Unbelievable (And How To Tackle It)
Narcissists have a different world view to you. Failing to understand this results in the behaviour which seems entirely appropriate from our perspective, being confusing, bewildering and utterly unbelievable from your perspective.
This results in the use of flawed logic, bad decisions and continued ensnarement with the narcissist.
To understand how the behaviour is unbelievable and importantly what you can do about it, use the link below.
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Hi Jenna If I was on the outside looking on I would call myself an idiot. The reason 95 percent of the time a narc says they will phone and then doesn’t must surely be that they want to hook you? I refuse to be hooked.
I am turned down for sex by this Narc for a few days each month and I feel resentful (I know this is when women are supposed to turn men down I believe that’s the stereotype) so that combined with the fact he is already with someone else means I am too deprived to get hooked. Though I am still being a twit, when the time is right I swear I will be able to let this one go. After that I will be getting neutered.
Thank you, HG. I needed these words this morning, as I sat reflecting on all that has happened this year and how unbelievable all of it is.
You are welcome PR.
When I look back on it all now…..it’s unbelievable, how unbelievable my life with him was……yet at the time, he made it so believable…….Diva
Thank you for giving me something to cling to, HG. Your website and community have saved me, somehow, just in the nick of time.
Good to know Merripen.
Thank you HG! This is precisely what I needed!
You are welcome.
Keep wishing I had read this earlier but come to think of it, wouldn’t have made the slightest bit of difference as I wasn’t ready. Now I am. Thank you for the constant reminder. What we should do in order to stop playing into the hands of narcissists.
You are welcome.
Very practical suggestions at the end.
This is such an excellent post. I will re read it whenever I can only see a sheep but I know I just saw a wolf.
Thank you Mrs L.
“It is unbelievable how much you want that person to contact you even though you have suffered terribly.”
It is due to the love-sex. When we engage in intimacy w a partner, oxytocin is released into the body. It is like a drug. When the narc pulls away, we experience oxytocin withdrawal effects. We wish he will contact us; when he does, the oxytocin levels again and we feel relief. Biochemistry plays a huge part in our lives.
This should be in the Prime Article area. You’ve broken down NPD Abuse simply and elegantly, and there’s not a way to heal without accepting this post to be the absolute truth.
Excellent job, Mr. Tudor.
Thank you. Good suggestion.