Understanding the Fuel Matrix
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All narcissists have fuel matrices and you need to understand where you fit into that fuel matrix and how that particular matrix functions as part of protecting yourself.
This Logic Bulletin takes you through :-
1. The Fuel Matrices of all sub schools of narcissist. This includes updated and expanded information about the Upper Lesser Type A and Upper Lesser Type B Narcissists, plus the Middle Mid Range Type A and Type B Narcissists.
2. What the Fuel Matrices look like, their size, the nature of the matrices and who sits in them.
3. How the relevant narcissist of each sub school relies on the individuals in the Fuel Matrix
4. What the Virtual Fuel Matrix is and how it operates.
5. How a Long Distance Appliance fits into it the narcissist fuel matrix and how that functions.
6. Detailed descriptions of each sub-school of narcissist, their behaviours and actions to increase your understanding of the different types of narcissist. This is a comprehensive expansion which will help you understand a lot more about the way different sub schools of narcissist operate.
A fascinating and educational exploration of the fuel matrix and the interaction between you and the narcissist, this is essential to know how the narcissist behaves so you can ensure your No Contact Regime is as effective as possible. It is also advanced reading for those who feel they are well-acquainted with the narcissistic dynamic from their existing reading and consultations.
This extensive Logic Bulletin is available at just US $ 10 and is a bulletin you will read several times and refer to often and can be obtained here
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So, again, have been pondering on a SO that I was with for about 18 months or so. I had met him just after a horrific discard which had involved a major sexual assault and serious consent violation. I really was licking my wounds. Up rocks now what I perceive to be a ULN. So yes, as HG points out; I was damaged and I should have NEVER engaged. It took him a good month though for him to embed me and even then it was tenuous at best and before that month was out, I was already trying to escape. Therefore the relationship was extremely volatile. Fortunately, it was largely very long distant. Fortunately.
So, what resonates with me are the larger circle of friends through a special club in which he held a senior position (but didn’t work very hard at it). Three, long term relationships of which the second he freely admits to ‘not treating her well’. He ascribed this as to being put into a very stressful situation in a reasonably highly placed federal job. This gives him ulcers. He would bang on about this a lot and blame the stress of this on how he treated #2.(Incidentally, the story with #1 is intriguing. They were all part of a church group. She had an affair (apparently) with another member. When it came out, the lesser was ostracised by the entire community, forcing him out. He was incredibly bitter about this and often used to refer to it despite it happening decades ago.)
This finally led him to leeching off #3 whilst setting up an online business. Of some success at first but this too dwindled. When I became involved, one of the very first things I asked him was what the value of the business was. No idea. No inventory. No record of sales and therefore no idea on profit/loss. Book keeping? Forget it.
He had some degree of charm when required but his fury was always bubbling under the surface and on a hair trigger. He used to piggy back off my achievements by bizarrely, overstating my own academic credentials. I overheard him once calling me a ‘Professor’. No dear. Not yet, anyway…
The ULN is an individual who is not academically bright and may well have left formal education with little to show for it. He is however street smart, savvy and wily.
To a ‘T’. There were ‘rumblings’ of degrees taken when he was older but, I don’t actually think they were. Certificates, I think in actuality.
With the increased financial clout and his perceived role as community hero, the ULN will engage with many tertiary sources.
He certainly does want to appear as ‘hero’ and often takes up causes, such as violence against women whilst spectacularly failing to grasp that referring to your ex’s’ as ‘bitches’ (when in many cases they have supported him financially) is also exhibiting a degree of violence against women. He frequently refers to me as an abuser because he could also not grasp that I wanted to end it. I had no right. I had broken my vow and my word by doing this. He mustn’t have had my replacement fully online when the end did come. The devalue lasted months by the way. Months of horrific verbal abuse.
I have to be careful with this School as they always appear after some kind of major trauma in my life. It has been a pattern that has repeated itself, a lot. I doubt (although it cannot be precluded) that it would happen again. That is a relief and it’s all thanks to you, HG!
HG
You have been a pivotal part in the process of empowering us empaths. I’ve read a fair amount outside your work, definitley not as much as others, and many questions remain.
One of the things I’m very curious about is the narcissistic boss. I’ve pegged one but it’s a curious difference being the NISS and tertiary source in a workplace dynamic.
Also, I was hoping you could repost the empath classifications.
Thank you.
Hopefully one of these days I won’t be so bloody informal. Who knows, I might attempt an actual joke.
Maybe. Possibly. No.
There will be further work in a book re the narcissist in the workplace, if you have questions now, please organise a consultation.
Empath schools – contagion, super, co-dependent and standard.
I can wait on the questions and look forward to the book. Thank you for your response.