Ghosted and Gilded
The opportunity to understand the way that the narcissist thinks and behaves is a rare occurrence. Here you will find an array of explanations across different topics and scenarios which will give you unrivalled insight into this dark and destructive individual. Gaining understanding of how this person regards you and the world around him or her is the key to unshackling yourself from the confusion, bewilderment and distress that accompanies any entanglement with a narcissist. This book provides a multitude of observations which will illuminate your understanding and assist you in gaining comprehension of what you are dealing with.
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I met a self proclaimed sociopath who flat out told me he was just that. Is that common? he went through the cycle with me within 1 week and 2 days it happened so fast. Is that common? Its always been at least a few months to years with the other 3. I could feel the discard he was detaching and making it known. After that night he barely called or texted me. It switched so fast it felt crazy. then i tried to call he picked up the phone didnt say anything then hung up and ignored my text. Then i remembered in the beginning him saying ” your going to ghost me i know it” was that just a projection of what he was planning on doing to me? Thanks HG
HG, I have read somewhere that people with NPD live in the moment, they tend to act out whichever emotion they are feeling right then. So when they want you they chase you and love bomb you, when they don’t want you they block you etc. Of course it often changes because their feelings / fuel needs also changes.
But I wonder if that is true does it mean that narcissist who wants you and tries to seduce you doesn’t strategically plan for example to press the pause button during seduction and go silent for a few weeks just to make yoir heart grow fonder? Does it mean that if he presses the pause button he just doesn’t want it at that time, he is pissed off or engages with different sources of fuel?
Or is it pissible for a narcissist to disseapear strategically and sit at home alone thinking about you hoping it will make you chase him or be more vulnerable to his seduction?
Lesser and Mid Range operate through instinct. Greater through instinct and calculation.
So could a lesser or mid range for example plan a revenge on the ex by pretending to be friendly and unblocking her but not because they want to make a positive kind coctact but because they want her to have high hopes, come closer and when the ex reacts in kind way put a knife in her back?
Is it something just the Greaters would plan and do? Or maybe Greaters would not do it (what for if the victim is kind, reacted as you wanted so you know she is under your control)?