The Igniters of Fury – No. 16

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46 thoughts on “The Igniters of Fury – No. 16”

  1. One of my cats is a narc right down to triangulation techniques. She will want to be petted then scratch me and run to the dog who she has trained to lick her head or cuddle up to my friend who finds her misplaced affection annoying. I can count on one hand how many times she has been on my lap in six years and that was when she almost died and I hardly left her side for two days. I still love her.

    1. The cats not a narc. It needs training. You need to change your behaviour. Sorry to say. The cat whisperer will help.

      1. I don’t really want her to change, but she is a narc and knows she is loved.

    2. MY DEAR ALL CAT,S ARE NARCISSIST IN THEIR BEHAVIOR , LOVELY & THEY KNOW IT . BUT ON THE OTHER HAND,OR SHOULD WE SAY,PAWTHE HUMAN ANIMAL MAKE,S A CHOICE TO BE CRUEL , VICIOUS,INTENTIONLY CUNNING & HURTFUL TO EACH OTHER & ANIMALS ! WE ALL CAN LEARN HOW TO LIVE FROM GOD’S BEAUTIFUL CREATURES! I HAVE BEEN TOLD THEY HAVE NO SOUL,BUT THE ONES IVE; MET HAVE MORE SOUL THEN PEOPLE I DEAL WITH IN LIFE EVERY DAY๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ธ ! IM SURE SOME ONE WILL DISAGREE WITH WHAT I,M SAYING BUT THAT ONLY PROVES MY POINT !

  2. Narcy once said “hey you can come with us” when i was petting a dog, i adore dogs. It sounded very odd, insincerely out of character and he spent the rest of the walk sulking. God, the drama!!!!

  3. I have met several guys who had bunnies but didn’t want to share pictures or play with them, and even accused me that they were more important to me. Those kind of guys always turn out to be weird or yeah kind of narcissistic.

  4. MY NARCISSIST FATHER BROUGHT HOME MANY ANIMAL,S DOG’S,BIRD,S FISH RABBIT,S EVEN A MONKEY BUT BETWEEN HIM & MY CODEPENDENT MOTHER,NOTHING LIVED MORE THAN A COUPLE OF DAYS , THAT IS WHY AS AN EMPATH ,I Can Not TOLERATE ANYONE HURTING ANY KIND OF ANIMAL , RESCUED OVER (80)๐ŸŽ๐Ÿ•๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿ๐Ÿฉ๐Ÿ’!SO FAR, HAD CAT’S. LIVED TO BE UP TO 25YEARSOLD! THANK GOD I DIDN’T INHERIT MY PARENTS SICKNESS! THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH ,H.G.FOR SHOWING HOW GREAT INFORMATION ABOUT MYSELF COULD FEAL ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ˜‡!

    1. SORRY,JUST MAKING A POINT! OF COURSE THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SOMEONE NOT GETTING THE MESSAGE (ONLY LOOKING TO FIND FAULT)! BUT SOME LIKE SMALL THINGS THANKS H.G.!๐Ÿ‚๐Ÿ‚.

      1. Its ok Sharon-get it out whatever way you can. I hear what youโ€™re saying and thank you for caring for the animals. You have a good heart.

    2. I have 6 cats. One of my cats is 19 years of age. 25 years old you cat lived. Good for you Sharon. I am huge animal lover too.

  5. “My” Narc had two cats, lived with him for 13 years and 8 years respectively, that he just coldly and without emotion gave back to the shelter because they began to mark since he wasn’t paying them any attention anymore. I asked him if it made him sad to do so, and it did not. Nothing.
    Those cats got SHELVED! Non-intimate (I hope) secondary sources and they had lost their sparkle I guess. Funny not funny. I hope those cats Got Out and Stayed Out, but hopefully they weren’t put down.

    Giving up a pet after over a decade would literally send me into therapy again.

  6. Narc was visibly frightened of/disgusted by some dogs we walked by once. He pointed at them and said something that reflected some deep issues with pets. When a year later, he posted some post about livestock type animales on his land (not his, but someone else’s), I remember feeling really wierd. This was before I understood they like or dislike based on fuel. Fundamentally, he disliked animals, but would like them if it served a purpose so the post likeing those animals, made me feel really wierd. What a liar.

  7. Narcs can use pets as a means to lure you. But then you learn they don’t really care for them. I did have an ex bf who complained that I seemed to love my cats more than him. What an idiot.

    I can respect someone who is honest enough to say they don’t like animals. They’re not for everyone and they can be a lot of work–vet bills, messes, vacuuming, etc. You can’t impose that on someone who doesn’t want that.

    I have zero respect, however, for those who adopt animals and then neglect them, leave them chained all day, malnourished, etc. It’s sick. Those poor creatures, that just breaks me inside. I am glad they have now have anti cruelty laws that protect animals.

    1. I just reread my comment: “I did have an ex bf who complained that I seemed to love my cats more than him. What an idiot.”

      He was an idiot, but not for that, as I did love them more and deservedly so!

      His parents had a dog and he would always say his dog was cuter than my cat.

  8. My narc had a pet. A dog.I noticed how the dog would be tentative around her. And sometimes wouldnโ€™t even greet her when she entered the house. Conditioned to being ignored. She can usually would engage with the dog but a lot of the time she forgot all about it. I told her once you need to see your dog more as your daughter/She is looking for you to love her and provide her food and water youโ€™re off she has. And she will love you back. That fell on deaf ears. When I would come over the dog would run around the house super excited to see me because I would engage and make eye contact with the dog it was very sweet and I received more love from the dog no doubt than from my narc.
    Ahhh yes. I think dogs and cats are more in tune and loving than the narcissist

  9. haha, this reminds me of the first text I was so privileged to receive from my NarcNut. He was in charge of some construction at my home and the second day on the job while I was at work, he texted me to let me know he had let my old dog out several times, petted him, and generally played dog whisperer. I was impressed with his kindness, as he KNEW I would be, and thanked him profusely. Thus, the love bombing began through the care of my beloved pet. How insidious…but, gotta admit, very cunning.

  10. My Ex shouted at me and told me I loved my dog more than him. I was petrified he would hurt my animals. And he did in the end.

  11. This is a very interesting one.
    I read that narcissist don’t like pets but especially cats since they are harder to control due to their independent nature. Is it true?

    1. Pets require upkeep and therefore are a burden. However, they are useful for the facade and for triangulation, thus you will find some narcissists do have pets. I have none.

      1. A friend’s ex who was certainly a narc used his dog just for that purpose. He got the dog when he started seducing her, because she loved animals and was initially wary of him. Then he got the dog and hooked her into the relationship where she ended up taking care of the dog a lot. He would triangulate, too – pet the dog instead of pay attention to her etc. He would be nasty to the dog to make her suffer and he used the dog to hoover her after disengaging.

        It was very effective, and when he wasn’t using the dog to get fuel out of her, he would use it to get fuel out of other people – women who would coo over the dog, other dog owners who feared about the safety of their dogs, etc. The dog was a beautiful, enormous Rottweiler and I’m sure he also got off on having such a powerful being under his control, adoring him.

      1. NarcAngel, wish I could give you more than one upvote for this one.

  12. Hi HG,

    Why do some Narcissists have pets? Can they own an excessive number, say at least five? Or are pet owners always empathic?

    Thank you!

  13. This one is very true with my ex. Every time I hear anyone say anything like

    “I don’t understand why anyone would want a pet.”
    “I am just not a pet person.”
    “Why would you have a dog?”
    “I don’t get the point of pets.”

    I immediately gasp and think hello narc in my head.

    1. I experienced the same thing from my ex narc. He wanted me to get rid of my animals. I did not so he disengaged and discarded me. Then the phone calls and attempted sneaky contact through facebook, eventhough i never friended him, stalking, breaking into my home, parking outside my home, and etc. Never returned any of his phone calls or facebook messages. I knew he was watching me, because in all actuality I blew him off. I refused to allow him to interrupt my life and continued to live as normal. I could not allow fear to interfere with my life. Sometimes i still feel he is still watching me, but who cares. Life is Good!

    2. I told my Narc I missed my dog when a person walked by with a cool dog. Later that night he said he had been thinking about what I said…I thought he was going to say letโ€™s get a dog.
      No. He said โ€œwhy donโ€™t you ask the neighbor if you can walk their dogโ€ .

  14. HG, Iโ€™m curious which situation ignites a stronger fury: the narcissist having to deal with their own let or having to play second fiddle to a partnerโ€™s beloved pet.

    My hub ang I have a dog, and at times he can be very good to him when itโ€™s his idea to do something for him. Our dog is elderly and has trouble walking sometimes. My hub has put up a ramp and even a guard rail to keep our dog from falling.

    However, when our dog wants attention and my hub is busy or just doesnโ€™t want to be bothered, he screams and curses our dog. He goes into a rage and repeats the phrase โ€œfucking piece of shit dogโ€ over and over. If our dog whines or cries at all, he screams at him. But then an hour later heโ€™s giving him a treat. Itโ€™s kind of how my hub treats me too. Heโ€™s very good to me when itโ€™s his idea! On the others hand, if I really need his support, he offers the cold shoulder instead.

    Mary

    1. Second fiddle to someone else’s pet. Really gets our goat (especially if the pet is a goat). I do like goat’s cheese though, not too much. I have milked goats incidentally.

      1. HG now that i have a hard time envisioning ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜† Were you wearing your designer socks?

      2. I have a harder time trying to imagine a designer designing the designer socks.

        ‘Today I am going to design designer socks.’

        My cats steal my socks.

        Nice pic, Narc Affair.

  15. This has been the reverse in my case. My narc has used my pet to triangulate me with. Hes been over the top with her at times to make me feel awkward and like i mean less to him than a dog. It doesnt work tho bc my sweet dog is my baby and id never feel jealous of her ๐Ÿ’“ very pathetic attempt at devaluing.

    1. NARC AFFAIR SO RIGHT ON , MY MALE NARCISSIST FRIEND DOES THIS WITH ONE OF MY CAT’S EVERY TIME HE COMES TO VISIT. WHEN I DON’T GET JEALOUS , HE GETS BACK A ME ,BY SAYING (DUMB CAT) HAIR ALL OVER HIM , HIS HANDS HIS. NOSE WELL// YES. YOU JUST RUBBED HER FUR & PUT IT ON YOUR FACE๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿˆ !

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