Tell Tale
We have cast you aside after subjecting you to a litany of abuse, mistreatment and the full horror of our manipulative and disorientating repertoire. You have your absolute all in the pursuit of what you believed to be our perfect love. You have endured humiliation, denigration and belittlement yet you still hung in there, desperate to cure and to heal. You wanted us so much that it hurt and it still does. Not only have we discarded you with a callous disregard for your welfare and sanity, we have added to the pain by parading our latest conquest for all the world to see. You are no longer the recipient of our burning desire. You have been removed from our grace and favour and a new beneficiary has been installed. The monument to our supposedly everlasting love has been razed to the ground and on that once sacred ground we have erected a new edifice, lauding our new, shinier and much improved interest. What was once promised as lasting forever has been smashed into pieces and erased from the history books.
Your hurt, anger and indignation are tangible. The traitorous behaviour we have subjected to you has torn you apart. It is awful enough that after everything you have done, everything you have given and everything that you have endured, you have been struck from the record. The insult has been magnified and multiplied by reason of our infatuation with your replacement. How dare we do this to you. It is utterly unfair.
Your desire for retribution is immense. You want to cause our come uppance and warn the world about the monster that you see us as. You feel that all must be told about the awful toll that you have taken from our treatment but greater than that, you have that irresistible sense of needing to protect and warn. The empathic nature that made you such an attractive target to us has survived notwithstanding the mauling we have given you. You need to save our conquest from what you have been put through. Not only must you rescue the poor innocent from our toxic touch this will enable you to exact a delicious revenge on us. By taking away the thing that we crave, you know that triumph awaits. Our fresh acquisition may work out what has happened, but that will take too long. No, you owe it to her and you owe it yourself to intervene, to educate and warn. It is time to expose us for what you say we are.
You call us for the perfidious behaviour that we have engaged in. You decry our stories of your hysterical and unreasonable behaviour and yet here you are, ready to spread such lies about us to our new love. You hold yourself out as being a person of good nature and compassion yet you are hell bent on ruining our new-found happiness. You were not good enough for us. You let us down and thus you had to be moved to one side replaced. Out with the old and in with the new. That is the natural order of events. The appliance does not work anymore, therefore a new, faster and more effective appliance must be brought to the fore and installed. Why complain about that? Had you been fit for purpose you would still be the object of our affection, but you failed. We gave you every chance and yet you still came up wanting. You are to blame. You only have yourself to blame. Yet, exhibiting the malice that you laughingly accuse us of you go running to our new interest and tell tales about us.
Your poison-laden tongue weaves its malevolent words as you whisper fabricated stories in order to discourage our new love from remaining with us. Do you not understand that this is the very reason why we had to let you go. We tried. We really did, but you would insist on railing against us and not submitting to our will. There was no hope for it other than yo remove you from our lives. As people of substance and rigour, we have not gone with our tales of lament to others, seeking to draw sympathy from them. No, that is not for us. We chalked off our time with you as a mistake and we learn from it. Now we have found someone better. So what that we moved with what you regard as unseemly haste, we are entitled to drive forward. You should take heed of our capability in that regard, instead of remaining mired in what might have been. Imprisoning yourself in a tomb of melancholy is not the way of progress. This only underlines our superiority to you. We have moved on. If you cannot, then that is your problem and not ours.
We act with honour and do not stoop to your level. We know that our character speaks for itself with this new person. We allow them to make their own mind up and the extensive groundwork which we put in place has ensured that this person is impervious to your unsavoury behaviour. We know that our impregnable façade of magnificence cannot be pierced by your savage and twisted lies. Run to our new love, run to them and seek to pour your poison in their ears and we shall watch smiling as they turn to you and shake their head. They are immune to your campaign of smears. They know that we are truly wonderful and that you had your chance but you destroyed what we had as a consequence of your quite frankly unhinged conduct. She tells you how magnificently I treat her and you try to explain how it was like that for you in the beginning but your words are lost in translation. You are told that your jealousy has skewed your outlook, that your paranoia has warped your view of the world. Your craziness has been well documented. We have done the protecting. We have done the warning and as always we got in first.
Tell your tales but all you do is reinforce our brilliance and the reason we were oh so right to be rid of you. Nobody likes a tell tale. Nobody likes you.
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I know nobody likes me. I know he doesn’t love me. I don’t even like or love me anymore.
I have become as hollow as he is. He has sucked everything out of me for no gain for either of us.
Leslie
It hurts to see you say that you feel so empty and unloved. Even if that is true today, you have the ability to refill yourself. By opening your mind up and interacting with the world and people around, you can fill your emptiness.
I dont know your story, but my ex narc discarded me when I was pregnant with his child. Before that, I took care of EVERYTHING for him. He literally wanted me dead, and tried to talk me into suicide multiple times while pregnant. One time, before I was pregnant, he hurt me so bad, I did swallow a bottle of opiates and a bottle of xanax right in front of him. All he did was put me in a cab and sent me home. Thank God nothing happened to me, and thank God I wasn’t hospitalized and documented. He still wants me dead, and has tried everything he could to break me again. I was at a point as well, where I was a shell. When I needed people the most, they were also fighting with me, because this black cloud of shame, drama, and anger followed me around. The narc won’t go away. He is still horrendous. I have even talked to some abuse counselors, and a lot of them don’t get narcissism and claim he can change if he finally understand his behavior is hurting his child. There’s narcissist everywhere wanting to bring everyone down. So many people need love and will accept YOUR love. If you can’t love an adult right now, show kindness and love to a child, an elderly person, or animal. I haven’t been in a romantic relationship with anyone after the narc, but I have dated. But I have a better relationship with my family and friends than I ever have. I’m quicker to cut toxic people out of my life, and I stopped caring what abusers think about me. Someone out there needs you too much for you to give up.
“abuse counselors” useless twits! My piss is boiling.
Anm
I am so mad at how badly you were treated by your ex narc that I can’t even think straight! I am so sorry you went through that shit show. Then to have idiots tell you that he can change!?! Half-wits!!!
P.S.
HG, I sense a fucking disturbance in the force!
Shit, I am having a cranky moment…
I’d also add, Leslie, it doesn’t matter if anyone else likes you or if he likes you. You can learn to like yourself, then what other people think will just be their opinion and not have the power to hurt you.
Leslie
Its not true that nobody likes you or that you are hollow. You have been conditioned to think that and probably isolated, but it is not true. Many people here felt like that once and found it to be lies. You will too.
Nice.
Even better than Nice.
Same for non-relationship narcabuse.
I sound like a b____h forever after.
Bye HG
I am practicing patience. My day will come and the other fuel sources will seek the answers I have to give them. Now they won’t listen but they will when they realize what they are entangled with….
At least there is one person who likes me and that is me. That is one thing, HG, you cannot say about yourself. When my ex said “Nobody likes you” I said to him: “You really do not believe that?” And then he swallowed. HG, do you really think, that all people believe in your lies? Lies are beautiful, if they help people. I told people lies to motivate them and it functioned. They believed them and started to grow. And they made lies to become true. You tell lies to destroy people. Is that the way, it should be? Do not forget, your family told you a lot of lies about you. And do not forget, you are the one, who has to keep all the burden of your family construct. If you do not go another way, you are only a product of your destructive family, some kind of a functioning machine. “Resistance is useless.” Is that the end of the game, that you want to be? A figure in a game, that you win? Only a figure?
Tell tales, I do that too.
I think Mr. Tudor, the number one thing that I have been working on myself right now is to remove the people pleasing part of my personality. I can still be empathic and helpful towards other people, but I don’t care anymore about what they think about me. And so now getting smeared doesn’t bother me anymore. And I wouldn’t waste my time trying to explain why I am not in good terms with a narc and why it is their fault. I’ll just let God be the judge and focus on more important things in my life.
Seems the one I got rid of is collecting his own karma with no help from me. Lots of stitches, bad luck, a cease and desist notice for threatening my friend for being my friend and not his (he saw his abuse of me). Recently his car was vandalised and he’s being (apparently) investigated by the inland revenue, both of which I am getting the blame for. His panic pick has packed on the beef and looks dog rough, I expect he’s a nightmare to live with already. My heart bleeds. The divorce can’t come fast enough! I’m sitting on my revenge and shall release my book when I’m ready, hopefully when he’s locked up for tax evasion
Re the piece HG, I totally agree it is wasted energy to look for direct revenge by telling the new one all. Turn it on yourself to remind you how lucky you are to be rid of them. I actually had a dream last night that I did tell dear Dobbin what an absolute turd her baby is and woke up laughing my head off. She’s welcome to him…
Hi Kelly, I dreamt of my nex the other night. He had died and his lawyer contacted me as he had left instructions for me to arrange his funeral. So I hopped on a plane and found that I also had to settle his debts, clear his home and dispose of his goods. No family or friend wanted to attend the funeral. So I chose a nice cemetery and resting place, but when it came to finding words for his epitaph I was stuck .. either write something nice to which everyone who knew him would say “well, that’s a lie” but I couldn’t just leave his name and dates. I was trying think of a poem when I woke up … weird. I have no reason to suppose that this would ever happen, but there is a certain irony that he invades my dreams and I am still pandering to him after his demise. p.s. I had chosen sunflowers for him!! I think I need therapy …
Follow up, I found the epitaph!!! A quote from ‘As you like it’ by Wm Shakespeare The play is about hidden identities and love at first sight. Apologies to WS for misappropriation of his great work.
“….no sooner met but they looked, no sooner looked but they loved”
This continues. .. “no sooner loved but they sighed, no sooner sighed but they asked one another the reason, no sooner knew the reason but they sought the remedy; and in these degrees have they made a pair of stairs to marriage, which they will climb incontinent, or else be incontinent before marriage. They are in the very wrath of love, and they will be together. Clubs cannot part them..”
I also looked up the meaning of sunflowers: adoration, loyalty and longevity.
Hmmmm, ‘clubs cannot part them’ …. ha ha ha…
I’m sure nex would have approved.