Understanding the Fuel Matrix
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All narcissists have fuel matrices and you need to understand where you fit into that fuel matrix and how that particular matrix functions as part of protecting yourself.
This Logic Bulletin takes you through :-
1. The Fuel Matrices of all sub schools of narcissist. This includes updated and expanded information about the Upper Lesser Type A and Upper Lesser Type B Narcissists, plus the Middle Mid Range Type A and Type B Narcissists.
2. What the Fuel Matrices look like, their size, the nature of the matrices and who sits in them.
3. How the relevant narcissist of each sub school relies on the individuals in the Fuel Matrix
4. What the Virtual Fuel Matrix is and how it operates.
5. How a Long Distance Appliance fits into it the narcissist fuel matrix and how that functions.
6. Detailed descriptions of each sub-school of narcissist, their behaviours and actions to increase your understanding of the different types of narcissist. This is a comprehensive expansion which will help you understand a lot more about the way different sub schools of narcissist operate.
A fascinating and educational exploration of the fuel matrix and the interaction between you and the narcissist, this is essential to know how the narcissist behaves so you can ensure your No Contact Regime is as effective as possible. It is also advanced reading for those who feel they are well-acquainted with the narcissistic dynamic from their existing reading and consultations.
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Just posted a comment and I hope I haven’t mixed it up, I can’t re-read it, I meant he’s an LGN (not sure if I wrote ULN).It is dominating my thoughts and making it hard to concentrate. I’m still hoping that I’m wrong and he is not a narc or at least not that malignant though I already saw him acting vicious. But you know, he’s so charming, maybe he all didn’t mean it and wasn’t he also very generous in other instances?
I guess I feel attracted to an ULN. He is for sure a cerebral, but also physically attractive and always well-dressed, very charming, funny, somhow playing the cute innocent one and eloquent but also kind of impatient, dominant and sometimes choleric. He has achieved the sort of power you described, but I don’t know about his fuel matrix and where my position is, but I assume I got one. The description fits, but I’d like to double-check.
1. Is an ULN aware of what he is?
2. How would an ULN probably react if told that he is a narcissist?
3. How would an cerebral ULN probably react if told that it was wrong what he just said about some scientific topic?
4. How would he be described by others?
5. Would he be likely to have an empath as best friend and lieunant?
6. Would he enjoy intellectual fights if provided with fuel?
7. Is the extensive use of irony a sign for this kind of narc? He seems to use it as a possibility to just say “Oh, this was a joke” if someone critisizes him or someone tells him that he just revealed some immoral behaviour .
What would be the best way to deal with this kind if I’m in love even though I suspect him being a narcissist if contact due to some reasons is inevitable? How can I stop thinking about him and being in love with him?
Hello Katalina, in order to answer these questions with regard to your situation, the best way forward is to be book a consultation.
I was afraid of this answer. But if I was desperate enough to spend the money, how should I cope with the cognitive dissonance that I pay another, even worse narcissist to cope with a lesser? Omg, he’s so attractive, intelligent, dominant, eloquent and mean!
Katalina, HG will definitively answer your questions. What is the difference between him answering you on the blog or in a private consultation? The information will still come from the same source, a narcissist!
You have no empathy, no intrinsic interest in getting me out. So what is your motivation to really give good advice if I once payed for a consultation?
Professional pride. I do not need empathy to assist you, indeed empathy would get in the way. I must win and thus you benefit. See the testimonials. Only today I ended a consultation with a client urging her to ‘make me proud’. The Graduates of the University of Tudor will succeed so long as they read my work and apply it in accordance with my direction. That is a guarantee.
Why should a really vicious narc give me good advice? I’m not ensnared by HG, only by my narc, so I need a rational answer. Why should I trust somebody probably even worse to help me out? The difference is that I have to pay for this,
Answered elsewhere. Ultimately nobody is forcing you to consult with me, but if you do, you will not regret it.
Katalina
How does paying an expert in his field (HG) for his time and advice (which I can personally attest to is excellent by the way) alter the validity of the information that you would have accepted for free?
Despite the fact that a lot of people don’t trust lawyers and no one likes paying one, in the end – paying for their knowledge and expertise can save you considerable pain both emotionally and financially. It’s the same here, but ultimately your choice.
Sent you an email.
I have replied.
HG, i’ve googled it and I’ve looked through your videos and your work so far I cannot find a description. What is a “dark “fuel matrix?
You will find out W when the article is published.
This is the first time I’ve read through the three schools of the Greater. I thought my ex-BF was an UMR, but he also hits on several points of the UGN. Hmm…scary.
Gains from IPPS character traits… Does it mean he takes (mimics?) something he likes in me for himself, during the research and seduction? “becomes me” a bit?
Not becomes you, but takes something of you to add to him.
I just watched Psycho for the first time (I know, incredible, the one Hitchcock movie I’d never watched), – and I can’t believe that Norman Bates is not a Psychopath!!
If he was a narcopath, he would certainly qualify for having his mother as primary source. 😉
Hi Ava,
Do you happen to know what article or video is about Norman Bates, Princess Diana and other famous people and characters?
Hi, E.B.,
I was watching “Psycho”, thinking “but he is not acting like a psychopath …”, and then I found this article for example:
https://www.sciencenews.org/blog/gory-details/most-and-least-realistic-movie-psychopaths-ever
Maybe I will watch “No country for old men” tonight again, I love Coen movies.
I don’t know anything about Diana, just always found her deer (Bambi) like look, strange, and certainly not narcissistic at all.
HG, have you watched “Psycho” and what were you thinking when watching it (about the main character)?
Hello Ava101, I have not watched the film. I think No Country For Old Men is an excellent film. I read the article and do not agree with a lot of it.
Thank you HG, that’s very interesting, I would be interested in hearing what you did not agree on!
Well, that the main character in Psycho is not a psychopath was my own thinking. 😉 Awww if I had known that you had never watched it either, I would have suggested to watch it together. It would be so much fun to talk about film characters with you while watching. 😉 A good movie however.
I liked No Country For Old Men very much, too. 🙂
Thank you, Ava.
Sandra we adore, yet we fear HG at the same time. The reason for that is because we know how dangerous he is ,and what he is incapable of if he is to be crossed. We come back to HG ,because he is intelligent, magnetic, unique, eccentric man with a sense of humor, who has a lot of valuable information obtain that will help us if, we choose to address the situation. Hg is indeed, a powerful dangerous man who is loved, and feared at the same time.
HG
Have you ever written about how to tell the difference between someone who is wealthy and thinks they are better because of money and someone who pathologically thinks they are more grand? My moms side has money and I am finding that most of what I thought was private school trust fund weirdness is actually narcissism.
I have not done so Nicole, but I have made a note of the suggestion.
Oops. I guess I was wrong. 🙂 (blush)
(takes another glance at ULN) Ah. Okay, I think I get it now. Despite politicians USUALLY being higher on the scale, Trump is more the outright bully type. And thinking everyone’s in love with him while not realizing how many people actually hate him-that’s definitely Trump! 😀 I guess an actual MGN would be more like Taylor Swift.
And I can continue to think of him as an idiot without any internal conflict over the accuracy of that description! Hooray! 😀
You’ve got it, June. Most politicians who are of our kind would be in the Greater category (certainly the more successful and powerful ones) but they will be drawn from Mid Range in some instance and UL also.
June,
Trump is not loved by everybody, but he certainly has no shortage of supporters and he is not an idiot. His policies are not far fetched either. Trump promoted policies to the US citizens which were already in place through established statute but not obeyed/followed (nothing new there) and very similar to what other countries have in place and work very well for them; and yet the US citizens who dislike him so much are sadly uninformed and/or misinformed of this fact.
Obviously the structure of the geo-political, financial, social, cultural, religious, sciences landscape on world stage is very complex for many to understand. Without the slightest conception of the facts of these subjects you are an easy target for manipulation by propaganda, subtle or otherwise. The loaded language by activists and organisations such as the news/media to produce an emotional rather than a logical response out of you is easier to achieve. Many people have simply become irrational about President Donald J. Trump because they have been brainwashed, gaslighted etc. Not sure if that means empaths are more predisposed to this but the hatred is unreasonable and truly unfounded. He supports democracy, his counterparts support a blended potion of Socialism/Communism/Islam which is a very dangerous combination for many including gays, women, children, men of certain races, other religions and even animals. Education is key.
Here is my question…
My brother-in-law is a Lesser Narc (Upper).
His mother is a “tough” woman, but she isn’t a Matrinarc. He never had a father (his mother divorced his father when he was 2-months old) and his mother rised him alone.
She worked from early morning to late night to support them both and, because of it, he had pretty high level of neglect from her part on all levels. She had no time to “love” him properly because of her work schedule also. It is very sad, but she had no choice.
He isn’t educated and doesn’t have any desire to learn something new (“For what? I’m smarter, than all professors in the world and not they, but I can teach them things!”). He works as an electrician worker (very skilled, by the way).
He isn’t physically violent (yet?), but his speech is very “colorful” with cursive words.
I absolutely agree with the “nature (predisposition) plus nurture (environment)” theory. But I’m curious, whether the level of education could serve as a key point for development of the particular school of Narcissism or not?
What if, for example, my brother-in-law had been adopted by another family in his early age and that family had been very educated, but narcissistic, would he have been the Lesser in that case? Or would he have converted into another type of school (Mid-range or even Greater)? What do you think about it, Tudor? Is it possible in principle?
Thank you for your answer in advance.
The MGN seems to describe Donald Trump perfectly…though it’s almost painful for me to tentatively give HIM the Greater title. 😀
Isn’t DT an ULN?
Yes.
Thank you.
Bravo to all of “The Fuel matrix” articles, Tudor. Very detailed and very coherent analysis. Bravo.
If you had the suitable degree (Psychology), you could introduce your material to professional world and give it the “official life”. But without degree and “scientific title” it is almost impossible to do it.
The first problem is that the “scientific world” is very private community, everyone knows everyone, and its members won’t permit to say any single word to non-scientist. You have to be “them” to legalize your ideas.
The second problem is that no one from scientific world could help you to legalize your material as your own. In that case, you could be the co-autor only, the second person after scientist’s name, because his/her “title” would be the “pusher” for your material to official world. And that means, that your material wouldn’t be your own material anymore. It would be HIS/HER material and HIS/HER “medal”, not yours. You would be just simple co-autor with certain level of copyright. Many “homemade” inventors choose that way of legalization of their material, sacrifying their own ambitions to be the “one who did it”, but I guess it isn’t your case. You wouldn’t. Moreover, such way of “legalization” evokes a contempt toward the “pusher-scientist” from other scientists – “You don’t have your own ideas, so you have to look for them on the street. Ew…”
It is a sad situation, because your material deserves the attention. Moreover, as I can see, it works practically. You helped a lot of people and, you know, sometimes that means more than “cold” official scientific opinion. So, bravo again.
I have a question about formation of certain school of Narcissism, but I ask it later. Free time is a luxury for all of us nowadays.
Ultra Elite HG….definitely!
I will keep mine….. Chasca
I am kidding on the name thing, just found it amusing considering the name/names I go by and found it one night when I was bored, couldn’t sleep and googling odd ball stuff.
I’d say all narcs are lessers. Lesser humans that is.
I do enjoy these observations – I do remember now pointing the behaviours of bad people out to my mother when I was little, who would look at me in disappointment and say “My goodness, you are a mean little girl. I don’t know where you get it from.”
✫so so complicated and only a brilliant, logical mind could operate this way.. i admire and despise you equally, HG…. (thats a compliment, btw)♚
I like this article.
I am both, the Upper Greater Ultra Elite Narcissist and the Upper Super Ultra Elite Empath, and a little bit of something else which I am yet to divulge. I control my traits as I see fit.
I i i i i i i, …. I
The Human Body has 7 Trillion Nerves and HG, this Article hit all of them. I have not gotten over the fact I was just a “Toaster”.
Holy crap! I wouldn’t want to screw up your coffee order (tertiary source). Moments before I sent you my first e-mail, I thought: What if I make him mad? The last thing I need is to piss off another Narcissist, and is it possible to gas light someone through the internet? What the hell: I hit send. After reading this I realize I was correct; you are scary.
A dangerous man, is a sexy man. HG ,you are all I ever think about. I regard you as my hero HG, as well as my knight in shining armor, who came to my rescue, and saved me. I was a lost soul who was very, confused, depressed, exhausted,under weight, malnourished, suicidal girl with a broken heart, until I found you. In all honesty, i know this may sound crazy, but i truly feel you saved my life.You are a phenomenal writer, and a professional in knowing absolutely everything there is to know, when it comes to a Narcissist. I have saved a considerable amount of money speaking to you, rather than speaking to a psychiatrist/DR who does not even know half of the knowledge about Narcissistic Personality Disorder like you do HG.
Thank you for being you, and all you have done for me. Don’t change a thing about yourself HG, you are perfect.
1. Vakrin’s website is hard to understand and hard to read. Your format is easier on the eyes and gives me much needed chuckles even when I’m miserable. (Basefook lmao)
2. Uncanny situational descriptions that almost creep me out they’re so accurate.
3. You scare the shit out of me and yet I return daily. The irony that a Greater Elite is helping me to purge a garden variety Mid Ranger makes me squirm a bit.
Vaknin*
Bliss, hi, I just saw your answer, sorry for the late response. You don’t sound a cold person to me 🙂 But I get what you are saying. As far as your question is concerned: I ended the “relationship” at the end of 2015- a bit later he proposed to another woman. He has been hoovering since, although in the meantime he got married. Last contact was in June and I need no more of this. I tried to keep a sort of friendship, woth no intimacy at all, but it is not what he wants (without sex he cannot control me) so we made silly circles. The truth is he does not deserve my friendship anyway. He was the worst person I have ever had in my life so far. These people never stop trying to manipulate you, never stop lying, never stop trying to betray you. They want everything, for ever.
Its amazing and validating reading about the fuel matrix bc before ever coming across any info on narcissism i suspected this was what was going on. My narc always has time for me but likes to know the actual time we will meet, talk on the phone, text chat etc. He likes to know in advance and be organized much like a daytimer or scheduler. This was my first red flag that i was being “pencilled in”. Other red flags pointed in the direction that he was never alone or rarely. Its ironic bc he always bashes how his father always had to have a wife and could never live alone yet the narc lives alone and im certain is never “alone” be it online or off. Theres a network in place with supply to keep him satisfied and at ease with himself.
Bliss, I think I looked like death after my last Mid-Range, so I can imagine!
Oh M, sorry to hear! Hope you’re much better now. How long ago was your last contact? I know a lot of people are badly affected by all narcs. I just meant that by my standards (I used to be narc-like in terms of relationships.. now I know what narcs do). I never used to fall in love, not even to my mid ranger husband. No emotions. Walked out of a several relationships without a backward glance because I got bored of them and how they tried to contact me after. Perhaps a few were narcs as they did keep contacting me and I am very much attracted to narcs. So I’m a pretty cold person when it comes to relationships. I remember initially saying to the greater that I would not be in the least affected by him if it didn’t work out… Because I thought that’s who I am, I don’t get affected. But pride comes before a fall. That smirk on his face said it all. He didn’t even bother to respond. He knew better.
Well, if you are to fall, better fall by an Upper Greater(Ultra Elite), says me.
I like you.
No you really don’t. I would ask “how high” If he asked me to jump (even right now). They are deadly.
Sure, M., if you enjoy falling deeper and harder and prefer to have yourself and your complete life destroyed …
You don’t know what you’re talking about. Just because HG likes to dwell in his grandiosity doesn’t mean you’re a prized victim.
Ava, Bliss, you’ve got me wrong. I appreciate your concern, though 🙂
M, I did know what you mean. 😀 I couldn’t help saying what I said due to my experience. People actually commented that I looked like death during my escape/discard from greater and I wasn’t even the IPPS. This is me having survived abuse, divorce, court battles(and worse) from another narc – I was still upbeat and full of life – then along came the greater…
Greaters aren’t that great 😆 although they often say what they are is what makes them great, because they are aware. Aren’t they absolutely arseholes?! (Sorry HG.. More rage)
No they aren’t but they know arrogance goes a long way.
They all get by on the shocks from us.
I don’t believe in this cadres. More that any person has more or lesser intelligence.
I spoke of my brother earlier. Now I reflect I realise with horrror I as his sister was the guinea pig for playing with attachment for his girls later including sexual abuse. I am surprised at how young he was when he started messing with my mind in this way. Luckily I could put up a barrier even at a young age but for him it was there as young as 5. I would say he was copying what he had seen from our parents.
This sickens me. I didn’t stand a chance. No one stands a chance with the UGN. It’s like when you told someone in another post that they wouldn’t last five minutes with you, HG.
HG, do you smell the scent of daddy issues in women? Are they especially easy to ensnare? I would think that would be really easy prey. That’s probably why I was always a dirty little secret for so many years with him. I’m sure it was boring because it was so easy for him. Not really a challenge until I cheated on him when he cheated on me. Tit for tat. Only he never got slaughtered in the wreckage. Every time he saw me with another man he would just smile. No anger in his eyes. No threat. Confident to the bone. He knew I wanted to be with him.
His wife of 45 years must be an especially tough woman. I used to think she was a weak and stupid woman. How could she not be touch and live with him that long? She has endured things I cannot imagine. She sure hates me. She hates him, too. She has a long line of women to hate.
I do. Please see the article “Who’s The Daddy?”.
Is this article out now HG? I have not seen it
Yes.
Hmmmm I haven’t seen it……I do believe you, this happened before technology is against me today
Got my LGN almost right there, plus bits from the other two. Only thing that isn’t right is that he used to have high turnover of IPPS (from what he said) but very quickly he learnt to hold onto IPPS for as long as he could (maintaining the facade) in order to attract far more IPSS who thinks that he is an amazing partner who can work on stable, long term relationships. His turnaround for IPSS must be quick because he was quick with me and what I can gather is quick with others too, can’t be sure though. Maybe it was just me. Maybe I’m a narc, a useless one that lets HG’s kind down. 😭
What are you HG? I thought you have said Elite Greater (but that’s not in your article).
I am an Ultra Elite.
have you done an article that covers the Ultra Elite? or are you the only one 🙂
I am the only one, naturally!
Thought so 🙂
Soon you will be – HG, British-Born, The Greater, the Creator of Chains, the Father of Narcs, Ultra Elite…! (GoT isn’t a banned topic here, is it?)
Ha ha not it is not, titles (largely) please me.
From the article I’ve read, it seems to me i would be much safer with a physically abusive Lesser that I was with, rather than the mind manipulating, gas-lighting, intelligent Greater. The Greater reminds me some what of a dictator. In other words, a very dangerous person.
You are a dangerous man HG. I would never want to be on your bad side.
Hey, I’m going to be ultra super empath then. Because I am sneaky. For a good cause of course.