The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 9
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Hahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!
I am loving the social media memes because they are all so fucking true.
He will say he never got text messages.
He will say “I never said XYZ” and then when I told him he did, then he would say “HOLD ON. Let me re-scroll through to find that…oh wait I AM SORRY, you are correct”
Or when he did not want to say sorry he said “Oh I must have missed that message”.
Dear Mr Tudor,
You present them with 💯 evidence in black n white (or colour) …….then ….
they turn on us for making them feel bad so they then make us feel as though its our fault and they end up giving us the silent treatment because we started it and now we feel horrid because we’ve hurt them for something they did which was bad in the first place but it wasn’t our fault it was theirs originally but now it’s ours and not theirs even though they did it and we have proof but because we hurt them now we should feel sorry for them get over it stop imagining things and apologise
Luv Bubbles xx
Well put, Bubbles!
Dear SMH,
Thank you my lovely …. no wonder our heads hurt 🤕
Haha
Luv Bubbles xx
Indeed. It is exhausting being a narc’s ‘love’ interest.
Not limited to messages either. StepNarc fell down the stairs hungover once and when we went over (I was hoping he was finally dead) he shouted that someone had left a toy on the stairs causing him to fall and he would find out who did it and they would pay. I pointed up the stairs and said: but theres nothing there. He replied: of course not because you moved it didnt you you little bitch? (He was of course blocking the stairs which he knew would have made this impossible). The extent of denial, shame, and blame shifting in order to justify their abuses are truly mind boggling.
It’s amazing how much something like this can hurt so much!
In hindsight I think he wanted me to see the messages he had been sending because he went on and on about seeing my phone – and sharing. I gave him my phone and he went through it. Then I asked to do the same to his.
He smugly gave me his phone, I didn’t expect to find anything because I was fighting my instinct, he wouldn’t, I kept making excuses for him. But i did. He had about 8 conversations going on with 8 different women who he was trying to ‘help’.
I went nuts! I asked him if I was chatting to 8 other men – helping them how would he feel? His response was… I twist everything, my jealousy is putting a strain on us. He showed me because he’s honest and has nothing to hide.
I know now – it was for fuel. I gave him a lot because I was upset he wasn’t respecting my boundaries. I feel like such a mug sometimes. I’m not sure I’m ever going to trust again 🙁
I have been told this by the Lesser somatic plenty of times. I would go as far as, sending over proof that i had such as, emails and he would say “i was drinking when I said that’
I have all of the emails with his name embedded because I tricked him early on and he responded. I also have WhatsApp messages with his name, phone number, and picture, which I sent to my email for safekeeping. I also have his cock pictures. I also have a screenshot of him on a dating site after his reconciliation with IPPS started and after I left the relationship for the second time. Shall I send everything to IPPS? (kidding)
Great line in a movie tonight made me think of him: “It is not my job to make you feel like a man. I cannot make you something you are not.”
SMH,
I could make a poster book for the IPPS if I really wanted to. I actually did once and came close to mailing it to her work address one day but at the last minute I shredded it. I was even planning to use a re-mailing service so it would not be tracked from where I am. I am still tempted to do this sometimes but then then the rational part of my brain whispers to me that she, their kid and their unborn kid are innocent and no good will come of it. And that she forgave him once and she’d probably forgive him again. And lastly, even if he was mine he would only cheat on me too. There are some days when I still want to massively wound him and tear him to shreds (despite my overwhelming love for him)…but as HG always says it’s usually just “challenge fuel”.
I don’t mean to sound blunt, but I don’t really understand why you waste so much time on a man that’s married, a narcissist, and doesn’t care about you at all. You are never going to be satisfied with how it’s going to end. Hurting his wife is not revenge. He does not care, and never will. You will not change him, and you are not the love of his life. You said he owes you money. Unless we’re talking about a huge amount of money, I would just forget about it and move on. I haven’t been active on this site for long, but I see you everywhere. You’re consumed with an illusion. Count your blessings: you’re not married to him, you don’t have kids with him, you don’t live together. There is no need for you to be in touch with him at all. And wether or not his wife will leave him is not your concern. You’re wasting your time. Life is too short.
Rachel, Not sure if that was directed to me or not but mine does not owe me money and I am not in touch with him, so probably not.
In any case, I did not know mine was married because he lied to me. He also lied about who he was. Sure later on I knew who he was and I was fine as IPSS – I didn’t want him to leave his wife — but at that point I did not know he was a narc. Until that part of the FR, I was away for half the time we knew each other. These things are complicated (to say the least).
Not sure why you are on this site if you think this is all about having an affair with a normal guy who happens to be going through some sort of crisis and then you need to get revenge when he doesn’t want to leave his wife for you, the wife he ‘truly’ loves. Nope, nope, nope – that’s a different movie.
FOTS, yup. I have a five page letter to IPPS that I never mailed. The only reason I am irritated with her is for not keeping him on a leash. Kids are totally off limits no matter how old they are and I have no desire to embarrass or humiliate him. That would have been easy enough but that’s not me.
But I still have them..,
Me too! LOL!
I have a hard time with this one. I mean, they’re right there on the phone. It’s a visible record. Even if they deny having sent them, that’s just laughable. That would be the time to laugh and make fun of them for not being able to lie believably!
WS, They can easily deny if they use a fake name/fake email. That’s why I had to think ahead. Mine never denied but when you combine the fakeness with word salad, say, or deflection, the correspondence can be pretty much open to interpretation. He never used anyone’s name, though I think I did use IPPS’s once or twice. I would also use his a lot, especially when I was exasperated. He would also tell me other things that are easily traceable (dates and destinations of trips, for instance – he would sometimes message me from leaving his office to landing in another country; stuff about kids). I honestly could not figure out why he would use a fake email and then tell me all of this stuff. Some are craftier than others!
SMH
Thanks for the explanation. I could see how that might work for denying to OTHER people that he wrote the messages, but he’d still look like an idiot if he denied writing it to the recipient.
Windstorm, indeed he would BUT I did see that narc membrane enable his denial mode about other things, such as having fake FB profiles. I could see him trying to deny that it was him behind the fake email. He would probably believe it himself if he was stressed enough about it.