Understanding the Fuel Matrix
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All narcissists have fuel matrices and you need to understand where you fit into that fuel matrix and how that particular matrix functions as part of protecting yourself.
This Logic Bulletin takes you through :-
1. The Fuel Matrices of all sub schools of narcissist. This includes updated and expanded information about the Upper Lesser Type A and Upper Lesser Type B Narcissists, plus the Middle Mid Range Type A and Type B Narcissists.
2. What the Fuel Matrices look like, their size, the nature of the matrices and who sits in them.
3. How the relevant narcissist of each sub school relies on the individuals in the Fuel Matrix
4. What the Virtual Fuel Matrix is and how it operates.
5. How a Long Distance Appliance fits into it the narcissist fuel matrix and how that functions.
6. Detailed descriptions of each sub-school of narcissist, their behaviours and actions to increase your understanding of the different types of narcissist. This is a comprehensive expansion which will help you understand a lot more about the way different sub schools of narcissist operate.
A fascinating and educational exploration of the fuel matrix and the interaction between you and the narcissist, this is essential to know how the narcissist behaves so you can ensure your No Contact Regime is as effective as possible. It is also advanced reading for those who feel they are well-acquainted with the narcissistic dynamic from their existing reading and consultations.
This extensive Logic Bulletin is available at just US $ 10 and is a bulletin you will read several times and refer to often and can be obtained here
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HG
I witnessed something when I was around age 11, would I be correct that a UGN can “break” another’s mind? I knew this person before, after and for years after they recovered. They were left in a catatonic state immediately afterwards, recovery took years, they were never the same again. I never feared this person, knew people who did. I knew of his “others” I called them his other families. I am well aware of what his career was. This person is dead, has been for many years and I have never spoken about this, I may have in a consult briefly with you.
Maybe I will consult with you privately on what I believe a “dark” matrix is, I do have my ideas and I am beginning to wonder if I am correct.
Indeed they can.
Thank you HG.
“Chicanery” is my new favourite word!
My most recent narcissist is a MGN elite. The description is chillingly spot on. I know I had a lucky escape (literally) with him and I’ll always be extremely thankful for that. He could have crushed me like a bug. Like Presque Vu, I’m not really Greater narcissist calibre either, so I doubt very much that I’ll be romantically ensnared by another… thank fuck! My estranged stepfather is a MGN somatic, but thankfully he’ll be dead soon.
What is a “dark” fuel matrix?
You will learn in due course.
Can not wait! I love learning the truth about humans. It helps me to embrace how unremarkable, flawed, and dull my life is. I am in Narc chaos remission and I like it this way. Other than my own emotional thinking, and the stalker’s weekly drive by, my phone call with you gave me tools to recognize and halt the emotional rabbit hole and engage logic defenses against the addict living in my skull.
E&L
Haha. The addict in the attic. I like it.
NA, you are waaaay more astute than me. I did not even know I was being cheeky. I am not that bright or swift. I say this not to be self-deprecating, but because, after 5 decades, I fucking finally figured it out!!!! I was like…oh…ok!
I had a feeling you would say this HG! 🤣 looking forward to learning more 😊
My father would be Lesser Greater by your description except that I’ve been his primary source most of his life. His fuel matrix does not fit any of the descriptions you’ve given of Mid-Range or Lesser at all. Actually, your insistence that most narcs don’t use their children as primary sources is wrong. Talking to children of narcissists shows that we are their most-enjoyed fuel source almost every time. Your mother’s primary source is pretty clearly your sister, for instance.
You are obsessed with sexual relationships, HG, but you are not actually the measure of all narcissists. You also classify narcissists almost exactly along social class lines. This is very telling as to your obsession with appearances, but it does not reflect reality.
Most narcissists prefer an IPPS because the fuel provision is higher, NIPPS occur but are not as prevalent. Family members are far more likely to be NISS, than a primary source. The child of a narcissist may well have been a primary source at some point, but not necessarily always and certainly not always and forever. Moreover the child of a narcissist will have a bias in thinking they are the primary source because of the impact the narcissist has upon them, a child who is a NISS can be manipulated heavily also.
You only have to read on the blog that the majority of those ensnared by narcissists have been ensnared in romantic relationships, some may also have been ensnared in a familial scenario too and some only familial but the majority are in a romantic setting and therefore your observation is incorrect.
My mother’s primary source was always my father, until his death.
There is no obsession with sexual relationships but sex is a fundamental method of seduction and ensnarement, alongwith the provision of fuel and therefore it is a material matter to raise.
The classification of narcissists is not exactly along social class lines for instance UL and LG do not fall within conventional class lines.
I am so glad I’m not the calibre for the top kind of narc!! It’s exactly this description which scares me! I know you are only classifying things for us readers so thank you for that.
A lot of readers on here seem to have experienced an UEN, but aren’t they rare?
I can’t even look my new commercial director in the eye because it’s intense, of course he’s charming, but also highly positioned. I shy away. I’m much at home with people without power.
If I was broken by a LMRN I can’t even begin to imagine an upper!
I feel for your IPPS, when you are done with her I hope to god she finds a good support network to help her through. I must always remind myself what you really are.
NA said something in another thread that rang true for me. Take what you need from here to heal, even if we share a little fuel we get valuable information we would pay a psychologist for _ and even then it’s not to your standards. I soak it all up and share it with others.
Thank you for sharing HG, but you are a right honourable bastard!
Ha ha, I will take that.
Have you met anyone like you? (Same classification) If so, do you know if they were as self aware? Also, if so, any famous examples?
1. Yes.
2. Yes.
Presque Vu
“Thank you for sharing HG, but you are a right honourable bastard!”
That made me chuckle!
Off topic but i wanted to say how valuable all ive learned here is! I had an issue with a dirty angel midranger today and actually found it humorous bc i didnt play into their “game”. They were left looking bad as they tried desperately to get a reaction from me lol 🤣 i turned it around on them and walked away knowing i had the upper hand from the mere fact i knew what they were and could predict their tactics. We definitely have the advantage with this knowledge and it makes our lives much easier dealing with narcissists!