Why Is The Narcissist’s Facebook Page Silent?
Of all the various social media platforms that are available, Facebook remains a clear favourite with our kind. Its titanic status and near ubiquitous nature appeal as does the fact that it remains the demographic social media home of the majority of our victims. Facebook is used extensively but there is an occurrence whereby it appears that our once vibrant Facebook page has fallen into disuse. The profile picture never alters whereas it once changed several times a day to allow us to show off the latest snapshot of our brilliance. The timeline remains mournfully empty. There are no posts about our latest achievements and accomplishments. There is no sharing of the latest video we have uploaded or the link to YouTube for the same purpose. The only things that can be seen are the annual birthday well wishes from those reminded by the automated feature on the platform. There are never any replies to these salutations. There are postings from years ago but everything appears to be silent. Your friend request may have been accepted but nothing more has happened and now our profile drifts silently through cyberspace like some ghost ship. Why do we let this happen?
- Bring out the spyglass
Just because there is not anything happening on our profile it does not mean that there is nothing happening. We are using this profile to spy on you and others. We utilise it for the gathering of information prior to the seduction, we use it to keep an eye on what you are doing on your profile page during the devaluation and we utilise it to keep tabs on you in readiness for that hoover. Silent and looming we use the profile to watch you, waiting and calculating our next move. As you churn out the comments, posts and likes, we are watching, that small smile playing across our lips, forked tongue brushing those sharp teeth as we lie in wait.
- Triangulation
“Yes I am on Facebook, you can send me a friend request if you wish, but I never use it. I haven’t in years. I am too busy you see; I prefer to do my living in the real world. It is being with people that matters to me. I don’t need to herald what I achieve on an electronic platform, I let my actions in real life speak for themselves. That is what matters to me. I prefer to be face to face with people, seeing them hearing them speak and watching them.”
An earnest speech designed to impress you and con you into thinking that there is nothing to be wary about with regards to our Facebook profile. We triangulate you with a supposedly dead Facebook profile in order to cause you to admire us for being so “real”. Oh the irony. All of it is tripe. Made-up for the purposes of making us sound good. Apart from the last sentence. That one is true though not for the reasons most people would expect. That personal interaction is required because that is where the best fuel is.
- Deterrent
You are less likely to block us if you think we never use our Facebook page which comes in useful for keeping an eye on you post discard for the purposes of organising a hoover. If we are unlikely to use our profile or even read it then you are dissuaded from posting anything there which might upset our carefully crafted façade. Why bother when nobody reads it? By conning you that this profile is never visited you will similarly keep away from it and thus we reduce your chances of interference and also those of your supporters. This means fewer people to tackle online when the smear campaign is rolled out.
- Ever Presence
If there was no Facebook page, then you could obviously never look at it could you? By keeping it and not blocking you, you will keep returning to it post escape and post discard because you cannot help but want to know what we are doing, whether we are saying anything about you. You may not be minded to post anything in accordance with the point above (you do not of course want us to know that you are sneaking these looks) but you will look nevertheless. You always do. You keep returning to it in the hope of some posting, some development and some news. This keeps you linked to us and keeps us in your mind as each day you conduct your obligatory tour of our social media platforms.
- Cover Story
The lack of activity on our Facebook profile allows us to maintain plausible deniability. How can we be engaging in flirting online if we never go on Facebook? Look, nothing is happening. Here, check the messages. See there is nothing there and hasn’t been for months. I hate you being so controlling like this; why do you treat me this way? We use it to assume the moral high ground and provoke you into responding to our jibes.
- The Action is Elsewhere
You cannot seriously expect us to lose one of our main weapons in our game playing can you? Whilst our “real” profile may be dormant, the real action is taking place using a fake profile where we are gathering legions of prospective targets, engaging in flattery, flirtation and fabrication as we suck fuel from these individuals and look to identify potential targets for a closer approach to them. Do not think that the fact we use a fabricated profile will stand in our way to converting the seduction to a real-life interaction. We have a thousand lies to legitimately explain away why we did this and the intrigue will make you want us all the more.
- Resurrection
At some point we will crank the profile back into life and the proliferation of likes, postings and comments will begin again. We operate through contrast and this difference between dormancy and vibrancy will be used to our advantage and to your disadvantage. You can rest assured of that. We will suddenly engage with people and allow you to see it, but not engage with you, in order to continue our devaluation of you. We may spring into life and seduce you through the profile proclaiming that you are so special we wanted to tell the world all about you and use our Facebook profile (free from being cluttered with less worthy individuals) about it.
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Hi HG,
Why does the victim narcissist LMRN or MMRN deactivate his Facebook page?
To prevent interference and head off potential difficulties arising from the courting of multiple appliances.
Wow! This makes sense because I noticed that his Facebook friends number was going up and then going down in a week. He also told me that he had to block people because they were becoming “too demanding”.
In what ways did he mean by when he said that they were becoming too demanding?
Either they were wanting support and he is not going to give it, hence that reaction or it is just a handy excuse to use for someone who keeps pestering him when he is no longer interested in them or he has just used it to explain getting rid of people because form his perspective he needed to do that.
This cracks me up!! Mine told me he didn’t have Facebook, and is not ‘there’ as himself, connected to any of his family. But lo and behold – JUST two days ago I found his fake Facebook page. I found it by Googling his FAKE email, which took me straight to the fake page. The fake page uses a name with the same initials he uses for his fake email name and for the fake name he gave me when we first met. There is nothing on the page except a location, so I know he uses it for spying on me (and others, I am sure, this is the third platform he has used for stalking me). I blocked it. Of course now he must know I found his fake page because he cannot ‘see’ me anymore. I’m pretty locked down but he’d still be able to see a few pictures and comments. The day after I blocked his fake page, I got a friend request from a fake person. Handsome man – a widow! – whose profession is something in which my narc would think I would be interested. You might wonder why my name here is SMH…now you know (well, most of you probably do not wonder).
Ok, I have zero experience with Facebook or social media. So… if his Facebook page is blank, static, and he “hasn’t used it in years”… is it possible for 98 notices to show up in his email a few times a week?
Good morning HG ..
I posted a comment quite some time ago which you kept in moderation .
The comment was regarding an unsubstantiated report Narc had made to the authorities about me & the potential it had to cause a lot trouble had I not been able to provide evidence to the contrary.
I asked if this was a malign hoover & said there was a fair amount of online evidence indicating that he’s triangulating his IPPS with me to the point where she’s worked herself up to an absolute fuel filled frenzy.
As you know ( thanks to your blog ) I’m several years free now . 🙂 Why now? I’m confused as to why it would be a malign hoover, if she’s being triangulated surely it would be benign, if in fact that’s what it was.?
Should I expect more?.
I’ve been regularly checking to see your reply but can’t seem to find it, though I appreciate that you’ve been busy & there is a possibility it’s still in moderation.
If you did reply apologies for asking again .
Thanks HG
NNS ..
How about Facebook messenger, the evil twin and
devil incarnate partner of the regular Facebook platform. I looked him up online and accidentally clicked the thumbs up button sending him a stupid thumbs up message for no reason (while I was skulking and stalking)… I quickly replied with an “oops sorry about that”…. which was immediately time stamped as it was read by him. No reply. I took it one more step and started conversation to make it look like I wasn’t spying. Those messages were never marked read at all. And no reply. Big surprise! 🙄🤦🏻♀️
I am starting to hate the Internet immensely. I need to become a hermit and go live in the forest.
No Challenge Fuel you just need to break your addiction. You gotta white knuckle this. I went 3 weeks nc spoke one day and bam same shit ll over again. I have tested the theory.
Just sat today is the last day you live like this! What are you missing anyway. He is incapable of caring about
you. It’s like asking a blind man to see. He cannot change. This is all he knows all he will ever know. He doesn’t not have the first clue that anything is wrong with him his Narcissism protects him from that.
Love yourself more than you love him. Start something new set a goal that interests you whether it running a 5 k or something but make sure it’s measurable work on achieving that. Put the focus back on you.
I love all these insights you offer us. In the 1.5+ yrs I have been reading you, I have felt not just stronger, but more like an all-powerful super villain over those from my past.
I can say that before your blog I was sifting every cranny for info on what had happened and I’d get a little here and a little there but you show us the whole elephant. Your advice and writing are simply nonpareil.
Thank you Bibi, I very much appreciate that.
My pleasure.
HG TUTOR ;
Thank you once again for the brilliant insight .
And thank you for sharing these ” secrets ” with those of us who are in dire need of knowing .
Kindest regards ………
I deactivated my Facebook account. My ex didn’t have a Facebook account. Until recently . . . under his name he sent me a friend request. I know this because I activated it in the last couple of days as a friend texted me she sent me pics. Sigh, make sense? Another mindf***game. He’s never played that one before . . . .