Ten Seductive Sentences Used By The Narcissist
The Perfect Ten Sentences of Seduction
What is really meant when we say these words.
1. I love you and I always have
My need to seduce you is considerable and therefore I will use language which will appeal to you and be so outlandish that it will blow you away. I do not actually love you. I do not love in the way that you do. I understand that the closest I come to it is infatuation. I am not in fact infatuated with you but more precisely with what you can do for me. My needs are paramount. Yours are largely irrelevant. I write irrelevant because I do take them into account during the seduction but after that they are thrown to one side. I love the fact you fuel me, allow me to steal traits of your for my own use and you give me shelter, meals and money.
2. We are soulmates
I know you are a big believer in emotional concepts such as love, spirituality and the soul. I need to tap into that and I need to do so quickly. I want to suggest that our love goes beyond this earthly plane on which we stand and it is something all the more ethereal and noble. That ought to impress you and cause you to become bound to me. I am not your soul mate, I am here to steal your soul because I do not have one.
3. I have not loved anyone like this before
There will be half a dozen willing witnesses who will testify to the contrary. In my world however I have deleted them from my mind (except when I fancy hoovering them and triangulating them with you for some extra fuel) and there was nothing like what I feel for you now. They are defunct and redundant, an unfortunate reminder of an abuser who trapped me. They do not matter now, you are all that matters to me now, your fuel, to be accurate, is all that matters to me now.
4. I want us to be together forever
There is no want about it. We are already locked together forever. You may not think this and indeed somewhere along the line you will want to escape me, although quite why that is when you are the problem, is beyond me. Anyway, that is for later. Right now you have agreed (although you will never recall having said such words to that effect) to remain my property for the rest of your life. This means that everything you own, have and are now belongs to me and I will deal with it in whatever fashion I see fit. I will use and abuse you over and over again as this is my right. Just when you think I have disappeared I will be back more. This is a life-long covenant.
5. We have so much in common
What a wonderful occurrence, such serendipity that everything you like I like as well. Even better, all the things that you do not like, I do not like either. It as if we are two halves of one perfect person. That is exactly what I see because all I will do is mirror you. I have spent time watching you, observing you, finding out about you from friends and scouring your internet footprint in order to learn as much as I can about you so that I can present myself as mirror image. I actually cannot stand listening to Coldplay but that isn’t going to stand in the way of my replication so I seduce you with incredible speed and ease.
6. I hate it when we are apart
A rare nugget of truth here. I do hate it when we are apart but for the reasons I have made you think. You think it is because I miss the wonderful, kind, humorous and delightful you. I actually miss all that positive fuel you supply me with when we are together as you are taken in by this illusion that I have created. Moreover I hate the fact that when I am not with you I cannot control your environment and I am concerned that with space to think and breathe you may just see through what I am doing or even worse, you may listen to one of your so-called friends who will be whispering in your ear and briefing against me. I don’t want your head turned elsewhere. I want it looking at me. Always.
7. Nobody can love you the way I do.
Amazingly another piece of truth. Nobody else can love you in this way because none of it is real. This is all made-up in order to attract you and bind you to me because if you saw what I was really like (not that I would ever allow that to happen) you would run screaming and never return. Accordingly, I will love you in a way that you are unlikely to have experienced before by deluging you with desire and then nearly destroying you through malice and vitriolic hatred. Told you I was special.
8. I can’t believe we have only just met. I feel like I’ve known you forever. Let’s live together.
It feels familiar to me because you are giving me positive fuel just like your predecessor and the one before her and the one before her as well. I do not distinguish between you, not really, because you are all appliances to me which I want to ensnare and then drain as you pump out delicious fuel for me to consume. I say this though to make you feel special and because I am obviously so wonderful and brilliant you will be thrilled that someone like me wants to live with you. This will make you grab this marvellous opportunity before you lose it and then I have ensnared you.
9. I need you. I want you. I love you.
Sounds dramatic and romantic doesn’t it? Makes you feel as if everything is focussed on you and I could not live without you. Notice how many times I used the word “I”? That’s because this is all about me and nothing to do with you save for what you can do for me. I really mean that I need your fuel, I want your fuel and I love your fuel.
10. You have saved me.
Yet more drama straight from the romantic handbook. I know your type. That is why I chose you. You like to fix, heal and save. You will have plenty to do in that regard, believe me, but that will come later. For now what I really mean is that you have saved me having to look anywhere else for fuel. Time to feed.
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HG Tudor
‘…and then what happened?’
Jasmine
‘Then we go dumb’
LOL. Yes, but slowly.
When I told W that he didn’t know me well enough to say he loved me, he told me I was wonderful, how could he not love me? I said gratitude is not love. (He was my roommate, I’d bailed him out of jail, for a minor offense. Hey, I needed him to be able to pay his share.)
He backed off, but worked on me still, but slowly. When ever I was uncomfortable, he’d back off a little, but push on me a little more each time, until I’d get used to the compliments, exclamations of my love-worthiness, admiration of my traits, etc.
In the meantime, he was making friends with my friends, hinting that we were “more” than friends, discouraging other suitors in this way, also, effectively “cockblocking”, so there were no others to shift my attention away from him.
Perse, they are masters at manipulation, certainly. And I am a fool every bloody time.
Jasmine,
Me, too, a fool, but I will endeavor to be no more.
At least, we are in excellent company, as evidenced by the many discerning and learning people we interact with here.
Perse
Perse,
Yes we are! 😊💞
I still get emails with “We are soulmates.”; “I want us to be together forever.” and “In my mind you are still my partner.” from an ex. A relationship I ended years ago. Three lines I have never used and could never tell anybody no matter how much I thought I liked them. Cheesy, cliche and I know they would be lies if I said them or received them. His hoovers don’t feel like they are directed at me. I feel like he is reaching to the wrong person.
Hey Sniglet, I had the same feeling during seduction phase. He was like “omg we are meant for each other!”. I was like “ee what are you talking about? You know me just for one week, don;t be a fool!”. I also told him, his grand words iritate me and I want him not to talk to me in this theatric manner 🙂
…and then what happened?
Then we go dumb
Carolyn – some men try to seduce women with the grandest of phrases. I never believe any of them. I have an internal measuring device. If I do not feel the same about them, then the likelihood that they feel what they seductively utter is small, zero and/or it is just lust. Lust lasts a short time then hormones level out, and those delicious words disappear within weeks or a few months. Unless he is financially dependent on me. That is also the reason I don’t take compliments well because most of the time they are bullshit. Someone would want something from me sooner or later (a caveat – this varies with cultures). If a man knows body language well, during his seduction and knowing me a short time, he will see a glimpse of disbelief in my eyes. They get smaller, I look to the left quickly and give a little smirk. Eyebrows slightly raised, then I quickly compose myself and depending on what I want I move in for the kill. (JOKE!) No, I remove myself from the situation in the absence of chemistry. Attached men can become a nuisance and dangerous for a woman.
A guy said to me once that he would give me the world. I thought – buy yourself at least a car first then we may talk again.
…and that is what happened!
Yes all of these things were said! But don’t some people in love that are not Narcissists say these things?
I heard 7/10 of the above from my ex regularly.
The interpretations make perfect sense.
Thank you HG
Pleasure.
PureSoul,
Experienced that, too.
It puts you off balance, because they seem unbalanced.
Scary as f**k, and keeps you frozen in place.
I have heard all of those with tear filled eyes and shaking lips. And then, on the break up day, I heard this: “I feel bad that I lied to you many times saying I would always be with you; other than that, I am ok”. I felt just like the character of Margareth Atwood’s Alias Grace: “They call me a liar, a slut, a mentally disabled, a child, a cunning vixen, a victim, a murderer, a lunatic…now tell me: how can I be all those things at the same time?”. It was overwhelming.
i was called all that … and many more .and that i willbe tortured and killed…
😣
then 1 hour or less later ask me to forgive him.. and tells me that i am his everlasting love and miracle … and more..
😜
Pure Soul:
Clue – maybe the person who he thought would be his new IPPS wasn’t avaliable, hahaha…
I hope you have gone the Correct No Contact and left him fuel starved. How could we beleive in such dramatic liars…?
Have you ever heard Lana del Rey’s song “Big Eyes”? There’s a line that echoes to me every time: “It’s amazing what women in love will do”.
Cheers! <3
PureSoul
He said he would torture and kill you?
That’s pretty intense! I mean was he serious? Just curious.
How do we stay under the radar? Is it possible to hide our empathic traits?
No. You learn to recognise our kind and then evade/reject during the window of evasion.
Recognition… I need much work in that department. What is this “window of evasion”?
Something I explain in consultation.
I’ve heard all 10 of these but only from a greater narc. What I don’t understand is how the greater narcs come up with the same exact sayings???
Look at it the other way around Anne – the fact these comments are said by a particular set of people demonstrates they are narcissists, rather than because they are narcissists we say similar things.
HG, thank you for this observation. Come to think of it, the narc was the only person I have heard say some of these things. I think it’s a very helpful way to think of this as we continue to struggle with whether the person we believe is a narc is indeed a narc.
Such a simple way of rethinking that makes SO much sense. Thank you, HG! Now when I hear these sayings I’ll know they are a narcissist instead of thinking maybe, possibly…
Just a simple question HG
Narcissists will never be able to truly love and be faithfull to one partner?
Correct.
thank you HG dear
But wouldn’t you want to learn to?
Why? I see no advantage in doing so.
HG
I know you have no advantage to do so.. ( to learn to truly love and be faithfull)
but the advantage would be for your growth in what, i believe, would at the end give you more satisfying advantages.
Thank you for answering. I remain unconvinced.
“I need youuuuu. I want youuuuu. I love youuu.” With a syrupy voice.
What a creep!
Lol – I have truly met the creepiest of them all.
NP
Sadly I must admit I have felt and said all of these things myself to the one I was falling for! I said these very things to the narcissist! Lol! But I’m not a narcissist! Weird.
It’s like honestly I was lovebombing the heck out of them right along with reviewing all of their live bombing! It was a two way street. I was just as crazy for them as they pretended to be for me. I guess that’s the difference….mine was real and theirs was fake! But I matched them with intensity to be sure….they were receiving back the same adoration they were giving me. AKA
“Love bombing” the more they admired me the more I admired them and round and round we gooooooo!
Where’s the “hate” button ..