Achieving NoFuC
Achieving NoFuC is the way to force the narcissist to leave you alone.
If you are being pestered by someone trying to seduce you who you have no interest in.
If you are being badly treated by someone who is bullying you.
If you are being repeatedly harassed by someone you were once in a relationship with.
If you are being smothered by someone who seems pleasant but is behaving over the top at the outset of your involvement with them.
If he or she just will not leave you alone.
You are in all likelihood being hoovered by a narcissist, whether it is in seduction or whether it is devaluing behaviour. Whether it is at the outset of the relationship, during the relationship or after the relationship such behaviour where this person will not leave you alone exhibits the behaviour of the narcissist.
To deal with them, you need to achieve NoFuC.
To understand what this means, what needs to be done and what it achieves, use this useful logic bulletin today.
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It seems my Narc won’t stop Talking about me to everyone he knows. He has a new Supply and her kids have said that he won’t stop talking about me. I have a restraining order on him. Can a narc be obsessed with one supply ???
Yes there can be a fuel or malice obsession.
A few days ago, HG put a little bee in my bonnet when I listened to the YouTube video, “FB Ghostship”, resulting in my reactivating my FB which has caused me some trouble!
Not only did I find out that an ex-live-in had passed five months ago to the day, but I looked at my other ex-live-in’s daughter’s FB page (would she know?). (She is at least 19, please be aware that I meant no harm to her, I just miss his three daughters and was so happy to see her smiling face.)
Both of these two ex’s live 3000 miles away. The first one had a huge impact on me. He has had no way to contact me for 5 years. We met almost 23 years ago. The last time that I spoke to the second one was many months ago, he had no way to contact me for three months now and it is around the three year anniversary of the last time that we saw each other.
In this article, you say, “If there is any kind of engagement on your behalf, even if fuel is not being provided, although it usually is, you are providing encouragement that a breakthrough may occur.” The day after looking at the second one’s daughter’s FB page, her father / my ex asked my sister twice to get me to call him.
HG, do you think it is a coincidence that he is trying to reach me now? Do you think his daughter would know that I looked at her FB page and told him? I didn’t and don’t want to be in contact with him – because you made me aware of what sort of person he is (thank you!).
It is super creepy – he and my now deceased ex-live-in’s voices sound so much alike. FB Ghostship!!
Sorry for the long comment..
She wouldn’t know it has been looked at.
Thank you for answering my question, HG.
I guess this is just an odd coincidence.
HG, oops emotional thinking . . . outing him on the site would serve no purpose whatsoever. And if he is trolling the site, am I correct in that I would actually be outing my emotions and providing him with tertiary fuel and any little hint could cause a hoover . . .
Potentially because you would enter the sphere of influence.
“You need to give NoFuC” Love this HG! reminds me of a meme I have saved on my phone for motivation…
“You SHOULD give a fuck. You really should. But only about things that set your soul on fire. Save your fucks for magical shit.”
This taste like the Devils used bath water…. Anybody wanna sip it
When I first read NoFuC, I thought the next words as u so masterfully spell out, would be No F***ing Chance!
HG….FUC….very fucking clever humour! Ah see…I am clever nyself! Am I correct in assuming your British accent AND that English sense of humour are a huge part of your jolly, bloody narcisstic charm?! Eh?! Im curious….Do you enjoy the British humour in Mr Bean or Fawlty Towers? Thx for the rigged poll opportunity. I am very much enjoying the narc fairy tales! Keep them coming! You should compile these into a book. You HAVE to write one with Mirror Mirror on the wall….who is the most famous narc of them all?! Of course, you wont like that I just told you what to do! Ha ha! Best regards!
What provision of fuel does a narc get from seeing an ipps in court for a restraining order hearing following no contact?
Depends what the IPPS says and does. Their mere presence does not guarantee fuel.
Oh my , this describes my ex to the t. I leave him hateful emails telling him to stay away or I will hurt him. And he still comes over. He recently brought me a new computer and so I thought that was nice of him. I didn’t realize what he was doing was getting his foot in the door so that when I left him alone so he can” set up the new computer” he was erasing everything from my computer, from the external back up and from my imac on the other side of the room.! He deleted all my pictures, movies, art work,documents Everything! I literally wanted to kill him. When I try recovery software it doesn’t bring back the music and photos the way they were . But I have faith in technology . He is a monster. I should have known. He is evil. His name is Skylar Deranick and if you meet him here in Hollywood CA. Stay clear cause he truly is the worst narcisisst of their kind..
Dean, thanks for calling this demon out by name. HG, can I name my rapist narc?
For what purpose?
So you really have a key-logger on your network and can see what packets are dropped in transfer or you got a virus on your computer that deletes everything you’ve been keeping?
You can’t expect me to believe that your entire file system was destroyed without you knowing
Did he once date a guy named Ole?