The Narcissist Manipulates : Lieutenants and Trait Corruption

 

THE NARCISSIST MANIPULATES1

There is a person who occupies that place of the discarded victim who has condemned herself to an ongoing and perpetual campaign of punishment. This person bears the name of Andrea, a traitorous, seditious and disloyal harlot who was given the world by me and chose to instead let me down. She now walks clothed in betrayal, the mark of her perfidy branded on her forehead and the stench of treachery that follows her wherever she goes. She was once feted and worshipped. She once stood high on that pedestal as I provided her with everything that she wanted. She was the last of those individuals who come bearing false witness to their powers of fuel provision. She promised so much yet she spoke with a forked tongue for,like others before her, she failed to maintain that which was required. She let me down. Not only did she commit that despicable act whereby she lessened her admiration and adoration so that the fuel she once gave so brightly and so deliciously now tasted stale and became a mere drizzle rather than a pouring torrent, but she took her betrayal once step further. She had the audacity, the reckless cheek and sheer disgusting duplicity to not only diminish this supply of fuel but then she brought about its cessation.

Had I not given her everything? Was I not everything that she ever wanted? Of course I was and more besides, yet no matter what I provided it ultimately proved not enough. I knew that she sought to usurp her kind, she wanted to topple me from my exalted throne but she was not strong enough. I had my new queen, in Kim, someone whose fuel far exceeded that of Andrea and she proved able and capable of sustaining me. Of course Andrea’s attempt to distance herself from me once she knew she had been uncovered as the charlatan that she was had to be addressed. She put in place all those steps to prevent my tendrils from seeking her out. She changed-mails, changed mobile number, stayed shuttered within the citadel of her office, high up from the reach of those below and even moved from where she lived. She made no attempt to contact me, to express her shame and sorrow at what she had done and this lack of remorse and her failure to account for her most disgusting treason brought about the need to make her account. It was necessary to have her narrow and weasel-like face held so she could look upon her reflection and see what she really was, a harpy, a slattern and a scarlet woman.

She resisted by seeking refuge in anonymity and disappeared from social media. She was never seen at the haunts we once frequented and vanished from her gym, her hairdresser’s and florists. The last surprised me perhaps most of all as I knew she had such a love for flowers, always delighted when each Friday I brought her a new bouquet and she lovingly placed the lilies, the roses, the carnations and so on in a vase. Her home was always alive with a floral scent and each room bore testament to her love of flowers as did her carefully tended garden, both front and rear. I delighted in the pain it must have caused her in order to leave those gardens behind. It was her own fault however. She was to blame for her behaviour and she had to suffer the consequences.

Yet for all her attempts at becoming invisible and she made a good attempt at doing so, I know that she and the others can never escape me. Accordingly, it was not long before my Good Lieutenants through their searching and probing obtained for me her new address. I dispatched my Lieutenants to cause her havoc in a multitude of ways form the minor to the less so and all without her being able to detect who was carrying out these acts of punishment although I knew that she was entirely aware of who the puppet master was. After each successful report from my Lieutenants I was able to feel the power flow through me at her reaction to the latest inconvenience that my underlings had applied to her. I do not want her back. I gave her that chance, even, after her treachery but she resisted that opportunity by fleeing as she did and thus her chance at returning to my grace and favour was denied to her and always will be. Her impertinence and betrayal offend me gravely and thus whilst I have no interest in allowing her to return to my golden largesse, I shall continue to let her know of her treason. She will be reminded regularly, tormented and tortured as punishment for her foul sedition.

This ongoing campaign came to mind today as I looked upon a host of daffodils as I walked. Given her love of flowers I arranged last October for my Lieutenants to organise a surprise for her. I knew she had gone on holiday in the half-term and with her house unoccupied and shielded from the gaze of neighbours and passers-by as a consequence of fence and hedge, my Lieutenants attended her property. Even they had been seen they would have just been regarded as gardeners. She loved the Spring with the change of scent in the air, the promise of growth and re-birth and the joy of seeing the first croci and tulips lead the way before the blooming of flora gathered pace. Accordingly, my Lieutenants planted many bulbs under her lawn and re-turfed it so that come the Spring a delightful message would be clearly spelt out to her once those bulbs had grown and bloomed. One day she would open the curtains from her bedroom and look outside on a floral tribute to her treachery and this day will soon be upon her. Which flower did I choose to convey this message? Would it be the primrose, the sweet violet or perhaps the Lenten Rose? No, it had to be the daffodil.

I will let you work out why.

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110 thoughts on “The Narcissist Manipulates : Lieutenants and Trait Corruption”

  1. HG

    “It’s still continuing, believe me. It is sensational.”

    (Re this weekends esteemed company.haha)

    Sounds like the Candidate IPPS to me.

    No wonder you have no time.

    I remember my nex using such dramatic adjectives as that….over the top “fantastic” and “mega”….loads of flowery comments…I felt really complimented but when I told a couple of girlfriends because I was so flattered, they said he was a right creep.

    I thought they might be secretly jealous and felt abit dismayed by that, now I know that it is because it sounds so over the top.

    They could tell and I fell for it back then.

    Thats why I have said before that I could not stomach a fabulous golden period of presents and attention plus everprescence again.

    Litetally sickening.
    Balance.
    Gentle and steady
    I myself dont believe in sensational anythings anymore.
    I do believe in nornality.

    I dont know who to feel more sorry for here having the sensational time…her or HG

    Her because it wont last and she doesnt know? Vs
    HG because it wont last and he does know?

    Of course it is her.

    I dread to think what will become of her through devaluation.
    We know its coming.
    He says it always does.

    Hg…you will be busy indeed.

      1. Business as usual then. For your sake and hers, I hope you are correct. That the positive fuel flows forevermore.

      2. HG, I was thinking of you in the shower again this morning and had a thought. I wondered if you would answer this. If L was one of us readers and engaged you for a consultation, what would be your advice to her? Would you recognize the red flags and klaxons of the seduction she would describe and advise her to GOSO? (Not her specifically as it would not be in your best interest.) But you know what I mean.

      3. The consultation of course is confidential MB so I could not state what my advice would be. However, I require some clarity with regard to your question.
        Do you mean I commence a relationship with L, she does not know who I am and consults with me?
        If yes, do you then mean :-

        1. She does not recognise me, I do not recognise her – what is my advice when she describes her scenario ; or
        2. She does not recognise me, I recognise her – what is my advice when she describes her scenario?

      4. HG, The hypothetical scenario would be a reader in a situation such as L is now. Not L specifically. You don’t know her, she doesn’t know you. She is a client describing the seduction and love bombing she is experiencing. Would you tell her they are red flags? Would you advise that client to GOSO?

      5. That’s what I thought HG. You really are the best! I understand (because of you) why your needs come first. There can be no change. It would only create a conundrum for an empath. It is not a matter for you. Nothing but respect. Your honesty is commendable. Things will work out for you. They always do!

        I only wish I knew and understood myself as well as you do. It will sound strange to some, but I am quite envious of you.

      6. MB
        I call bogus on your question. That was just a shameless attempt to have HG picture you in the shower lol.

        I see you.

      7. Ha ha, MB’s such an outrageous flirt!

        (Only joking MB – I know you were really picturing me when you were in the shower. No, that’s not flirting, I am just, as ever, being factually accurate.)

      8. You are correct as ever HG. It is an actual fact. I’m hopelessly smitten.

        It’s happened to me my entire adult life but it’s no longer puzzling. Because of my learning here I realized that It’s always the narcissists that I throw myself at. Lucky for me, there have never been any takers! (I think I’m too easy to seduce, but not easy to manipulate which hasn’t been tested.) Damned addiction!

      9. NA, ha ha. I guess I could have left out the shower part. I do some of my best thinking in shower. Things pop in my head. And yesterday morning, it was what HGs advice would be to a girl experiencing what L is at the moment.

      10. Yep SP! It’s that time again. I’d better be jumping in so I won’t be late for work. What will the musings of MB be today? Hmmmmmm?

  2. Who are these bloody idiots that go and do this stuff, they must feel very proud of themselves, how old are these gardening flying monkeys ? I’m presuming about 14

    1. Great questions. WHat is the process to get someone to do this? Because they could have potentially gotten shot (let’s say she had her father be in her home when they arrived. The dad not expecting anyone could have thought they were intruders and killed them. Even if they appeared to be workers of the home.)

    2. Likely to be carried out by those looking for something from the narcissist or indebted to them in some way. I don’t think of it as those doing it just for shits and giggles.

      1. NarcAngel
        No i don’t either , but i do think it may have been a recruitment from the local school as a project because i’m presuming it has to be the mentality of an age group between 12 and 15 possibly younger. 😂
        Then again could just be a bunch of narc friends as that’s an equal mentality in age development 😬
        It’s beyond ridiculous NA, Whilst I do appreciate HG sharing the insight into the childish embarrassing thought process of a Narc, HG really needs to get a grip of himself.

      2. NarcAngel
        This reminded Pretzel of a case he prosecuted where it was a girlfriend who wrote “bitch” in liquid fertilizer on the former girlfriend’s front yard. She was a grown woman. He says the standards for harassment are very low here and the courts are full of harassment cases. The court just assumes the ex-boyfriend is involved.

      3. Windstorm
        Haha. Clever using liquid fertilizer to enhance with growth instead of herbicide The message gets across but the lawn is “enhanced” and not destroyed.

      4. thank you NarcAngel. You are very wise. I am still thinking about what you said about the gifts being bait :'( He gave me a paining today he made. it was lovely. I thought however isntantly about what you said You will aoy for it eventually 🙁
        I need to be strong. Thank you fr your great input.

  3. Bearing in mind that she never worked out you was a narcissist ..then ignorance is bliss.
    Surely seeing some daffodils without really knowing what manner of darkness was truly behind it was no more than an annoyance..not about the flowers which she probably does like but more about all the effort she took to change numbers and closed accounts this type of thing.

    The fact that she had to move house which was probably a real pain in the backside only to find out that you know where she is anyway.

    And she probably doesn’t know as much as we know on this blog about narcissists of levels schools cadres etc

    Never mind not knowing you’re a narcissist, it’s that she doesn’t know you’re a psychopath.

    And in the not knowing that…well.. I suppose you’ll say she will soon find out.

    Oh.

    Not not good is it, based on your hatred.
    To be honest I sigh.
    Why can’t we all just get along?

  4. HG, out of curiosity, what would you do if one of your lieutenants betrayed you and flipped? I know it’s hypothetical, but I’ve been watching a lot of the Sopranos lately (it’s the 20th anniversary of the show) so I know how my favorite TV narc would handle handle a rat, but curious on how my favorite real life narc would respond.

    Also as an aside, I would love if you did “a very treatment” on the Sopranos. I always loved the show, but i enjoy it even more after reading your works because there are so many narcissistic elements going on. Would love to get your thoughts. I initially wanted to label Tony as a greater, but he’s too compulsive with violence/gambling plus too prone to pity so I’d peg him as a ULN or LMRN. Plus, he never did figure out how to handle his MatriNarc, so he definitely is not joining you in the Ultra category (though no one is).

    1. They would receive a Corrective Devaluation. They may well then be Smeared and received a Disengagement Devaluation before being disengaged from.

  5. What message did the bulbs spell out? Let’s hope for your sake she doesn’t come across this blog! I feel for her as I know how sacred and special gardens are. She will remedy that lawn easily I expect, but she will know that you know where she is.. which is a different matter. How can you be bothered to even do all this and not just let her go? Anyway..good for her in escaping and doing her best to keep away and keep you away. I wish her victory.

      1. A new girl? Oooo la la 😍 when did this happen? What happened to the last one?… Lori, was it? And the new girl…? Her name is “L”? So mysterious!

        😁

    1. K, I can’t wait to hear what Andrea did! Her chances for ever being white again are probably slim and none.

      1. MB
        She was successfully hoovered a few times and then maintained No Contact but I think she is being punished for her treacherous behaviour (denying HG his fuel), therefore, her perfidious actions must be addressed. I do not think she will be white ever again either.

        Everybody pays in the end.

  6. Trespassing is not a criminal offence. Your Lieutenants cannot be prosecuted for trespass. It is a civil wrong and civil litigation is very expensive. You know Andrea will not do anything against you.

  7. Apart from the fact that this flower is called narcissus and you carried out a benign hoover by having bulbs planted in her garden, it would not have affected me as much as the horrible feeling that someone has violated my boundaries by entering my property when I was away. Not feeling safe in my own property and community is stressful. I have recurring nightmares about people violating my boundaries because the narc sends her Coterie and Lieutenants to carry out malign hoovers. I wish all these malign female narcs were Greaters like you so they would carry out benign hoovers like those you describe in your articles and they would not cause so much damage to my health.

    1. E.B.,

      “it would not have affected me as much as the horrible feeling that someone has violated my boundaries by entering my property when I was away. Not feeling safe in my own property and community is stressful.”

      I agree. The scarier thing is that the flowers were planted unbeknownst to her and boundaries were crossed. That would leave the residual fear of ‘what else could he do’ – or has done already!? It is bigtime crazy-making because then you look for signs of the narc ever after.

      I was like this for a while because my narc stalked the neighborhood (I didn’t find out until after the fact) for 4-5 days. And was looking for signs of him everywhere…so then I attempted to balance my wariness with the fact that it would be utterly stupid for my narc to cross a further line and I chalked it up to intimidation and tried to forget about it. (For the sake of prudence I did report it to the local police – and in case it escalated.).

      Knowing what I’ve learned here though, makes me appreciate the fact that I wasn’t entangled with a Greater…

      1. Hello WhoCares,
        It is similar to burglary victims. It is hard to feel safe in their homes again.
        “…the residual fear of ‘what else could he do’ – or has done already!?”
        Just the thought of is scary enough. I found out about malignant hoovers they had done years ago. I did not know about them.

      2. E.B.,

        “I found out about malignant hoovers they had done years ago. I did not know about them.”

        That would be very unsettling indeed.

    2. E.B. I would consider planting bulbs to arrange the word “whore” as a malign Hoover. Especially since the purpose was two fold. It was also to let her know that he knows where she lives when she believed he did not know her whereabouts. That’s some stalker shit there! The kind of stuff you see in horror movies.

      HG, did you receive pictures of her pulling them up wearing her robe?

      1. Hello MB,
        “I would consider planting bulbs to arrange the word “whore” as a malign hoover”
        I understand that people who have not been on the receiving end of malignant hoovers in different places for several years may get frightened when those things happen to them. It is not my intention to invalidate anyone here. I know most people are not used to being the target of other people’s vindictive behaviour on a regular basis.
        A neighbour wrote a similar word on my flat door for everyone to see in the place where I used to live. That was her first hoover.

  8. Dear Mr Tudor,
    Very very clever of you … daffodils – scientific name is narcissus
    You are making us do some homework
    I’ve never liked yellow flowers nor have I ever been a fan of daffodils … now I know why
    It all adds up
    Thanks a bunch 🌼
    Luv Bubbles xx 😘

      1. Dear skousal
        Ohhh… how sweet of you petal, thank you lovely one …
        You’ve made my morning blossom 🌺
        Luv Bubbles xx 😘

      1. I love the 1947 film ‘Black Narcissus’.

        I also love the names of poisonous mushrooms. Names like ‘Death Angel’ and ‘Death Cap.’

    1. Dear Mr Tudor,
      Leeks (Peter’s leek) and daffodils (their appearance in spring coincides with St Davids Day) are national emblems of Wales…. where you are from
      “The red dragon on the green and white flag dates back to Arthurian legend when Merlin had a vision of a red dragon. The use of green and white refer to the colours of the House of Tudor, the 15th century royal family of Welsh origin. The red dragon won the battle”
      I would envisage a harp, 3 white feathers and a rugby union shirt and ball adorning your living room when you sit back to admire, whilst carving a love spoon for your next victim and feeding your red kite some dead prey.
      Luv Bubbles xx 😘

      1. Dearest Windstorm,
        It’s soooo him …. isn’t it ? I can see a movie in the making “The Curse of the Daffodils” 🤣
        Luv Bubbles xx 😘

    2. Dear Mr Tudor,
      What did Andrea “actually do” to you, that hurt you so much, to warrant a life time of revenge ?
      Luv Bubbles xx 😘

      1. She did not hurt me, but did cause wounding. It will be explained in detail in The Asylum of the Grotesque.

      2. Dear Mr Tudor,
        Thanks for your swift reply
        Is The Asylum of the Grotesque an upcoming article or a book – and what is the eta ?
        Kindly
        Luv Bubbles xx 😘

      3. It is a book. I do not have an ETA at present as it remains in development and I do not wish to commit to a date only to miss it and dash expectation (I save that for my private life with those who deserve it!)

      4. Dear Mr Tudor,
        Excellent – thank you – looking forward to it
        I had to chuckle at the tidbit you added
        (I save that for my private life with those who deserve it)
        That’s so narcy of you 🤣
        Luv Bubbles Xx 😘

      5. Well, I wouldn’t want to disappoint would I? (Save of course, where those deserve it!)

  9. Very clever.
    The Botanic name of the daffodil is narcissus, hence your rebirth in her new place of abode.
    Come Spring there will be tears in Andrea’s garden with your name written all over them HG!

      1. HG, although your grand gesture was very thoughtful, did you consider an accompanying gift such as flower press? It would of course provide bonus ever presence and far less wastage after the Spring?

    1. This just completely gave me chills. I am flabbergasted, surprisingly wanting to see her expression when they start their birth from the ground and disgusted all at the same time

  10. Hello, H.G. Tudor.
    I initially thought it would be a subliminal message to tell you what your species really is. In other words, you are a Narcissist. I was just up and my brain is not much, because I was still not very centered.
    Then I quickly thought: Who in his right mind would bother to raise an entire garden and plant seeds or bulbs of flowers, so that they bloom in spring? And why daffodil?
    Knowing that you are the sons of Satan.
    Evidently it has to be something related to this flower. So I thought, something Andrea must have said during her golden age, which you treasured and jealously guarded in your Arsenal. To be used later maliciously against her. She may have told you that she liked flowers, but that she had a great allergy to Daffodils. And you used this information to give her your best memories.
    And she rejoices thinking that when she opens the window, and sees that she is surrounded by Daffodil, her face will swell, she will not be able to breathe, she will be admitted from a hospital because her airways will be obstructed and she is almost taken to death if she is not diligently attended to. This brings her great revenge and great satisfaction to think that she can be killed with a simple flower.

    By the way, I always think badly of people, so you weren’t going to be any less. Too bad I get caught off guard, my narcissist.

    1. H.G. I received a message from Andrea…

      I’m Andrea from the hospital: why don’t you stick your daffodils up your ass?
      Son of Satan jajjajaja.
      My sense of humor… 🙂

      1. With this post, I feel like Sherlock Holmes but Iberian, because I’m eating Iberian Ham right now ( Ibérico = Cordillera Ibérica = Denomination of Origin).

  11. Yes, you care for the extremely painful situation, that she could forget you. This way she will not and and you spoiled her interest in flowers.
    It is mean and it is subtle.

    I myself planted a lot of daffodils in my garden after the relationship. My garden was full of them in spring and it gave me a beautiful feeling. I did not want to forget, whom he was.
    And these plants remember me all the time (especially spring time) of him. Beautiful blossoms and toxic bulbs. And I have a lot of work with them in the beginning of summer.

    Therefore I will never forget NC. It works.

    If you had done that to me, I would be very, very thankful. Opposite effect.

  12. Narcissus – Is why you used that specific flower
    A subtle message with in a message as the first days of spring began. I am curious thou did she see this message or just the obvious one left for her to read HG?

  13. your nickname was Daffodil because you were fragil and sweet in bed like a flower and blonde n_n

    Giving flowers is such a nice gift. Well done HG. what a nice surprise 🙂

  14. Soooo much energy applied to causing harm, and not even the courage to do it yourself. It is not contrast, it is not staleness, it is not any of those. It is the mere belief you have achieved dominance, including over those “lieutenants”.

    Please keep sowing the seeds of the destruction of narckdom. The world, literally, can’t continue to bear the burden.

  15. Narcissus, ever presence from The Narcissist lol. We have a dadfodil hill at our yard. I have them in different varieties. We just love them.

      1. To a Narcissist, a “B*tch” is usually just another name for the target behaving with Reactive Abuse… and the Narcissist gets everyone else around him to believe she is a “B*tch”, too, instead of a victim or target who is acting out the normal human behavior of finally reacting to nonstop-abuse.

      2. What is the message? And you had tapas, HG? You made me hungry. No fair! You twit. (Lovingly, of course) <3

        You can plant some poisonous mushrooms for me in retaliation. I will study them. I am smart enough not to eat them.

      1. Is she painted black today still?
        Was that the last of your actions towards her?

        Are your lieutenants narcissists for being willing to do that to another and to cross boundaries for you?

      2. I am waiting with bated breath.

        Just think of the increase of anticipation if there was a release of a hard copy version at the same time as the electronic… Haha

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