How To Handle The Narcissist At Work


Narcissists appear in many different arenas. Commonly, people find narcissists in a romantic ensnarement or familial one, however, our kind also appear in social groups, as neighbours,  as customers or clients, as club members and in society as a whole. 

We also frequently appear at work.

A common reason given to failing to implement total no contact is the issue of working with a narcissist. The attempt to escape the nightmare of ensnarement is viewed as unachievable and increases the concern, fear and anxiety for the victim. Plagued by concerns about losing their job, being made a scapegoat, seen as a troublemaker, being denied opportunities and promotions many people continue to work for, with and alongside narcissists with all the attend problems which arise from this

Using HG Tudor’s established expertise with regard to the field of narcissists and narcissism, this Assistance Package addresses a wide range of matters in an easy-to-understand manner, with practical advice and tips which have been successfully used by individuals working with narcissists and all based on HG Tudor’s unrivalled understanding.

This Assistance package covers

 Handling a workplace narcissist as part of your no contact regime

Dealing with the issue of scapegoating

Common manipulations that the narcissist will use in the workplace and how to counter them

Whether to complain about the narcissists treatment of you and if so to whom and how

How to handle the issue of requiring a reference where a narcissist is involved

Handling adverse appraisal outcomes given by a narcissist

How to address communication with the narcissist within the workplace setting

How to handle harassment issues arising from the narcissist’s behaviour

How to deal with a narcissist who is a peer

How to handle a narcissist who is a subordinate to you

Plus much more ground-breaking and supportive information.

*** Please note this Assistance Package does not cover the romantic involvement with a narcissist in the workplace. Such an issue should be addressed through an Audio Consultation (see the menu bar for details) ***

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  1. Yes I think it is wise for HG to stay anonymous
    There are many lunatics out there and I would not feel HG would be safe .
    He would end up being stalked and harassed by these people, you only have to see the posts here by some of the crazies , remember Pamela anyone.
    Of course we would all love you regardless HG but best to stay anonymous.


  2. HG, this maybe tricky to write about but I’d be interested to read about the differences between the hardworking Ns and those who are not. I’m not talking about the all too obvious layabouts when I refer to those who are not hardworking. Rather I mean those who fill offices everywhere. always taking time off sick, when at work they do little more than push a few papers around, tell everyone how busy they are and get everyone else doing their work for them yet some can be pretty successful too. I’d very much like to understand the difference between those and the hard working Ns such as yourself. When you do get the time that is.

  3. I recently drew attention to unethical behavior in my workplace. I brought it to the attention of my new boss, who promised to handle the situation. In my absence, he met with the guilty party, took their side, and began to accuse me of wrongdoing. In the past I may have fallen for this, but I immediately recognized it as the workplace variety of narcissistic abuse. I now know that my new boss is someone I can’t trust.

    In the past, my empathic self would have presumed positive intentions and gone into endless self-doubt. It is so beyond me to comprehend that there are people who put self before ethics to this degree, but I am now enlightened. My worldview is radically different from theirs, and I am really only capable of an intellectual understanding of this because I simply cannot relate.

    At the moment I am dealing with said narcissist by sending out my resume. Shame, because I’ve been with the same company for more than a decade.

    1. Michelle
      I’m sorry that happened to you and you feel you’ve been pushed to that point after being there so long. I absolutely understand it and encourage it on the one hand, but on the other, narcissists in the workplace are common and you may experience this yet again elsewhere. Have you considered having The Narcissist In The Workplace consultation with HG for advice on either how to avoid having to do this, or how to handle it if it arises elsewhere? All the best in whatever you ultimately decide.

  4. I’ve dealt with this so much. It’s rampant. I actually had an awesome HR rep in a former life that was like a mini HG without the vocabulary for what she could see and do. She had an instinct for bullshit and cruelty. Generally HR is not up to par though and people suffer tremendously. I have a dear friend who was mentally tortured for a year at work by a woman and her comrade and she still has issues today. I feel quite fortunate where I work now—yes there are narcs/cliques abound but overall it is healthy.

  5. Hmmm I’m currently involved in a ‘bitch off’ with a female colleague.

    I regret my response to her initial interaction with me as I knew what she was but I can’t back down now and fear my n traits are coming to the fore.

    Don’t make my mistake! Definitely seek advice from the master!

  6. HG, you would be sensational at working with large Corporates to advise them how to manage the behaviour of narcissists and psychopaths.

    It would no doubt involve a need for you to reveal your identity which is problematic, however to be privy to the application of your thinking applied to the complexity of an organisational dynamic would be fascinating.

    I guarantee you would have some organisations approach you to identify how they attract corporate psychopaths. So many angles of exploration here.

    1. I agree. There are ways around this and I may look at offering my services in this regard.

      Then again, maybe I already do something similar…..

      1. But aren’t narcissists from the higher echelons/psychopaths at the top of these organisations already?

        I remember you saying in one of your Q&As on YT, that your job has to do with finance, manufacturing, enforcement (if I am not mistaken).

        1. Many, not all. Doesn’t mean they know what they are. Does not mean they do not want to keep out our kind who are the competition/problematic.

          Nothing to do with manufacturing.

          1. I know a lot of the suggestions likely rest with no contact, no this and that/no feeding the beast etc. BUT–we will always work with narcissists and leaving jobs and going no contact is not a viable solution. Yes, I get that telling someone you will suck the CEO’s dick (and swallow) to make them squirm by means of gaining administrative favors is probably providing challenge fuel but there has to be some value in being direct though at times. Are we giving too much power by always pussy footing around these assholes? I am asking in all seriousness. I would love to see the package of course but this is essentially the main question I have.

        2. Emp: Plus, HG can do the same work for Companies and Corporations without using the Words: Narcissism or Narcissist or Narcissistic. Sometimes those words are too distracting and too loaded. He can consult on Morale, etc. Group Dynamics, Mergers and Acquisitions and the problems with employee assimilation, etc. He knows all this even with the Narcissist in the workplace packages that he has already put together. HG just has to take away the word Narcissist. He does not have to disguise himself to do this. Of course, I want to be one of his assistants in this work. He could put together anonymous questionnaires for the company and its employees in a focus group confidential manner, with lunch and coffee for the employees while they fill out the anonymous questionnaires, and HG can then assess for himself the ratio of empaths and narcissists in a company without using those words empaths and narcissists, and then HG can create a plan for that company to move forward with those people that the company has, because he will see where the problems are. And the word Narcissist never has to be mentioned. And HG can do this all with his public persona.

          1. Correct. Sometimes it is more effective to explain these dynamics to certain consumers without using the word “narcissism”.

      2. HG
        You are indeed a motivational speaker/writer. Which reminds me to ask – have you studied Tony Robbins enough to make an assessment? Do you think to do so or to share it would be useful to here?

        1. Dear NarcAngel,
          I’ve had Tony Robbins appear on my news feed posts….he’s comes across to me as way toooo over the top and he’s very full on or full of it …..I find him too sweet n sickly or was it false n fake 🤣
          My female instincts say …yeah naaaaah

          Jay Shetty (prior monk ) is another motivational speaker (21 mil followers) …. have you heard of him ?
          He’s really good and has just been on the Ellen show, I’m undecided and the juries still out, but then again, Im very suspicious and think that about everyone now 🤣
          (With the exception of Mr Tudor, of course ) 🤣
          Luv Bubbles xx 😘

          1. Hi Bubbles
            Tony Robbins is American but I thought he had made enough waves that he would have ended up on HG’s radar (although HG’d radar is focused on so many things I understand why it has not). He has a huge following with his motivational seminars and books and has worked with many high profile people such as Oprah, Bill Clinton etc. He has been on the Power 100 list more than once and has a reported estmated net worth of between 430 and 500 million. That’s some reach. He has some controversial techniques but I can see how people are attracted to him and his style as it’s a winning one for him.

            I don’t know of Jay Shetty but will look him up. Thank you for mentioning him.

            On another note: Thank you for your kind and humorous contributions here. They really are a bright spot.


          2. Dear NarcAngel,
            Thank you gorgeous lady
            I had another quick bo peep 5 second gander at Tony R and noticed he’s had some legal battles
            I still don’t like him, rich or famous, he made me feel uneasy watching him, his style is just tooo evangelistic for me and I don’t like his voice
            He’s sure got em hooked and raking in the big bucks
            He created a market for himself and it’s working …. it’s gift of the gab
            I went off Oprah ages ago and Billy C ….whell … what can I say … ties sales increased 🤣
            I don’t usually follow the sheep cos I’m too busy attracting and fighting off weasel’s 🤣
            Thank you NarcAngel your generous comment means a lot
            Consider yourself severely bear hugged 🤗
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

          3. Bubbles, “I don’t usually follow the sheep cos I’m too busy attracting and fighting off weasel’s ”
            Hahaha 🙂

      3. Dearest HG: ~~~~Lots of leaders in companies, foundations, corporations, etc. enjoy the mayhem and rivalries and triangulations and back stabbings and spyings and underminings and allegations and throat coatings and betrayals, and vacillating allegiances and on and on, and even encourage it when they can do so without direct repercussions. to themselves Especially in such organizations that receive a lot of their revenues from “quantitative easings“ to all types of “free“ loans and easy leveraging, that greatly boost their ability to be a profitable concern. ~~~~However, I have noticed that certain private types of companies. large and small, do not like this sort of thing, because their bottom line is largely dependant on everyone getting along and being on the same page and unified, and directly sinks when there is disorder and negativity and a lack of esprit de corp within the organization. This is what I have experienced. It all depends upon the organization at hand, if they want a change in their culture, even if the culture is negative: Some like it like that.

  7. Such an important and valuable resource because it is the case that GOSO can not be so easily applied in the workplace and so many struggle with it. An understanding and a plan is what is needed and is now available. Thanks HG!

  8. I highly recommend this consultation.
    It is not only about what (not) to do and how. Choosing the right time to act plays a role too. There are details which must be considered when dealing with narcissists. It is important to be aware of them before making further mistakes and before it is too late.

      1. You are welcome. It is very helpful, also for other types of not romantic, not chosen relationships.

      1. Thank you, NA. I did. I still cannot lead a normal life like everybody else but I do not want to give up. This is what they want. I am working to overcome traumatic episodes.

    1. I have purchased the Assistance Package and agree 100% with E.B. I personally found the first part (which helps you identify the various types of narcissists in the workplace) particularly useful.

        1. Dearest HG: I have been trying to see the benefits of you revealing your identity and try as I might, I can not see the benefits to you, especially over time. So many people would know so much about you, than you about them, friend and foe and strangers, and in so psychologically intimate a way, and on a topic that is and will be even more so controversial and polarizing and hysteria making, as time goes on, And there are a lot of kooks out there. I believe that it would be a grave disadvantage for you, especially over time. After the initial excitement has worn off. I wonder what is the history of people coming out from their pen names, in such controversial cases, and I wonder has it gone well for them??? If I were asked, I would say to you: Do Not Do It! Unless it is to come out to me, of course. My lips would be sealed. I hope your research goes very well in making this decision, either way. You have my support, either way, of course.

        1. It’s a group of audio files containing extensive information and advice on how to handle the narcissist at work (see article above). It’s a virtual package.

        2. The article didn’t open up for me and I only saw the comments. I had to refresh the page to see it all.

          1. My question above is of course obsolete. The assistance package would be useful in large corporations. I could see HG making a presentation about the subject in front of corporate officers. Would you do it HG if invited to speak to an audience like that?

          2. Yes. Appropriate measures could be put in place viz a viz my identity and over time this may not be an issue.

          3. HG I liked the part in this comment where you write, “ over time this may not be an issue.” That would be wonderful for you!

          4. Appropriate measures as in using a hologram obscuring your face? Can you expand on what those measures would be please?

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