at times. But from my experience he would do absolutely ANYTHING to get rid of this sense of guilt, to put it away somehow. He’s screaming, gets furious, even the most gentle conversation about the problem will be lost from the very first word. He will simply not let it in! It’s like he knows he is guilty but he will never, ever accept it even for himself. Am I correct HG?
I also noticed that very often Mid-Ranger was ACCUSING me for making him feel guilty or for making him “the worst man in the world” even though I actually didn’t. It’s like any relationship issue I tried to address was taken so personally as if I attacked him to the core. He was so afraid of being guilty and responsible for anything. It seemed as being guilty was the most terryfing thing in the world.
The MR will recognise that his behaviour or action has caused a consequence that is being complained of, but he will not accept the blame. He is not configured to do so and will always deny, deflect etc to ensure there is no attachment of blame (from his perspective).
No, that will not happen. Be he will feel self-pity, when I have finished my work and all that in a legal way. It takes time, but it works. And he will never know, that I was the one. And he will think how cruel the world is and how many bad luck he had to endure in his life. And if I have luck, I will meet him again some day and will feign empathy.
Sounds interesting… would like to hear more but I guess for the secret mission it’s not possible. Same here .. I did my thing and waiting patiently… or actually according to new me.. I will not even try to see the devastation because I’m in true NC… but when I am completely healed and have a new love and content I will take a peek to see the legal implications.. but I do have a feeling the major Hoover will come when it all falls apart.. I’ll keep you posted.
Hi HG! I can’t remember which live stream it was but someone had asked you if you had ever been punished for doing a kind act to someone when growing up. You paused and said yes.
Can you ever elaborate on that incident and were you made to feel guilty then (I’m assuming by MatriNarc)?
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Guilt update. As a child growing up, I had absolutely no guilt (or I can’t recall having it). As an adult I have it, however, it can completely disappear, no conscience at all, it is seamless and instinctual. I have no control over it; it just happens.
I found envy: I envy you your writing; it is sublime. You wrote that our (empath) envy is without bitterness, that is correct. And I am happy that I benefit from your writing (blog), thank you.
To be very clear, my emotions are different from childhood to adulthood and jealousy is so low (now) that I can’t find it. When I find it, I will post it.
Hello Sniglet
I liked your comment. The Posts: Dirty Empath and Dirty Empath Marriage Breaker got me thinking about guilt and why it is absent or low on certain occasions. So, I have been trying to puzzle it out, because I do not feel guilty about being a DE and I am fascinated by it. And surprised, too.
I feel no guilt about anything and nobody has informed me that I should feel it either.
Who on this site feels guilt and about what exactly?
DE & DEMB got me thinking about guilt and selfishness, so I checked out the traits and I do have a moral compass, however, there is some ambiguity. Although my empath traits are dominant, I can still revert back to most of my delinquent behavior seamlessly and without guilt.
Haha. A very similar post to one I read that finally ‘broke’ me. It made me laugh and I had to finally admit that I couldnt help but like you HG!
Been away from here for a while but like a bad penny….
I trust you are well HG.
I am excellent well KCN, good to see you here.
But you feel shame?
Our kind do, yes.
What guilt?
I don’t feel guilty for anything my ex boyfriend did.
Guilt free baby!
There are situations when the Mid-Range knows he’s the one to blame because simply it’s too obvious at times. But from my experience he would do absolutely ANYTHING to get rid of this sense of guilt, to put it away somehow. He’s screaming, gets furious, even the most gentle conversation about the problem will be lost from the very first word. He will simply not let it in! It’s like he knows he is guilty but he will never, ever accept it even for himself. Am I correct HG?
I also noticed that very often Mid-Ranger was ACCUSING me for making him feel guilty or for making him “the worst man in the world” even though I actually didn’t. It’s like any relationship issue I tried to address was taken so personally as if I attacked him to the core. He was so afraid of being guilty and responsible for anything. It seemed as being guilty was the most terryfing thing in the world.
The MR will recognise that his behaviour or action has caused a consequence that is being complained of, but he will not accept the blame. He is not configured to do so and will always deny, deflect etc to ensure there is no attachment of blame (from his perspective).
Must be nice to never feel guilt. Huge advantage Narcs have over us. One “trait” I wish I could borrow from time to time.
Dont ever wait for it to happen bc it wont.
That is why you sleep like a rock at night. Lucky you.
No, that will not happen. Be he will feel self-pity, when I have finished my work and all that in a legal way. It takes time, but it works. And he will never know, that I was the one. And he will think how cruel the world is and how many bad luck he had to endure in his life. And if I have luck, I will meet him again some day and will feign empathy.
Sounds interesting… would like to hear more but I guess for the secret mission it’s not possible. Same here .. I did my thing and waiting patiently… or actually according to new me.. I will not even try to see the devastation because I’m in true NC… but when I am completely healed and have a new love and content I will take a peek to see the legal implications.. but I do have a feeling the major Hoover will come when it all falls apart.. I’ll keep you posted.
Have you ever in your life felt it HG?
No.
Hi HG! I can’t remember which live stream it was but someone had asked you if you had ever been punished for doing a kind act to someone when growing up. You paused and said yes.
Can you ever elaborate on that incident and were you made to feel guilty then (I’m assuming by MatriNarc)?
It will be detailed in Little Boy Lost and yes I was made to feel guilty. I cannot recall if I did feel guilty though.
I cannot wait to read Little Boy Lost.