Chained
Are you or somebody you know chained to the narcissist? Are you a co-dependent? What does this mean? How did you become this way? How does the narcissist know what you are? How does the narcissist exploit this condition and how might you escape him? These questions and more are posed and answered in this fascinating book. Delivered direct from the dark-hearted master, the narcissist provides his unique observations on those who are co-dependent and find themselves chained to the narcissist.
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HG. Is there a thing as an empathic Narc?
No.
HG, in your book ‘Chained’ your write, ‘The holy grail of the supply of fuel is to aquire someone who is co-dependent.’ Would a co-dependent always be your first choice. Above even a super empath. Many thanks in advance. x
No because whilst fuel is important, the issue of character traits and residual benefits are important also.
hg, you have said that your sister is a codependent and your brother is an empath. Why do you think it is you all reacted to your mother’s abuse differently? Did your mother treat them differently than you?
There were some differences in the way were were treated and I suspect this combined with slightly different genetic make-up caused the differing outcomes.
HG can an empath be a codependent and visa versa?
Yes they are not mutually exclusive.
HG, so then is it possible that an empath is not acting like a co-dependent with non-narcs but the co-dependence kicks in with narcs? I know I am an empath of some sort and generally do not act as a co-dependent but I did with the narc. Thank you!
Someone who is a co-dependent is co-dependent with the narcissist.
Thank you for clarifying, HG!
HG do you have any works here or in your books which address how things look when both the narc and the appliance both know of the diagnosis, and it has been disclosed between the two of you?
Not precisely on that point because that is extremely rare. You may want to consider the articles ‘No- You Are the Narcissist’.
HG I know I’m chained you talked about how codependents are formed but how are Empaths formed? Have you ever written about that? Why do some people become Empaths and others don’t?
I do not know specifically how an empath is formed, but empaths arise from a combination of genetic predisposition and the environment. They may be raised in an empathic environment and therefore respond accordingly to become an empath. They may be raised in a hostile environment and become an empath by way of response – such as my brother.
Where do you (if anywhere) explain these concepts? I have no clue where I measure up? Or if it matters..
Which concepts are you referring to Kathy?
The concepts of co-dependent, empath, etc. I am curious where I fit in this puzzle. I’m not bleeding with empathy at all but do have genuine feelings for others.
I’m afraid you are thinking (if I were to truly know) that you would say I am a mid ranger who doesn’t have the capacity to know and that telling me would be of no benefit. Eeks!