Understanding Word Salad
What is word salad?
Why do narcissists use it?
What does it sound like?
How do you deal with it?
This provides you with a comprehensive example of word salad and then detailed explanations about its use and how you may tackle it.
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Hey K… loved ur emojis. 😊… so appropriate for my situation and no doubt urs and many of us here on this blog..thank uuuu 😘🤗😇
Oh gosh.. this type of circular conversation was soooooo familiar. .I could never get a straight answer from this 3 timing womanizing mid ranger ever. The contradictions and contrary behavior did my head in. His word salads would make me so furious that i literally would scream at him to answer my simple questions..i have never screamed at anyone in my life previously!! Of course little did I know that I was giving him negative fuel with each encounter and he would start a fight from nothing to provoke me.
One time he began a conversation with, “U r a f#$ken bitch”.. did you think you would get away with it?” …I said “huh.. what r u talking about” .. to which he replied, “don’t bs me.. u know what u did u bitch”. It made me cringe to think he could “greet” someone he was supposed to love this way first thing in the morning, and secondly accuse me out of thin air over nothing I had even done.. i was terrified…
Other times, to answer my simple questions he would blow it into some huge drama and deflection and would say things such as “i did not”, ” u are a f#$”king liar”, “i’m not going to waste my time and energy on you, simple”, “no comment” (his fave) , “not answering idiot like you”, “im not going to react because you are retarded” , “u have nothing better in life” , “do u think I care” , f..k off mate” (his other fave)…
No wonder i am scarred for life. ..grrrr
Sorry, Tiddlywink! He was a horrible, nasty jerk. I wanted to scream after reading your comment, too. We need a scream emoji for this site.
Thank u K.. yes his narc qualities and red flags certainly became clearer during devaluation .. but at the time i thought had some borderline personality disorder…but it kept me terrified because he could change from nice enough in one sentence to “u bitch” in the next.. i just wouldnt know which mood of his i would be dealing with on a daily basis. The last couple of months though were the worst.. i just had to get out of there for my own sanity…. and yes we need scream emojis for sure!!
Tiddlywink
Here is an emoji rebus: I can 👀 why ur Narc wanted to make you 😱 & 😩. It was 💔 to read what that 💩+head did to U. He was 🔥 & ❄️ So he could get ⛽️ From u. I am so 😀 u aren’t with that 🤡 anymore!!!
This post was one of the more interesting ones I needed to read. This was the way our conversations went all the time about every subject that came up. My ex N was a Gemini and I’m a Virgo so we are both extremely verbal. He’s got 2 (or more) personalities due to his sign anyway and then add narcissism to that – OMFG … and as a Virgo I always have to have the last word… Lord knows, that relationship taught me how to grow out of that bad trait as it was useless. We argued endlessly like this… and then turn around 15 minutes later and be in bed having wild crazy hot monkey sex. What a truly mind fucking relationship ~
Here’s a short piece of the conversation between me and the narc that “was” in my life –
Me : “Why did u want to be friends with me again? Why did you delete me from your friends list again?”
Narc : “I thought it would be nice to apologize, so I apologized”
Me : “Then why are you doing this to me?!”
Narc : “Please stop messaging me. Take care”
Me : “Okay, I’ll stop messaging for now, take care”
Me : *blocks the narc*
Narc : *reactivates his other Facebook account*
Me : *chilled out* *headbanging*
Oh this sounds all to familiar though my Narcopath would have accused me of cheating somewhere in there!
Cantevergoback.. same here.. mine would accuse me of f..king someone if i didnt pick up his call after 1 ring!! Was ridiculously trying to control my every move.. glad to be out of that nightmare!!
Holy shit! Mindfuckery 101! I got anxiety just by reading that:
Ahhh yes.. this. Lol I used to want to hit my head against a brick wall, just to feel something else other than complete INSANITY! But now reading this and looking at it from the outside, it’s actually laughable:)
I literally hit my head against a wall three separate times during my three year old marriage with my narc husband. He discarded me a month back during one of these fights and the way he did it was very cruel. He has gone no contact with me either to punish me or as a result of the final discard. Little does he know that I’m at peace right now knowing that I’m not insane.
I am five months pregnant and all my belongings are at his place, I cannot care less because I am thankful to have my sanity intact. I’m at my narcissist parents’ house and I have finally realized that these people have no souls. This realization has set me free. I no longer expect anything from any of them.
Sam
Good that you have such a positive attitude. Hold onto it! Possessions can be replaced. Keep focused on your healing and what’s best for your baby. ❤️
Sam, it sounds like you are on the right path and doing what’s best for yourself and baby:) Belongings can be replaced, but your sanity and your baby’s well being are priceless.You are very brave and strong to be doing what u know is best , it can’t be an easy time for you.
Boy, oh boy! 95% of our conversations went exactly like that. I would be exhausted from the confusion and sayin, “what the hell?” LOL.
I feel sad that reading this made me laugh. So many people get sucked in to trying to have a serious conversation with their narc like this and it’s really crazy-making.
In my exhusband’s family whenever one of these conversations came up, the standard reply was “What does that have to do with the price of eggs in China?” That was like code for, “I’m on to you and what you’re trying to do.” Sometimes the narcs said it and sometimes we said it to them, but it always meant the same – no useful answers would be forthcoming, so give it up and move on.
lol Windstorm2
That has been my usual response, unless I have been caught in a very defensive mood and I get pulled in.
My head hurts now…