Understanding the Fuel Matrix
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All narcissists have fuel matrices and you need to understand where you fit into that fuel matrix and how that particular matrix functions as part of protecting yourself.
This Logic Bulletin takes you through :-
1. The Fuel Matrices of all sub schools of narcissist. This includes updated and expanded information about the Upper Lesser Type A and Upper Lesser Type B Narcissists, plus the Middle Mid Range Type A and Type B Narcissists.
2. What the Fuel Matrices look like, their size, the nature of the matrices and who sits in them.
3. How the relevant narcissist of each sub school relies on the individuals in the Fuel Matrix
4. What the Virtual Fuel Matrix is and how it operates.
5. How a Long Distance Appliance fits into it the narcissist fuel matrix and how that functions.
6. Detailed descriptions of each sub-school of narcissist, their behaviours and actions to increase your understanding of the different types of narcissist. This is a comprehensive expansion which will help you understand a lot more about the way different sub schools of narcissist operate.
A fascinating and educational exploration of the fuel matrix and the interaction between you and the narcissist, this is essential to know how the narcissist behaves so you can ensure your No Contact Regime is as effective as possible. It is also advanced reading for those who feel they are well-acquainted with the narcissistic dynamic from their existing reading and consultations.
This extensive Logic Bulletin is available at just US $ 10 and is a bulletin you will read several times and refer to often and can be obtained here
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I think I’m seeking a lower lesser! How fun they would be. I could tote him to a fancy schmancy restaurant and teach him how to use a fork and knife.
Then he’ll steal any cash from your purse, while you sleep at night. No thanks
Haha Ann! While I’m sleeping on our air mattress!
That describes my LLN Victim matrinarc almost to a tee except that she didn’t have an intimate partner so I was her sole victim for the most part. Although she also got fuel by having nasty fights with neighbors so we also moved to a different address quite often like every few months. Now she is all alone in her apartment. All of her relatives are painted black again and I Skype with her from time to time but I keep the conversations only about how she’s doing and if she still has enough money for her expenses. I hang up whenever she would be negative. I’m not sure how she gets fuel anymore but she told me that she’s always on Facebook everyday. Last time that I visited her in person I felt sad because she looked like a hollowed shell of a person with her affect. She seemed to have lost a lot of her energy and personality. But her terrible behaviors also seemed much worse like she was trying to get as much fuel from me while I was visiting. Like she would tell me to watch out with each step that I made pointing on the ground where I might trip, opening my suitcase and washing my clothes without telling me and going through all of my stuff, putting my purse on my shoulder like I’m an infant, insisting on going with me to my high school reunion and then bombarding me with lots of text messages with horrible words yelling at me to go home because it’s really late (8pmish) the whole time I was at the reunion, peeing at the bathtub in the hotel room that I rented for us to share to visit someone, etc. Although at that last visit, I still didn’t know what she is so I was still hoping that maybe she has improved because she hasn’t seen me but actually she got worse, but instead of tirades, she did low energy types of annoying and provocative behaviors.
Interesting.. I have been thinking quite a bit and I’m afraid that my father was a middle mid. (I’m not sure how HG abbreviates it) It’s hard to accept. He was a very good provider (top of his class working in chemical research, etc.) he bought me everything I essentially wanted, paid for my undergraduate education, paid my credit cards off.. I struggle though because I swear there were times he exhibited raw sadness/emotion and I’m sure HG could elaborate on what it was that I was seeing when the family dog died or even when he was dying he was insistent we take care of our mother. Anyway, reality is he often devalued my mother in a fairly extreme way, criticized my brothers constantly for not being the best students (although both are successful) and put me on a pedestal of being the “smart one.” Yet there was never any emotional validation and the only praise was in dollars. Many of his hobbies were grandiose such as owning 200 (?) firearms at one time. He was grossly sexually inappropriate although thank goodness he never touched me. I don’t know—it doesn’t really matter as he’s been gone 8 years but it does show how reflection when looking at all this stuff is pretty expansive to include family/friends. I’ve cut off two friends because I realized how lopsided the teeter totter is all the time. I’ve been talking to a guy for months who just the other day I cut off.. Why? Because I know precisely what he is and my emotional thinking has been trying to talk me out of it. Jesus Christ it’s written on his forehead! Like a neon sign. I have a shit ton of work to do. Damn if HG didn’t give me the lions head analogy and it has me compelled to not repeat dangerous liaisons.
Hi Claire, I went through the same thing with cutting off friends for the same reason. NunyaBiz calles it cutting off unnecessary strings. Strings everywhere! It’s so much easier with less strings. It’s wonderful that we can now recognize the red flags and take heed. Unlike before where we notice some odd things but we don’t take heed because of our emotional thinking. Now we are even aware of that emotional thinking so now we can even recognize when we are having that as well.
Reality is that I absolutely knew the guy I’ve been talking to was bad news. I just didn’t want it to be totally true because he is hot hot hot. I wanted my cocaine without it being cut with Fentanyl! Like a little bit of bad without the overdose potential! Cutting off the other few—easy. Risking putting my head in a lion’s mouth on Mr. Hot? Not worth it. I adore you HG—as holy freaking weird as that is. Not like a girl writes a guy love letters in prison kinda adore—just because of your ability to resuscitate emotional idiots from oblivion..
Claire it’s like a cruel joke of nature that most narcs are hot hot hot. The handyman who tried to ensnare me was the most handsome American that I have ever seen in person. It was seriously surreal that he was seducing me. It was like I’m not in my real world but in an episode of Desperate Housewives!
I just realized tonight of another one! Way hot—he’s been flirty for months and tonight was extreme. I realized omg he had a mysterious divorce, he is on/off social media because he’s explained his current wife gets jealous, (wonder why??) he got fired from his last job (but his skills are high demand so therefore he works in my area/was able to gain employment again) but It was their fault as he told me the other day.. Relentlessly always bringing up sex sex sex. I’m like holy shit—he’s one too! It’s like I have on super 3D glasses and see them everywhere! He’s sulky at times as well—so much so it’s discussed as a joke. I need fixed so they quit buzzing around me.
Lol you’re obviously a Narc Magnet 🧲! He might be a Mid-Range Somatic. So glad we have the HG Tudor Narc Goggles now so we can spot them out. 😊
Haha! Indeed—although he and I work like peas and carrots and will continue to.. I adore him—he’s brilliant and we like making fun of work related nonsense together so it’s not a big deal—just some insight.
Claire, on the most handsome American I have ever met in person comment, that might just be my E.T. talking again. But most people would agree that he’s handsome as I have seen in the comments on his FB.
I cracked up on the “Not like a girl writes a guy love letters in prison kinda adore” comment. 😂
Haha—but for real. There are some women who swoon after him and that is nuts. I just think it’s crazy that this imaginary psychopath person gets how fundamentally f’d up my life is because I’m a crazy person attracting every alien on the planet. It’s almost hilarious.
Brilliant article, HG, thank you.
I am rethinking my mother as a lesser.
You are welcome.