Understanding the Fuel Matrix
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All narcissists have fuel matrices and you need to understand where you fit into that fuel matrix and how that particular matrix functions as part of protecting yourself.
This Logic Bulletin takes you through :-
1. The Fuel Matrices of all sub schools of narcissist. This includes updated and expanded information about the Upper Lesser Type A and Upper Lesser Type B Narcissists, plus the Middle Mid Range Type A and Type B Narcissists.
2. What the Fuel Matrices look like, their size, the nature of the matrices and who sits in them.
3. How the relevant narcissist of each sub school relies on the individuals in the Fuel Matrix
4. What the Virtual Fuel Matrix is and how it operates.
5. How a Long Distance Appliance fits into it the narcissist fuel matrix and how that functions.
6. Detailed descriptions of each sub-school of narcissist, their behaviours and actions to increase your understanding of the different types of narcissist. This is a comprehensive expansion which will help you understand a lot more about the way different sub schools of narcissist operate.
A fascinating and educational exploration of the fuel matrix and the interaction between you and the narcissist, this is essential to know how the narcissist behaves so you can ensure your No Contact Regime is as effective as possible. It is also advanced reading for those who feel they are well-acquainted with the narcissistic dynamic from their existing reading and consultations.
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HG,
I have known an Elite UMRN, Cerebral Lesser (possibly lesser), and a VLMRN. I have been a IPSS candidate and shelf IPSS for them in the past. Out of all the narcissists, the VLMRN has not known me in person and has never wanted to meet in person. I read that the greater narcissists relies the least on the virtual fuel matrix.
1. So, is it the lower the school, the more reliance on the fuel matrix?
2. Does the victim cadre rely on the virtual fuel matrix the most out of the other cadres? Why?
3. The victim narcissist told me that it was easier for him. What makes the virtual fuel matrix easier for a narcissist?
1. Is your question “1. So, is it the lower the school, the more reliance on the VIRTUAL fuel matrix?” The answer is that where the Virtual Fuel Matrix is used, it forms a larger percentage of fuel provision, the further down the hierarchy owing to it being an easier and lazier way to gain fuel.
2. No.
3. Ease of access, ease of pretence, contact with more appliances, less energy required to gather the fuel.
Dearest HG: I am currently reading your book: Sitting Target. Many say that your book Sex and the Narcissist is very enlightening, and I agree. However, I find Sitting Target really illuminating/disturbing as it goes over how it all gets started. I am currently reading the details about all the steps that the Narcissists take to ensnare the Source. I am a bit shocked by it all. I find Sitting Target more disturbing than Sex and the Narcissist. I expected the converse.
Hg,
1. Does the victim midrange narcissist ever meet the Shelf IPSS in person?
2. Why does the narcissist’s rejection to date or in this case commit to me bother me so much? I know he is a narcissist and I don’t want to actually be with him. But I hate feeling rejected and I want to remove this feeling.
For almost 3 years, we have been talking on the phone, texting, and video chatting with some dirty conversations and some sexual activity (on his end, no ejaculation because I stopped him). It hasn’t escalated further because I told him that I need to be dating in order to engage in sexual activity. He would reject my desire to date but tries to place us as friends with benefits.
1. Yes.
2. Your emotional thinking does this to compel you to engage. I can explain more of this and how you can overcome this through this consultation
https://narcsite.com/the-way-to-goso-get-out-and-stay-out/
Hi HG,
How long does the lovebombing stage typically last for the victim midrange narcissist?
During our consult, you mentioned this particular narcissist who I was discussing was a victim cadre in midrange…. which I guess is rare lol
If your question is, how long does the love bombing (seduction) period last from first meeting the narcissist until becoming embedded as the IPPS then the answer would be
1. As long as it takes to gain control.
There is a multiplicity of factors which affect this namely, is there an existing IPPS in devaluation or not, are there other competing IPSSs, what are fuel levels, are residual benefits being sought amongst other matters.
All be careful not to confuse the love bombing (seduction) period with the golden period (as this covers seduction and embedding).
Hi HG,
I apologize, I wasn’t clear. I meant that how many months (or years, I don’t know) does the victim midrange narcissist typically stay infatuated with the IPPS after embedding her?
Quite alright. Thank you for clarifying.
The rule is that the IPPS will always be devalued (and thus lose the infatuation) through one of the 5 devaluation triggers. The most common one is essentially your fuel becomes stale (thus we are bored of you).
In terms of the timescale, it would be 6-12 months for the victim Mid Range Narcissist following the embedding as IPPS.
Hi HG,
I forgot to include the victim lower midrange (in our consult, you mentioned that he is either a lower midrange or middle midrange),
1. For the victim lower midrange narcissist, does the timescale of infatuation after embedding the IPPS typically lasts for 2 months? If not, what is the typical timescale for this narcissist?
2. Does the timescale shorten if the school is lower?
1. It will ordinarily last longer than two months.
2. In general terms, yes.
Interesting! I thought love bombing and golden period were two terms for the same thing. So lovebombing until the narc is satisfied the target is ensnared and golden period once the target is ensnared?
No.
1. The seduction of an appliance is part of the golden period.
2. If that appliance becomes the IPPS, when they are embedded as such the golden period continues until devaluation.
For someone who becomes the IPPS there are two parts to the golden period – seduction and embedding.
Ok, got it.
Excellent.
Dear Mr Tudor,
What if you lock yourself in your room for 5 years at night with only a tv grog n smokes. There was no internet back then, shirking all your family and home duty responsibilities. Sleep work n eat and having sex behind your wife’s back with the office staff.
Is that still a mid range cerebral?
Being single, he still locks himself in his tower with blinds closed, doors shut, yet he now has a phone and computer
Thank you (this jigsaw just keeps growing)
I would need more information to provide an accurate assessment and the appropriate forum for doing so is through a consultation.
Dear Mr Tudor,
Thank you for your reply, I was merely curious and comparing on your mid range antics. The weasel is not worth it!
Kindly Bubbles
HG, you wrote elsewhere that once an appliance has been intimate with a narcissist, the narcissist views and will always view her as an intimate partner even if intimacy has stopped and the narcissist is now treating her as a NISS. However, you also wrote that the intimate partner can be demoted to a NISS. This seems contradictory. Would you mind clarifying? Thank you!
Remain intimate but treated as NISS.
Sorry, HG. I am not following. Do you mean that is the demotion when an intimate partner, even though still deemed intimate, but treated as a NISS?
Someone who is a Shelf IPSS will still be regarded as a Shelf IPSS even though they are treated as a NISS because there is no intimacy, but there has been and may well be again. Someone who was the IPPS is always the Former IPPS even if they are treated as a Shelf IPSS, or NISS.
Or, it could be phrased that once you’ve bumped uglies with someone, you can’t erase that. If you’ve known them biblically so to speak, there’s no take back. So even if you stop the physical intimacy, it’s always there in the memory bank haven taken place. You may now be treated as a non-intimate secondary source, but the Narc has marked you already.
Thank you, HG! So the demotion consists in being treated as a NISS, correct?
Bingo this is exactly what happened to me. Is this due to new supply entering the fuel matrix?
I can’t wait to read scenario 5 as that was my life from 2015 to 2017
What is the title of the source that the mid range elite narc talks to every day. Is she a secondary source or primary?
Too broad – this could be a friend, a colleague, someone who works in a coffee house, a family member.
“The Loneliness of the Long Distance Empath.”
I continue to look forward to this article.
Me too, fuel on the shelf.
Wow HG! I have been watching the numbers climb for a few weeks. Won’t belong now until you hit the big one!!! 😉
Thank you FM1T.