Further Confessions of a Narcissist
Further confessions from the dark-hearted narcissist.
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Why does he exhibit his attitude to money? What is his response to the question of your needs? Did he ever actually love you? What was that which he showed you during your dance with him? How does he know so quickly who will provide him with the most potent fuel? These questions and many others are answered in this unforgettable foray into the mind and behaviours of a narcissist.
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HG are you familiar with Hyacinth Bucket? Does she remind you of matrinarc?
I know of the character.
No, she does not.
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Do you think Ms. Bucket is a narcissist?
Thank you.
1. She is obsessed with “Keeping Up Appearances”.
2. Richard is a long-suffering IPPS. He is often blamed for anything which goes wrong, he is expected to support everything she does, he is bossed around repeatedly.
3. She is haughty in her behaviour with Richard, her next door neighbour, her family, members of the neighbourhood.
4. She switches appearances in the moment when someone she regards as socially acceptable appears – the Vicar, a member of the local gentry.
5. She is grandiose – Bucket becomes Bouquet, her exaggerated telephone manner “The lady of the house speaking”, her candlelight suppers.
6. She has an excessive need for admiration from those around her – especially Richard and her female neighbour.
7. She has poor boundary recognition – walking in to places uninvited, expecting to attend certain events, removing people’s drinks when they have not finished with them.
8. She lacks empathy – see treatment of husband, neighbour, family. She has cognitive empathy and she can turn it on when it suits her.
9. She has a golden child – Sheridan – who she triangulates with her husband. Note how Sheridan stays away and only ever calls when he wants something – usually money. Even though he stays away, he is idealised, whereas downtrodden Richard who always provides support and is a general dogsbody is never appreciated.
There’s plenty to analyse with good old Hyacinth!
“dogsbody” this is my HG word of the day! Love it! We don’t use that here, but we totally should.
Good memory, I forgot about most of those behaviours.
You seem to have covered everything thanks.
When I think of RIchard I see that suffering look. Really it’s not comedy, it’s horror.
Indeed Brian. The sergeant-major battle axe type who is invariably the butt of mother-in-law jokes, the domineering matrinarc who bosses everybody around at family gatherings or the supposedly community-minded busybody find themselves lampooned in programmes such as this. Of course, it is a fictional character but she will be drawn from the experiences of the writers and the programme’s popularity will be based primarily on people knowing a Hyacinth. However, all it does is enable us to fit in more readily. They do not see the narcissist – they see the over-bearing lady from church. They do not see the narcissist – they see the well-meaning but dictatorial mother-in-law. They do not see the narcissist – they see the lynchpin of the family who keeps order over the brood.
Yes when I was watching it I didn’t see her references to Sheridan as triangulation..as I had no idea triangulation existed. That probably flies over the head of most people. It might even allow them to fit in more as you say.
Indeed although of course I will always recognise them, even when they appear under a different name.
I was moved by that story too. Showed surprising vulnerability.
I just bought this book. HG, I was very moved by your writing of the rain at the cabin. Coincidentally as I’m writing this to you, ‘Reptile’ by the Church just came on. Faithfully reading…
I just finished the 3rd confessions book. I quite enjoyed the series. Eye-opening with lots of surprising vulnerability thrown in the mix courtesy of our fearless prolific writer.
Excellent .
HG are you the baby Caroline and Steven Brooks found in Feted and Feared?
Did they find one?