Scenting Blood
In our engagement with our appliances and especially with our primary sources, we are repeatedly seeking to extract fuel. We have been designed to draw those fuel providers into our grasp, from the colleagues that we work with, the relevant family members and friends so that rather than surround ourselves with appliances of limited function we ensure that all those who are attached to us are likely to provide us with fuel. As I have explained before, we like to preserve our energy and operate in an efficient and effective fashion. As part of that approach we like to ascertain if we can scent fuel in our interactions with you, in the same way that a shark smells blood in the ocean and knows that a bigger prize awaits. There are certain responses that you provide that immediately tell us that there is more fuel ready to be extracted. Just as how a tiny nick on your leg may cause droplets of blood to fall and be smelt by the predatory shark, there are certain things that you will say to us that tells us that we should dive straight in and seize the advantage. There are comments that you will make which indicates to us that you are holding a reservoir of fuel just under the surface and all we need to do is slice you open and gorge on that waiting fuel. Your response tells us that your emotion is there, just a few moments away from being extracted, seized and gathered, so that rather than attend to something else we are best served by focusing our efforts on you.
It is akin to staring at a vast body of water behind a glass partition. We want that body of water to come gushing forward, engulfing us and cascading over us. We do not wish to dedicate the time to hammering away at this toughened glass in the hope of eventually making it crack. We do not want to expend our energy chiselling and drilling but instead we want to find the weak spot. We want to identify that flaw, that weakness, that opening, which means that with the careful application of pressure, the edifice will shatter and the water will come surging over us in an instant. You are no different. You are filled with fuel. That is why we chose you. You might be a co-dependent super tanker of fuel that requires the hull to be holed, you may be a super empathic fuel well which just needs to be drilled or an empathic fuel pump where one pinprick in the hose will allow the fuel to spurt out. You are a walking fuel depot and at times we can do just one thing, say one thing and the fuel will come fountaining from you, shooting out of you, gushing from you, ready for us to suck it all up, gorging on your delicious and potent fuel and drinking deep of your vast resources.
It is you that gives us the indication that you are ready to flow with fuel, that the dam can easily be breached and once you provide that indication to us, it only takes a small amount of pressure, a modicum of application and the most straightforward of manipulations to cause you to burst and we gain so much fuel. You are teetering on the brink of providing the fuel, it is almost spilling over there is so much of it and you tell us that it is there, often in just one sentence and then we apply the pressure and the geyser erupts.
These indications are applicable to both positive fuel and negative fuel. The comments in themselves will provide some slight amount of fuel but they are indicators, gateways telling us that in that moment there is a whole host of additional fuel ready to be tapped and it is easy to do so. This is why when you provide us with the positive indicators we dive in and invite you to expand on the point that you have made, the comments that you have shared because we know that there is more behind what you have said and we want it. It becomes even more evident when with the negative indicators. These really are a green light for us to satiate our fuel lust in the way that a pugilist would satisfy his bloodlust. You have waved the key in front of us through your comment and we will focus on that comment and what it signifies in order to get at the fuel that is hoarded behind it.
Should you say them to us you should be aware that you have just telegraphed that there is fuel to be gained and whatever we might have been doing will be forgotten as we turn and fix our eyes on you. Like the cruising shark, the scent of blood has been detected and easy and satisfying prey is well within reach. Our cold jaws will be clenched around you as we puncture you and begin to slurp on the surfeit of fuel. What then are these indicators, what should you be aware of what is it that you say which tells us that there is fuel ready and waiting to be extracted, exploited and consumed?
The Positive Indicators
- I love you
- How did you manage to do that?
- There is nobody like you.
- Where did you get that shirt from?
- That was amazing.
- That is an outstanding result.
- I could listen to you talk for hours.
- I could kiss you forever.
- I would die for you.
- I cannot imagine being anywhere else right now other than with you.
- I have finally found what I have been searching for.
- If I died now, it would not matter.
- I don’t know what I would do without you.
- I would do anything for you.
- I belong to you.
The Negative Indicators
- Where have you been?
- I hate you right now.
- Don’t leave me.
- Why must you hurt me like this?
- Who is she?
- I just need to feel loved.
- I miss you still.
- Is that it?
- What about me?
- You are being unfair.
- Please listen to me.
- Don’t shout at me.
- I don’t understand.
- Please talk to me.
- Please stop.
- I need to sleep.
- Please be reasonable.
- It is my birthday.
- Please, for my sake, just do it.
- You are scaring me now.
Let the feeding frenzy commence.
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I am eliminating the below from my vocabulary…Why do you think you can get more fuel if someone asks you about your shirt?
Where did you get that shirt from?
That was amazing.
That is an outstanding result.
Are you done? My fav when the lesser went off on a toddler tantrum. No, no he was not done..
HAHA Mr. Lesser used to say that to me! Lol!
Turnabout is fair play (wink)
Is it possible that during seduction, after a few dates and being intimate, a narcissist wants some negative fuel but this is not a devaluation? For example he starts talking with admiration about other women who look like models and you are the opposite of a model. It feels like he wants to upset the victim, make herself compare to them and feel worthless. Why does he do it between “i love yous”? Or you two go on a date and he is flirting with a waitress in front of you. It is subtle yet you see that the waitress is under his spell becauase he tries to be charming. Again – the victim is confused and upset, it won’t give him positive fuel. She will try hard not to show the anger or she will be upset or cause a fight. So what is the goal? Negative fuel? But why he doesnt want positive when these are very first dates?
LOL. It is my birthday.
Mind Fuck Rape of Brain washing….Mr. Tudor……HOW the hell do you keep all your Supply Victims separate of not finding out of each other?? Mine had a sex phone. Files like the Cloud and kept our text, e-mails, photos, so on in them. I am sure all of my gifts or others, got thrown away or put hidden at his office of work. OH he bought a stack of Perfume from France and Candy he would give each of us. I wonder if he had camera in his house or room. I so wished the times he told me, I could sleep in and he would leave for work I stayed and did some spying.BUT nope I left when he left for work. He planted this seed in my head, I got so hurt from women, I don’t trust women, women want to own me. SO of course I did the opposite. I even told that fucker. YOU can do a background check on me. Brain wash and GROOMED OF HIS SPELL ON ME…BUT he finally paid. He got so cocky, He was boasting of many websites and blogs of him and the company he worked for of 20years. He got either downsized as someone took over his President title or he got let go. WHY there seemed to have been women at his work he was sexually harassing…Mr. Tudor as Narcissist get older they get more sloppy and cocky and think they are untouchable??
SW… omg Im glad you brought up thinking he had a camera! I thought mine might have done that too. He kept wanting to make a sex tape and I told him he was out of his f’ing mind and then I noticed his closet door cracked on several occasions and one time I closed it and he reopened it. Ive always thought to this very day he taped without my permission and theres a tape of us doing the nasty out there somewhere. I wouldnt put it past him.
I wouldn’t either.
Well HG after you saying that Im fairly positive now. Is that something you as a greater youself would do and why? Is it some kind of control?
Julie
Ugh. They are known for that. Ugh! Ugh!
Julie did you think you were the only one, and then found out you were one of many?? HOW DO they keep track of all their victims pet names. Yes, mine has some artsy naked photos I did with a artist. I gave him gifts. One I made that took a long time to do. It was very sentimental and special. I wanted it back so bad. It was a toke box of many little sentamental things in it for him. The man I thought I knew. AS THIS FUCKER DID NOT DESERVE THE GOODNESS I GAVE HIM AS IT WAS ALL BASED ON LIES….When I think of that special gift I made him, it hurts so bad. AS I also, spent time to help do portfolio of decorating his house, as I did designing. HE has a GF who gave him all this, I was just used and lied too, of giving of my goodness to him. That is where WE are MIND FUCKED RAPED… Rape by deception is a crime in which the perpetrator has the victim’s agreement and compliance, but gains it through deception or fraudulent statements or actions. ALL OF OUR RIGHTS WERE TAKEN FROM US…I DO NOT HAVE RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEN WHO ARE WITH WOMEN, I WOULD NOT DO TO OTHERS AS I WOULD NOT WANT DONE TO MYSELF…THE END
SW.. good morning! To answer your question, at first I had no clue but as time went on I started figuring him out but of course I was in denial. Until I walked in on him and caught him red handed in bed with a married coworker. We are talking pants down in the act of it and he then commenced the gaslighting campaign.
I see you too had a go at decorating a house. I felt soooo used and ridiculous and ashamed at the amount of cash I spent on a house that wasnt mine and on an asshat that deserved NONE of it. You are right in your explanation, RAPE. I am horrible at using words but you nailed it for me. Thank you!
Hi SW…ive read as narcs get older their narcissism gets worse and ive seen this to be true bc it takes more to make them happy and less is available in the way of fuel especially for a somatic. They start to lose the very tools they used to hook victjms and struggle to deal with the lose of control in that respect. They end up miserable and nasty. This imo is where a narcissist loses out in life. They end up emptier as they age.
No, not all. It very much depends on the school of narcissist. There are numerous of our kind who retain charm, remain distinguished and attractive, have wealth, influence etc all of which enable the provision of power well into old age. A lifetime of looking after themselves, access to excellent medical care etc means that any of their functions remain intact and effective. There are of course others who do lose their looks (if they had them to begin with), their sharp wit is dimmed, their intelligence fogged by the effects of alcohol, drugs or dementia. Thus there are differences in the outcome and it is inaccurate to suggest that all of our kind’s narcissism becomes worse with age. For some yes, for others no, for others again it may lessen.
Narc affair.. u nailed it! Well said. I couldnt agree more.
Mine is a drunko of Chardonnay and has a gf who kept him together. He has an ego of a pompous ass. He has been so sloppy of boasting of himself on the internet for Google. LOOK at me. I am Mr.President of a major military Aerospace company. I am a single dad. I I I. HE never credits his girlfriend, YET she is an evil sicko bitch. So I guess in his company he got cocky and misused money for traveling and a sex scandal. His company name got dragged plus his family through the internet mud. He was NO Christian Grey of 50 shades. He picked the wrong Empathetic girl I. AS YES I was a mess and paid dearly.BUT once I got his stench off and out of me, I became his worst nightmare. BUT in my life, now I can not dapple to much in this as I get stuck back into the cycle of him being in my mind again. NOOOOO WE all have to be careful. AS HG Tudor is in his element and he has no reason or wants to change or can. AT least he is doing good, while getting fuel. But he maybe burning himself out, as he is hot now and it is his time, but he is human and this can take a toll on him in some manor too. He is human of some type of being. Narcissist can be stupidly reckless of how they get their drugs, ” as US HUMANS”. So as they age they get more reckless of what they do to US victims.
HG, great article with tons of insight, as ever. A quick question, if I may. The narc I was entangled with as an IPSS, once described me as passive ( not my nature at all, which is generally composed), was this description based on the fact that I was not gushing with fuel?
Difficult to say without knowing more about the relationship (which is best suited to a consultation) but he may have meant you were easily controlled.
Hi Amber. I am, what my ex called submissive, which he would also tell me he really liked. Then just prior to my escape, I was told I was too easy as a criticism. Make up your mind . . . he changed on a dime.
amber, was with a Greater who said that to me. i think in my case, it was both triangulation and manipulation. He wanted me to know that he thouht was vanilla and not intelligent. he also encouraged chaos and arguing behind closed doors. The weird thing is, i jumped straight into a relationship with a midranger after that relationship, who would say that i was too agressive and I needed to be more passive if i wanted to be ipps. Its all grooming.