The Narcissistic Truths – No. 112
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My mother did this to me. But she had been doing it for ao long, I never saw it. I do now. Hard to believe a mother would do this to her own child.
Because of your kind, I have cast my own veil of isolation over myself. A protective shield that I fear will never be removed.
These people make you isolated by trying to put you against your family and friends. This is how they do that:
1. BY COMPLIMENTING YOU
They will say, you’re best friend is manipulating you and that her intelligence is much beneath yours. You’re much prettier, wiser and you should not spend time with people like her. Beside that, where was she when you needed a friend? You’re too kind, stop this toxic friendship.
3. BY PUTTING YOU DOWN
Other times, they will say nobody likes you, because you’re too bossy, too bitchy and too princess-like. They may also try to convince you that your family tried to warn them against you, because everybody knows how difficult you are.
4. BY MAKING YOU FEEL GUILTY
They will convince you not to tell anyone about their name-calling and abuse, because it is all your fault. You provoked their fury, you made them call you “shit”, because it is sooo hard to be with you. You’re such an evil person!
5. BY TESTING YOUR LOYALTY
They may check your messages with your family and friends just to check if you talk about all these nasty things they do. And well if you mention about it to anyone, then what kind of friend you are? How could you ruin their reputation? No, now they don’t want to spend time with your family and friends, and you see – it’s because of you.
6. BY DOMINATING YOUR FREE TIME
He wants you just for himself. Where are you? Why aren’t you at home yet? He wants to call you and you’re at the gym. Want to go to that business party? We’ll he always resigns from such, you should too. He spends every single minute with you, you’re never doing the same! Oh and you have just spent time with your friends for 30 minutes, he’s bored and tied, you should go home now.
We also create that isolation by allowing it and becoming too absorbed in one person…the narc.
Narc affair, do you think that some do not realize it is happening until it is too late. I have seen this with GF’s with new BF’s.
Hi ah oh…yes im sure this happens a lot bc they become so involved and seduced that they spend less time with friends and family then factor in the deliberate tactics of the narc to isolate by smearing or guilt to spend more time with the narc.
In my case i became engulfed by my narc and made him my go to person in many ways which was a big mistake. I see that now and am trying to correct this. He never caused my isolation, i did, but in many situations narcissists deliberately cause isolation especially in physically abusive relatiinships.
I have done that in every relationship I’ve been in.
I was manipulated into leaving social circles that celebrated my unpretentiousness, empathy, and teamspirit.
He was able to assume my traits thru our relationship and wow did it boost his credibility; but meanwhile he seethed with envy at my effortless appeal and with the jealousy caused by (harmless) attention I received from many other males.
The triangulation and ensuing drama exhausted me so I left…thinking it was my choice and in my own best interest.
Wrong.
But I found another group of interesting, successful people to associate with. That may have been my first cognizant moment of Supernova wounding. His silence was…deafening \o/
I hadn’t worked out all that He was yet…but that was my first step.
And not being isolated has clearly helped me move on.