O Come All Ye Empaths
O Come all ye empaths
Honest and so decent
O come ye, O come ye to my illusion,
Come and be ensnared
By my golden period
O come let you fuel me
O come let you fuel me
O come let you fuel me
Narc the Lesser
O cry tears of sadness,
Cry in sheer frustration,
Cry and be hurt by
My manipulations
Give to your narc fuel
In the plenty
O come let you fuel me
O come let you fuel me
O come let you fuel me
Narc the Mid-Range
All hail Greater we worship thee,
Malevolent and so handsome,
O Greater for always will you hoover us,
Words are your weapons
Devaluation appearing
O come let us fuel him
O come let us fuel him
O come let us fuel him
And never stop
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Might be worth the airfare just to witness it
a fuel filled extravaganza,,,must be lonely in that place.
Where has he gone?
Who is he with?
Mr Tudor has your sessions with the good doctors changed the way you interact with people, at least in the workplace? I would be interested to know what caused you to pop up on their radar in the first place if you would care to divulge.
Yes to an extent. It was an agreed arrangement involving my family.
Hi HG! Have you had any episodes to the extreme of what the behavior was that caused the family intervention since you have been in therapy?
You brought up on the blog about two years ago in December that you had punched an individual in a bar (or that type of setting in a social outing) that had triggered your fury. Have you had any episodes like that in two years?
No.
I bet the doctors do view that as progress with you! That’s really good to hear HG!
Clarece
He may not have punched someone publicly since, but there could still be bodies in the moat. If no one saw it, it never happened.
Bwa haha
Nooooo. No dead bodies in a moat, NA. That thought makes my tummy hurt…
Clarece
Sorry. I was trying to scare the plaid off those pants – not make your tummy hurt.
Bahahahaha I know NA. That plaid is like white on rice. Not going anywhere.
K, please find the fury ignited punching incident thread.
MB
Hey! K is not your minion!
NarcAngel
Ha ha ha…thanks for the laugh!
NA & K, that did sound like I was being Miss Bossy Britches! I’m sorry for taking you for granted K.
MB
Ha ha ha…you don’t have to say sorry and I don’t think you take me for granted.
K, HG is Da Man and you are Da Woman at Narcsite. What a delight you are!
MB
Ha ha ha….flattery will get you everywhere, just saying, and thank you for your kind words, I really do appreciate them!
Clarece
P.S
I see you have always been adorable.
The girl with the curl…haha
Clarece
Do you remember any of the words in the comment?
Was it a bar or a pub? And what caused the incident?
K
I’ve tried looking also. I believe it was near Christmas but not last year. Im trying to think of keywords but failing. I thought the incident took place in the bathroom at a bar or pub and was in response to HG having been badgered /annoyed earlier by him. Wait……maybe that was me…I’m getting flashbacks. I’ll keep thinking.
NarcAngel
Ha ha ha… I went through dec. 2016 and nothing turned up. Keep digging.
K, let me ponder this. I remember the incident happened around now 2 years ago but wasn’t referenced in comments until a few weeks later in January 2017. I may just scroll thru the archives myself later tonight to see if I can find it.
Clarece
It isn’t in Dec. 2016 so I had a feeling it would be in Jan. 2017. Good luck!
Or maybe HG will take the notion to share the story 😉
Clarece, NA and MB
Here it is!
HG Tudor
FEBRUARY 2, 2017 AT 14:11
Indy,
I lost control on an evening out prior to Christmas. There was a long simmering tension between he and I. He purposefully pushed in front of me at a bar we were in. Ordinarily that would not be a problem, but because it was him and I knew how deliberate it was and that he was trying to show me up in front of my coterie and his friends, it ignited my fury. I erupted and attacked him owing to this loss of control. It was swift and he had no chance to defend himself because of the frenzied onslaught. He deserved it, is an unpleasant person and I know he will not take the matter further because of the other matters I know about him which would cause him far more trouble than it would to me. The impact on him was hospitalisation and he has not dared to appear in my spheres of influence since. His reaction (and those around him) provided a considerable injection of fuel which abated my fury so it abated as quickly as it appeared and I turned to my friends and asked them what they wanted to drink.
https://narcsite.com/2017/01/10/the-lesser-narcissist-five-facts/#comment-68228
Nice coda HG.
I am returning to the same bar Thursday evening for a night out. I doubt he will be there, but if he is….
He will get another overnight stay at A & E for Christmas?
Nah, I will buy him a drink and say, ‘Let’s put it all behind us, it’s Christmas!’
Pro social progress. I love it HG!
I was being sarcastic actually MB!!
Just another display of my sin of positivity, HG. My rose-colored glasses didn’t allow me to see the sarcasm.
Typical empath!
Yep, I drive my co-workers crazy! They try to talk that shit and negativity and I always turn it around to being positive. Everybody gets the benefit of the doubt in my presence. I can almost always find a silver lining. They know, if MB is at a loss, we’re screwed for sure!
If he knows what’s good for him, he will go to another bar.
what bar is it?
Is this a traditional holiday outing in your hometown or something? Haha
It Christmas Night Out for the football team that I play for.
HG, that you play for now or in the past? I thought you didn’t have time to play anymore?
Was the person you hit two years ago from an opposing team or not sports related?
That I play for.
Not sports related.
Impressive!!
I told y’all he played!
HG, why didn’t you just say that back when we were talking about it. Why say now? You like games!
MB
Of course he likes to play games, he is a narcissist after all.
You’re right K. If he wasn’t mysterious, he would have to turn in his Narc Card!
I just listened to “Secrets” on YouTube. All is explained there.
It’s not a deliberate manipulation of the readers. My loyalty makes me sure of that. Besides, it adds to the allure.
K, you’re awesome!
MB
I know, right! (that is just my narcissism coming to the fore, ignore it and it will go away)
K, you don’t have to be narcissistic to appreciate a compliment! You’re amazing. The way you find things and share them is so helpful. I’m sending you some good time brownies for Christmas. Virtually anyway.
Thank you MB! Looking forward to those good time brownies.
Yeah, that’s it. I was halfway thru January 2017 archives. I knew it was discussed after the incident and was guessing I may have to go into Feb.
That was an intense situation. K and NA, did you remember this?
I always greatly appreciated when HG would share these personal stories. Especially ones of a delicate matter where he admits he erupted and lost control and what transpired because of it. I especially appreciate that the honesty to share that side of him in an actual encounter shows progress and strength. That the honesty is not a weakness.
Clarece
I logged on circa April 21, 2017 so I missed that thread. I do like to read about HG’s personal stories so I can see the world through his eyes. It makes it much easier to understand the dynamic.
Clarece
I didn’t remember it till I read it again. I really appreciate HGs sharing of these type of personal events, too. I think it’s good for all of us as well as for him.
Hi WS! This story of HG’s really affected me at the time…most likely scared the shit out of me, so I’ve always remembered it. I think it is a good benchmark for HG to draw on his progress with therapy. Or if it has become stagnant for him. I think it’s great when he shares these stories too because as much as he says he operates as an efficient machine, this shows a true to life example of his very human side affected by NPD.
Clarece
Perhaps I’m more inured to violence, that the story didn’t surprise me at the time. Many of the male narcs in my family might have told that story. Violence out of nowhere seems fairly common between two narcs. It’s a way of establishing dominance.
Even my Pretzel has gone off in public fairly recently and threatened to kill someone. And my Pretzel is a non-violent cerebral, but he refuses to be intimidated by anyone. This guy was a lesser narc whom he had prosecuted and had been following the Pretzel to try to intimidate him. Pretzel deliberately confronted him in a public place, erupting on him out of nowhere. Put an end to his stalking with no actual violence. It’s just a narc thing.
But I agree with you that’s it’s great HG hasn’t actually physically hurt anyone else like that. I see it as a sign of personal growth.
Clarece,
I remembered the incident, like you it affected me.
I do hope if HG runs into him tonight, it will only be a pint he shares and not a punch to.
Btw K, it’s amazing how you were able to find this post once you knew the timeline to look. Great job finding this one!
Thank you Clarece
The timeline makes a big difference.
HG, you have said yourself that you have become more pro-social over the last couple of years with therapy. Only you know what triggered you to lose control that night two years ago. Do you think the same reaction would happen now from you if the same scenario unfolded this year instead of 2016? If not, what can you tell about how you’ve changed?
It would with that particular individual because he had it coming. With other individuals, the threshold for the release of that ignited and frenzied fury has moved upwards. Certain individuals however are the targets of my malice and therefore there is no change in that regard, but the ability to control my ignited fury (which is a different consideration to malice) has increased and in part is directed towards being pro social.
You! HG, I’m so gullible. I take my ‘Like’ back on your Nah, I’ll buy him a drink, and say let’s put it behind us, it’s Christmas 🙄. I thought whoever was making you fun and sassy lately had put you in a really good mood. It’s a long learning process for me, clearly.
Ha ha, who knows I may buy him a drink, depends on whether he is black or white and as you know, that alters in an instant. It could be a pint and a punch!
Hi hg just listened to the Hoover blog on you tube. I have recently been communicating with my ex about a finance car I have but in his name and he is delaying sorting out tthe payment I missed for last month . He’s now saying we should both go out and look for a new car together and trade both our vehicles in he has also started to call me by his pet name he had for me and phoning me almost every day about the car or Emailing me . My question is is this a Hoover as he has new supply that he went off with after disengaging from me 7 mths ago or is he just simply trying to be nice to get what he wants my car back and a new one for himself? Any info would be greatly appreciated . Thank you .
You are being hoovered for fuel and for the residual benefit of a new car.
Never mind empaths what happened to our favorite narcissist???
Question: At what point does a “woke” empathic primary source who has been–by nature of an increasingly but partially enlightened status–who has been, I say, engaged in (futilely) railing against the narc with facts about narcissism which match up exactly with the abuses of the narc—HG, from the narc’s perspective, at what point does the enlightened/enraged empath go from “good fuel source” to “bad person = black.”
Another way of putting it: At what point does the narc cross over from relishing the fuel and not being threatened by the enlightening of the empath vs the narc being annoyed enough or even concerned enough to nevermind about the fuel and start seeking a new replacement primary fuel source?
An addendum question would be: How would this affect future hoover attempts? Would the knowledge the old empath now has of narcs make future hoover attempts less worth it to the narc?
The staleness of fuel or its lack of frequency and/or diminished amount commences devaluation of the IPPS. It is during this devaluation that the narcissist is likely to engage with alternative intimate sources. Dependent upon their traits, their fulfilment of the prime aims and susceptibility to control, they may well replace the IPPS who is then disengaged from. If they do not, they will be treated in a shelf manner most of the time, their interactions influenced by the white/black relationship between the narcissist and the IPPS as the IPPS has periods of devaluation and then respite (renewed golden periods).
If the narcissist perceives that the victim is ‘onto them’ this may cause an increase in devaluing behaviour to tighten the grip or it may result in disengagement.
This awareness is a factor in the Hoover execution Criteria and is one of many factors which govern the likelihood of hoovers.
I am not a feeding ground.
I am not a resource, exploitable, extractive, or otherwise.
I am a distinct individual.
Narc blindness to these facts does not invalidate their reality.
It does show the limitations of narcs.
O Come all ye Narcies
Narcissist Bastard
O come ye, O come ye to a living Hell,
Come and be an abuser
Destroy a beautiful person
O come let me like you
O come let me love you
O come let me adore you, in this living hell
Narcie the Bastard
Made me cry tears of sadness,
Cried tears of frustration,
Angered and hurt by
Manipulations
What the hell is happening
Oh my head is battered
O come let me understand you
O come let me help you
O come let me love you, in my living hell
Narc the Mid-Ranger
Destroyer of empaths
Happiness, joy and bliss
Move onto the next one
with your confident dick
Words are your weapons
Actions are your bullets
O come let you discard me
O come let you use me
O come let you destroy me, in my living hell
In the darkness
Broken and wasted
Forgotten and bewildered
Discovered HG’s Narcsite
O come let me hate you
O come let me know it’s your narcissism
O come let me heal, heal, heal, heal
Rot in hell! PDW
Original Overthinker
Ha ha ha…that was awesome!
K
Just tossing around an idea:
Empath Carol for covert/victim-Ns:
“Oh fuck all the co-verts
Let them die with violence
Let their smug faces
Be smashed, flat roadkill…
Oh let me stab you,
Stab you re-peat-ed-ly
Oh come now as I kick you
Oh come I’ll punch your face in,
Oh come now you deserve this
Wolf-in-sheep’s-cloth(ing)…”
Verse 2 begins:
“Oh fuck all the co-vert
oxygen de-plete-ers
Let them and their excuse-es
Go down in flames
“Oh but it isn’t, never was my fault”
Oh yes it is, you’ll pay now
Oh yes it was, admit it,
Oh yes it was you dick-head,
It’s Doomsday to day”
Glory to God
Who sees through all your bull-shit,
Your lies can-not con Him
Deflection will not sway Him,
He will hold you to ac-count,
And we will all cheer!
It’s written that one day,
He’ll wipe away our tears,
And there’ll be no crying, or pain again
We’re going to where, real love is valued,
and we’ll be loved in re-turn,
and we’ll be loved in re-turn,
and we’ll be loved in re-turn,
Just as we deserve!
So, as you’ve noticed I’m feeling quite angry today…
“Oh fuck all the co-vert
Silent treatment-givers,
Tramplers on boundaries
Spiteful bastards, all
May you suffer
As you’ve made us suffer,
And may you be ig-nored,
And may you be ig-nored,
And may you be ig-nored,
In fuel-free eternity.”
Verse 1 alt line:
“Oh come now you deserve this”
or
“Oh come now you’re en-ti-tled”.
Verse 4 alt line:
“And may you be ig-nored,
And may you be ig-nored,
And yes, you will be ig-nored
In per-pe-tu-ity”
Caroline R
Ha ha ha….feel that anger and hatred, don’t hold back just let it all out. It feels damn good, doesn’t it.
Original Overthinker
So clever!
Would make a good chant.
Very satisfying ending.
Love your anger vent … x x
LOVELY, OO.
Am thirsty for more.
Thank you JJ for the compliment … I am having a shit day today… I think why couldn’t he see any good in me that others seemed to … x x
Overthinker, this is great!
The Narcie and the Empath,
When they are both full grown
Of all the golden couples
That are in the wood
The Narpaths bears the crown
O the rising of his cock
And the moaning as she nears
The playing of his merry organ
Sweet singing in the unknown mire
The Narcie bears a history
As dark as any mud
And Empie bore sweet love
Hoping to do the Narcie good
O the rising of the Cock
And the moaning as she nears
The playing of his merry organ
Sweet singing in the unknown mire
The Narcie bears a fury
As red as any blood
The Empie try to understand
But did Empie no good
No the rising of his cock
His moaning and smears
No playing of the merry organ
No singing in the mire.
The Narcie bears a prickle
As sharp as any thorn;
His demeanour is filled with
Malice and scorn
The rising of his anger
You should be running my dear
The playing with Empie’s head
Gaslighting in the mire
The Narcie bears a bark
As belittling as likes
And Empie bore it all
Made her feel like shite
O the rising of the sun
You should the running my dear
Was there ever a merry organ
I want to be out of this mire
The Narcie and the Empath
Now everything known,
The Narcie is a bastard
Thinks he should bear the crown.
O Empie is wounded hopefully will grow
Narcie will never endear
Recovery of a merry life with very strife!
Sweet singing of the HG’s choir.
Sent from my Samsung Galaxy smartphone.
Very good.
Last line … Should be…
Recovery of a merry life with very LITTLE strife!
Fine poetic talent, Original Overthinker.
You are original, with a first class honor! 😉
Brilliant!
and for the record… 1st Christmas I’ve totally looked forwards to since the narc… and it’s the 4th one.
Would u like a glass of water
Only if it is San Pellegrino, thank you.
Sweet but bitter … x x
HG, I imagined you as a still water guy.
Must be the choice water of narcs?! That’s what my ex drank.
Thank you for that reminder..er NarcCarol.
I would say I’m out of fuel, but I’m going to ask so…..
Will you be “snowing” us again this year?
Words are your weapons, but the sword of Truth is mine.
Ooh!
So clever, so articulate..
Losing my will to say “no”
Must resist.
Ooh, so handsome…
Losing my will to resist…
Ooh you smell good…
(Slow, deep exhale)
Wait! Who is that other woman?
And that one?
How many ARE there?
(Comes to senses)
Unhand me forthwith!
Yes, I mean it.
No, don’t kiss me
Don’t call me “baby”
Stop it
(Gets emergency-N -repellent cards out of her hip pocket)
“No emotion.”
“Get out, stay out”.
“Think of the STIs”
Controls her feelings, looks as blankly as possible for an empath, tosses hair over her shoulder, turns on high heels, and makes dignified, wordless exit.
Leaves lingering fragrance in the air: the fragrance of N-desire.
Ha ha think of the STIs!
I love it!
Thanks!
I will never hear or sing a Christmas carol again the same way.
Will you be singing these carols for us HG?
Not at present, MB.