The Narcissistic Icicles – No. 7
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Remarkably, this empowering knowledge presented by HG helps me. I didn’t think my MLVN would find a replacement (or other IPSS), but he did. At first, I hurt, I was hollow, and cried and tried to find out about her. Once I did find out I was shocked as she was not at all what he presented as his “type” and the only thing that helps is knowing that she will also be replaced. The crown of Queen is fleeting!
Always triangulation.
And then some months or years from now, she will be asking the same thing, “Why her?” with respect to the person who will invariably be her replacement and the narcissist will give her the same answer.
This is a sadistic, hurtful pattern that has nothing to do with us as persons.
I know my replacement was thrilled to have been put on a pedestal. I know she was very smug and thought herself as superior when he cast me down and replaced me for her.
I will not get to see how their relationship unfolds or when he devalues or discards her, and I know that at this point the healthiest thing for me is to not care what happens.
But at least now I understand that I and my predecessors were merely part of a predictable pattern and the cruel things he said to me were not personal. They really had nothing to do with me as a person and everything to do with how and who he is.