The Narcissist’s Prime Aims
I have three Prime Aims.
All of our kind has three Prime Aims.
Our dark and menacing behaviours (even when dressed up as the illusory golden period) are focused on the attainment of these three Prime Aims. They are all that matter. Everything else is dust. We are driven to secure these Prime Aims. They are hard-wired into us, they are sub-conscious requirements in most of our kind and amongst the Greater of our brethren we are aware of the necessity of attaining these three things to ensure that not only do we survive but we also thrive. Everything we do, say and concern ourselves with revolves around achieving these three aims. Nothing else matters.
Do we love you? No. We do not know what that truly is but we will use love to secure our Prime Aims. We will desecrate it through our twisted facsimile of what we understand love to be and use it secure our aims.
Do we want to do good for the disadvantaged around us? No. Yet, if such behaviour will ultimately benefit us through the establishment of a facade which can then be used to further our quest for these Prime Aims then we will become a trustee of that charity or organise a fund raiser for the Orphanage For Unwanted Monobrowed Children.
Do we want to be friends with you because we find your collection of unopened Star Wars figures fascinating. No. We do so because knowing someone with the best collection on the East Coast means that it works in favour of us in terms of attaining the Prime Aims.
Nothing we do is about you. It is all about securing our aims. Admittedly, there will be occasions where we are in alignment and our march with our dark troops by our side to the attainment of the Prime Aims means that you and others benefit. That is pure serendipity and we do not care whether the outcome is good or bad for you, so long as we achieve what we need.
The sooner you grasp and understand that we are focused on securing these Prime Aims and nothing else matters to us, the faster you will be able to formulate your own way to avoid being caught up in their attainment. The Prime Aims and their attainment is the only goal we are interested in and everything else is swept up in the need to achieve them. Children. Job. Home. Wife. Father. Daughter. Friend. Interests. Socialising. Conversations. Money. Status. Manipulation. Connections. Infidelity. Misery. Cruelty. Seduction. Possessions. These and so much more are mere conduits, enablers, bridges to the securing of the Prime Aims.
Never underestimate or fail to recognise the single-mindedness by which our machine like efficiency closes on this goal. You are there to ensure we achieve it. Our faceless Lieutenants and lurking Coterie are there to ensure we achieve it. The secondary and tertiary sources, the facade, the crows, the butterflies, the seduction, the devaluation and the disengagement. The hoovers, oft and repeated or seemingly absent, yet appearing years later are all part of the inextricably linked matrix to achieve the Prime Aims.
So, what are they?
Those of you who have read much of my work will already know what they are, but it is necessary to identify and underline them.
- Fuel
The chief Prime Aim. The most important one and the overriding objective of our engagements with everybody that we come into contact with. Fuel is the emotional response provided by you and everybody else, caused by us. It may be indirect, for instance someone smiling at us as we walk by, it may be direct because we have provoked you into crying by calling you names.
Fuel is both positive and negative. It flows from all appliances. It varies in potency dependent on the Fuel Index (see the book Fuel for an expansive explanation of this central factor of what drives our kind) and in terms of its quantity and frequency. Fuel powers us. It quells the anguish and the anxiety, it settles us, it edifies us, it makes us powerful and it causes us to feel impregnable, omnipotent and god-like.
It is our drug. We want it and we need it and it must be provided each and every day and we take it from those that we have established in our fuel network. From lover to lollipop lady, everybody and I mean everybody we interact with is a fuel appliance. The words you use, the tone attached to them, the inflection in your voice, the gestures you make, the things you do, the expression on your face, the sounds you make – all of these provide us with fuel and it has to be caused by us.
If you are crying over the death of your mother, that is not fuel for us. It is fuel for your mother (albeit she didn’t need it when alive and certainly has no use for it now she is cold in the ground). Those tears are wasted and this infuriates us. Thus we will say something hurtful about your pathetic weeping so that you then cry because of what we have said. Your emotional response then is down to us and we gain fuel.
Fuel is the single most important thing to us. No fuel and we weaken and ultimately enter a Fuel Crisis.
2. Character Traits
We have built a construct. This construct is like a frame and through the gathering of fuel we are able to then power its maintenance and further development. This construct imprisons The Creature. This construct allows us to show the world what we want to see and thus gain more fuel and the cycle repeats.
Everyone we interact with has the potential to furnish us with character traits which we lift and apply to the construct to make it better, stronger, more attractive and more secure. Each piece of fuel is the paste which enables us to place the shards, segments, patches, pieces and elements of character traits onto the construct and keep them there.
If you wish to understand this in greater detail, read my book Fury.
Your interest in insects, a friend’s sporting achievements, a child’s academic prowess, information from a tertiary source about the best restaurant in Barcelona’s gothic quarter, the humorous anecdotes told by a speaker at an awards dinner, the tales told by a grandparent, the intelligence gathered by a colleague and so on, all of those things become character traits which we will take for ourselves and pass off as our own. We want them and need them from those we interact with. Some have nothing to provide and thus they are less important appliances, but others have many and thus your coruscating, dazzling traits when you are a primary source to us become fundamental as part of the Prime Aims.
3. Residual Benefits
Are you well-off? Have a good house? A car? Access to a particular club? Tickets for sought after games? A famous friend? Excellent carer? Brilliant cook? Social magnet? DIY capable? Good income? Respected community member?
We are entitled and we do not recognise boundaries. Your resources are our resources and the more of those that exist and in different forms, the greater the advantage you possess because of these residual benefits.
These vary dependent on the nature of the narcissist who has ensnared you. We may be financially superior and have a large house, but you are well-thought of by people and have an extensive social circle, political connections and the like, thus we want them.
We may have a physical health problem and therefore the fact that you are a nurse practitioner and exceptionally caring results in those residual benefits becoming the foremost ones.
We may have no job and a rampant cocaine habit, so your well-appointed residence and burgeoning bank account are appealing residual benefits to us.
The list of residual benefits is not exhaustive and they will vary from narcissist to narcissist, but they form a further essential part of this triumvirate.
Thus fuel, character traits and residual benefits are the Prime Aims. All appliances are expected to fulfil their obligation to provide us with each element of the Prime Aims, although it is naturally of greater importance concerning the primary source having such applicability.
Always keep in your mind the relevance of these Prime Aims because this will aid your understanding why certain things are said and done by our kind.
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Quasi, K, Amber, Anonymous, HGT#1F, Windstorm, and Who Cares,
thank you for sharing a few details about these inexcusable violations of your bodies, minds and hearts.
You have my deepest respect.
Thank you for helping me feel less alone.
You are welcome, Caroline
And thank you for your kind words. When people have been through a similar experience and are willing to share it with others then you feel like you aren’t going crazy and I realized I wasn’t alone.
Quasi,
I’ve not often responded to your posts, but I often read them and can tell from them that you are a strong, beautiful person.
I have difficulty with some people’s descriptions of their experiences. I know I shouldn’t feel this way, and I can now see how my ex used sex in a different way, but I was never abused in the ‘traditional’ sense and I often feel somehow guilty since I got off lightly in that area – which stops from me from commenting on such shared experiences (because I think, in my head, what right do I have say anything to someone who suffered that?)
But I appreciate you sharing and reading that because I absolutely understand the emotions attached to voicing something that is excruciatingly painful to admit to having experienced…the kinds of things that somehow we feel personally at fault for…
” It’s not quite the same at all, because I consented to start with, but I kept repeating “you need to stop, stop!, you need to stop, stop!”
One thing I do know; once you’ve said stop and that is not respected, it is rape – and it is not your fault.
Hi who cares,
I have only just read your post as I did not have notifications set up.
Thank you so much for this response.
What you have described is exactly why I was uncertain about sharing that particular comment. It was also why I devalued it and tried to work through in my mind and justify myself.
I am so acutely aware that so many people have been through trauma that I could not even contemplate, so I was so unsure of sharing my experience with him. But one thing is for sure, I have never felt judged on this blog, only supported.
Thank you for your very kind words, and your observations of my character, that has meant a lot to me. I very much appreciate it. I have been quite overwhelmed by the amazing people I have interacted with on the blog.
Thank you who cares, your kindness has been a gift very warmly received.
Hi Quasi!
You provide really valuable and insightful observations and experiences. I’m so glad you are here too!❤
Thank you Clarece,
That is very kind of you. I truly have gained so much from being here, and learning from you all.
Dear Mr Tudor,
This may sound silly …. we know narcissists “need” fuel ….. can you please explain what empaths “need”
Thanking you kindly
See Sitting Target.
Excellent article on this, and exellent book. Thanks HG!
one book I kept, the 2nd one I ordered I gave to a women’s abuse shelter.
Thank you.
Thank you Mr Tudor, my apologies for bothering you with such a trite question
No need to apologise.
Dear Mr Tudor,
Sorry… I’m always Ps ing … my brain works in time lapses … haha
Mr Bubbles and I just saw a piccie of the weasel in our magazine where he’s upstaging an invited guest …. a senior higher ranking personnel in uniform by wearing a more extravagant outstanding one himself (which is not his correct or true status) .. we are absolutely appalled at his audacity of not letting this distinguished guest shine
He might only be a mid ranger … but he damn well knows what he doing …. disgusting
Is this the kind of thing you would do?
Btw … this article is amazing…. bit by bit I’m connecting all the dots which are all falling into place and are making sense ..because you make it easy to read grasp and understand … so thank you
Hi T…thats a great idea donating one of HG’s books to the womens shelter. So many are in narcissistic abusive relationships. Just to understand what theyre dealing with would be very empowering!
Dearest Bubbles,
I think people want to know that they matter to someone. When you are a child, you should matter/be loved (unconditionally) by your parents and when you grow up and have friends or an intimate partner you should matter to them, too. Most humans are social creatures who want communion with others. They want to belong and fit in.
If you haven’t read Sitting Target, I highly recommend it BTW.
Luv
XO
K
K
Well said! Usually we say we need to love and be loved, but you got more to the heart of it. What we really need most of all is to feel that we matter to someone. And so many of us grew up doubting that we did matter. Often because we were taught, purposely or not, that we just weren’t good enough.
Windstorm and K
Agreed
K you stated that perfectly. We may never agree on or understand what love is, but in the end we all want to matter. If we think we matter to no one we doubt our relevance and question our existence. I think it is a basic human need to feel that you matter to someone, but not just anyone-we should still be selective as to who that is.
NarcAngel
I watched a show about Richard Kuklinski, a hit man dubbed The Iceman, and he was upset because his mother (dad abandoned the family) didn’t show up for his first communion like all the other children’s parents did. He needed to matter and he knew that he didn’t. He turned out to be a psychopath.
K
I watched that also. I believe Doc HQ referred to it. Was very interesting to watch him in the interviews.
Thank you, WS!
As children, we should be loved and accepted unconditionally. And many of us here know, only too well, the consequences of an upbringing where we just didn’t matter to our parents. It is a loss for each and every one of us and can cause ripple effects that may be felt for generations to come.
Dearest K,
Thankyou sweet one, I very much appreciate your comment. I shall read Sitting Target…. I haven’t got to that one yet… typical the answers are in the ones I haven’t read yet …. .. haha
The weasel sought me, not me him. I in fact, tried to get rid of him, over 6 times … he persisted and slowly and insidiously wormed his way into our life by offering to do things and help here n there. We accepted him eventually and I did end up advising him on his unhealthy lifestyle ….as one does. He really had nothing to offer me or us but he had the gift of the gab and we were able to talk on similar topics … .. I just got caught up in his manipulation. (I’m now thinking he liked our association because may have been envious of us and our family)
Mr Bubbles said I have a very infectious and bubbly personality and I’m too kind and nice and I would give the shirt off my back to help …. that’s what attracts. My needs are met by my family and we have a good social circle …. that’s why I’m confused. Yes I like to help people, but that didn’t happen with the weasel til long way down the track … that’s why I’m confused … I confuse easily …. haha
Mr Tudor knows himself inside out, we empaths need more working out …. we are females after all 😂
Thank you again lovely one
Luv Bubbles xx
😘
Going further back. It’s an evolutionary response to want to be accepted and loved. If not, you were outcast and did not survive. The root of jealousy stems from this. It’s why it is so intense.
Dearest K, Windstorm, NarcAngel and Jess,
Ladies … as always you make perfect sense and I agree with you all ….very thoughtful and insightful comments ….thank you 😊
Luv Bubbles xx
Apparently narcs… Damn it.
Lol. Apparently is correct
Apparently yes is right
Hi HG, I have a question for you. I just discovered that my ex narc (UMR Somatic 65% / Victim 35%) has a long distance relationship (Italy / States) since about 10 months. They meet once or twice a month for 2 days more or less. How is it compatible with the need for fuel?
When we where together I couldn’t move a step without him because he wanted to be always together and do everything together. It seems so strange to me LOL
This will be just one part of his fuel matrix. I recommend you read the three articles about the fuel matrices and if you need further insight, arrange to consult with me as I will need additional detail from you to enable me to advise you fully.
Thank you HG! I read the articles many times and, even if they are very clear, the point I cannot reach is the fact that, I’m this particular case, his fuel matrix from other sources than IPPS is quite poor. Anyway, I was only curious, doesn’t really matter.
H,g, Just Wondering Could A I N F J . Personality Also Have Narcissistic Traits ,Like Rage&Hovering? And Could Someone That Is A NARCISSIST Have I.N.F.J. Traits Such As Looking Bewildered. And Acting Odd Alot?Or Is This Part Of His Crazy Game Wanting To Throw Me Off The Sent? HE NOW KNOWS I’M STUDYING ABOUT NARCISSISM. . Thank You SHARON💘🌹🎵🍸.
I don’t know Sharon as I do not deal with those trait classifications.
Ooh I’m glad you asked this question Sharon. My narc (who I’ve been embroiled with for the last 13yrs- got kids together) I was certain was a narc. He also knows as I’ve researched it and accused him etc. He does fit the narc profile and we’ve been on the merry-go-round of idealise, devalue, triangulation, discard/escape, cheat, repeat… chuck a few court appearances, nice holidays and restraining orders in the mix just to keep it fresh ya know lol however, his last few hoovers have now brought up the fact (from him) that he’s an infj and I am an enfp and that’s why we can’t let go. Now I’m all confused. We would both never get back and live together but we’re still stuck in this merry dance and I can see it going on till one of us dies. Idk whether he’s just dragged me back in the emotional sea or I’m confusing infj traits with narcs and perhaps shouldn’t have. I know most superempaths are enfps but that’s the thing- he knows I know that, so is he just playing me. I used to think he was an istj (out to destroy enfps) bit maybe I got him wrong! Sorry for the rant lol H.G do you know what myers/briggs type you are?? Mind you i still worry you are actually my ex what with some of the things you say. Just wondering whether some infjs are more prone to narcissism as they do struggle with their real selves and some mirror others a lot in fear of being misunderstood, disliked or not fitting in! Similar with enfps but we externalise our caring rather than internalise.
I am fascinated by the dynamics of Character Traits, which strike me as more subtle than either obtaining Fuel or Residual Benefits (both more one-sided in terms of being consumed). Your description of needing Character Traits to create and sustain the structure constraining the Creature suggests that CTs are not “consumed” in the same way as is Fuel. Rather it conjures the idea of a transplant or cloning of material, put to a somewhat (but not entirely) different use than that of the donor. Yet the material is preserved, indeed, must be preserved to provide patchwork material supporting the structure.
My question is obvious: If CTs in some sense are “preserved” and not consumed, and put to a purpose only somewhat different and not wholly irreconcilable to their original use, is there a risk over time that your kind begin to morph into our kind … that in some sense the foreign CT material incorporated into you eventually becomes you, and you become it. (A crude analogy might be what happens to Prof. Henry Higgins on account of interacting with Eliza.)
If one of your books delves more fully into this issue, I would be glad to read it.
Thank you as always for your thought-provoking (and prolific) posts.
Have you ever since you realised its the “ narcissism” with your ever growing awareness feel hesitation like should I do this or not (towards your victims)
Good point. In certain instances I have adopted a more prosocial approach, so I have considered the way forward rather than being as instinctive in some instances, so I suppose you might see that as a form of hesitation.
I like that , very interesting . Thank you for the detailed and informative answer
You are welcome DFL.
HG…that’s awesome to hear. Do you share that with the doctors when you reflect and know you modified your behavior on something?
Have outcomes pleasantly surprised you, disappointed or have you not really noticed a difference when you pulled back or were more prosocial as you describe?
So many many questions answered by this article.
Some ppl are like the Cuckoo’s Nestling.
They look handsome, wide shoulders, confident, strong, full of life, cool,
because they are so successful at covertly sucking Resources from ppl around them. At all times, every day.
My dad & I used to run around the house, nervous, thin bodies. While mom was always confident, staring at us, always bigger, slow movements, rage. We never figured out exactly what was going on.
It’s sad to know. But yes, he felt completely entitled to my things, money, drugs. And he was always looking to take my last dollar, always making me dump out my purse.everything I had was his.and he could be quite underhanded about thing’s.including other women who had the promise of a great inheretense, or someone he could get free drugs from, including me. Then he would constantly tell me how he didn’t like them. But he sure took them.
I can say it was It was a tiresome and endless, and painful nightmare.
HG- I wanted to let you know I listened to your discussion on the WNAA on June 1. It was very well presented by you and i hope you’ll let us know about any outcomes from the event. I wonder who the target audience was. Been extremely busy last glfew months so unable to deeply pay attention. Yesterday I didn’t have time to listen to much so I selected yours.
Thank you.
Thank you for listening.
Kathleen
You chose wisely.
“Orphanage For Unwanted Monobrowed Children.”
Really??? You’re bad.
69 revolver- that’s one of my favourite comedy genius quotes …. I love the added humour in the articles, when they appear! Not so much when I’m drinking a cup of tea, as they can catch me off guard and, it’s unlady like to spit your tea when laughing…..
Q, I was drinking my coffee, started laughing, it went down the wrong way, and I began coughing profusely. And I was laughing through it all. At work. Nice.
That’s HG. A zinger out of nowhere.
Ahh … the drink going the wrong way , coughing /laughing, jig at work!
A Classic, and one that I perform relatively often, it lets my colleagues know I’m there and they love it !
A Zinger out off nowhere is the best kind ! ( in the context of humour) Lol..
Why would you rape or sleep rape? Fuel and Fuel?
Would I? No. Do some narcissists? Yes.
I’m glad you wouldn’t, but it happened to me, and it’s still a very painful memory for me. forcing yourselves on someone who clearly says NO, or in the middle of the night while you are fast asleep is not ok in the least bit.
The Lesser did sleep rape & rape the unwilling.
Hi Amber. Rape and sleep rape happened to me, too. Just want you to know your not alone. I was getting ready to escape at the time and maybe he knew subconsciously because I think he had many victims escape him previously. I look at that unspeakable act as 1) I was just an appliance with no feelings, 2) he was exerting CONTROL, 3) ??? HG?
Anonymous
Don’t forget fuel. It happened to me too and I called him an incubus afterwards. He told me I enjoyed it, I think that may be projection.
Thank you for that. After the rape, as I’m laying there sobbing, he had the nerve to say “Now what? rape charges?”. I asked him “Did you hear me say stop?”, He said “Yeah, I heard ya, I just had to Fu** ya, yer so beautiful”. I have recently discovered HG and all of this, it’s so new to me, it helps me to make sense of everything, yet also super painful to re-live it all, only I think you have to go THROUGH it, not AROUND it, to heal. so, here I am. hard to take that I was just an appliance to him, but nothing else makes sense of all his behaviors.
I endured sleep rape from the beginning of my marriage. Until I came to this blog, I just thought it was a part of marriage that all men did. Sex was always a form of dominance for only his enjoyment. Thought that was normal.
My heart goes out to all of you who lived that way. I’m not one to ever really feel hatred, but sleep rape and being forced to endure painful, demeaning physical things filled me with such hatred and resentment toward my husband. Even now decades later reading your comments bring it all right back.
It’s not quite the same at all, because I consented to start with, but I kept repeating “you need to stop, stop!, you need to stop, stop! . But he didn’t, not until he came. I could have potentially pushed him off me but I didn’t, my internal wanted him for to hear me and respond. My internal wanted to think that he saw me as a person. He didn’t.
At this point I tried to leave, tried to get myself together and go, but he started to get agitated, spoke of his anger and I felt it. I had been a receptacle for it.
He pulled me back to him, saying your not going yet, he is stronger then he looks. His physical strength surprised me and scared me, he has a know history of physical violence.
At this point I saw a couple of choices, force my way out and evoke a higher level of anger and potential risk of harm, or go along with it as this may get me out quicker, I know I was a coward but this was my choice at the time.
I knew what he wanted he wanted to know that he had caused me to orgasm through his ability, so second time round I went with it and faked it. Again believing that this would be the best way to get out quicker.
I don’t know why I’m sharing this, ET maybe, or just because it’s something I have only really discussed with a couple of people close to me, and I feel like I have otherwise divulged my soul on the blog so it could help me a little bit more, as sharing my story here has helped me so much. Even just to type the words, to know I won’t be too harshly judged here.
I know this wasn’t really rape but it was the closest I have ever experienced to it, and I have been very fortunate to have no experience of sexual abuse prior to meeting the narcissist. So to me with no prior experience this was traumatic emotionally, and a little physically, he caused bruising, to both my body and my mind. I have never felt more of an object then I did that night. He will never touch me again.
Quasi
It WAS really rape and you do not have to justify whatever actions you took to end it. We do the best we can in the moment. You should feel free to share and let out here anything that helps you. You are in good company both in that people here are very understanding and that there are others who have experienced the same even though they may not have spoken about it. The resolve in your last line shows your strength.
Quasi,
I am very sorry to read what happened to you.
It is very brave of you to articulate it in written words here and I am sure it is therapeutical. It shows your strength!
I really do not find the proper words to give you support. Just these short written words of comfort from far away but still strong.
Take care.
NarcAngel and SuperXena…
I Wholeheartedly thank you both so very much, for not only your kind words but the support I have felt through your comments.
I have certainly found sharing on narcsite cathartic, the most profound element for me has been my observations of kindness, respect, and support for one another, shared within the majority of interactions on the blog.
Having comments from two people I respect so very much on this site, has been very meaningful to me.
I do feel a strength, and it has been bolstered by your kindness.
I thank you, you are both all kinds of wonderful! X
You are welcome Quasi!
I am not really the sugar coating type, sometimes I am perceived as being straightforward and direct( hopefully not disrespectful).
The feedback and support I have given you has been frank , with no filters and comes directly from my heart.
Once again, I am very happy to hear that it has helped you . Not an easy journey for anyone.
Best wishes!
But what happened to the kids at the Orphanage For Unwanted Monobrowed Children…?
Who gives a rat’s ass?!
There’s the HG we love. Welcome back!
Lmao
I found them: https://www.sadanduseless.com/unibrows/
Good lord!
I heard on the radio yesterday about a study that was done linking thick eyebrows to narcissism. Did you hear about this? No more hiding amongst the normal browed, the cover is blown! Cue Homer Simpson “D’Oh!”
I did not and I would consider it total nonsense!
We empaths will take our chances with the thick browed, but those monobrowed specimens StrongerWendy unearthed are all yours.
Maybe I should grow one to hide the WTF liness (known as the number 11 to most) between my eyes caused by the face I make when people assault me with the stupid shit they say.
Theyre REALLY deep. I need to stay in more.
You’re a riot NA! I’ll have to use that, “WTF lines”
My MMRN’s narc sister had an epic unibrow! She was a beast. She topped out at 600 pounds (42.8 stones) and she had to shave daily and she had male pattern baldness and 5-6 yellowed crooked teeth. My MMRN told me not to smile in front of her because it would upset her and she would have a temper tantrum and start hysterically crying. I hated that bitch.
K
Just curious-did she have a man?
NA
Ha ha ha…when she was young, she was a svelte 300 pounds (21.4 stones) and she had all her teeth and hair. She caught herself, and married, an LMRN with a MASSIVE drinking problem (he could not hold a job). Last time I saw her she was 480 pounds (43.2 stones), in a wheel chair and wore dentures and she snagged a new IPPS on-line and currently lives in Ontario. You have my deepest sympathies.
K
Haha. I knew it. Proof that theres someone out there for everyone if you want that.
K
There may be something to that eyebrow/narcissist link after all. The study was done in Toronto. Maybe NA knows about it? What kind of narc was that? 600 lbs! Crooked grill!?!
She must have confused subsume and consume and ate her victims.
NarcAngel
His family had major food issues. One time when we visited, she ordered each person a large pizza. I thought she fucked in the head. Jabba-the Hutt.
MB
She refused to go to the dentist and she was constantly taking
prescription meds (18 different pills) so I think her dental health was adversely affected. She was a cerebral victim MMRN.
She would list off each med, the dose and how many times a day she had to take them, all 18……yawn…..Zzzzzzzzzz.
Sounds like a real catch K! What a lucky guy. I suppose there really is somebody for everybody. Access to the whole world online.
MB
I pity the man. She is applying for Canadian citizenship.
K
Canadian pig farmers need love too.
Was that who you had to rescue those sisters from?
Clarece
No, those two girls had lessers for parents. My MMRN’s family is composed of mid-rangers only.
Ha ha!
Thank you for sharing Strongerwendy. That cannot be unseen! However, I am thankful they found a home. The Monobrowed need love too.
Strongerwendy
I am thankful no one could see my facial expression when I looked at that.