The Geyser Empath
The Geyser Empath is an individual who is empathic in nature with the additional tendency to fountain with emotion. All empaths are emotional, it goes with the territory but some empaths are far more emotional than others.
This type of empathic tendency is marked by high energy levels. One might even go so far as to say that shades of hyper activity start to appear with the Geyser Empath. He or she is always on the go, heading here and travelling there, seeking out people to see how they are and to exhibit their significant caring side with plenty of suitable expressions of concern, empathy and understanding.
The Geyser Empath is very useful for our kind because of how expressive they are with regard to their emotions. Their responses are exaggerated. This does not mean that they are false, far from it, the exaggeration appears as a heightened response which is very useful for us to witness and then allows us to mimic it.
There is no subtlety involved. When the Geyser Empath is happy it is shown as a torrent of joy, their concern is grave and focussed and their hurt is not of a silent tear but the wail and tears of the tortured. Such displays may seem melodramatic to some, but they are not, they are exactly how the Geyser Empath feels.
The Geyser Empath, owing to the high energy levels talks often about how he or she feels but this is not a case of them explaining that because it must be all about them, but rather they will convey those feelings in order to help others by causing them to better understand. When someone talks about being in despair, the Geyser Empath will relate how they know despair only too well and will articulate that feeling in order to demonstrate that they understand how the listener feels.
This person has a tissue thin skin and is highly sensitive. They are very easily hurt and when we lash out against them, they respond with a fountain of emotion. If they are praised, their thanks will gush from them with greater intensity than a Gwyneth Paltrow Oscar acceptance speech. If they are denigrated, the tears will not flow but they will cascade along with that trembling bottom lip and a near histrionic response to the pain caused by wounding words.
The Geyser Empath is unable to put on a brave face. Whilst the Carrier Empath is dogged and stoic in the face of adversity, focussing their empathy on resolving the situation in a practical fashion, the Geyser Empath will dissolve in a bubbling mess of tears. They are completely unable to conceal their emotions, even for a short time. A Carrier Empath can do so because they shift their feelings on to solving a problem. The Geyser Empath does not have that function. They are excellent at tea and sympathy, kind and comforting words flowing, but of little use practically.
Unlike the Magnet Empath, the Geyser Empath is better dealing with intimate and one-on-one situations rather than handling a crowd. The Geyser Empath loves nothing more than finding an individual as their project and wanting to use their biggest asset in order to resolve issues; their utter devotion to love.
They are the greatest love devotees of all empaths, they truly believe that with love everything can be solved. Love conquers everything, all you need is love, love will save the day. If you were to ask them just how this happens, they could not answer, but explain that love works in mysterious ways and by being loving, showing love and acting with love in each and everything they do, this will resolve problems, heal hurt and bring happiness to all.
This devotion to love means that the Geyser Empath is big on romance and will readily fall prey to overt exhibitions of passion, love and romance from our kind. Any narcissist which presents as the knight in shining armour will have the Geyser Empath’s attention from the beginning as he or she believes they have found a kindred spirit.
The Geyser Empath’s overt displays of emotion make our task of mirroring so much easier. He or she will wear his or her heart on their sleeve and they will suffer repeated heartbreak. Notwithstanding this outcome, the Geyser Empath is undeterred. They will suffer misery and pain from this broken heart and they will then affirm their belief in love and bounce back.
No matter how devastated they are following the shattering of their heart, they will piece it back together and will do so with greater speed amongst the empathic types. They may suffer considerable pain and they will exhibit the effect more greatly than other empathic types but they also re-charge with a greater speed as a consequence of their devotion to love. Their belief is unshakeable.
No matter how many times they are let down, hurt, cheated on and so forth, they will soon bounce back. They are not naïve but rather have an undimmed and undented belief in the power of love. This capacity for returning to the arena of love so promptly after heartache means that they are ideal candidates for post discard and post escape hoovers as they ‘refuel’ so quickly.
The Geyser Empath is highly sensitive and will be moved to tears regularly be they tears of joy or tears of pain. There will often be a need for a tissue when this person is around. One might be moved to consider them as someone pathetic but that would be an inappropriate label. Yes the Geyser Empath is very easy to manipulate into spurting out fuel and because of their beliefs they will suffer repeated hurts but their strength lies in their unwavering belief in love and how they soon bounce back following their set backs.
They will do Misery 2.0 when they are wounded and hurt, the sobbing, the wailing and the tears will be extensive but it will not last. They do not wallow, but wipe away the tears, reapply the mascara, smooth down the rumpled clothes and climb right back on to their Unicorn of Love and Hope and gallop into the fray once again. The Geyser Empath can exhibit unpredictability of response.
There will always be emotion, which suits our kind, but the extent and intensity of it may at times be so startling that it actually affects the standing of the narcissist with third parties who look on and witness what appears to them to be histrionics and melodrama. Exerting control over this emotional output can at times prove difficult for all save the Greater Narcissist.
The Geyser Empath lacks the serenity of the Magnet Empath and there is no cool deliberation of the Carrier. The Geyser will erupt with emotion with squeals of delight at the good news of a friend who is to be a parent, the triumphant praise for a colleague who has secured a promotion and the devastated collapse following the death of a loved one. The Geyser Empath believes that everyone has the capacity to love and that once they do, all their ills will be solved.
This person appeals to all schools of narcissist because of the high fuel content that is provided and the ease by which it can be provoked. They are easy to seduce but tend to suffer swifter devaluations than other empaths because they shine brighter and thus run the risk of our kind becoming familiar with their fuel in a quicker time so that the potency loses its lustre sooner.
As explained above however, they are prime candidates for hoovers and often the hoover bar is lower for them as a consequence of the narcissist knowing that so much delicious fuel will become available with the added bonus of it being hoover fuel and furthermore because the devotion to love means that the Geyser Empath has a greater susceptibility to giving second, third and fourth chances.
The Geyser Empathic tendency is evident in all of the classes of empathic individuals. This tendency is often seen amongst the Co-Dependent class when this tendency manifests in an extreme form. Its presence will exist in Empaths but tends to be mixed with other empathic tendencies as well so the effect will be slightly diluted but not muted.
With regard to the Super Empath it is unusual to see the Geyser Empathic tendency because of the Super Empath’s inherent resilience to both a sudden devaluation and being hoovered.
The Lesser is drawn to those with this tendency because the effort required is so minimal to prompt a response and thus accords with the Lesser narcissist’s lower energy levels and reduced cognitive function for manipulation and machinations.
The Mid-Ranger will also be attracted because of the fuel on offer and the ease by which it can be harvested but the emotional volatility can become wearing to the Mid-Ranger because he will struggle to assert control to achieve some of his aims.
The Greater revels in those with Geyser Empathic tendencies finding the sudden eruptions amusing and playing straight into his portrayal of the individual as unbalanced and unhinged. He or she will take a perverse pleasure in provoking the Geyser into giving more and more fuel.
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HG, I don’t even know if I’m an empath. I could be a normal, or hell, even a narc, but if I am one, a lot of the Geyser fits. That said, I *used* to fountain with emotion, but started feeling like I didn’t want to give my hub the satisfaction of seeing his outbursts intimidate me. So, I started being stoic. It’s an act because my nerves are frayed, but he does not see the hurt/anger/fear. Can one be a Geyster and still act stoic?
Perse
I bet its bagless too.
NarcAngel,
You know it!!!
Catherine, Bibi, NarcAngel,
My N made sure that my Christmas Present that sucked had a lifetime warranty.
Just think, a lifetime hoover! What everprescence!
(It’s a Shark, too, but it cleans up better than he ever did.)
Wow Perse, that was courteous of him. If it cleans up better than he ever did I guess it was worth it anyway.
Ooh! I have a Shark too and boy does it SUCK! As vacuums should. What a great appliance. Why should Hoover get all the credit?
Funny! Mine just broke and I was deciding if I should get the Shark.
LOL. Only gift I ever got was a garbage can. How fitting. Now I get to think About him ever Monday night when I take it to the curb.
Catherine
Would that be considered a pre-emptive strike on a Hoover?
Bibi
Your observations make me laugh.
Ha ha.. NarcAngel, it most certainly would!
I’ll have you know that my water heater has betrayed me and decided to break in the middle of January, forcing me to have to boil water and pour it into a tub just so I can take a lukewarm 4 minute bath.
This faulty water heater must be replaced.
I will then post photos of me and my new water heater all over FB so everyone can know how great this new one is and how defective the old was. I don’t plan to ever hoover the old one. It can rot in a landfill for all I care.
I will never get over how it failed me.
Bibi – that was beyond awesome!
Oh, Bibi, I have the same small issue with my malfunctioning light bulb in the bathroom. It just suddenly went out like that in a poff! when I was using it thoroughly yesterday; bathing myself in its clear vision, basking in its glory through the mirror above the sink that magnifies and ascertains my very existence. Lucky me that I already had a new bulb in stock so I needn’t worry about even going out to replace it. The new light shines that much brighter than the last one did anyway; I can’t even imagine why I kept it’s dim and murky reflections for so long. Not that I even will think more of it from now on. I’ve never seen myself more beautiful and powerful above that sink than with my new bulb anyway. It’s magic. I’ll post on Facebook too;)
I was thinking of a letter to me written from the pov of my water heater. I don’t know how articulate a water heater could be, however.
‘It wasn’t my pilot light that burned out, but rather, that I was cracked from within and still under warranty…’
Ha ha! I’m lucky none of my appliances are that articulate; otherwise there would be a heap of accusative and plaintive letters for me to deal with sooner or later. My vacuum cleaner needs to go in the near future too, the ungrateful bastard;)
I’m a Super empath with Magnet tendencies. I do really well with people and remain pleasant/hopeful most of the time. The Geyser reminds me of what I’m like when negative fuel is extracted. My narcissists and myself have both been surprised by my furious and disgusted reaction. It’s very difficult to get me to this point. It so offends me that my hopefulness and love isn’t appreciated and even abused. If you get me to provide negative fuel …beware. Drink up and enjoy it bc you are likely going to be severely wounded when I exhaust and become indifferent…and then I will disengage. I’ll forget you ever existed. If you unlock my negative fuel then “may the lord have mercy on your soul.”
I still see myself in all the classes.. some of this one, some of that one… *sigh*
Jasmine
I understand what you are saying, so do I. It was one reason why I couldn’t figure out which school I belong to.
May I ask you some questions?
Of course. I’m basically an open book (I just can’t talk about any trial related stuff.. anything else is a-ok)
Jasmine
We can call you a variety empath! Little bit of everything all in one. Lol…🙂
Lol Realitysetsin! The variety pack. I sound like candy 🙃 Tasty. Bad for you. 😜
HG, my MRN keeps saying he “loves crazy people”. His current girlfriend is a recovering drug addict and may be a geyser empath. Does the narc “love crazy people” because they spew so much fuel?
Primarily, yes.
Ok, now this really makes sense! TY
So if that’s the case why do they say you are constantly and tell you that you’re too crazy ? Fuel in guessing
Dear HG
I very seldom see males commenting when it comes to emotions, psychology or their own personal problems. All the letters are from females. Why is that, that men don’t take any interest in contributing with their experiences. I have heard that number of female narcs are in the same ratio as males. Males are also suffering in equal numbers. Is it because of fear of what will others say about their vulnerabilities or no one will believe them?
It is evidently linked to a societal influence of men not doing so and women regarded as those who are more likely to discuss such things. It is also linked to a gender bias which suggests that there are more male narcissists than female (I consider it to be relatively equal but female narcissists are not ‘spotted” as readily because of the way society allocates a particular view of women). Plus, female narcissists will be mis-labelled (“crazy ex gf”, “high maintenance”, “bunny boiler” etc) and thus men are less likely to see them as narcissists and therefore would not access sites to try to understand more about it and expand on their experiences. I understand there is one particular site which is dedicated to men who are the victims of abusive women (which includes narcissist females) but I do not know the extent of its membership.
Hg, these categories that you describe, can you do them because you are an elite Narcissist? What happens to the mid-level narcist do you perceive these categories?
I do them because I am an Ultra and the writer of this blog and my books. The MR narcissist will interact and gravitate towards the various schools and cadres of empath but would not know them as such.
I can say for certainty I am not a geyser empath although I am highly emotional I learned from childhood to hold it in because nobody gives a damn pretty sure I’m a carrier empath
Ugotit
I’m sorry your childhood was like that! Don’t hold it in anymore. I know it’s easier said.
This sounds a lot like me. However, over the years I have trained myself to curb some of that emotion. It sucks to be really sensitive because I want to be mean and badass. LOL
I have found myself needing to fence in a lot because I do hurt easily, and when the narcissist–or someone I have let in and allowed myself to trust, starts the manipulation dance, it really hurts and I erupt.
This is partly why the cold logic of the narc/socio is so appealing. My emotions boil up, narc/socio instills the logic and I feel a lot better, calmer and comforted.
However, that cold logic when used in devaluation– that is some serious ice prickers.
Skin CAN be thickened. I have thickened mine. It won’t ever be as thick as a ‘normal’ person, but then again, what is that nowadays?
Wow!! The narc in my life has made me act like this. Hysterical, over-reacting, in tears, to the point that I don’t recognize myself. It goes on for days and days, and then I shut it down. It’s so embarrassing but I don’t know if I’m a geyserempath because normally I don’t act this way. I think he enjoys it because he doesn’t seem perturbed by it, and in fact he pushes me more.
With the emotion in my skin … I recognize myself here!
I do believe I have some of these qualities of the Geyser Empath; also those of a codependent of course. I always have been highly sensitive and I grew up in a family where melodramatic displays of emotions in a manipulative sense were a daily occurrence. But I’ve tried hard all my life not to wear my heart on the sleeve and it took a relationship with a narcissist to bring it all out in me again. I was suddenly overly dramatic, I cried and I wailed, I pleaded innocent to all his accusations; I begged for him to listen to me; I fought for justice, I was the one who never let him sleep those nights; and in the end I didn’t even know who that hysterical woman screaming all the night was anymore. That scares me still. How he could provoke me so easily into becoming someone I don’t want to be.
Wow, just wow. The accuracy of this is uncanny.
Wow! I wonder if this is me? Or maybe I’m something worse lol! But all of it seemed to resignate with me and how people have described me my whole life. Just wow! I never knew what an empath was until I dated a psychopath and fell in love with him and suffered the aftermath of a broken heart. I began reading about this stuff and came across the empath definition or theory and I was so amazed that there was a word for it or label. But now I see that there are different kinds of empaths as well as narcissists which I never knew before first finding this blog. Interesting! The part that really caught my attention was the bounce back affect. The forgiving factor and chances! Definitely the Love part. But as I was reading about the mid ranges reaction to being worn down because it’s a lot of work to maintain control in the relationship with this type of empath, I really thought of my ex! He even made the comment towards the end that it was just too hard! Like to hard to keep it up with me like I was too much work! And yes eventually wrapped that into his assessment of me that I was indeed crazy! Lol unbalanced and of course unhinged! Of course in the beginning he loved that about me, stating he loved my level of passion and badly craved it! Anyways! Let me tell you though, when he attempted it did indeed mirror that passion and my attributes back to me, his version was way weirder and a bit scary to be sure. I must have exhausted that man, him trying to mirror me. Ha!
Realitysetsin – Yes, yes, yes! My ex narc also liked my level of passion and said I was high energy and he couldn’t keep up with me and that was ultimately my downfall as he told me I was too high functioning. They make us think we are crazy. I read HG’s assessment of all the different empaths and this was the closest to me. We wear ourselves out trying to be all things to everyone.
Yes I agree! But I think I wore him out way more! Lol….it’s laughable now when I think of it. Someone so obviously void of good emotions or love of any kind and so low energy to try mirroring someone like me! Hahahahaha! He did always seem so exhausted all of the time. Although the did have a very important career that demanded a lot of him. Anyways and yes this one fits me the best as well by far. Hopefully I’m not borderline lol! I’ve wondered that a couple of times but yeah anyways! I’m functioning at least if I am.
I understand wondering about bpd. I have very high highs and low lows. I feel like a yo-yo sometimes.
Here you have HG’s support Geyser!
This is his way of punishing me for coming on to strong to you.
And then he says elsewhere that he does not manipulate on this blog.
Ha ha. You do not fool me Mr. Tudor.!
You are not being punished. You are making a connection which is inaccurate. There is nothing to fool you about.
Gaslighting. I´m out.
Yawn. It really isn’t, for several reasons, but it would be unproductive to spend time explaining.
Blank
I have to agree with HG here. This woman gave herself the name for this blog. HG did not give her that name this is what she thinks she is. I believe he was just simply writing about the different kinds of empaths. By her commenting right away, because she does have this name in her name on this blog, it looked like to you that he was supporting her. I do not believe he is. But I do believe she got under your skin pretty bad unintentionally however. I get where your coming from in all the things you said to her, but don’t let her get to you anymore. She is her own problem and any further turmoil caused by your remarks to her will only serve to make you look bad. Which I think you had some valid points and you called her out on them. Your right, your opinion. But I do not believe HG would be trying to fool you. It’s like he said it’s “you are not be punished, you are making a connection which is inaccurate”….it happens when emotions are high which they definitely are today.
Entirely accurate.
Tertiary sources don’t get punishment.
I knew I was emotional, HG and am thin skinned and reduced to tears easily, but I didn’t know what I was, empathically, until reading on your site. This explains why my MLVN was attracted to my fuel and why I am devastated at him shelving me. Thank you!
Geyserempath … I feel the same way … and react the same and also shelved and was devastated… I’m so sorry
I am sorry for you, too. If we adhere to HG’s advice (instead of not listening as I have been doing), we can get through this.