Every Victim Is Lying
I must adopt the standpoint that every one of my victims is lying. There is no hope for me to be any different. You level accusations at me and I know you are lying because the comments make no sense to me. I gave you a fabulous and perfect love and you accepted that. You willingly entered into a union with me and with that you received my largesse and favour. You did not demur or hesitate. Instead, you embraced everything wonderful about what I gave you. Be it the expensive gifts, eloquent expressions of my love or the seemingly never-ending array of glamorous occasions to attend, you took them all. Do you have any idea how much energy I channelled into doing this for you? The repeated text messages, the “sudden appearances” which were in fact carefully crafted and organised, the many telephone calls that I made to you at all different times? All of that took a considerable effort on my part. Yet now, when I am tired and I lose my temper you accuse me of not caring. How can I not care? I am with you am I not? Have you forgotten everything that I ever did for you? It seems to me that you have. What was that vow you said with such enthusiasm, for better and for worse? You have had the better (in fact you received the best) and now it is time for some of the worse, yet you will not tolerate that will you? No, it is clear that you lied. You lied when we got married because now you are reneging on that vow. How do you think that makes me feel? Is it any surprise that I am angry with you when you question me since you have no standing to do so?
You accuse me of not listening. That is another lie. What is there for me to hear? You trot out the same old allegations which are unfounded. At times I cannot discern what you are actually saying because you are so hysterical. How on earth can I listen to you when you behave like that? It is downright unreasonable. You go off and complain about me to your friends and family. That is charming. You are denigrating me in their eyes and that is uncalled for. Yes, I may do it about you, but that is with some justification I might add. You also said you would forsake all others, yet how many times have I caught you flirting with other men from your workplace? What about those pictures of you and your friends with those men you met in a bar which were posted on Facebook. You thought I would not see them didn’t you? Yes, I keep a careful eye on what your friends’ post as they are not to be trusted, leading you astray when you promised that you would do not. Is it any wonder I feel compelled to spend time with other people when you treat me like this?
You accepted everything wonderful that I gave you and now when it is time to give back and add some balance to the equation you seek to escape your responsibilities by accusing me of all manner of misdemeanours and malevolent behaviour. Your hypocrisy sticks in my craw. I know your game, I have you in my eye. You are seeking to deflect attention from your own wrongdoing by telling lies about me. Ha! I have you worked out missy, I always have and you are not as smart as me. You deliberately misunderstand what I say. You imply and insinuate when I have made myself clear. I will not be beaten by your mendacity, no I will not. I will stand strong and ensure that I reflect back on to you the lies you have told. I must do this to avoid your desire to crush and destroy my fragile self with your perfidious ways. I never knew you could be so evil.
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YOU TOOK OUR RIGHTS AWAY OF NOT GIVING US THE INFORMATION WE NEEDED TO KNOW, AS YOU WERE NOT REAL. WE WERE NOT SPECIAL. THERE WAS MORE THEN ONE OF US, THAT YOU TREATED PRETTY MUCH THE SAME. THE SAME WORDS. SAME SEX MOVES. SAME PRESENTS. SAME TEXTING WORDS. SAME PET NAMES. YOU WERE ROTATING US. FROM OLD TO NEW TO LOOKING FOR A NEW VICTIM. ALL FOR THE REASON OF YOU GETTING A HIGH. YOU USE HUMAN BEINGS AS YOUR DRUG OF CHOICE….THAT IS WHY THIS IS THE SICKEST ADDICTION YOU BEING A NARCISSIST HAVE. THANK GOD YOU ARE NOT INTO KILLING US AND GETTING A HIGH OFF OF DEATH.
Pretty sure, from his fantasies, narcy would like to cut off my head to stop it talking, and render me limb from limb for being a malfunctioning robot. He’d like me to go see him, so he can put me in a bag and take me to a dark cave. At a certain point, it did become too much to call it a joke. It’s pushing the boundaries of respect.
Pretty sure the appropriate response is all drama no content.
So how much is this what Narcs really think and how much is mind game words? Do they really know the victim is justified in their complaints or do they really believe they are the person wronged.?
Can you help with that HG and i welcome comments from others here.xx
Lesser and Mid-Range is instinctive and they do not really know the victim is justified. Greater know but brush it aside.
What’s true here is that really it was a nightmare for both of us.
We where both speaking different languages to each other.
T
Stop yourself right there. You are starting to make allowances for him by saying it was a nightmare for both of you. It was not for him. Also, your language was fine. He understood you – he just twisted it as part of his abuse of you. Your emotional thinking is causing you to feel bad and will cause you to start to draw back to him if you do not get it under control. Logic tells you anyone that takes your posessions and leaves you hungry with no shelter (never mind the mind fucks) is abusive, does not love love you, and nothing good will come from being with him.
You’re right, NA.
I was only kidding myself thinking of ways to find peace about what happened. And I’m sure an old program still up and running that says I have to protect my abuser, as I grew up around narcissists. My mother for instance, was pure evil. So it’s no wonder I gloss over logic.
Whew! Thank you NA, for reminding me to open my eyes.
Dear NarcAngel,
I luv your comments …. you’re amazing 😇NAngel
Bubbles 😘
Bad day or not, love does not abuse others…Love is not mean, ever.
True. So true.
I used to think we where just having huge misunderstandings. I couldn’t say anything right…it was if I was speaking a foreign language to him. Everything became a frustrating mess.
I accused him, he accused me. I even gave in and said I lied when I really didn’t do what he accuses me of to get him off my back. But that just made his fury worse, the smears on social media, some of my friends becoming his lieutenants and furthering the smears.
What a nightmare.
drop those friends, cut them all off.
/iroll
Already done.