HG Tudor On Instagram
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Tudorites!
As some of you know, I have an Instagram page (see above for name and details) where I provide a different angle of insight, revealing elements of my world on a more personal level. Not only does this provide information and education concerning the narcissistic dynamic it also provides some intrigue and entertainment for followers.
I have referenced the above post in particular as I see it as being of significant interest to many of you in terms of ideas which you can contribute to. There have been some terrific suggestions already, so why not add to them and join the inspiration? Whilst you are there, follow me and you can keep in touch with my day-to-day activities and participate in debates from a differing perspective.
HG
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I didn’t demand anything. If you feel deeply for this woman and she may be your future partner for life then try to refer to it as a relationship and not hide behind the word ‘dynamic’ ie disassociation. To me it indicates readiness for settlement with one woman no more whoring around. You are braking down barriers and it is important. To a woman in love who is sensitive these words matter. You want to be more knowledgeable and change? Then try to speak and act like an empath. Since you now called it a relationship and it is indeed exclusive it is not about you any more. Narcissists have a warped view of things. This is not how you see fit any more. It is how both of you see fit, coming to a consensus and having respect for one another to call it for what it is.
“So if something is called a relationship that means it is exclusive?” The subject is you here. This conversation is about you and her. You just declared it is exclusive so yes. In this context the answer is yes. I was specifically referring to you and your situation, your activities as you choose to show on IG not some random person.
HG is treating SM beautifully , she must be so happy right now.
He is bringing her up high ,for the big drop.
Maybe this will last , I don’t think I could look when the devaluation begins will we end up disliking HG when he starts to devalue her? unless HG really falls in love with her.
This lady is on her way to severely broken heart I pray it won’t happen
But it will.
Kiki the golden period will not last, this woman will be abused. She is being groomed for domestic abuse. It’s disturbing that we are seeing the status symbol gifts HG buys her, knowing what will happen to her and knowing that she is oblivious to what is to come. I hope she is able to get the right support to leave him when the time comes.
I have always found players use the word babes and babe a lot .
It seems to be their default expression of endearment .
I used to hate it also Sniglet.
Kiki
It’s being said to me, not by me.
I like babes or babe, sweetie, sweetheart, darling, cariño, schatzi. They are all delightful! MRN loved it when I’d use such terms.
Happy Easter everybody! Jesus has Risen!
HGT, I saw your Instagram posts and your trip looks fun with beautiful sights. Three F words to describe Norway is fish, fire and fjords. As you visit different locations the most often used phrase for a foreigner will start to become “Oh, look at that.” Enjoy!
Also listened to the SM’s voice and laugh, she would be in her 40’s maybe close to 50s. Sounds as a serious women with stability. There is maturity going by the laugh, intonation of words and pitch of her voice. I’d say she is politely frank with you and demands respect, she is set in her ways. I sense an emphatic fragility and trepidation in her voice which to me is an indication that one could make her cry if one would apply narcissistic mistreatment. In just a couple of months of dating the “I love you” phrase has already appeared. That is incredibly early. Yes I know everyone is different, but it is too soon IMO. “I love you babes” – Someone referred to me as “babes” and I personally did not like it.
I sense HG is also on his best behaviour and is consciously with much effort trying to apply it and not put a foot wrong, but the creature is lurking….
One last thing, if SM is in the writing business eg writer, editor etc that is a common interest for both and HG would be using that trait for his own advancement.
I’d love to read your thoughts on this.
1. Wrong re age.
2. Wrong re length of dynamic.
3. Remember second language use.
4. I am not a fool. Neither is she.
I didn’t say dynamic. I said relationship which meant from the day you became exclusive. Not when you first met or received her phone number. The I love yous are way too soon. I stand by my comment! You don’t see it bc you love compliments and enjoy hearing the phrase. But 2 months?! Absolutely NO! What is she thinking… never mind.
Maybe she is in her late 30’s but the voice sounds older. And I have taken into consideration the second language. I speak a number of languages myself.
Didn’t say you were fools. But I know enough about empaths and narcissists. Her laugh gives her empathy away. There is fragility in her voice compared to your sterner sound. I’m skeptical about your intentions because you keep referring to it as a dynamic. That is total bullshit.
By the way HGT I don’t brown nose ppl – not anyone. Don’t expect that from me. Call is a damn relationship not a dynamic if you are serious about her else it’s a turn off.
By the way I referred to the wording – dynamic and relationship – under a separate article and want to tie up that comment with this one. In any event- if you don’t call it a relationship that means the “dynamic” is not exclusive and you go back to the UK looking to bang other women. After all what would you be doing when not seeing SM for 1 week or more at a time. It gets old and the head starts to wonder…
So if something is described as a relationship that means that it is exclusive? I see.
It is exclusive. It is thus because that is what it is, not because it is referred to as a relationship.
I will describe it as I see fit and not because you demand it.
You may have won and looked smug doing it, but your readers don’t know I only had half of the game pieces.
Ha ha, well if someone starts playing chess and knows they only have half the of the games pieces they should they deserve everything they get!
Thank you for making it apparent that you played me for your own gain.
I would much rather clearly see the many narcissistic manipulations played on this blog between you and your commenters than be a lieutenant or a blind follower.
You never posted my original comment that opposed your viewpoint and two other posts I had in moderation, yet called me impatient and said how things reflect poorly on me. Then one of your lieutenants started a smear campaign.
I hope more readers see through your narcissistic head games.
Even if you choose not to post this comment as well, I know the truth and I I think there are many others out there that know it too.
Utter nonsense. There remains over one hundred comments in moderation which all are either questions and/or lengthy.
You repeatedly fail to embrace the clear evidence and instead every time keep inferring that you are being subjected to manipulations. You are not. You are not important enough to be manipulated, the rules prevent manipulation and I am not a stupid man, why manipulate the very people who embrace my work and advocate it.
You have failed (repeatedly) to understand the system of moderation which I have explained to you politely. Go to the rules (have you actually done this?)
You infer some form of prejudicial treatment when there is none and no evidence of the same. Are the other writers of the comments in moderation (those writers include K, Sarah Hope, Todd, JG, Supernova, DemBunny, Honey Bee and more) complaining as you are? No. Superempath has a comment from 14th February waiting to be moderated. Established readers can confirm that sometimes comments can remain in moderation for weeks because there is only me moderating and if you want an answer you either book a consult or you wait for me to answer it.
Your repeated exhibition of entitlement and pleading being the subject of manipulation is contrary to the evidence. let’s see if you can actually recognise that and embrace the evidence – go on, try.
Ultimately, this is my blog. If you do not like the system, nobody is forcing you to read. Please could you point to where it is enshrined that I have to moderate your comments immediately if at all.
Let’s see if you can actually answer the questions and embrace the evidence rather than keep playing the pity cards and ‘I am being manipulated’.
Ah HG you forgot me….just kidding yet the fact remains I have had a comment sit in moderation for I believe it was well over a month.
It amuses me to see this person stomping there feet as if they are above everyone else that comments and should receive special treatment being theircomment should jump due in front being it is of such importance. Then when it doesn’t claim a lieutenant chimes in to begin a smear campaign.
They need to go back to their sandbox and learn the world doesn’t revolve around them and you do not jump because the snapped their fingers.
Indeed Twilight. I appreciate the confirmation.
My pleasure HG.
Hi all
I’m noticing a lot of angst amongst some commentators
What’s happening , some are quite aggressive and very disrespectful towards HG.
I am seeing what looks like a real sense of entitlement that HG should be answering everything and providing us all with his beam of attention.
We cannot depend on HG for that , its not his role and never will be.
If he doesn’t answer he doesn’t answer , leave it be.He does not owe any of us his time or attention.
I get it we want to feel heard but please leave the man alone it is starting to look unhealthy.
Kiki
Balanced.
Hg and Kiki,
I just thought of something. If his readers get so attached to him, imagine all those poor girls! Multiply our feelings by 1000! (Btw, I’m not one who asks where my comment is, just for the record lol!)
Grace
The only head game in play is the one you are playing by yourself and we see it clearly.
Grace, It ain’t personal. When I first came on here almost a year ago now (!!), one of my comments did not appear when others had. I did not know why it had been held up (believe me I was in need of immediate help), but I asked politely and it appeared soon enough. I have also had lengthy disagreements with HG and not one of my comments has been left in purgatory. Not only did he put them through, but he responded to almost every single one. No one here is a lieutenant or a blind follower. Certainly given that HG has opened our eyes, the latter would be an impossibility.
For the record, I don’t much like the IG page either – I find it a bit facade-ish and somewhat scary – maybe because it triggers me or as someone else on here said, she doesn’t want to know about her therapist’s private life. I rarely listen to the recordings either because I find HG’s writings to be his most authentic and powerful expression, and those are here on this blog.
This is all by way of saying that I do not think HG will hold this comment (or yours) in moderation just because I do not like the IG page!
Hg and Grace,
HG,
How could I have missed this very important post?!! Well at least now I read it!
Grace,
Who are you?!! Are you a former IPPS or IPSS?!! Pls do tell…
No, she is not.
Ok, thanks.
After reading through more of this thread, I did start to realize that she is not. The first few comments had me confused though. Thanks, hg!
As I have done in the past, I do inquire when I see someone here who seems to know you personally. There has been one commenter before who wanted you to give regards to your sister. I was so curious about her. And she wanted you to tell her narc that she loves him!
Hi Jenna
Yes I do think HG followers may get attached but therein lies a problem.
It is not HGs fault or responsibility that this occurs.
I never see HG encourage anyone in that way.
We have to be responsible for our own feelings and actions.
There is no problem being delighted to see HG has responded etc what I meant was the this
Due to the very nature of our dilemmas with real like narcs and our own vulnerabilities and emotional damage it is very easy to transfer our emotions onto HG .We need to be very careful with this as again it’s fantasy.
We do not know HG in the true sense forming an attachment may be common but we need to be careful.
I have read many posts by those who were more interested in HG himself , trying to get inside his head , heal him ,try to flirt with him etc than learning from his works .
I saw this in earlier posts from the beginning.
I am not judging this but we need as women who have been hurt to be careful and mindful of this or we end up hurt again.
Kiki
Kiki,
You made some very good points, and I myself am guilty of being dependent on Hg, especially during the height of entanglement. Now, I am no longer dependent, but still kind of wait for his return when he doesn’t moderate (when I am active on the blog). He’s posting on IG though which is nice.
Hi grace…i can sympathise with how you feel bc when i first started here there were some of my posts held up in moderation. Its funny looking back bc i posted a comment much like yours here and HG was kind enough to email an explanation. Did i believe it fully? No but i realise this is his blog and if he chooses not to post something whether its held up in moderation or not we dont have control over that. Another thing to factor in is he is the only moderator and has his plate full with so many things in his life its amazing hes able to do what he does.
Its a choice whether to post or not and there has been posts ive not seen posted or ive lost track of them. I understand your frusteration but this blog is amazing and a lot of fun.
You win some you lose some. Posts can go missing or held up in moderation. Im sorry you feel like your posts are being singled out. I honestly dont think that HG would care enough to do that and he would eventually lose followers which would not be smart. He wants people posting and reading his works. I hope you continue to post and benefit from the blog.
But how you reacted was completely different and therein lies the tale.
HG and SM: A modern mythological interpretation of Odin and Frigg (not to be confused with Ikea furniture).
Well at least you didn’t call me Billy Bookcase or whatever it is.
No, HG, because you are the Gersby bookcase. Or maybe you’d like to be the Finnby? Seems a better fit 🙂
No SMH, I’m not the bookcase, I am the Library of the US Congress and the British Library combined.
Hahaha. That does seem to be the (book)case. You have a very impressive vocabularly and your scholarly knowledge is unparalleled. You are also a marvelous writer. But it’s really the pop culture references that keep me interested (kidding).
“If you’re having narc problems I feel bad for you son, I got 99 problems but a narc ain’t one”.
(Thanks to HG, of course).
Well, I guess I’ve been called out. I must be a greater, because I clearly recognize my narcissism, and my need to have all the attention on the blog as well as to have my needs met immediately.
I guess I should have realized that my earlier simple comments and observations to Mr. Tudor would require so much time and consideration in moderation. They apparently require a lot of mental accuity by the author to present an appropriate reply. Honestly, my comments are not any more intriguing than anyone elses and shouldn’t be causing this much controversy! (Wait, as a narc, that should read just the opposite. Dang, I’m coming across like an empath!)
Mr. Tudor, I believe you can give your readers answers without so much flippancy and belittling. I have noticed this attitude for quite a while with different reader’s comments you have answered that are mixed throughout the blog. Your status as the Residing Superior must mean you are expected to answer some of your commenters in a condescending manner. A simple answer stating you are busy and that you have comments in moderation is all that is required. i personally don’t wish to be told that my apparent impatience reflects poorly on me. (Leaving a negative vibe, when yet again the issue is about miscommunication and not adversity.)
Perhaps I can clear all this up easily. My simple issue is not that I am not being answered first or with the same tone of dignity that is bestowed on others. What I am trying to resolve is this: If my opinion is the opposite of what Mr Tudor chooses to present to us, is he purposely silencing my comments to avoid controversy? There appears to be deflection concerning this mundane comment I proposed. it is a simple as that. No drama was intended in order for me to get attention. I will not stand by as someone uses a disrespectful tone with me without standing up for myself.
Narc Angel, my comments about the cheek kissing came from my interactions on Instagram for a short perod of time. I would ask HG questions that I thought were simply unemotional ones used to gather information about what he was trying to tell us. instead I would get terse comments about how I was jealous and contrary and then have one or two of his readers berate me as well. This behavior frustratred me because there was no reason for people to act disrespectful. I deleted my Instagram account and thus my comments were deleted too. I have better things to do than play silly games. So Narc angel, you categorized yourself as a cheek kisser. Not me. I hold you in a higher regard than to do that when up to this point you have been nothing but kind and helpful in your comments.
The more I have been treated with a lack of respect on this blog and earlier on Instagram, the more I have been trying to point out the inconsistencies in the way commenters are treated.
Renarde and several others. Thank you kindly for your fair assessments.
If I have learned nothing else from being part of the narcsite and iG blogs, it is that speaking up and pointing out perceived and/or actual injustices only brings out the claws from people who do not see things the same way as others.
Are they’re only a small handful of us who see through the manipulations and narc glitter that is used to skew our perceptions? Check your Ego’s folks. They may be confusing you.
1. A long post which has now been read and thus moderated.
2. You have no entitlement to be answered first as explained elsewhere.
3. You are not being treated without dignity – please point to where you are given anything other than a factual and polite response. Do I name-call you? No. You interpret a concise response as one which is not treating you with dignity, but that is incorrect. You then go further and suggest that manipulations are being deployed when there is no actual evidence (and indeed evidence to the contrary) of that happening. I have applied more than sufficient time to this.
S. Grace
“If I have learned nothing else from being part of the narcsite and iG blogs, it is that speaking up and pointing out perceived and/or actual injustices only brings out the claws from people who do not see things the same way as others”
I do not know you, and have no desire to be negative towards you. I would just ask you to reflect on the above selection from your comment.
Have you not found in the course of your lifetime that what you have described is a normal human response to a newcomer pointing out perceived injustices in an established forum? Whenever someone comes into any group and says things like, “check your egos folks”, claws will come out instinctively. People here on the blog are no better or worse than people in groups anywhere. That is my opinion.
Thus spoke the voice of reason.
Only just noticed the pic on this one. Looks suspiciously like Benidorm to me!
Pfft not a chance.
The tone of the tan in comparison with the contrast of the paving indicate it’s much more likely to be the Seychelles.
I enjoy your IG. I’m intrigued with your creativity allowing us into your world.
Thank you, I am pleased you do so.
Suggested articles:
“Turning Point” Describe the thoughts, feelings and drivers that contribute to the turning point from golden period to devaluation. What sparks the change? Do you await the change? Is it predetermined (I’m guessing yes for the greater)? I suspect it is more than the strawberry ice cream effect.
“Hide & Seek” Seems to me there is a dynamic of distraction and avoidance that is a common thread through narcissistic relationships. Explore this dynamic from both sides (as you have so cleverly done with so many articles).
Another suggested title: “Beyond Reach”
Examine the dynamic of approval seeking in narcissistic relationships. Include a child seeking approval from the narcissist parent and various sources seeking approval from their narcissist. Explain why this behavior is encouraged by the narcissist but approval is kept out of reach and how to deal with the dynamic effectively.
Hi, I am interested in the suggested articles but I could not find them via the search option, I would appreciate if you could post a link? Thank you.
Hello HG,
Although have not written for a long while, years go by and I am still here on a daily (even sometimes hourly) basis.
I have recently discovered your instagram platform and I’m hooked!!: very intrigued (if not utterly obsessed).
I need to ask you a question that is building up inside me, and I hope you will favorably consider addressing it.
Assuming that (a) the Shieldmaiden is real, (b) she is in the Golden Period, (c) she is oblivious to you posting about your romantic activities on several social media platforms on Narcissistic Abuse (d) you are a self proclaimed Greater Elite Narcissistic Sociopath, (e) the chances for you changing your NPD are null. then: HG, please, are we witnessing the most malign, the most cruel, the most diabolical of all Golden Periods in the history of mankind?
What is to become of a woman that learns (by accident or intentionally) that ALL the romance, the dining and wining, the travelling, the wanting sex after dinner, the purple sweater by the fireplace, the mug with the “I LOVE YOU” picture sent to you, her birthday delight, EVERYTHING is not only narcissistically manufacured (as all GPs are) BUT ALSO broadcasted in your 13 million hits blog! For all of us to see, comment and have opinions about it. This is a (brilliantly) twisted and malign version of the Truman Show, in which Jim Carrey’s character discovers that his whole life is actually a reality show.
HG I would really love to know what is your intake on this matter ? Is she a former girlfriend you are taking revenge upon? or maybe there is no malice, and you are counting on her not realising ever?
Thank you very much for your time.
(a) She is.
(b) She is.
(c) She is.
(d) Ultra narcissistic psychopath.
(e) Remains to be seen., so, not that is not a given.
She is not a former IPPS, I never enter into a formal relationship with those again. I am not taking revenge on anybody. There is no malice. It is a new and unique dynamic.
Thank you very much HG !
I highly appreciate your response, and value dearly its content.
Intrigued I remain.
That’s okay Yoda!
HG I would like to explain something from my previous comment on this post. The problem I have with Instagram has nothing to do with you or the way it is presented. It has everything to do with me and my emotional thinking! I’m beginning to understand that this is just a way of you showing your readers some of your day to day life. I was reading to much into it. I was looking for the lessons that I am use to on the blog. Lessons are there of course, however not as they are on the blog. I have to remember not everyone knows or realizes you are a narcissist, just as we did not know we were involved with them ( or even that they existed) until we found you. They could be anyone that we come into contact with on a day to day basis. Just as you are always polite and kind when out and about. Take for example your barber that you visit three times a month, he doesn’t know. People that you work with, even friends and relatives do not know what you are. I think I just heard you say, OMG FM1T! You-are finally thinking with logic!! 🤣 Yes HG I am trying and have been working very hard on my logical thinking instead of going straight into over the top emotions. I would love to be able to join my sisters from the blog on Instagram. Perhaps at some point I will be able to do so. Thanks HG for taking the time to read this.
“Thawing a frozen heart a narcissists perspective to healing narcissism”…in this id love to see your perspective on the possibility of healing your narcissism HG. Your 100% deep and honest look at the potential of this. Your fears(i know you fear nothing!), your vulnerabilities in doing so along with any advantages to doing this even if its just one(and thats all you need to start from 1). What would this look like from your perspective. What would be the worst outcome and dig deep and think on what “could” be a positive outcome one you may have been closed minded to. This is more an exercise for you to look at the angle of healing your npd. Id also love for you to touch on your parents and how you think your mother became a narcissist and her parents and how your father became a codependant to her. Npd is part environment and repeated cycles passed on to children.
What do you think youd be today if your heart wasnt frozen? If youd had a different family dynamic.
Unfreeze your heart theoretically for us readers and let us take a glimpse of the HG that could be or at least wouldve been. I wont mention the word hope but i do believe there is potential for change but first there must be self awareness and you do possess this.
HG, I am not on IG and I won’t join for various reasons (one being that my narc is on IG so I want to steer clear so as not to be tempted to online creep him), but I have looked at your IG page. I am curious because you post a lot of pictures of water and airplanes, which is what my narc does too (he doesn’t post food and drink, but he’s a mid-ranger and not that self indulgent). Maybe it is because you are on holiday, thought it doesn’t explain why there are no pics of landscapes, fjords, etc, so I have to assume that water and airplanes appeal to you. What goes through your mind when you are deciding what to post? What do water and planes appeal to in you? For my own narc – who also posted a lot of sky pictures – I always sensed that he wanted to escape wherever he was and so his pictures were always about escape routes.
There are many pictures I could post. I obviously a time-constrained so not everything will appear. I provide pictures which will interest readers, some of the pictures have an obvious link to narcissism, some are more about showing what I am doing, some are done to give followers something to discuss. The water and planes do not appeal to me per se, but rather form part of the categories I have just explained.
I had never been on IG before but wanted more of a glimpse into your daily life. It is lavish as I expected and filled with whimsy as Golden Periods often are. I can feel myself get swept away in the moment and how the Shieldmaiden must be feeling. She will hurt in the end but as a Super Empath with Magnet tendencies she will wound you just by showing up as her authentic self so….it’s only fair.
I still idealize the dynamic… Be vigilant empaths. The odds are not in our favor.
Mr. Tudor, I also agree with Beckah B’s well- written response. I understand that Narcsite is a forum of intellectual exchanges of information, education, guidance and mutual respect. It is a place of healing and growth as other followers have mentioned.
The Instagram page, however, feels to me to be a place where you show off and perhaps even mislead us with your posts, veiled responses and puzzles. Our job, if we choose to play, is to help keep your well inflated ego filled to maximum capacity. We are given glimses of your sexual prowess and lavish lifestyle. How does this help us heal from narcissistic abuse? You teach us the truths about your kind, yet appear to be putting a woman through your elite golden period. I hope your relationship continues happily and successfully for you both from here on out. If not, are you at a point where a possible future discard will be polite an amicable?
I have observed that some of your devotees stand by to kiss your cheek, and reprimand the naysayers to put it nicely. No disrespect intended, Mr. Tudor. I am just calling it as I see it. I am entitled to my opinions, even if I interpret the Instagram posts in a different manner than you or other readers may see them.
Thank you.
The IG platform is to provide those readers/viewers with more of a glimpse into my life and dynamic. Nowhere do I state that it is about helping you heal – furthermore, you do not have to follow there if you do not wish to. My other outlets – the blog, books, Youtube, FB, Twitter provide information about the way my kind operate, unravel the puzzle, give information, provide practical inside information and so forth.
IG is a lifestyle platform and I am using it in a similar way. IG does not mislead, indeed it provides more information about what I am doing. It is not a device for fuel – I will let you work out why that is (the answer will come to you from reading my work and I have explained this time and time again in the past, so I am refraining from doing so this time).
No or low grade fuel from written word and tertiary sources. I see this IG subject differently. Opposing outlooks and different visions are what make the world go around.
P.S. to those who say we who don’t agree with the IG account because we are jealous: Thanks for informing us how we as mostly empathic, annonomous contributors feel. I should have recognized my envy and jealously-for things that don’t even appeal to me-much sooner.
I would like to add another point, Mr. Tudor.
If tertiary sources who respond with the written word are very low-grade forms of fuel supply, then please answer the following:
( I suppose you have a good number of followers on your Instagram account where you tease your audience and flaunt your escapades with your new lady.)
The assumtion is that a lot of people are following your posts… What if only a small number were to answer and do so very sparingly in a way that no longer stroked your ego?
What if you got a only a few comments on your posts/photos and they had no emotion behind them or were bland such as:
“The water is really green on that video.”
“I almost bought that sweater. she’s wearing”
“You are drinking the same champagne I served at MY wedding.”
“Nice belt.”
So. With little feedback from your many followers, no quality compliments, or reverence, accolades, flattery, admiration, proverbial eye winks, proclaimed envies and jealousies, and general ego-stroking, would you honestly continue your Instagram posts and pictures with the same level of enthusiasm that you do now?
What would be your motivating factor then?
I anticipate a terse or haughty reply (or refusal to post/ answer).
You asked the following:
“The assumtion is that a lot of people are following your posts… What if only a small number were to answer and do so very sparingly in a way that no longer stroked your ego?”
It is not about stroking my ego. It is about the dissemination of information. If only a small number were to answer I would have less to read, less to moderate and reply to and more time to write and consult. My fuel needs are met in my private life – my presence online is all about the dissemination of information. I do not need the interaction because I can see how many people read my work, buy the books and consult with me.
What if you got a only a few comments on your posts/photos and they had no emotion behind them or were bland such as:
“The water is really green on that video.”
“I almost bought that sweater. she’s wearing”
“You are drinking the same champagne I served at MY wedding.”
Those are statements and have no impact on me. They do not wound and they certainly do not provide challenge fuel. Again, I would have to dedicate less time to reading and moderating which would free me up to do other matters.
So. With little feedback from your many followers, no quality compliments, or reverence, accolades, flattery, admiration, proverbial eye winks, proclaimed envies and jealousies, and general ego-stroking, would you honestly continue your Instagram posts and pictures with the same level of enthusiasm that you do now?
Yes – for the solid reasons evinced above.
What would be your motivating factor then?
The dissemination of information – people are interested. They do not need to comment. Indeed, take on the blog (and also YouTube) about 5% of those who read my work/listen to it actually comment, there is a very large amount of people who absorb my information without passing comment. They gain information and they also utilise my services through my books and consultations.
“I anticipate a terse or haughty reply (or refusal to post/ answer).”
Wrong. Again.
Mr. Tudor. Why is it that you challenge us to “Speak Your Brains!” In the comment section. Then when we write a comment that logically reinforces our viewpoint, you won’t allow it past moderation? Perhaps there is truth in what I bring to light?
That sir, speaks volumes.
Identify the evidence that confirms I have not allowed it past moderation as opposed to the fact that comments remain in moderation for reasons of either 1. Time constraint on my part (and in the last week I have been travelling a lot and been about other matters – hence very little time to moderate – look back over the last week and you will see days where there has been no activity on the blog and where there has been it has been with minimal comment from me) and/or 2. The comment remains in moderation (awaiting moderation as opposed to not being allowed) for reasons explained in the rules.
Do not be so swift to jump to conclusions, this results in an erroneous outcome and reflects poorly on you.
Yes, HG. Your presence is missed. Come back soon!
So when anyone voices an assumption that may or may not yet be proven as erroneous in your view, we are supposed to feel shame because YOU say it relfects poorly on us? Sorry, I will not go sit in the naughty corner just because YOU feel the need to subject some of your readers to typical Tudor scolding.
No. I merely correct inaccuracies as I have consistently and repeatedly done, without resorting to knee-jerk and baseless assumptions.
Dont forget Grace that WP is often very confusing. I get tagged as it were and utterly miss the comments directed at me.
Thank you Renarde, for the helpful WP info. My suspicion is that I have been painted black after my above reprimand by the blog’s author. My commentstill has not been posted and it really doesnt require much action to share it just as is done with other’s comments. It opposes a logical viewpoint of the author, so my guess is it is easier for him to direct attention away from the issue with a terse reply to me than to post it. The author of this blog knows of what I voice.
My second comment pointing out his terse reply to me is still in moderation several days later as well.
It seems evident to me that this is not a simple tech issue.
Readers are not painted black. There are currently 85 comments awaiting moderation – they are long posts and include questions and this includes your comment, hence as I explained it remains in moderation. I also explained I have been away which other readers recognise. You have failed to acknowledge the rules around moderation even after I have pointed this out to you and also ignored the fact I have been away resulting in no moderation and a backlog of moderated comments. You ignore the evidence and instead erroneously focus on an ill-informed view that you are painted black. My reply is not terse, it is succinct (time constraint for reasons already explained) and factual. Exhibit some patience.
People who demand their comments be moderated within THEIR acceptable timeframes need to get over themselves. Commenters have no RIGHT to an answer and the narcissist who runs this blog has no OBLIGATION to respond, much less in accordance with someone else’s schedule. And why is it that while on their high horse that they assert their right to give an opinion, but then label others who do as devotees who kiss cheek. Both of these demonstrate the huge entitlement usually employed by narcissists. I mean really – if in your private life someone pushed themselves to the front of the line while belittling those in it, and demanded answers of you immediately, how receptive would you be to obliging them with your time?
Yeah. That’s what I thought.
Indeed and it is short-sighted not realise how this appears and could be responded to. Of course I am above such prejudice and get around to all comments once I have time to do so.
HG
Yes you do and it is appreciated. Now because I have made this observation, I await the inevitable yawnfest that will assert that I am one such devotee and cheek kisser instead of someone who has just called them out on their shit. The usual and predictable response when they have nothing else. Hopefully they will prove me wrong and reflect.
It would be a minor miracle.
Bravo, NA! So perfectly stated.
Echoing NA. Quite so. Well said.
I hear and respect your points and yet, and yet, he has approved your comment above.
If I had an agenda, if for example, I was in HGs’ position and I wanted to stifle the opposing viewpoint. I would not allow ANY comments through that opposed my position. I do not percieve this to be the case.
I have no idea what’s been said. I DO know he travels a lot plus I also know how many comments/emails/messages he roughly receives in a day and it’s a lot. Mind boggling actually.
HG frequently tells us he’s an ‘Army of One’. I do not doubt this because he’s obviously writing from an anonymous perspective.
In any case, he is who he says he is, a clinically diagnosed, malignant psychopath.
I have spoken to him. I know what he is. He’s different from the other schools. Believe me, I’ve had extensive exposure due to my own SEM nature.
When you are dealing with him – whole new ballgame.
Cut him some slack, eh? He’s already given ample to our kind. I’m not saying that as a ‘Tudorette’ or even ‘Tudorite’.
Listen. There are many many strands of the blog underneath him. At any one time he is making judgement calls on multiple discussions that he might feel that he needs to curtail to ensure parity.
People row on blogs and troll. His attention is diverted to what in that instance requires his immediate attention.
This is where my kind and his differ. A Emp will attempt to take the whole shebang on. At once. Result? Overwhelmed. A N won’t do that otherwise, funnily, they become overwhelmed too and they simply will not allow it. They are far more disciplined.
Dont jump to conclusions, please.
Welcome to narcsite.
Fair and balanced.
Cheers. I’m glad it came across that way. Incidentally, has a weird experience today on the other support group. Digging. Too much. Odd.
Wanted to know about you and your work but was getting too close to me.
I enjoy the IG view and I don’t think you intend on doing anything but striving for “better” overall. Relationships/otherwise. I’m glad you are enjoying the days and have a lovely friend. I think people mis-characterize your normalcy (no wound intended!) by thinking you are just plotting all day long on how to destroy people. I think having consulted makes you seem pretty normal and people may not grasp that you aren’t creepy without having spoken to you. You take a lot of criticism from wounded people and you are always professional. I hope the best for you and adore you for the peace you have given not only me but to my children because now that my head is straight (er) I’m better for them in this dynamic.
I am not creepy at all. If I was, I would be nowhere near as effective as I am. nobody in my private life has ever described me as creepy, because, oddly enough, I’m not!
HG, you’re not creepy. Only misunderstood! To know you is to love you.
Absolutely.
HG, I can’t say that I love you but I like you and I don’t find you creepy at all. You are respectful, supportive and professional, at least on here. It is clear that you are not a greasy troll living in your mother’s basement because if you were, you wouldn’t have the life experience that you would need to relate all of the things that you teach us. I actually find it really interesting that you have such a keen eye for people, understand everything we write, and are such a social creature, even if you are only after fuel.
Thank you SMH and your observations are accurate and appreciated.
I was reading an article about so-called ‘incels’ today. Now they are greasy trolls in their mothers’ basements.
Well I know you aren’t creepy at all but it’s a concept that comes to mind for those who fail to really “get it.” My mother was like, “He’s what and where and why??” She has warmed up however because I’m considerably less hysterical over the seemingly nonsense antics of her son-in-law. Interestingly, she hired a newly “recovering” drug addict to do some work around her house. We had to have an intervention of sorts and tell her, “Uh nope—he’s fired..” (well documented criminal record I was able to print out that I knew would be in existence) It’s a general lack of education. Now perhaps I’ll tick off your readers with an affinity for helping addicts, but seriously, whatever..
Not creepy at all just has statues of exes and the infamous scrapbook 😄 im just teasing. I think that makes you interesting!
HG, I don’t have an Instagram account (for obvious No Contact reasons), however if you would be so kind as to accept a suggestion from your blog my contributions would be as follows:
1. The Serpent’s Guild
2. The Cast Iron Corridor
3. The Squire and his Malign Concubine
Great fun – I loved plotting to contribute to this one. Thank you for bringing us a great distraction from real time today.
Thank you.
Greetings dearest Hg,
As you are aware, I, too, recently deleted an IG account – apparently causing a wound.. I am always surprised at actions that cause wounds, and find myself apologetic.. I digress;
I am always delighted to be a minion! Here are some contributions:
Golden Poison
The Mystery of Mercury
Elite, Ephemeral yet Everlasting
On the Edge of Heaven
Elegant Chaos
Quiksilver Joy
Satisfaction Guaranteed
Caveat Emptor
Mirage Mountain
Mystery Manufacturers, Inc.
Golden Paradise
Pursue or Perish
Tarnished Crown – just discovered this title exists..
Heavy Inheritance
Mesmerizing Master
Freedom by Fire
Tudor Totem
Message in the Dark
Dark Illusions
A Walk Around the Loch
some of my favorite titles make me think of you, but they are unfortunately taken: Mercury Rising, Lost Illusions, The Masque of the Red Death, Paradise Lost…
Thank you for sharing with us I look forward to reading soon!
Thank you for the suggestions.
Don’t know who you wounded, but it wasn’t me.
Thank *you* for the response, dear Hg.
Did any pique your interest?
Oh, I can’t imagine anything I would do would wound you! But thank you for your reassurance – because the last thing I would want would be to be painted black by you!
…does this mean I might yet cross your path??
Thank you, WhoCares for your compliment!
You provided some excellent and thought-provoking titles of which I have taken note.
Very imaginative suggestions NE!
Bekah B, I also have difficulty with Instagram, I find myself getting very confused about what is going on at times. I truly believe HG should use whatever platforms that are available to him to reach as many people as possible. When I see SM involved, whether that be in pictures or videos where you here HG talking to us but can here her beside him or her camera as she is taking pictures while he is making a video. Knowing that she knows what is going on and who he is, I simply don’t understand? If she knows what is going on and is helping with it, how is that a lesson? Unless it is just being done to show us the different stages and they are merely acting out the parts to show us what actually happens between the narcissist and empath in a relationship? Some people learn better through visualization then by simply reading, it is better for them to actually see what is going to happen and they will retain it better. But there is also a part of me that feels as if we ( as in victims) are being made fun of and or duped. ( I know HG would never do that) Now understand this is my thinking and I have many issues and obstacles to overcome ( I’ve just received my empath Detector results, when I say I have issues-boy do I have issues!) so I believe at this time, until I can get a handle on some of those issues and once again my emotions, I should stay away from Instagram and stay right here on the blog. I would highly recommend the empath detector to any curious as to what type of empath school and cadres you carry with you. I was so impressed with the professionalism, hard work, and dedication HG ( once again) delivered with this consult!
Ersatz Man meets his end: a story of 20:20 hindsight in the #me too age.
Dear Mr Tudor,
Thank goodness
I luv it
I was beginning to think I was a voyeur n stalker 👀
🤣
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
Mr Tudor
Ps…. from my eyes … your Instagram makes you more “human” doing “normal”
On your blog … it’s professor, student 👨🏻🎓
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
Yes, that is a fair viewpoint.
Dear Mr Tudor,
I really like the two as a showcase comparison as it’s the “reality” we are dealing with
Reading your work repeatedly, explains the “behind the scenes” behaviour …..so we are now getting the best of both
I now know if some one spills my drink deliberately at the football …it’s most likely to be a narc getting some negative fuel ..haha
So thank you 😊
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
Dear Mr Tudor,
How come my profile looks like a naked snowman or a white Pom Pom on a white beenie 🤣⛄️
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
Bubbles
Haha, naked snowman. Well I’m the same, so it must be that we’re painted white and on the shelf because I can still see most of the other avatars. I put all the gremlins down to WordPress. Put some pearls on your snowman so I know it’s you.
Dearest NarcAngel,
The pearls are on, along with the white gloves n white scarf
Look who’s doing the “ghosting” now 👻
🤣🤣🤣
Mwah 💋
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
Ps … I could’ve said ….. a big white pimple on the end of a white penis…. but I didn’t want to corrupt you lovelies with imagination visuals
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
Bubbles, yes, probably that’s the way to deal with it: compartmentalize.
I finally went to Instagram to have a look. It is more like: “human” doing “ultra” there! 😂
Dear shesaw,
🤣
Nicer as well
Ps … I luv your profile piccie … I’ve used that myself
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
Had to Google, ‘How to upload a photo on Instagram’. (Hint: an arachnid.) Then I did and now my followers have doubled in 10 mins. 44? How? Can’t figure how to upload another. About to throw my phone across the room. I am SO not a Millennial!
I did visit your page on Instagram but it’s impossible for me to believe in anything that you post, sorry ☺️. I didn’t mean to offend you, I’m just being honest. But I love your articles. Thank you.
I am following but I am not going to look. Good God, I login to this unused acct and come to realize I have 22 followers. WTF? I don’t know how to make a post yet.
Probably bots.
I’m not entirely happy about seeing the negativity of empaths watching your ShieldMaiden activities. Understandable that some of us feel like we’re invading her privacy, or those who fear for her outcome, but the part I don’t like from others is their apparent jealousy. Instead of putting themselves in her seat to learn from it, they’re taking it personally as if you’re cheating on them. It’s a little disappointing to me of my kind. Jealousy and negative bashing in, empathy out.
Yes, that is evident.
I think it’s quite interesting that a woman would experience “jealousy” in this way. Wouldn’t that be some sort of emotionally unhealthy idealization of their version of how you fit into their life? Feels borderline’ish or at least a strange personal boundary. (Believe me—my lack of boundaries permitted my ex’s behaviors—I’m a total fuck up myself.) I just don’t get the women being attracted in some way to you. Or fawning over you in a romantic way. You may be absolutely goofy looking lol. I idealize the calm after the storm your work has provided, but I swear I’ll have to laugh if you emerge from hiding and are 500 lbs eating chicken from KFC around the clock! I’ve told you I like somatics so of course I would come up with that! Just have fun, and be nice to your lady friend.
Are they really jealous? Of what, if I may ask? Do they admit?
I agree, Kel.
I too am unsettled by the harsh comments, sarcasm and hyper analysis of posts. Makes me wonder if there are lesser, midrange and greater empath cadres?
Seems to me HG is simply enjoying his life and having a bit of fun with “Where in the world is HG?”.
HG is no doubt caught up in the golden period (who among us did not get caught up in the golden period? (Caveat: we empaths thought it was true love and HG has said many times this is not possible for the narc).
I do understand and share the concern for SM post golden period, but let’s give HG the benefit of the doubt since he has expressed his desire to alter his behavior. I sincerely wish him success in his healthy efforts.
If the content is not to your liking, you can always unfollow.
It occurred to me you could add #narcshield to your Instagram—your couple smash moniker and descriptive for what you give your followers.
Good call.
I peered at your IG, HG, but I probably won’t continue to do it consistently.. I have great respect for you and admire your decision in creating this blog forum and writing the many books and articles that you do.. Since you provide consultations, I really do view you somewhat as a counselor [to me].. And I feel kind of weird knowing about your personal life, just comparing you to my therapist/counselor I have here in my town.. I don’t know too, too much about her personal life outside of our sessions and I feel it would somehow break the controlled environment that we have established if I ever found out too much.. I’m happy that you have a new IPPS and all is going well now, but I want to continue to view you in the light as I always have–the unattainable, great mastermind, Greater Elite Narcissist who has all of the insight into how all schools and cadres of narcissists operate..
Quite alright Bekah B, I try to use the various platforms in different ways for the maximum reach. Some people like certain platforms over others, some like to engage across all of them – you must choose what works best for you.
“Maximum reach,” a.k.a., Everpresence 😉
Hence the reason that Behah B’s comments are my sentiments exactly.
I’m an “engaged across all platforms” reader. HG overload. Even after a year, I can’t get enough! #stillgolden
100% agreed Bekah. To see a narcissist ‘in function’ will probaly make me lose confidence in what he writes here. Better not to find out too much..
Im really enjoying your instagram angle HG! It adds a new dimension to your work with a fun twist! Putting my thinking cap on 🙂
Thank you.